Hate at First Sight
 

OK, so we all hear about people who "Just KNEW" when they first met their husband/wife... Well, does anyone have stories about hating their spouse... or just plain being unsure??

I'm sorry, but I find it hard to believe that people just know that they're going to be together from the second they meet... there are so many factors. So, I was just wondering if anyone had stories that weren't, "Oh, I just knew he was the one when I saw him walk through the door."

the first guy i dated out here in vegas i HATED from the moment i saw him.
im from this predominantly (sp?) italian city back in new york, and moving to vegas was a big change for me .. i was used to seeing people in ya know gold jewelry and always in jeans and a sweater or something along those lines ... anyways, i move out here, go to my FIRST class of my FIRST semester at UNLV, and i had just decided to rush sigma kappa, so i was a little freaked out about that, and this kids sitting across the row from me with his tall spiky hair and socks pulled up to his calves with sneakers on (which i might add they call TENNIES ?? wtf?? ) and i just looked at him, and god forgive me, but i just scowled. i was like WHERE ON EARTH DID I CHOOSE TO GO TO SCHOOL?? i was not at all into the cali surf scene or whatever you call it, and this was this kid to a T. .... then he opened his mouth, and then out came that he was in a fraternity, and my mouth hit the floor i was like if this is what the kids in fraternitys and sororities look like - i am never EVER gonna fit in with my dark hair and gold necklaces and bracelets.
come to find out, he wasnt that bad of a guy. we dated for about 3 years .......
hope this is the kind of story you were looking for! :p

My fiancee and I didn't like each other at first because I was young and thought there was no way I could date a guy that wasn't in a fraternity and he thought I was going to be a stuck up bitch because of the sorority I was in. He assumed that I was a snotty southern belle princess type and I thought he must suck because if he didn't he would have been in a fraternity (I know, I know like I said I was young).

When we finally had a decent discussion we found out that we both grew up in PA, pretty close to each other. He said I won him over with my love for the Steelers. He won me over because he is the sweetest guy I've ever met.

So we're still together, we got engaged in April, I found out I was pregnant in May. ;)

My wife and I were friends for two years before we started dating. We each dated other people, and our junior year decided we should try dating. Things took off from there, but it certainly wasn't a "I need to be with you forever" from first sight.

When I first met my husband I thought he was totally obnoxious. He was a little drunk at the time and when he found we went to rivial state schools he tried to start talking smack about it to me. I totally ignored him. Then one year later we met again under different circumstances and became friends first and then dated.

The funny thing about it is that he doesn't even remember meeting me that first time. I had to get a friend that was there, and sober, to convince him about the first time we met.

That makes me feel so much better! I just started dating a guy, and he's truly terriffic, but I'm having panic attacks because I don't have that cosmic feeling that he's "the one." I don't want to have to go through another breakup, but I'm really stressed that if I don't feel that way about him, I'm going to have to. It's that "leap of faith" thing that I'm struggling with.

Before I give my opinion, I'd like to state that Mr. AXiD670 and I will celebrate our fourth wedding anniversary in March.

I never had that "he's the one" feeling either. I kept waiting for it. It was weird 'cause I thought I had that feeling w/ two of my ex-boyfriends, which of course, wasn't right.

I think that so many women are told from the time they're little girls that, "You'll know when he's the one!" that they spend a majority of their serious relationships wondering why they don't have that feeling yet.

When he asked me to marry him, I was quite shocked. I hadn't really thought about marrying him. When we started dating, he had sort of fallen in my lap. I told him I didn't want anything serious. Buying me a ring is pretty serious!

I said yes to his proposal b/c our relationship was just so different from all the previous ones. He was a different type of guy. He wasn't anything like I had pictured (of course, I assumed my future husband would be tall, dark and handsome). He treated me differently than any of my other boyfriends. He just "fit" into my life. Oh, and I loved him. :p

I don't know how else to explain it.

Don't worry about that feeling. Yes, I think some people have it, but I don't think it's as common as people make it out to be.

Who knows, maybe I'll be getting a divorce this time next year? ;)

I had that feeling "oh yeah, he's the right one baby, uh huh!"...

But my parents on the other hand... Whoo hoo. You'd never think for a million years they'd get married...

My mom first saw my dad, drunk and he knocked over a punch bowl at a party--this is like back in the late '50's early 60's...

Then, she was on a date with some other guy when my dad was on a date with some other girl. A quasi-group date thing. My dad had the car... Anyhow, they all went to the party, then after the party, my mom and her date were thinking they'd get a ride back, but my dad said to them, "where we're goin' y'all cain't go..." So my mom and her date had to walk back to their respective dorms...

And then one time, my mom was out on date with another guy at a basketball game, and my dad, drunk, came upto the guy, and said to him, "Why you with my girlfriend???"

Needless to say, my folks eloped and have been married for ~45 years...

So you never know how things will work out if you don't give it a try...

Well, this may all be moot anyway... I got a call from him today, and he's trying to get some closure from a 2-year relationship he got out of 6 months ago. He says that he still wants to stay with me, but I'm not sure. I think I jinxed it by talking about it on GreekChat! :-P The funny thing is, he asked me over Christmas why I hadn't told my parents about him, and I told him that every time I tell my parents about a guy, the relationship ends in less than a week. He made such a big deal about the fact that he was planning on sticking around for a while, that I finally broke down and told them. Stupid, stupid! :rolleyes:

I'm not sure if you want that, either. If he's not done dealing with his issues after 6 months, good Lord, you might want to think twice.

Re: Hate at First Sight
 

Honestly, I really did know within a few minutes of meeting my husband that he was "the one". But I think that is really rare. And don't forget, you don't hear about the people who *thought* they found "The One" after a few minutes but it turned out to actually be "NOT The One"! :)

As far as "Hate at First Sight", that's happened with me twice. The first time was with the girl who was my chapter's Rush Chair when I was going through Rush. The second time was, of all things, the woman I reported directly to at my first job out of college.

I really couldn't say exactly *why* I couldn't stand either of them (and, I suspect, vice versa) the minute I met them. I swear, it must have been a chemical thing or something! We were always polite to one another and were able to work together, but it was just shared knowledge that we couldn't stand one another. Weird.

Interesting question. I seldom ever look in this forum.

I suspect that Mrs. DA was pretty sure we were a couple because she dumped the guy she was dating (leader of the rock group she was singing with) right away.

I, on the other hand, was dating a lot of different women at the time and, while I realized she was/IS pretty special, it took me a while to figure out just how special.

Of course the class we met in was about half Delts, and I figured I'd better make my move before one of my brothers did.

We had our 35th anniversary last July.

My boyfriend and I started casually dating about 5 years ago, when we were both coming out of messy breakups. We didn't like each other that much but we each wanted someone to hang out with rather than being alone. I guess we just grew on each other.

I didn't know that Mrs. DA used to be a rocker chick! Very cool!

Yup, and I was a Disc Jockey "playing the hits" at a local radio station. If that isn't a match made in heaven...

Did you play her songs on your station?

-Rudey

They were pretty good and I probably would have if they'd had any records made.

It was a lot tougher to get anything cut in those days. Digital technology has made it much easier -- about anyone can record in their basement.

That's a lot like my boyfriend and me! Our sororities have very similar stereotypes at UK, so as happened with you, he thought that I was going to be an ultra-conservative, rich girl. I also wondered what his problem was, not being in a fraternity.

After a full year of friendship and learning more about each other, we finally figured out that we liked one another and have been inseparable since then!

When I first met her I thought :She is fat, short and ugly. Why would I date her? Plus she had this annoying laugh that sounded like a hyena on cocaine. Yeah, it was weird. But she grew on me. Probably because she put out on the first date. It wasn't really a date. It was more like, I asked her if she needed a ride home since she was just standing at the corner of the street alone. So whatever, she gave me dome within the first 10 minutes. Meh. Today we have two wonder children.

Their names are Rudey and Rudeys Siister.

When I had sex with your mom she was worried about giving birth to a child at 50 because they come out retarded and weird looking. I told her "Listen babe, I will love that retarded little Mongoloid with all of my heart" and I still care about you son.

-Rudey
--Jackass

I think the last two stories are the best ones in the thread.

My sister in law HATED my brother because he called her rice head and picked on her for being Asian. She's not Asian, doesn't even look Asian, he didn't think she was Asian, but all she would ever eat was rice she brought from home.
Several of his friends, him, and Tracey were once in the garage getting ready to go play paintball, and my mother walked outside and saw a person from the back with a ponytail. She said, "Brian, is that a girl?" He replied, "No, it's Tracey."
They've been married for 3 1/2 years, have a beautiful baby girl named Sydney, and are blissfully happy.

Re: Hate at First Sight
 

Sometimes it happens, but you don't realize you fell "in love at first sight" until later.

The first time I met my now-fiance I thought he was so cute, and apparently he thought the same...but we didn't meet again until a few months later. Two months after we started dating, I told my friend I was going to marry him. Almost a year later, to that day, he proposed. Looking back, there was definitely a spark there when we first met.

My fiance and I have gone to school together since middle school. I thought he was such a nerd - all I knew about him for years was that he knew how to build a nuclear bomb and that he had a lot of porn. And he wore denim shorts EVERY DAY - even in January. Really, I was pretty horrified and just kind of avoided him. We finally began to talk to each other during our senior year of high school, and I realized he was actually not scary. We wound up at the same university, and started dating dating freshman year. Now, four years later, we're still together :)

(And I'm very happy to say he no longer owns a single pair of denim shorts! :D)

When I first saw my husband he was wearing light-colored tapered jeans, high-top tennis shoes, a waffle-knit long underwear type shirt and had a shaved head. I thought the face was cute but everything else, not so much (this was in 2000, btw). But he plied me with beer and the more we talked, the more I looked past the horrible clothes and got to know him (though the beer probably helped a little.)

By the time he called me again three days later, we talked for two hours on the phone. When I hung up, I knew he was the one I would marry. We've been together for 5.5 years, married for 2.5.

Thankfully, he's gotten *much* better at dressing (with a little help from me) and no longer shaves his head, which is good because he has the most gorgeous, thick, curly red hair (such a waste on a boy!).

My immediate impression of my boyfriend was "Okay he's 22, and a hot, muscular, military guy. He must be an asshole." I was convinced that he was ingnoring me on purpose because he was an asshole. It turns out he liked me alot, but didn't talk to me because he was really shy. ;)

Heh, well, my boyfriend and I met through a local punk rock website. He apparently liked my posts and thought I was witty. Only two nerds can fall in love over sentence structure and word choice.

So we chatted online for about 3 months, then made a date...sort of on purpose the day my brother left for college (parents were away). When I met him, we just...clicked. I wanted to kiss him so bad that night, and we were both flirting hardcore. But being a big fat chicken, I just shook his hand that night.

A week later ,we were both going to the same show. We met up there, hung out the whole time, again flirting like CRAZY. He almost kissed me 3 different times. Finally I ended up kissing him in his car when he let me use his cell phone.

A few days later he stopped by my house to say hi on his way home from college...again, goosebumps, the whole nine.That night, however, my mom asked about him. More specifically, his age. He was 21 at the time...and I was 16. Subsequently banned from seeing him. Misery ensues.

Parents enforce ban for the better part of 4 months. We saw eachother once or twice during that time on a sneaking basis, but one time I just ran into him in downtown Pittsburgh because I decided to walk the other way to my bus stop. We kissed. Awesome.

But the phone calls were frustrating. So close yet so far. So many times he was like, "i dont know if this is good I dont know if this is what I want blah blah blah.."

Parents still hated him because of his age, refused to meet him. I finally convinced him and my dad to meet at the arts center I was going too...such a stressful night, but dad and Pat ended up getting along quite well. After that, it got better, and we were allowed to go out on group dates. Then in January, when I got my DL, we were allowed our first "alone" date.

And that's when it happened. We went to a mexican restaurant and then went to half-price books to look around (like i said, nerdy)...and he just comes up to me, puts his arms on my hips and whispers into my ear, "I'm so glad we're a couple now".

...uhhh....ok? We're a couple? But I just went for it...4 years later I think my parents love him more than me!!! And there's wee talk of "future" together...so rough starts dont always mean crash and burn ;-)

So basically you were sexually abused as a child by a child molestor?

-Rudey
--JUST KIDDING!

Thats fucked up man.


You motorboatin sonuvabitch!

room room brrrrrrrrrrrrr brrrrrrrrrrrrrrr brrrrrrrrrrr

-Rudey
--Get a new shortboard homie

Homie, I think I just might after lookin at the new Rusty.


How do you like your Toes on The Nose shorts? I still can't believe you spent so much money on them. lol

They look even cooler now that i've got some weird stain from that meatless in-n-out burger all over the crotch lo you ass

-Rudey

I love In N Out burgers! I can't wait to get one when I go to LA next weekend. Can I come visit you guys? I'll bring you a double double!

no no you'll be the one gettin a double double from Bobby and Rudey .

Eiffel tower?

Why do we think we're so cool when we say this type of awful retarded rubbish? Do we realize that we're disrespecting the female body? PSYCH!

-Rudey

We can get away with it though, you know? The GC chicks read what we say and just go, " oh god, there goes bobby and rudey again...teehee"

i know HotdamnImaPhiMu has teeheed a few times

Everyone teehees. I teehee like a 12 year old girl all the time when I read my own stuff. If you don't teehee then you've got a stone heart :(

-Rudey
--TEE HEE

Lets make a bet. First one to make Kddani Teehee wins

If I win, you're waxing my car karate kid style baby.

-Rudey

If I win, you paint da fence & sand da floh.