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WhiteDaisy128 08-30-2005 08:31 PM

Bad Press...
 
I have mixed emotions on this, but would love to hear other's opinions...

This article was published in the NCSU's Newspaper, The Technician:


http://www.technicianonline.com/story.php?id=012007

Quote:

Sorostitutes Are Weak And Wounded
Posted: 08.26.2005
Daniel Underwood

We've all seen them. They walk with their noses turned toward the sky. They carry gigantic Vera Bradley purses. Huge circular ornaments -- I've been told they're sunglasses, though I still need to see the evidence -- hang from their faces; they look like Martians, members of a hazmat team or avid Darth Vader fans at the opening of a new Star Wars film. If you're lucky, you might just hear their Sperry Topsiders flapping against the ground, warning you that one's right around the corner. Yes, the dreaded "sorostitute."

But we shouldn't really make fun of these bilge-ridden, rancorous old sows; well, we shouldn't "just" make fun of them. We should also feel sorrow for them. They have been used and abused by the allurements of sorority pop-culture.

The image of the modern liberated woman -- empowered, sexy, audacious and fun -- has in many ways been inverted by sorority pop-culture. And by pop-culture I mean the superficial aspects of sorority life. The behaviors and the trends, without all that nutty sisterhood stuff; like Hollywood without actors, or religion without God. This inversion has happened to such an extent that the rites and relics of sorority life have gone from once being simply trends or communal symbols to now actually being part and parcel of sorority life itself. In a large way, sorority life is now more about accouterments than esprit de corps.

The analogy would of course be to the world's biggest popularity contest, also known as high school. The less fortunate or less popular kids always wanted to hang-out with the "cool" kids; they wanted to ride in the better cars, go to the better parties, wear the better clothes and just generally be envied. Now, did these less fortunate kids have some deep inner connection with the inner souls of the more popular kids? Clearly not. They wanted what the "cool" kids had; and they would sacrifice everything for a little acceptance.

And that's exactly what we're seeing a lot of today in college. Many girls are attracted to the glitz and glamour of sorority life. They could care less about being enjoined by common interests or nurturing lasting relationships other than those of the "I-slept-with-the-same-guys-you-slept-with" variety.

Take, for example, the exclusive list of clothes retailers and fashion accessories which basically serve as a litmus test for entry into a sorority (and I'm not talking about the kind of entry that takes place after drunken frat parties). Girls bite into that stuff like rabid dogs. It really is sad. Their neurotic conformity to the latest fashion trend shows how many girls forsake their own creativity and their true personality for blind faceless acceptance.

While their clothes often pitch-hit for their personalities, it's also worth our time to think about how they'll do almost anything in order to gain acceptance, and then just turn their backs on all their old friends. They thrash their way into a clique and then spit on anyone on the outside. In all actuality, these girls are simply insecure. Without a real sense of self-worth, they try to cheat or sleep their way into cafe society. Again, I really feel sorry for them.

One of the most valuable lessons in life is learning to be comfortable with oneself. Some famed author and speaker, whose name escapes me, has once said that our social progression through life takes us from dependence, through independence and into interdependence. In other words, at first we depend upon everyone for our self-worth. Then, we shun everyone else and defiantly call ourselves "accomplished," in whatever way we may conceive of. But finally, upon reaching the promised land of maturity, we become comfortable in our own shoes yet are still able to reciprocate well with others; able to both give and receive, to correct and be corrected. We're too high to be torn-down by others' opinions, but not too high to receive a little criticism here-and-there. Strength and humility, coalescing in one composite whole called self-comfort. Well, that's at least what I call it.

I might sound a bit dragging and platitudinous. But so be it. Obviously some people still need to hear my advice (witness "sorostitutes").

Oftentimes, sorostitutes feel validated when they discover that guys like them. But, sadly, they are so often deceived. Most men don't want this type of woman. They may entreat them as toys or trophies to be trotted out in front of their friends, but men don't want women who are decorated to death as partners in any type of meaningful relationship. However, it remains possible that these girls realize this and are perfectly happy with cheap, fleeting trysts. If so, I am even more saddened.

Lest there be any confusion -- as inevitably there always is -- what am I really saying? Is sorority life in any way "bad?" No, rather I think it can be a wonderful thing (though admittedly, I've never tried it). Are all sorority girls "sorostitutes?" Heavens no! None of my sorority friends are sorostitutes; but there's a lot of them out there who are.

My contention is not with sorority life. I'm worried about the girls who have nose-dived into sorority pop-culture to mask their insecurities. They aren't really interested in relationships. They just want to be loved, for all the wrong reasons.
I think it was distasteful to publish this column with just a week left before Sorority recruitment and in the middle of Fraternity rush. Greek Life took quite a stand on it and held a rally (not a protest) in support of womans rights (as not just Sorority women dress and act like was described in the column)...but it was not well received at all. It turned into Greek Life vs. Free Speech.

The campus is TOTALLY split now. Local press is all over it too. What do you think about the column? What would you have done in reaction? Anyone else have something like this happen on your campus?

For LONG LONG reading (as if all of this was not enough), check out this thread on an NCSU message board to see the general population's reaction:


http://www.brentroad.com/message_top...x?topic=344528

valkyrie 08-30-2005 08:42 PM

One of the most valuable lessons in life is learning to be comfortable with oneself.

The thing is, if you're comfortable with yourself, you don't need to bitch about how other people are insecure and basically mindless drones conforming to some BS standard.

This article is full of generalities and has no evidence to back them up -- it's pretty much the brain vomit of an author who is pretending to be cool and better than the lowly sorority women but in reality is just as judgmental and shallow as he claims the sorority women are. Why does anyone even bother paying attention to something so stupid and lacking in substance?

valkyrie 08-30-2005 08:44 PM

Also, do you know where I could find a picture of the author? I'd like to write a little article about him.

honeychile 08-30-2005 08:59 PM

The term "fluff piece" comes to mind when reading this. It's a trite regurgatation of most sorority myths, and unfortunately, the author thinks he's serious.

Well, I guess he is - seriously deluded, that is!

_Q_ 08-30-2005 09:25 PM

I don't really care how he feels about sororities, but I'm surprised that the editorial staff didn't help him fix his writing. There were some truly wince-worthy phrases in the article, like "in all actuality." Perhaps the Bulwer-Lytton contest could be a good opportunity for him. http://www.bulwer-lytton.com/

ADPiAkron 08-30-2005 09:38 PM

Latest news...

http://technicianonline.com/story.php?id=012037

LoggerTheta 08-30-2005 09:50 PM

Personally I was always tought that if someone offends me with the blatent intent on doing so, then the fault is with that person, and not with me. I just let stuff like that roll right off my back. There's no reason to let it bother me to read that because I know that I went through every day of rush (bar pref night) wearing men's cargo pants. Haha. And I still shop at the thrift store! But I can wear my letters with pride knowing that I adhere to all of our ideals in the most serious of manners.

Yes, the artical was distasteful, but PNMs can make their own decisions about whether it's true or not, and with such a flagrent attempt to slander GLOs, it's really no big deal. That's just my opinion though. Thanks for listening.

valkyrie 08-30-2005 10:07 PM

This guy is a nutcase.

His "writing" makes me laugh.

tunatartare 08-30-2005 10:17 PM

What bothers me about the second article is that it says that the girls couldn't comment on it because they were "silenced by their national organization." I feel that putting it in those exact words only gives the anti-Greeks more to talk about.

Speechpath 08-30-2005 10:18 PM

The writing is horrible, he sounds bitter to me personally but he has the right to air his opinion (although the timing before rush is poor). I do think the rally response was a bit over the top. Why give him more attention?

Firehouse 08-30-2005 10:22 PM

Most of you are much too nice. This is typlical hippy liberal gibberish, designed to hurt and timed to do the most damage. You can bet that the little leftist journalists are high-fiving over the response. Your response should be that while everyone is entitled to express their opinion, the student-funded (I assume) paper is not free to attack for the sake of deliberately doing damage to legitimate student organizations.
If it were me, I would organize all Greeks and immediately withdraw all advertising form the paper. All of it, dead stop. I would use Greek influence in student government to do the same. I would start my own publication which caters to my market, and I would send people to visit each and every advertiser in the leftist paper to let them know that they now have the unique opportunity to focus on that very same upscale market that the pinkos make fun of.
Money talks. Money makes the advertisers sit up and take notice. You are NOT obligated to sit still and stand for deliberate, vicious attacks on your character.
It does no good to "meet with the student journalists and establish a dialogue." They don't like us; in fact they hate us. And they hate us becuase of who we are and who they are.
Trust me, you can fight back and you can win. You can put them out of business. And if you think that's too harsh, think again. They'd put you out of business in a hearbeat if they could.

ADqtPiMel 08-30-2005 10:32 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Speechpath
The writing is horrible, he sounds bitter to me personally but he has the right to air his opinion (although the timing before rush is poor). I do think the rally response was a bit over the top. Why give him more attention?
I think the rally response was awesome. If someone at my school called me a sorostitute, I'd sure as hell be out there protesting.

valkyrie 08-30-2005 10:43 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Firehouse
Most of you are much too nice. This is typlical hippy liberal gibberish, designed to hurt and timed to do the most damage. You can bet that the little leftist journalists are high-fiving over the response. Your response should be that while everyone is entitled to express their opinion, the student-funded (I assume) paper is not free to attack for the sake of deliberately doing damage to legitimate student organizations.
From what I've been able to discover, the author is involved with College Republicans, opposes abortion, is anti-ACLU and anti "leftist" (liberals are out to ruin American society!), anti-Islam, and thinks the U.S. needs to retain its strong, Christian tradition.

That hardly qualifies as typical hippy liberal gibberish. Since when are hippies so hateful, anyway?

ADqtPiMel 08-30-2005 10:45 PM

I'm a hippie and I'm pretty damn hateful.

Also, I was going to be nice but his article made me mad so I'll go ahead and say it:

Dude appears to be mildly cross-eyed.

KSUViolet06 08-30-2005 10:47 PM

The Stater (Kent's student newspaper) prints crap like this ALL the time. Though it is oddly most directed toward fraternities. The only time greeks get positive press in the Stater is when the story is covered by a Greek. It's so sad that so many student writers are anti-Greek. I wonder what we ever did to them to make them that way. I suppose there are always going to be people who shun groups that are not open membership.

Tom Earp 08-30-2005 11:13 PM

DO TWIT SOUND ABOUT RIGHT? :rolleyes:

Why do school papers think they get get away with the same thing as the grocery store rags?

Who is the Advisor of the crap. He should be banned. If they think it is funny, wait tell a Lawyer, Yes a Lawyer knocks on the door!

They are Ijiots and should be treated as such!:mad:

Coramoor 08-30-2005 11:22 PM

It would be nice to change the images...but honestly, how many greeks out there would stick such a change through?

On my campus they have the initial reaction and that lasts for like a week, and then they get bored and forget about it. I think we could easily change the stereotypes, or at least show what we are really about, but most greeks don't have the desire to really follow through with it. Too much energy that they could spend doing something else....like making shirts or something.

sugar and spice 08-30-2005 11:46 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by valkyrie
One of the most valuable lessons in life is learning to be comfortable with oneself.

The thing is, if you're comfortable with yourself, you don't need to bitch about how other people are insecure and basically mindless drones conforming to some BS standard.


Word.

Now, to be honest, I don't have a huge problem with much of what's said in this article. I agree absolutely that there are many sorority women out there who throw themselves into Greek culture to mask their insecurities. Where I think the problem lies is the fact that the author feels so superior to these women. We all have our ways of dealing with our insecurities that may not be so healthy . . . like, oh, writing columns bashing others in our student newspapers?

Also, his insinuation that just because someone is attractive and well-dressed, they must be insecure? Is silly and misguided.

I'm surprised that the sorority women got so upset about this -- to me, it's not worth getting upset over. However, I'm happy that they're out there doing something to counteract this rather than just being complacent about the whole deal.

And Firehouse, the writer of the article is a conservative, not a liberal.

Kevin 08-31-2005 12:02 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by sugar and spice

And Firehouse, the writer of the article is a conservative, not a liberal.

Nah, just that he was part of the preparations for a Young Republicans event.

1) That doesn't mean he's a member

2) That doesn't mean he's a conservative.

-- No party is really conservative anymore. This article doesn't give me a clue either way to the fella's political leanings other than that he's a tool.

sugar and spice 08-31-2005 12:10 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by ktsnake
Nah, just that he was part of the preparations for a Young Republicans event.

1) That doesn't mean he's a member

2) That doesn't mean he's a conservative.

-- No party is really conservative anymore. This article doesn't give me a clue either way to the fella's political leanings other than that he's a tool.

The other articles he's written do. ;)

valkyrie 08-31-2005 12:13 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by ktsnake
Nah, just that he was part of the preparations for a Young Republicans event.

1) That doesn't mean he's a member

2) That doesn't mean he's a conservative.

-- No party is really conservative anymore. This article doesn't give me a clue either way to the fella's political leanings other than that he's a tool.

Did you read his other articles?!

valkyrie 08-31-2005 12:14 AM

Junior chemistry major Daniel Underwood says all of his science classes teach atheistic assumptions about the origin of life and the universe, but nothing about a divine creator. However, Underwood says that is just one aspect of the pervasive anti-Christian bias on display at NC State. "There's a marginalization of anyone who holds any sort of religious views firmly," says Underwood, who is a born-again Christian.

He recalls an incident last semester in which a professor asked a guest speaker not to mention the name of "Jesus" while addressing his "Social Deviance" class. Professor Robert Stone, the student says, made the request after ex-convict John Kinlaw told the class that his life had dramatically changed after he abandoned a life of crime to follow Jesus Christ.

Underwood, who wrote a column about the incident for the student newspaper, believes that Stone -- like many others on campus -- is uncomfortable with born-again Christians.

"This particular professor had his own animosity toward Christianity in particular," Underwood says, "but I think generally speaking, professors and teaching faculty are much more embracing of any religion other than Christianity -- and particularly, Islam."

In fact, Underwood believes if Kinlaw had said his life changed dramatically because he began praying to Allah, Stone would not have censored him.

In writing the column, the junior says he wanted to warn his fellow students about what is happening on campus. "I really wanted to stress to the students that they should be on guard against this, and try to take notice when their teachers may be doing things similar to what [Professor Stone] did," he says.

valkyrie 08-31-2005 12:15 AM

He's also the webmaster for the College Republicans.

Just call me valkyrie, interweb detective.

sugar and spice 08-31-2005 12:16 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by valkyrie

In writing the column, the junior says he wanted to warn his fellow students about what is happening on campus.

JESUS WOULDN'T USE A CAMPUS NEWSPAPER COLUMN TO PREACH HATRED OF SOROSTITUTES.

Firehouse 08-31-2005 12:20 AM

Valkyrie, you seem to be right, and I appear to be completely wrong.

valkyrie 08-31-2005 12:22 AM

LOL that's cool. This is fun. Here are more words of wisdom:

Just when I thought the liberal Democrats could not get any worse, they manage to surprise me.

Instead of simply being led by sheer raving lunatics, attracting all sorts of anti-American lowlifes as constituents, and just generally being opposed to America's self-interests, they have achieved a new low -- they are now the proud owners of a one Sen. Dick Durbin. Yes, the democratic senator from Illinois, Durbin, has finally come out and said exactly what the Democratic Party has been poised to say for a long time now: Sen. Durbin admitted his hatred for America's armed forces -- you know, the guys that kind of keep people like Durbin from being beheaded by savage Islamofascist terrorists?

GeekyPenguin 08-31-2005 01:00 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by sugar and spice
JESUS WOULDN'T USE A CAMPUS NEWSPAPER COLUMN TO PREACH HATRED OF SOROSTITUTES.
That's because Jesus was down with Mary M. ;)

(I go to a Catholic school, so I know.)

moe.ron 08-31-2005 02:32 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by valkyrie
"This particular professor had his own animosity toward Christianity in particular," Underwood says, "but I think generally speaking, professors and teaching faculty are much more embracing of any religion other than Christianity -- and particularly, Islam."

In fact, Underwood believes if Kinlaw had said his life changed dramatically because he began praying to Allah, Stone would not have censored him.

What the hell does Islam have to do with the professor asking the guy not to mention Jesus? This guy is very paranoid.

Speechpath 08-31-2005 07:47 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by ADqtPiMel
I think the rally response was awesome. If someone at my school called me a sorostitute, I'd sure as hell be out there protesting.
They did not however get the desired good press at the rally. You can read the letters to the editor in today's Technician and see that quite clearly. I do think a response was warranted but not sure that specific one did what the greek community wanted it to do.

PhoenixAzul 08-31-2005 08:25 AM

Quote from the editor:
Quote:

Although Eder said he expected a response from the column, he, like Underwood, said he did not anticipate a reaction of this magnitude.He said he did not hesitate publishing Underwood's work on Friday because it accomplished the goal of a column.

"He wrote about something that he saw and that already existed before he wrote it. Any good columnist is a keen observer of human behavior, and I think that's important -- that's exactly what he did," Eder said.

Despite negative feedback, Eder said he thinks something positive will come of the column.

"Daniel's column initiated a lot of discussion and dialogue with things that needed to be said and needed to be heard," Eder said. "That is the first step in positive change coming about."
A KEEN OBSERVER OF HUMAN BEHAVIOR?!?! Excuse me?! If by keen observer you mean stereotyping and shallow, then why yes, absolutely.

THINGS THAT NEEDED TO BE SAID? It needed to be said that sorority women are mindless prostitutes and Stepford wives??? Somehow I don't think that's as important as covering stories on your campus finances and other things that NEED to be said. No one NEEDED to say that.

and the only positive change I can see coming from this article is that this Underwood fellow realizes that his articles are poorly written and pointless (journalism major here) and smack of misogyny and racism as well as a pandering disreguard for the viewpoints of others. He screams that he wants people to accept this Christian point of view that he has...but refuses to be as accepting of other viewpoints (somehow that seems...uh...UnChristian to me).

DolphinChicaDDD 08-31-2005 08:34 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by valkyrie
He's also the webmaster for the College Republicans.

Just call me valkyrie, interweb detective.

Dude, you're awesome. Seriously, I bow to your detective skills.


And I would have rallied as well. Hell, I probably would have rallied earlier with some of his articles (which, as pointed out earlier, lack depth, insight, and are clearly writted according to his personal opnion). Another part of me is almost numb to this kind of editorial because we've all seen similar articles before. But good for a campus for finally doing something about it.

Kevin 08-31-2005 09:33 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by valkyrie
Junior chemistry major Daniel Underwood says all of his science classes teach atheistic assumptions about the origin of life and the universe, but nothing about a divine creator. However, Underwood says that is just one aspect of the pervasive anti-Christian bias on display at NC State. "There's a marginalization of anyone who holds any sort of religious views firmly," says Underwood, who is a born-again Christian.

He recalls an incident last semester in which a professor asked a guest speaker not to mention the name of "Jesus" while addressing his "Social Deviance" class. Professor Robert Stone, the student says, made the request after ex-convict John Kinlaw told the class that his life had dramatically changed after he abandoned a life of crime to follow Jesus Christ.

Underwood, who wrote a column about the incident for the student newspaper, believes that Stone -- like many others on campus -- is uncomfortable with born-again Christians.

"This particular professor had his own animosity toward Christianity in particular," Underwood says, "but I think generally speaking, professors and teaching faculty are much more embracing of any religion other than Christianity -- and particularly, Islam."

In fact, Underwood believes if Kinlaw had said his life changed dramatically because he began praying to Allah, Stone would not have censored him.

In writing the column, the junior says he wanted to warn his fellow students about what is happening on campus. "I really wanted to stress to the students that they should be on guard against this, and try to take notice when their teachers may be doing things similar to what [Professor Stone] did," he says.

He and I wouldn't agree as to the meaning of "conservative", but that's for another thread.

Okay, you have certainly made your case though. This guy is a moron.

I would agree on the point that he is certainly a fundamentalist christian wacko, borderline facist, etc., but conservative... those are fightin' words. ;)

All hail valkyrie's detective work.

moe.ron 08-31-2005 09:38 AM

I'm still trying to figure out where Islam fits into his argument. Sounds like he's trying to find a boogey man.

33girl 08-31-2005 09:45 AM

Someone really needs to pull a Fred Durst on this dude and put pictures of his penis on the intraweb.

adpiucf 08-31-2005 09:45 AM

But he's a student journalist. Student journalists write stories with angles that no one has ever thought of before!!!! Student journalists know everything!

Even when he is speaking in generalities, you should never, never question a student journalist. He's very experienced in life and philosophy.

Shame on you all. His words were so original and throught-provoking! We should sit at his feet, looking up admiringly and soaking in his words of wisdom.

/sarcasm

irishpipes 08-31-2005 12:49 PM

I think this guy should expect to be criticized for writing this article. Obviously his writing skills are poor, and the content is unresearched and inflammatory. But why the criticism for being a Christian or a conservative?

TSteven 08-31-2005 01:24 PM

Editor-in-chief Greek
 
From the second article Protest storms Harris Field
Posted: 08.30.2005
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Rebecca Heslin, Technician's editor-in-chief, said with this recent column, there was a lot of discussion on campus and Technician received both positive and negative feedback.

...and further down...

The first Greek male member to address the crowd was Jeff Skalka, president of the Interfraternity Council.

"It's a shame we had to come out because of these circumstances," Skalka said.

Pointing out that Heslin, a member of Zeta Tau Alpha , wore sunglasses similar to the ones described in Underwood's column, Skalka said the images of sorority women did not determine their character.

Skalka, like Anderson and Babb, also harped on the community service hours put in by NCSU sorority members in addition to other positives of the Greek community.

Heslin said prior to the protest, she was curious if organizers would give her the opportunity to speak, not only as the editor of Technician but also as a sorority member.

"As editor-in-chief, I accept the role of being held responsible for everything that's published in the newspaper," Heslin said. "I almost expected more of a chance to voice my opinion... I was not expecting to be called out."

valkyrie 08-31-2005 01:31 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by irishpipes
I think this guy should expect to be criticized for writing this article. Obviously his writing skills are poor, and the content is unresearched and inflammatory. But why the criticism for being a Christian or a conservative?
Someone said that he was a liberal and I was showing what I consider to be evidence that he is not. I also think some of his quotes indicate some type of mental issues, but that's a story for another day.

TSteven 08-31-2005 01:33 PM

Facebook's "Fratdaddies and sorostitutes"
 
Also from the second article.

Monday afternoon, Heslin [editor of Technician and a sorority member] visited Greek Life with a list of members from a Thefacebook.com group entitled "Fratdaddies and sorostitutes."

The list included approximately 49 sorority and fraternity members from NCSU, a number which has dwindled severely since Monday.

Skalka [president of the Interfraternity Council] publicly abhorred the groups and said that these group members encouraged stereotypes of Greek Life. He said all Greek Life members should "get out of that or get out of Greek Life."

Lindz928 08-31-2005 01:46 PM

Re: Facebook's "Fratdaddies and sorostitutes"
 
Quote:

Originally posted by TSteven
He said all Greek Life members should "get out of that or get out of Greek Life."[/I]
This is dumb.

Don't people realize that those groups are jokes?


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