strange
 

Im just curious about how you guys feel about this. Where I goto college almost no one is single and I can not think of a single 21+ year old who is sinlge. My school does not have a greek life but from what i here sorority girls are more likely to be sinlge, but from what i see if you are 21 you would at least be engaged.
So what is it? In my opinion it is stupid and rare to be in your 20s and not in a long term relationship. Your 20s are ment to be planning your family, or atleast be with the person you are going to spend your life with. I am not dissing greek life, infact I am planning on joining one next year, but to all the single sorority girls.....think.... Look around and you will see that most people your age are engaged. Start thinking about marriage before its to late.

I agree, this topic is strange.

I think the opinion of the OP is a little strange.

I'm single, 25, and happy. I know tons of people (greek and not) who are in their mid-20s and single. I have chosen to use this time to figure out who I am as a person. I don't need a relationship or a marriage to define me and my life.

I think if I had gotten married when I was 21 (and trust me, I thought I was ready at the time) I would be divorced already. I would rather wait until I'm older but be more SURE about it.

I am 24, and just now getting to the point where I am considering engagement. I believe that marriage is for life, not just a few years. I have grown such much in the past few years- I cannot imagine making such an important decision at 20 or 21. Besides, rarely at such a young age are you financially stable, nor mature enough to make hard decisions. (there are the exceptions, my sister was married at 21 and it worked for her, but doesn't reccomend it for everyone). I feel that marriage has been down-played in our society, and is seen as just something "fun" not an actual life changing event.

The OP is 17 (unless I messed up that math, which is totally possible) born in 1987 (how scary is that)

If you are serious with your post, enjoy life, become a legal adult, get your first real job, let your car insurance rates go down and then worry about marriage. :)

My letters define an organization I'm a member of and ideals I strive for, they do not, in any way, define my personal relationship status. Your status with a greek organization has no barring on your relationship status. Anyone who would tell you different is on crack. Maybe I'm getting old, but I figure I'll live to be oh say 80, which means that if I got married tomorrow, I could be married for 57 years. Why not live a little, figure out who I am, date different types of guys and let things fall into place rather than rush.

btw: How are you going to join a sorority when your school has no greek life?

edited for spelling

Ok, the thread starter was born in 1987. :rolleyes: Clearly not someone to bother listening to about getting married.

ETA: Oops we said the same thing at almost the same time. :p

My school has no greek life but it is a community college. I am trasfering next year and the school that I am planning on going to has greek life. And yes I am serious. There are pleanty of people in my classes 20+ and not one of them is sinlge. I also think one should be thinking about marriage at that age. Do not discriminate againsitt me because I am 17.

You should spend more time thinking about grammar and less time thinking about what other people are doing with their lives.

KTHXBI.

We're not discriminating against you because you're 17. We just discriminate in general when it comes to sweeping generalizations.

Every person is different, every college is different and every region is different. It could just be that where you live, people marry earlier.

In today's society, most people are older when they marry. A lot is due to economics and education. More and more people are going on to advanced degrees, and some are waiting until they are through with Master's degrees or certifications before making the financial and emtional committment of marriage. Also, in recent years, it has been documented people who marry younger may be divorced within a few years.

Don't set a timeline for yourself when it comes to marriage-- you will just get frustrated if you don't meet a goal that is out of your control. Get your degree, travel, explore, have fun, date a lot of people and get to know yourself. When you meet with right one, you'll settle down-- whether you're 20, 25 or 47... or even older.

I thought that we had finally reached an era where a woman is defined by who she is rather than her martial status!!
That aside. I know plenty of women in sororities that are engaged and I know plenty that are not (while in college).
I am 24, I have been in relationships for long periods and I have also been single for long periods. I would not trade either expirances, because I have grown as a person.
I think that you should spend more time worrying about getting an education and less time worrying about "boys."

DO YOU GO TO BRIGHAM YOUNG?


JK, JK.


Anyway, the only person I know who got married before they were 25 ended up divorced within three years.

Obviously this could change at some point in the future, but I honestly can't see myself getting married any earlier than 26.

It's good to get married young so you can spend many years populating the earth!

AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

Wow, I needed that laugh.


Ok, I just thought about marriage. Yeah, still not ready.

These days you don't even need to be married to populate. :D

I think that part of the OP's observation that "everyone" in his/her classes are engaged or otherwise is because this observation is being taken at a community college.

Think about it...most people who go to community college are older students...most are people who have a spouse or kids (or are a single parent). Certainly not all comm. college students fall into this category (a surprising number of them are high school students), but I think it is enough to skew the "results".

A community college isn't a representative example of traditional college age students.

And OF COURSE 20 year old females are thinking about marriage...they are figuring out what rings they like, dresses they want, etc. etc. :p

PsychTau

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It's never "too late" to get married. Each person should decide for him/herself when the time is right, and they shouldn't feel pressured by anyone to jump into marriage just because a particular birthday is approaching.

Maybe where you live people get engaged earlier than where many of us live. If the majority of your friends feel mature and responsible enough to enter into a marriage in their early twenties, then good for them. I hope it works out. However, there are many people -- Greeks and non-Greeks -- who want to experience life after college as a single person. For their own personal reasons, they aren't ready to tie the knot yet. There's nothing wrong with that.

ETA: I agree with what some other folks have posted regarding the differences between a community college and a larger college. The student demographics are very different for each.

Did anyone else have a flashback with this post?

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...threadid=71514

LOL -- yep.

wow, you were totally reading my mind! many students at my campus get engaged their senior year of college and usually get married after graduation, a few before. i started dating my now husband freshman year in college and just got married this spring....it was 10 years between the two and we waited for various reasons. good thing too....i don't think we would have survived if we had married earlier, but that story is way too long and personal to share here. :)

anyways....student composition are completely different at a community college and four-year, as pych-tau mentioned. it is really hard to compare the "typical" student there and at a 4-year.

to the OP, i think you will find it a very different culture when you transfer! not good or bad, just different, and i hope you can appreciate the differences.

no hurry
 

after 43 years of being married like to a mad sister, I finally got
the little woman to clear the drive with the new red plastic snow
(light, holds more) shovel so's she can take me to the Elks for my
gin game. Got her a red lawnmower, too, push-style-- as she needs the exercise. Sits next to her red chainsaw. The cute red
rototiller matches her other tools. Yep, glad I waited to get hitched. I was a helleva catch, too. Also, finally got the little woman to move the piano from the second floor to the garage. And how'd I do that? I used a whip.
Well, when you decide to settle down, do not take your decision lightly and you will come up with a winner. Cheers!

I try to remember this when thinking about marriage:

You hear people all the time say that they got married too young. But, I have NEVER once heard someone say that they got married too old. ;)

Good observation, PsychTau.

Whoever said they only knew one person under 25 who got married - dang!

I have a ton of friends getting married as soon as they finish their undergrad (one of them while she was still in school, but her husband has graduated). Though all of these have been non-Greeks... (though a lot of my Greek friends from Memphis who've graduated are in serious relationships and may get engaged soon IMO)

I think it's different in different parts of the country. My co-worker from this summer said she was considered an old maid when she hadn't married by 18 :p (she's still not married - she's 42 now - she's from a small country town).

One of my college boyfriends has family members in Utah who are Mormons. He went to visit them over Christmas break one year and all of his cousins were shocked to learn that he wasn't married yet -- at the ripe old age of 19! :eek:

Lol, isn't that funny? I had classmates who graduated high school at 19!

I'm 32 and single. I'm not even dating anyone. Does that mean I have to wear the big red S (for SPINSTER)? :D

I'm 22 and I married and I know I'm way too young to be married. I think of myself as unusual in that regard. I'm not planning on ever getting divorced, but I can say that I would have done things different looking back.

It really does depend on the person. My wife and I are 24 and just got married this summer; honestly, from an emotional standpoint, we were ready at least a year ago. There are some 22 year olds who are ready, and there are some 50 year olds who aren't ready. It depends completely on the person.

To be fair, one of my sorority sisters (age 24) just got married a couple weeks ago, but I didn't include her because I figure two weeks is really not long enough to gauge the relationship's long-term viability . . . it would skew the sample. ;-)

In my opinion, marrying young is usually a product of one of two things:

1) religious views
2) growing up in a small town, especially one where people don't move away and don't go to college.

Almost all of my friends went to college, and none of them are exceptionally religious. And of my friends who are engaged right now, all of them are small-town (sometimes transplanted from small towns, but still) and religious.


ETA: And by "young," I mean under 22 or 23 . . . I don't think that, say, 25 is freakishly young.

At 17, you usually have a sheltered view of the world. You usually don't have much experience when it comes to relationships or the real world in general. I went to comm. college for awhile and I was certainly not the only one who was single. Yes, I had a lot of people in different classes who were married, but more of my classmates were single. When I transferred to Eastern Michigan, I found more and more people to be single, even at older ages. Yes, I now have quite a few classmates who have gotten married or are getting married, but there a good number of us who are still single.
I wasn't ready to get married at a young age, and neither were a lot of my friends. I'm 24 and am still not 100% ready for that commitment. A lot of my close sorority friends are single. We enjoy our time in college. We may be looking for that long term relationship, but at the same time we're looking to enjoy ourselves. I just got out of a 4 1/2 year relationship- everyone though we were going to get married. We started dating when we were 20 and we've changed so much since then that our relationship wasn't working any longer. Your 20's are the time to grow and find yourself as a person, in my opinion. Get into the real world first, then think about marriage.
To be 17 and think you're ready for marriage, in my opinion, you're nuts. You probably haven't lived on your own, tried to support yourself, or even had a real job. More power to you if you want to get married at such a young age, but it's a lot more work than it seems.:rolleyes:

Am I missing something Here?

17, going to a JUCO, okay, that is possible! But what The Hell, who goes to JUCOs? Either Young Brains (Maybe) or Older People who are back for retreadinging or trying to move back into the 4 Year College regimen!:)

Which Picture on the wall does this project?

19 and not married? Better plan on being single for his whole life, talk about being over the hill, Im sure he already bought Depends.

I'm 21, in a sorority, and single. I've never been in a relationship, had my first kiss on my 20.5 birthday, and am just a happy person in general. On my campus, yes, most of the students here are in relationships, but they are not happy, and you know who's dating who, and who each of them is sleeping with on the side without the other knowing. I personally think that being in a relationship where you're young and not happy is a hell of a lot worse than being in your 20's and single. At this point in my life, I wouldn't mind being in a relationship, and I'm sure of where I want to be in 5, 10, even 15 years. If I were to get married anytime soon, personally, I wouldn't be able to attain my goals in life, because I can't make them having to share my life with someone.

Good GOD! I'm a social pariah according to the OP....I'm 29 and just getting married 2 months shy of my 30th birthday!:eek: What have I been wasting my time doing?

Oh that's right....LIVING MY LIFE.:rolleyes:

High-five Sister Havana. I'm right there with ya and couldn't be happier.

Remember - its much better to be alone and lonely, than married to someone and lonely.

Love it!

I'm 22, single, AND Greek! GASP! :eek: :p

I honestly thought it was the same post...

the op confuses me, although there are a great many things that confuse me so that's not surprising. Anywho I see no need to rush head on into a long term commitment because everybody else on campus is stupid.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! I had a $hitty day, but thanks to this person, it's now a lot better--see what wonderful things a good laugh can do?