A question for the ladies:
 

How approachable are you?

Ok say you met a guy in line somewhere . . . and he struck up a conversation with you, you got a cool vibe, he was flirty, and he asked for your number . .

Would you be willing to give him it (the real one) and be willing to pursue something on such a casual meeting?

Should guys try and apporach women they meet casually like that?

Sure, I would give my phone number. I have no problem saying if I later get a wierd vibe, "I'd rather you not call me anymore."

Assuming I was single, I probably would. But only with a really good vibe, and only if it was a lengthy-enough conversation for me to know he's not a weirdo.

I would do no such thing.

Even if he's flirty, you get a good vibe from him, and has good convo with you, there's no guarantee that deep down, he's psycho.

This is going to sound paranoid, but...

One reason I don't mind is that I can usually find out a birthday in the first couple of conversations. My mother works for the DA and she runs a background check before I accept a date with someone I don't know well.

I know it sounds a little out there, but I've had too many nice guys who turned out to be more than a little psycho.

I'm gonna say flat out that I am not the most easily approachable person out there.

But then again, it depends. If I was feeling him and he's nice and all that, maybe.

I guess my philosophy has become more "never say never" - who would've thought I'd hit it off with someone I met at a wedding?

I'm also not the easiest to approach, I'm sure, but hopefully I wouldn't be downright rude to someone who started up a conversation with me. Who knows where it'd go from there? :)

I'd give him my email address, but not my phone number. I hardly ever pick up my phone for people I already know, let alone some random.

I'm like that, but a person can use your email address to look up all kinds of stuff about you. I used to do that to people all the time. I'm trying to be more open to meeting new people (I've been known to have stranger anxiety), but I don't know...I've given guys my number after talking for 5 min. and others have had to wait for weeks....it all depends on where we meet and the vibe I get from you.

Screennames? Email addresses?

-Rudey
--Wow.

He can look up all he wants about my email address, I've got like 20. He most likely would get my spam email address until I know him better anyway. I wouldn't want some stranger filling up my real email inbox. :)

I'm not really the type to share personal info with a guy that hits on me anyway. I prefer to be the one who approaches a guy & gets his phone number/email address/whatever. :)

Are you saying we're in line at the grocery store comparing cucumbers or something like that?

If he suggested we go get a cup of coffee or something in a public place, I would do that before giving him my phone number.

I would def. give a guy my number if he had a cool vibe. If it doesn't work out so what, just dont' answer your phone when he calls.

If he's hot and seems fun and interesting, sure (um, and if I'm single, of course).

This is an instance where I'm really glad to be my age, so I can say: IN MY DAY nobody gave email addresses or screen names to people they just met, and relationships developed in person rather than online. How has the internet changed dating?

OMG YES.

I have a friend (mid 20s) who went out of town for a football game with a guy she never even met in person, just emails and IMs. I can't even imagine.

Man, I just can't bring myself to do stuff like that! I would much, much rather give a guy my phone number than my email or screen name. Besides, letting guys get to know you behind the security blanket of a computer is too easy...if they're really serious about getting to know me, they can gather up the balls and dial the phone. :p

I'm definitely not super approachable...this is actually something I have discovered about myself.... BUT I would probably give my number if the guy was persistent enough to talk to me.

I'm pretty approchable, and as long as I got a good vibe (and if I was still single) I would have given my #. But my # is a cell phone registered in my Dad's name. It's difficult to track down a cell phone, and as many phishing emails I'm sure my mom's replied to (she's a dip like that), I'm sure half of America has there info anyway.

i would totally give away my phone number. he can't look up my address from it, since it's a cell, and if he starts calling incessantly, i'd just let my voice mail get it and delete the messages later. besides, i never use all my monthly minutes anyway and my life always needs more excitement. :D

(Veemers! Long time no see!)

If he seemed like someone I wanted to know better, I would give him my cell number. If I don't want to talk to him it would just go to voice mail. :)

If he's annoying, I'd give him 1-900-SHEMALE. ;)

I'm somewhat approachable, however, I would be scared of a guy that I didn't at least know through other people. I would give him my number, but I would try to get to know him better, like seeing if we had any friends in common. It is a small world. :)
I have run into some psycho guys, even with my little background checks.

i would not give him my number but i would be happy to take his.

of course, there is no guarentee that i would call him. i have taken a few numbers and threw them out before i left the place where we met. i have taken a few numbers and thought about it, but never called. and i have called a few. there are just too many creepy people out there to pass out your phone number randomly.

Found this article quite appropriate: The Best Way to Pick Up a Girl at Starbucks?


http://blogs.health.yahoo.com/get-he...l-at-starbucks

Yeah, I'm stuck there too with new technology... Glad I'm not on the market anymore, I'd be obsolete...

i give out my cell number. whatever. if after talking to him once or twice and it doesn't seem like it will work out, i screen phonecalls.

It hasn't changed dating for me! :(

I'm all about the old-fashioned date. And, to answer James's question...yes, I would.

Sure. Usually my e-mail address.

But there's no guarantee about that no matter how you meet him, even if he's your classmate, co-worker, etc. Unless you want to restrict your dating pool to people you've known since they were in diapers, at some point you have to communicate with people who might be psycho. There are ways to responsibly handle that risk (don't get into his car, meet in publc, etc.).