Your Own Personal Do-Over
 

So If our Higher Being granted you three do-overs, what would they be?

Mine are, in no particular order...

1) In 11th grade, I wouldnt have made such an ass of myself to Melissa. She liked me and I phucked it up because I was an idiot. I didnt realize she liked me and I was that guy.

2) My freshman year in college there was this girl Julie that was friends with my sister in college. Maybe I mis-interpertered the signals, but she was a lot nicer to me than she should have been and I was all young and stupid. I didnt even try to talk her up. If I had had my wits I would have thrown some game her way. I was so young and stupid, I didnt even know what game was.

3) I would have have taken HS seriously. I was smarter than everyone I went to school with. I just wasnt challenged. (I went to a small HS) Instead of just being lazy, I should have made a game of it... to see how much smarter then everyone else I was. I could have gone to a way better college, and would have been a lot further in my life. i wouldnt know the people I do, and my family wouldnt even look the same, but I could have done better for myself. I just wonder.. what would my life look like now....

1. High School

2. My 20s

3. health and finance---both tie for #3

It's hard for me to answer this, because there are some obvious responses (dating Ben, going to Minnesota), but in retrospect I'm not sure I WOULD take those back, because I learned so much from them. They changed my personality drastically, and I love what they've given me, even if they were hellish at the time.

So, with that in mind:

1) I would not have led Eric on when I was sixteen. I was too young and stupid to realize that he was my rebound from my first ex-boyfriend, but I should have realized it anyway.

2) I wouldn't have baited Melissa so much in high school. She wasn't worth it.

3) I wouldn't have dated Brendan that last time -- it was a waste of time on both our parts, and after I chose between him and the other boy, my friendship with boy numero dos has never been the same. I hate that -- I miss who we were.

Hmmmm...I think that

1). I would have gone to that writing camp at Duke my 6th grade teacher recommended me for, and to GSA when my art teacher told me I should.

2). I would have looked at more colleges during senior year of high school besides the ones I did...if I had, I would've gotten free tuition since the school I go to now gives a free ride to undergrads who have higher than 28 on their ACT--but I didn't know about this!

3). I would never have had a serious boyfriend in college...it was too much hassle, and for what? Nothing.

Are you serious? Dang! I wish I had known that. Which school? (Granted, I love my Illini...even when they lose in football by more than 50 points...)

Some of my redos are:

1) Continued dancing when I was younger.

2) Studied abroad in college.

3) NEVER gotten a credit card as a freshman in college!

1) Would have back off of S*r*h when I had the chance.

2) Taken my classes more seriously

3) Taken my health more seriously

4) Taken myself more seriously

1) High School- I would have worked harder as far as my grades go. I had a 1450 on the SAT and could have pretty much gotten a free ride anywhere I wanted to go if I would have had an A average. Instead I had a B average and about $30,000 in college loans so far

2) 8-14-03. That entire night. Had I not done what I did that night, I might have had a good year at Clemson, not fucked things up, and I would probably still be at Clemson.

3)Hmm... cant' really think of a #3 right now.


But honestly, I don't really know if I could go back and change those things if I could. I know my life would probably be better, but I can't say for sure. I've met so many people and had so many different experiences on the paths I chose. I may have never met these people and had those experiences otherwise. It is interesting to ponder where I might be in life right now had I made other choices.

1. When I chose my first job out of college, I would have made a different choice. I chose a consulting job because my husband was finishing up grad school and we didn't know what his job situation would be, and this was the only job that would give me the flexibility to relocate. Unfortunately, it required weekly travel, and the managers for my project didn't know what they were doing (one of them got fired for incompetence), so it turned into a dead-end job and I ultimately quit. I had a few other offers on the table; in retrospect, I should have taken one of them.

2. I wouldn't have dated my psycho ex-boyfriend.

3. I would have taken more electives in college, even though this would have meant an extra semester. Between my major and my minor, my program was pretty constrained. I wish I'd taken the extra semester and worked in four or five interesting electives.

I really only have one big giant do-over...

When B and I had our fight at homecoming and gave each other our rings back, instead of sitting there and reconsidering, I would have got up and walked away down the street and to my sisters and been DONE.

I never would have started smoking, because it's so incredibly hard to quit.

That's it... every other "mistake" I've made resulted in so many other things that I couldn't possibly change any of them.

I dont know that I would really do anything over.

-Everything happens for a reason -

I would have, in the tenure of my knowing her, dated her/hung out with more is Leigh. She is the girl who in 5th grade always saved a seat for me on the bus (towards the back, where the cool kids sat) i should have married her after high school, or at least gotten engaged to her. Seriously, i f***ked that one up.

I love your attitude. :D

I don't normally think about these kinds of things but this thread got me thinking about what in my life I would do over...

1. I would have taken college a lot more seriously and picked a totally different major.

2. I would never ever ever have signed up for my first credit card.

3. I wouldn't have started smoking esepcially for the dumb reason I did.

I guess I would just say, if I could do anything over, Id go back to HS and start from there all over. As long as I can keep what I know from now when I go back. Dont want to mess with fate, but Id redo a lot.

There's nothing I would change; each bad decision I've made has ended up working for the best.

Hmmm...let's see...

-I'd have chosen English for my second concentration right away, instead of sticking with French, even though I hated all my French classes, because I thought English was too close to journalism and I needed something different.

-I'd have taken my classes much more seriously the first time around at IU.

-I'd have pledged APO earlier in my college career.

I really agree with this, and I don't believe in having regrets.... But for the fun of the game:

*I would have done things differently with a certain ex-boyfriend.

*I would have waited until the bar closed and the 21-yr-old asked me to go home with him before I told him never to call me again. I think I played that card too early. :p

Most of the things that I regret doing have actually made me a better person in the long run.

Taken the money off the table before each and every time I was going to lose.

-Rudey

1- Taylor T.
2- Stephanie R.
3- Brook D.

I wish that I had taken more liberal arts classes during college. I used to keep telling myself that I should have been an art major or a film major or an English major or a journalism major. I don't think I would have liked any of them or stuck with any of them or been good at any of them, but I think it would have been good for me to have taken some classes and explore something else. Then I would've realized that I wasn't really missing out on anything and that I that I'm more of a science-type person. I think I would have regained the focus and enthusiasm about my major that I had lost. I think I spent so much of my time and energy hating my major because I felt like my parents had pressured me into that major. I think if I didn't have all that anger and resentment, I would have actually enjoyed my classes and I would have worked harder and studied more and gotten better grades. I also wished that I had done some internships and co-ops, because it is a very competitive field and so many of my peers already have had experience in the field.

1. HIGH SCHOOL! I wish I could just go back and re-do everything! I would have taken it much more seriously!

2. I would have accepted my scholarship to Ohio University instead of going to Rio. Oh why why why why why did I go to Rio?

1. Tuesday, October 18
2. Wednesday, October 19
3. Thursday, October 27

-My 19th year. I'll hold the other two do-overs for later!

See, I'd like to say that I would've paid a lot more attention in high school. But then I would've gotten higher grades and probably gotten a scholarship to a different university; then I never would've met my husband or had these wonderful kids. So like KSigkid said, it has all worked out for the best! :D

1) I would have not gone to university right after highschool. Looking back, it was the biggest mistake of my life. I should have taken my father's advice and worked for a bit and did some travelling. I would have gone to school at an older age and would have known what I was doing.

2) I wouldn't have dated Jay or the other Jay.

3) take my diabetes more seriously from the start.


Although, I'm like S & S, these are things that made me who I am today and because of these things some really great things have happened. I don't know if I actually would do anything over again. Except #3.

1. I would have skipped fewer classes and studied harder in college. Granted, I did okay but I know I could have done better.

2. I would have walked myself home right after the party that night.

3. I would have put more energy into finding another job after I figured out this one wasn't going to get me anywhere. Four years later, I'm still here.

1. never started smoking... I shouldn't have let Cheryl get to me like that, especially over a stupid guy...

2. paid more attention to my grades in high school

3. I wished i got my tonsils out earlier... then i wouldn't have spent 22 years of my life being exhausted and sick all the time

4. NEVER have gotten a credit card... or any of the 8 that are cut up and sitting in my desk...

5. gone to say goodbye to my grandpa.....

I would have picked a different major...although at 18 I wouldn't have chosen anything else.

I would have taken the full time job offered to me by my previous part time employer.

There are many things I would do over.........But, these are the top three that come to mind often:

1) I wish I had gone through NPC recruitment my freshman year. Then, everything might have been different and that hell I had to go through might not have happened.

2) I should have dumped him when he was spending all that time talking to his ex. Then, I wouldn't have wasted two and half years on him.

I don't know that there's really anything else........ Those are the two things that bug me the most. And, usually, I go head on for everything I want.