A Tale of Two Rushees
 

So begins the tale of two rushees.

Rushee A (my daughter) and Rushee B (her best friend since 2nd grade). Freshmen rushing at the same college with 8 GLOs.

Rushee A: Val. of her high school, First semester of college was rocky- lots of homesickness and boyfriend issues, but they are resolved now. First semester GPA: 2.94
Rushee B: 3.4 High school GPA, First semester college GPA: 4.0
Both girls have tons of h.s. activities and a few college ones.

Rushee A: Recs to 5 of the 8- (no PiPhi chapter, so no legacy status)
Rushee B: No recs, but a legacy to one, though it is not (at the moment) her favorite

Rushee A: No incriminating facebook pictures- (thanks to her older sister who has warned her about this)
Rushee B: Way too many pictures of herself doing shots, etc on the facebook!

Both girls have similar looks, similar personalities and interests. They have decided to not compare notes until it is over, but have promised to relay their experience to me! They are both really excited and Iam excited for them!
Hope it is a successful week for both.
Next post will be tomorrow night!

Re: A Tale of Two Rushees
 

Good luck to both!!!

Question:
If Rushee B is a legacy to a chapter, why doesn't she have recs to at least that chapter?

i'm sure you don't want to give out the school name but where is this school geographically and how competitive is spring recruitment?

best of luck to both girls. can't wait for updates!

how exciting for having a 2 for 1 recruitment thread! good luck to both women!

I encouraged Rushee #2 to get recs, she chose to take the advice of the recruitment counselor who said they aren't necessary, even though this is a southern school. Also, she has friends who are in sororities already and they (sophomores) told her "Oh we want you in our sorority" or stuff like that. I'm sure since the friends have not been through rush on the other side yet, they did not know that they shouldn't say that, and that it is really not up to them alone to get their friends in. She also told her mother not to get recs to the legacy sorority because she didn't want to be in it. Also a mistake as far as I am concerned, but she's not my kid. It will be interesting though to compare their experiences.

I'm looking forward to updates.

The updates should be fun. Good-luck to them both!

Day one is over and both girls are exhausted, but said the time flew by. The first part of the day they each went to 4 houses, then lunch and in the afternoon visited the remaining 4. Both have told me the ones they like and they are really excited about the same ones. There are two that neither one liked at all. One of them is #2's legacy sorority. Neither felt a connection there and the conversation was strained. Comments were made about how well organized the entire day was, down to the second. Tomorrow they get invites back- can't wait to see how it turns out.

Re: Re: A Tale of Two Rushees
 

I was a legacy and I didn't have a rec to that sorority because I (stupidly :p) believed the rush handbook that specifically said recs were not necessary. That made me think it would be gauche if I got one. I wish they wouldn't tell people that when it's obviously not true.

Washinrepeat- check your pm!

I really hope everything goes the way they desire!

Both girls were cut heavily. Rushee #2 has dropped out, Rushee #1 is invited back to two and will attend those today, but is diasppointed that she did not get more invites.

Aww, too bad for Rushee #2! :(

As for your daughter, there could be tons of reasons for the cuts as you know - the grades may have been an issue, who knows. But hopefully she will enjoy her time at the houses she has left and come out happy in the end.

Good luck to her (and you for having to be the mom in this stressful time!)

We've seen it before, as in Rushee #2's case, that legacies sometimes get cut very heavily from other houses, assuming they'll go to their legacy chapter and not wanting to "waste" the spot on them. This could have been a posibility.

I'm glad your daughter is sticking with it!:)

I got cut from (what I thought was my) #1 right before pref, but (it's trite, I know, but it's true) I ended up where I belonged.

It doesn't feel great going home after the 3rd party, when 80% of the other girls have a 4th to go to, but you can still find your home!;)

I'm so glad you're daughter is sticking with it!! Getting heavily cut after the first round can be devastating, but you only need one chapter to find a home not eight. Tell your daughter to stick with it and keep an open mind. Good luck to her!

I'm keeping my fingers crossed for your daughter. I hope she continues and doesn't lose faith.

Latest Update
 

Day 2 is over for my daughter, since she only had two parties to go to. She really loves one and is still not sure about the other, I just hope both keep her around for the rest of the rounds. It is interesting that she has recs to both of these- maybe they helped- you never know. Most of the people she talked to today had also been cut heavily- several had GPA's lower than 3.0. The Panhellenic Council requires a 2.75, so these girls all thought that they were eligible for rush, I think if the individual sororities are going to cut for grades at a different standard that PNMs should be aware of this going in. It seems that a lot of grade cuts were made, but no explanation was given and so many girls this age have fragile self-esteem and are feeling badly about themselves.
Do not know why Rushee #2 was cut so heavily. Her roommate was invited back to all, but dropped out because #2 was not invited back to the same ones.

Some individual sororities have there own GPA requirements. While colleges may have a minimum to just register with.

As for Rushee#2, you did mention that she had had a lot of pics on facebook of her being drunk. That may have not been a good idea to post if their school is competitive.

Hopefully your daughter will stick with it and find a home!

I agree with the facebook comment- you never know who is watching!

Re: Latest Update
 

I am sorry that recruitment isn't going as well as they had hoped, but I thought I'd mention that no one has can know if low grades were why they were cut heavily. Membership selection is completely confidential and is left entirely up to very young women.

Good luck to your daughter in the remaining rounds.

I know that's true at Indiana. When I rushed, the minimum GPA to go through formal rush was 2.5 (it's been raised since) but almost all the houses had a higher minimum GPA requirement.

i agree with you washrinserepeat, it would be so helpful to pnms if panhellenic grade point requirements and individual sorority gpa requirements were more in line. i think that it would be more fair, and there would be a lot less shocked and disillusioned pnms. i really hope that things work our for your daughter.

I just got a chance to read the entire thread, and recruitment stories are always great to read especially now having gone through recruitment ;) Anyway, I hope your daughter makes it through, it's hard to get cut heavily in the initial but it takes a lot bounce back and go to the parties so major brownie points for her. It must be pins and needles on your end, but I hope everyone gets that happy ending ;)

I would just like to reiterate that my daughter is very happy with the two sororitiies that have kept her. I hope for a good result- she will be happy with whoever she goes with- she is very excited with the whole process. I think she was hoping for a few more parties to go to, just because she loves the process, but she is not disappointed in the least with her two choices.

Good for her! We are all rooting for her.

My daughter was cut by one of the two sororities today. It was the one she wasn't as sure about, leaving one that she truly loves. She went to their party and said it was awesome! Made a lot of connections with the people and was very moved by speeches made by some of the seniors. They also showed a very professional video which made her want them even more. She is hoping and praying that she will get invited to the pref party tomorrow and of course get a bid after that. She has made a lot of friends this week and when they get together to eat she says it is so interesting to hear why some girls like one organization and not others and vice versa. She also said she is glad she only had one party to go to because that made it more special.
So stressful for me, can't imagine how it must be for these girls!

Congrats and good luck to your daughter!!!:) :)

We are all rooting for her! I know with a mom like you, she has been raised right and would be a great addition to any house!!!

fingers, toes and eyes crossed that daughter gets her invite. to prefs.

washrinserepeat, check your PM box ;)

Your daughter should be thankful that she got at least 1 bid. Some girls are cut by all of the sororities after the first round. Sorry I read your story late.

I wish your daughter luck. Tell her to be strong.

Update!
 

I just got a phone call from my daughter and she was sobbing.

I was so worried, turns out that she had just gotten her invite to the pref party of her dreams and she was crying with JOY!!!!!!!!!
She is so emotional right now, and, of course, so am I! She is so excited- turns out one of her good friends is also going to the same party, though that girl has one other one to go to. They are going to help each other get ready- the party is this afternoon, but I think she is already starting to prepare!
Side note- Rushee #2 is really regretting her decision to drop out. Quota is rumored to be smaller this year, so there will probably not be too many sororities, if any, participating in any kind of informal rush if they even have it at their school. I am so glad she stuck it out- I feel she has found her home, just hope it works out!

Congratulations to your daughter! I hope the pref party confirms her hopes and dreams and that after all is said and done, she matches to that sorority. You'll have to let us know tommorow if she is a new member and of what GLO!

I am keeping her in my thoughts. I hope she knows how much we all are wishing her the best.

i hope your daughter has a great day today...and an even better day tomorrow!

yay! Hope her pref day is just as special as the previous day was and even more special tomorrow! Sending good vibes to her.... *hugs*

OK, in spite of the not so normal cynical mood I'm in today, I just got really excited about this thread. I hope she has a wonderful time at Pref, and I hope she gets to run to her sisters on Bid Day!

Pref Update
 

Just got a call after she left the pref party. She is on such a high, I don't know how she could love these girls any more that she does at this point. She was really moved by the solemnity and specialness of the party. I do not think she had any idea how emotional pref parties can be. When I was an undergrad PiPhi I cried at every pref party for 4 years, so she probably gets it from me! Anyway, they have a lock-in until midnight, pizza and pjs with all the PNMs, she has made so many friends this week that even if she does not match, she feels so much more at home at the school than she did first semester.
On a side note, I am glad Survivor starts this week, I need a new diversion!