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Okay, so strange situation.

I see this girl last wednesday at the bar. I think she's pretty cute, but I was out with my M1 friends and didn't get a chance to go talk to her, b/c she left almost immediately after I got there. However she's a Theta Phi Alpha (I know b/c she was wearing letters), and my roommate's girlfriend is also a Theta Phi (I'll call her Andi).

Well I finally today, a week later, get to talk to Andi in order to figure out who this girl is. We figure it out using Facebook. The girl is a Theta Phi Alpha alum who is two years older than roommate's gf. TPAalum deactivated early, before her senior year, and so didn't spend a whole lot of time with the TPA's in Andi's pledge class b/c Creighton has deferred rush. The two are friends on facebook, but otherwise don't really know each other. TPAalum is single, and at least from her profile, so far so good.

Andi, while she didn't say it in so many words, came across to me as though she's not going to be able to help me out here. I'd like the chance to meet TPAalum. It just seems though like all I have to use is facebook, and that is just totally, totally creepy. Any ideas other than hope to end up at the same spot as this girl?

Dude, facebooking people you don't know is weird.

I've had girls send me messages over facebook and me and my friends all have a good laugh.

It's better to meet in person in my opinion. Doing it over the internet makes it seem like you are afraid of talking in real life.

She was wearing letters in a bar?

Thanks for the advice bro. I know it's weird and slightly creepy, however it's not like I found her on facebook then thought about messaging her, I do have someone she knows confirming my non-freak status. But if I had any good ideas at this point I wouldn't be asking GC. Omaha is not like it is in Lincoln. Omaha bars are spread out all over the city, and it's not like I go out that often (I am in medical school afterall, I have to study). If it were Lincoln, I'd just have to wait a week or two and I'd likely know enough people to get this to work. I was lucky as it is to know a girl in her sorority, otherwise she would have been just another unknown...


Yes, she was, that's how I knew to ask my roommate's girlfriend.

Hmmm. We'd have gotten killed if we'd done that...you know, the "no drinking in letters" thing.

Anyway, I know you said your friend's girlfriend can't really help you 'cause she doesn't know the girl, but might she know anyone who does? OR you could just message her on Facebook and tell her the truth...just say that you happened to notice her the other night at the bar and your friend recognized her because she's a Theta Phi Alpha too, and whaddya know, when you came across her name on Facebook you just thought you'd say hello. ;)

Nevermind...

I went to the same brewpub tonight and she was there. I didn't get a chance to talk to her because she was continually surrounded by people, but two weeks in a row at pretty much the only cheap place on Wednesdays is enough to presume that she is a regular there.

Probably won't make it there next week, but in two or three...I'll hook this up.

She wasn't in letters tonight, but from the roomie's gf, this girl was chapter prez, then immediately went early alumnae after her term was over. Given that she's graduated, I don't think that the "OMG I'm in letters" arguement crossed her mind. I know that since I've graduated, the whole idea of drinking in letters has become a lot less significant. I still try to avoid it when I can, but if I can't, I don't worry too much. Particularly given all the times I've been in letters and wasted before football games...

Now that I'm no longer in school, I wear my letters to the bar all the time. It's fun.

Hopefully not with an alcoholic beverage in your hand. Its disrespectful.

(Respect for your organization should not end after you leave school, at least I don't think so.)

Must we bring this stupid debate into every damn thread?

I mean, this thread is supposed to be about a guy asking how to get together with a girl and it becomes a big diatribe about OMG DRINKING IN LETTERS=YOU ARE A HORRIBLE PERSON AND A DISGRACE TO YOUR GLO.

Betarulz, I think you should avoid this young hussy because if she was in a bar! drinking! in letters!! she's OBVIOUSLY not the sort you want to associate with.

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Shoot. Is that why I don't meet any decent guys when I'm out?? And here I was beginning to think KSig RC was right and that it's because I spend way too much time at the Avenue. Guess I shouldn't have listened to him...

I must remember to no longer drink beers while watching the Patriots suck ass when I'm at the bar, while wearing sweats and an old date party tshirt.

I was pretty shocked the first time I saw a fellow sister drinking with her badge on. I asked her what she was doing. She said, "I am an alumna; therefore, I can drink while wearing letters or even my Quill."

I think it's more about how you act while you're drinking and wearing letters. If you're an alumna, chances are you won't be acting as crazy as you might have when you were a collegiate.

It's not uncommon for alcohol to be involved in professional settings, such as business dinners or work events. Obviously, an alumnae member is going to have more experience with that than a collegiate.

Also -- just b/c the girl was at the bar it doesn't mean she was drinking. Being in a bar doesn't mean you HAVE to drink alcohol.

I just made a simple comment, its you who chose to debate the issue. Take my comment at face value & stop trying to perpetuate more internet drama. :D

I'm not perpetuating drama...I'm not the one who originally brought up something completely unrelated to the topic of the DATING AND RELATIONSHIPS thread.

Drama drama drama. :D

my point is...we (GC we) will NEVER agree on this issue - so why even bring it up here? It's kind of like if Betarulz would have said he met a girl while he was at a political rally and it turned into a giant Republicans vs. Democrats debate.

You're the one who chose to judge others and condemn their actions as "disrespectful" - I mean, if that's how you feel, fine, but you don't have to shove it down everyone else's throat in a thread that's not even about it.

I appreciate your opinion, I really do, which is why I'm not trying to argue with you. If you didn't like what I had to say or where I said it you could've ignored it. The fact that you chose to respond gave me the impression that you wanted to debate the issue-which I'm just not going to do.

It was simply an offhand remark to comment on something that was mentioned earlier in the thread. I'm going to just leave it at that.

I was watching an episode of Nip/Tuck where a guy becomes a woman. They give him hormone therapy and get rid of his scrotum and penis. Evidently not everyone gets the surgery.

So Betarulz! did you just get shots of estrogen or did they completely remove your balls?

-Rudey

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The road shouldn't end with Andi. Go introduce yourself to the other members of her sorority and plot out a contingency plan. As long as you're determined and confident there shouldn't be anything holding you back from meeting alum babe. Be tactful and keep your gentlemanly manners at prime.


Best Wishes,

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Thanks for the idea, but this is very different situation. I, my roommate and Andi are all in grad school. They're both in pharmacy at Creighton, and I'm in medical school at the University of Nebraska (the Med Center being in Omaha, not Lincoln...unfortunately). Andi got in to pharm school after only 2 years (she's very driven). My roommate and I went to a different school in undergrad, so I don't know any other girls in this sorority, nor, since I don't go to Creighton, have any means of meeting any Creighton undergrads.

Again, if this was in Lincoln...I'd have no problems as I'd know enough people, and there'd be no need to ask GC for advice.

However, it doesn't matter as I'm pretty sure that I know she goes to the same bar on Wednesday nights pretty regularly, so everything is pretty much set.

And Rudey, I've known that I'm king of the no-ball, pussy losers for some time now (bonus points for any one who recognizes the movie reference).

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Sweet! Best Wishes Beta!