Greek Marriages
 

Ladies, I have a question.

I have recently been to seveal functions where older brothers were with their wives. To my surprise, many of them had Zetas as wives (the one common denominator being that they were all from the Midwest). Where I am from, that was/is extremely rare. Almost any brother over 35 that I have met has been either married to a Delta or AKA (usually 60/40 or 70/30)

What do you usually see as Greek combinations?

Where I am it varies. Some of my Sorors are married to Omegas, Kappas or Alphas and my best friend (also a Soror) is married to a Sigma.

Ditto! Down here I know of 2 Sorors who are sisters and both are married to Sigmas.

It just depends on who you are match with romantically.

2 years ago, I saw my first Omega/Zeta plate and it looked odd, not bad, just odd since it was not what I was used to seeing.

In my family (on both sides), it's either Omega/Delta, Omega/AKA, Kappa/Delta or Kappa/AKA.

I know a lot of sorors and AKAs who are married to Omegas.

My LS just married a Sigma.

My cousin who is a Zeta is married to an Alpha!

Most older sorors I know in MD are married to Kappas but most younger sorors I know in the area are married to Omegas. Definitely a generational thing here.

My grandmother is a soror, and she married my grandfather, a Sigma.

I generally see Deltas and AKAs married to Omegas, Alphas, or Kappas, if it is a Greek union. I generally see Sigmas and Zetas married. But there is an older couple in my hometown who is a Zeta/Kappa union.

Coleman Love
 

I am the only Greek in my family so there are no greek unions. As for Sorors I know who are married to other Greeks I have a linesister who is married to a Bruh, 9 Sorors in the Alumnae chapter I just left are married to Bruhs and one Bruh I am very close with is married to a SGRho. All in all I would have to say many of the Greek unions I am aware of are with Sorors and Bruhs. :D

From this thread, it seems like a lot of Delta/Sigma unions. My prophyte is married to a Sigma. As the saying goes, between every Delta is a Sigma. ;) :D

Bob and Mollie..Deltas and Sigmas
 

Well the precedent was set back in the early days of our 2 respective orgs. Phi Beta's (Sigma's) have found themselves graced with the presence of Delta's since before either organization's were founded. Mary Church Terrell was wed to Robert Terrell in 1891. Both of these great people were integral in the early years of Delta Sigma Theta and Phi Beta Sigma. So it is no surprise that we find ourselves married to one another.

CT4- What about Bob? *smile*

My parents are a AKA/Sigma couple as are 3 other of my mother's LSs. SO I have seen that coupling all of my life.

LoJ

Re: Bob and Mollie..Deltas and Sigmas
 

That's nice and all, and I'm not knocking their union. But I just refuse to buy into the whole org based love thing.

I also look at folks funny when they specify what org their SO should be in, ideally or otherwise.

Re: Re: Bob and Mollie..Deltas and Sigmas
 

Soror you are definitely in my head with this one. I can't tell you how many times I've heard Greeks say I'm looking for a "FILL IN THE BLANK" man, or I only date "ABC's". They gonna mess around and miss their man/woman waiting for that Coleman Love or P&G connection or whatever else combination is out there:D

P.S
I ain't mad at the Coleman Love though :D

Re: Re: Bob and Mollie..Deltas and Sigmas
 

I hear you on people specifying what org you should marry. I was just making a historical reference. Who you marry is IMO directly related to who is in your circle. If you are from an area where you are surrounded by any one group of women you are more likely to marry a member of said group. It is statistics.

MY ace is married to a Sigma....newlywed, as a matter of fact. It was so funny...when he crossed, he called my sands, screaming that mess bout a Sigma between every Delta.

She hung up on him. :D

From what I've seen it varies. One of my sandz is engaged to an Alpha, however they met 3 years ago so their relationship began before she was a Delta.

Re: Re: Re: Bob and Mollie..Deltas and Sigmas
 

I know that's right Soror! I wasn't going to miss my man...However, it is nice that we can decorate a room with Red and White together and have fun doing it.

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There's a Soror that I've grown extremely close to over the years whose husband is also a Kappa. If your room looks anything like their room I bet it is beautiful! They actually have a Crimson and Cream room (not Red and White) and I've never seen anything like it before- it's tastefully done and I'm very partial to colors

;)

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I am still working on it...I just moved so I don't want to rush it but it is fun getting it together.

Re: Greek Marriages
 

What a funny thing to care enough to ponder. :)

Question:

Are BGLO marriages really that big of a deal in the BGLO world? And for those that marry a non-member, I wonder how many of the spouses eventually pursue membership?

I know I'm totally crashing this thread, but it does say "Greek Marriages." :D So, I'm with a Que and how much would I LOVE a lavender and purple "shrine" room.

In all seriousness: NO
In all fun and BGLO jibberjabber: YES

Now you know you aren't a crasher. LOL. A lavender and purple room--sounds lovely.

Two of my three married line sisters (I have nine overall) are married to Greeks. The ace is married to an Omega, and the #5 is married to a Sigma; the tail's husband is definitively a GBI.

My #6 is a widow, and I don't think her late husband was Greek.

I am not dating, but if I were, being Greek is not the main thing I'm looking for, but I would hope he would respect my commitment.

Aww! Thanks lg! (((ladygreek)))

This was what I was wondering. Tangentially related, do you sisterfriends know many of your fellow Greeks who are married (or seriously dating) to non-Greeks? Truthfully, I haven't seen it happen that often where I'm from.

I am!
 

I am happily married to a non-greek and believe me when I tell you it is beyond a non-issue for us. Of course my husband is well aware that I am a Delta but he couldn't care less. As one of my Sorors stated earlier, the question was asked out of friendly curiousity as opposed to a "this issue is crippling the Greek community and we need to fix it" type question. :)

My husband is a GDI and hates all greeks. And while at Morehouse, back in 1989, he really started the haterade on greeks... Some folks here know why...

He got his little heart broken by one of my sorors, then he had difficulty relating to the ladies of DST and he just started all out giving up on dating any sistahs before he met me... Guess, I changed his mind... :D

I wanted a huge BGLO wedding with music and all. But, I couldn't help who I fell in love with and it was a non-greek man... And he's a wonderful person and there are qualities I see in him transcendental of that when I have dated men in BGLO's...

I come from greek-love relationships. My parents are phirst-phamily--athough many of their friends are married to a variety of other organizations, too. It was easier to do things for my Sorority without explanation when I dated a man from a BGLO. I have to explain the actions to my GDI husband...

But I think my husband's attitude is changing by the work that he sees me do in the community... It's more than what he's doing. And the dedication is different than what he accustomed to. Something about the way I was brought into my Sorority indicates the reason why I have so much commitment to it and follow thru for it--however, he is not aware of that and it is not important to him--he is just blown away as to why I do some of the things I do for my Sorority...

As far as seriousness in our relationship, it doesn't matter--Just like MightQuinn said in hers. However, my father fails to understand that concept and the fact that my husband has no love for any fraternity...

However, I think my actions as a member of my Sorority is speaking louder than his original misconceptions about BGLO's in general...

But sometimes, I do miss and wish I could do some of the fraternity activities, such as go to the balls or step shows and have fun with my husband... But he really, really, really feels very uncomfortable in those situations--like a fish out of water and I wouldn't want to place him into what he perceives as a threatening position...

Another thing:

My husband's parents are Sigma-Zeta love...

His brother I think wanted to be a Kappa...

I think my husband wanted to be something... But now he says he has no use for it. And the Sigma Pi Phi Boule was inviting him to events they were having, but he failed to understand that concept...

If my husband rethinks his position and decides to join a BGLO, I would be happy for him and then I'd probably have to deal with too much neophyte feva and nalia all over the place--even the drawers... :rolleyes:

My husband is a non-greek but absolutely loves that fact that I am Delta. In fact, when we met and he found out I was a Delta one of the first things he said was how much he respected our organization and how every Delta he has ever known was about business.

He is very supportive of my involvement and I am quite involved (charter member of my chapter, chapter officer, numerous commitees, etc.). I realize I am blessed because he has not once complained of me going to meetings, clusters, conventions etc. and spending time being involved with Delta. He himself, however, does not seem to be interested in being greek.

I do sometimes wish we could share some of the fun stuff that "greek marriage" couples share. But all in all I consider myself lucky that I have his support especially since he is non-Greek and I hear so many sorors and sistergreeks discuss how their non-greek husbands just don't understand and they have to tread lightly with how much they can be involved just so they don't make them too mad.

My husband is non-Greek and has no Greek aspirations.

Yes.

Greekdom tends to only be important because it is how members meet in the first place (i.e. Greek functions or through Greek networks) or just a point of reference when we talk about certain things.

I certainly hope losers aren't going out to specifically find a mate who is Greek or in a specific organization. Coleman Love, for example, is wonderul but I would never try to marry a Bruh just because of it. Now, if I do marry a Bruh we'd have a blast. :)

So, he doesn't hate Greeks like you said before. He's just a bit confused and perhaps envious. That's common among nonGreeks who have been exposed to Greekdom. :cool:

LMAO! I don't know why but this just made me laugh.

We all know our Greek Affiliations have no correlation to who we should mate.

Last June 26th, 2005 I married my wife who happens to be a Sigma Gamma Rho.. But I didn't marry her because of that, nor was I looking for a Woman of that partiQUElar Sorority.

To limit your scope of College educated Men and Women by eliminating a group by Fraternal/Sorority affiliation is kinda crazy.

This is a light-hearted topic. Nothing serious

I asked for some thoughts on Greek combinations for those of us who know Greeks that are married to Greeks. Its not a big deal whom anyone marries. I just happened to be at an event where there were alot of Greek couples. Where I'm from, I only saw Que/Delta or Que/AKA marriages. In my geographical area, there were ver yfew Zetas and even fewer SGRhos. If I were at an event with older Omegas, invariably, if they were married to a Greek, it was not any of the combinations that I see more of now.

I have been to at least 30 Delta weddings and have never seen a Delta/Sigma combo. Never even seen them date. Must be a northeast thing.

I don't think anyone purposely marries someone from a specific org. Love is where one finds it.

DJJukebox. Do you know of any Bruhs over 40 that are married to an SGRho as you happen to be?

I wouldn't necessarily call his thang envy... I would call it confused. He saw something as a freshman that no one should have ever seen and took it rather personally. And even though several others were there to witness it, too, he took it to a whole 'nother level where it does not need to be...

Let's put it like this. You know those "afrocentric folks" that love to bash BGLO's and question their existence??? He is close to being one of those, but since he attended Morehouse, they REALLY didn't have that kinna thang--it really was a west coast thang... So, when the "chit" went down at Morehouse in fall, 1989, to say the least, it was shocking to a lot of kids...

But when he sees what I do for my Sorority--i.e. going to sorority meeting, attending community service functions, attending other BGLO functions, etc. and the real top down corporate organization that we impose, then he's seeing an inside scoop that he would have never seen if he married a non-member...

But I cain't get him to go to a step show for the life of me... I could go, but he doesn't like "those kinds of things"...

That's the thing though... We know that most people who are members of greek organizations must have attended college in order to have joined. So especially for women, particularly African American women, is it extremely difficult to meet a positively minded, African American man. And our first screen, albeit subconsciously, is to seek out men who are a part of the D5 fraternities. It makes it easier for the screen... Maybe that's lame, but hey, some women do what they gotta do...

I'm married to a Kappa. Other greek marriages in my family (in laws) are:

Another AKA - Kappa
Delta - Alpha

I know I'm not your Bruh :o , but I know a Soror who has been married to an Omega for approximately 25 years. They are very obviously in love.

I don't keep up with the Greek marriages among sorors all that well, but in my chapter, sorors are married to one Omega, two Alphas, a Sigma, and two Kappas. Another Soror in a different chapter is married to an Iota.

To keep it brief, it's really lame and superficial to limit your love to XYZ Fraternity only. I couldn't imagine the possiblity of purposely missing out on the love of my life over letters. :rolleyes:

I disagree with these two sentences as a generalization.

Maybe SOME African American women have a difficult time finding a positively minded African American man and SOME of these women subconsciously use the D5 as an initial screeing process. :)

When women truly believe it's extremely difficult to find a positive brutha, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.