Anyone here have live-in girlfriends?
 

Anyone here have problems with crap your sigO wants to do to YOUR place? Like my girl hasnt even been here for a week and she's already fucking everything up. Like what was one a huge walk-in closet for me is now a space of about 3 feet for me and absolutly no rack space for my shoes. I have 8 pairs of shoes and she's taking up all the rack space for all her shoes. My poor shoes have to sit at the entrance of the condo as if I was a guest staying over for a few hours. I don't understand how in the hell someone who is 5'1 can take up so much space with so many damn clothes. And then there's the issue of her telling me last night that she wants to get rid of all my furniture and the two of us going and buying all new stuff that doesnt look so "bachelorish". Like how in the hell does black leather couches-REAL ITALIAN LEATHER-look "gainesville style"? :mad: She wants to get some furniture that looks like something some 34/35 year old woman would want for a new house. Im not trying to get stuff that appeals to early 30s to early 40s couples. My boys are still going to be coming over even though her and I are living together. If they saw some of this crap in my condo they'd start laughing at me. And if I wouldnt have started yelling at her she'd already have plans to change room 2 which is used as a home office and carries a "Scarface" theme. I have it all Tony Montana'd out. It has a desk, a boxed mirror with a razor in it that has TM carved on the blade, a leather chair, a leather love seat, a laptop and 22 inch plasma monitor on the wall. The room is red. I have a 5 1/2 foot framed picture of Tony Montana holding a gun with the phrase "The World is Yours" above him. Needless to say she said I can keep the office but everything else needs to go before her sister and her boyfriend come visit us for a week from Los Angeles. :rolleyes: And another thing that pisses me off is how much toilet paper she uses!!!! My God!!!:eek: :eek: Has anyone ever noticed how much toilet paper a chick uses? I bought 4 rolls, which lasts me about a month, and they were all gone in a little over a week! We're sitting there eating and I'm watching her chew her food and I start thinking about that food and wtf ends up coming out of her that makes her use so much damn toilet paper. Like I'm purposely avoiding spices in case her stomach can't handle it because I have no idea what goes on in the bathroom that makes a chick use 4 rolls in about a week. And another thing that aggrevates the fuck out of me is the fact that she has the bathroom looking like a cross between a hair salon and a spa. The girl has all electrical outlets used up in the bathroom for her blowdryers, straighteners and curling iron. And when we're getting ready to go out she makes it where it gets so freaking hot in there!! I have to turn the air down to 60 degrees because she's steaming the whole place up. When I'm not thinking about all the electricity she's using from all the hair equiptment my mind is tied up in disbelief at the huge basket of perfumes and lotions she has. Like she's got so many she cant even have them all sitting up on the counter....she's got to have a freaking basket for all of them. And last but not least, she's even trying to take over my refrigerator. She buys things we don't even eat just to make it look "pretty" inside. Like she bought 3 boxes of strawberries and let them go to waste. She even bought stalks of corn just to make it look nice inside, meanwhile she threw away my sauerkraut because she thought it was nasty and didnt think I ate it. WTF do you think it was doing in there in the first place!!!! :o


Whew!!! I feel better now. :D

Is this normal?

Cashmoney

damn. thats what you get for letting her move in!

my live-in b/f and i pretty much agree on everything in terms of decorating.

thank goodness i don't have the issues like you've got!!! i'm not sure what i would do....:D

She got flustered because i had dried up beer stains on the shelves of the fridge.


The office it tight. My next project is to find blinds that when you have them shut you have that sunset on biscayne bay scene in Frank Lopez's office.

Why not get the wallpaper?

Well, we've searched all over for it, and still can't find blinds nor wallpaper that sick...

We don't have issues, just different opinions. And trust me, we'll be coming to a mutual understanding as to whats going to be replacing the current furniture.

http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll...category=28111

not what you're looking for...but its cool nonetheless!

I think the only place you can get the blinds is here in Miami. Trick Daddy has them in his house here in Dade County. And he has an average looking home at that. But the blinds are sick indeed.

Would you care to know the story?

They look kind of ghetto. Have you ever seen the ones that run north & south and are really fat?

Craig,

The thing is, she moved in, so its now both of your place, not just yours. And she needs to feel comfortable there. Everything you are dealing with is normal.

Women use a lot of toilet paper. Unlike men, we MUST use it EVERYTIME we go to the bathroom. Think about it. We're shaped differently. ;) lol

It is VERY hard in the beginning when you live together. It is even harder if someone moves into YOUR place. For the person living there first, it can be hard to relinquish the thought of it being MINE. Its not MINE anymore Craig, its OURS.

Good luck!
A

oh, i didn't mean as issues, i guess that was implied as difference of opinions and preference....lol!! i would hope you didn't have issues if she just moved in! :)

good luck, hopefully it will all work and and both will be happy with the furniture and decor.:)

Oh and even if I was still 25... I'd be all "out with the black leather couches" too.

Women don't want to live in bachelor pads or dorm rooms. Those don't bespeak permanance. And when we move in with our guy, we're not thinking in terms of impermanence.

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The rest of it was fairly normal. Buying produce just to spruce up the fridge, however, is not.

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Maybe she is hoping that their house will be on MTV Cribs...most of those people have the inside of their fridges looking all pretty...:confused: :confused:

As for the real issue here, I am sorry to say Craig I have no good advice. I have never lived with a boyfriend before, but I am sure that when I do he will go just as crazy as you are right now...not b/c I have a lot of stuff but b/c I am a perfectionist to the point of being really annoying about it (I annoy myself for crying out loud). I pity the poor man who ever decides to move in with me....;)

buy another shoe tree and put your shoes on it. kindly point out that you need a little more space in the closet, and suggest that you all not rush out and buy new furniture-ask her to live with the leather furniture for a while before any new furniture decisions are made(i love leather-it can look very chic). it appears to me she is marking her territory. buying furniture together is just one more nail in the coffin of bachelorhood, buddy-and it doesn't sound like you are totally ready to give up bachelorhood yet. i wish you good luck.

I think your place sounds pretty sweet... especially that office - that is awesome!

I agree that the fridge thing is weird. But get used to seeing the lotions and hair dryers and whatnot; they're not going away any time soon.

Good luck with the girlfriend!

I'm not moving in with a guy until we're married. Who wants to go through what you're going through?

On second thought, maybe you just picked the wrong gal. :confused:

If you don't move in together before you're married, how will you know if you actually CAN live with him? This seems terrifying to me (and I'm honestly curious, not trying to be rude or anything...).

hahahahahahahahhahahaha. i have images of a girl running around the house peeing in the corners and in the closets.

hmm though. hard to comment on the decorating disagreement without knowing the lady and her tastes. did you like the way her apartment looked prior to her moving in with you? my husband and i lived together prior to marriage mostly out of necessity - we moved to florida from tennessee alone and sharing the bills was much easier right out of college. he never really tried to decorate too much. he has his office that i don't touch - all golf balls, pike stuff, and tennessee football. he makes fun of the formal living room, calling it the "tea room" and doesn't understand why it doesn't have a television. i would imagine that a lot of it has to do with moving directly from a fraternity house into a place with me - he never had a need to furnish a home....

but i digress. just make sure you go furniture shopping together and both make compromises. she doesn't get 100% girl and you don't get 100% boy. maybe she can spruce up a formal living area, but the comfortable living area / tv room stays as is. maybe you pick the colors you would like and she picks the style - or vice versa. she picks the couch, but you pick the wall paint and the artwork.

good luck!

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This is the main reason she's having an urge to do a HGTV makeover of the place.
Did she tell her sister how she redecorated the place and forgot to let you in on it? Tell her that her sister is coming to see her not critique what the place looks like. Keep them busy and they won't notice. If they are staying with you, you could always send them to a hotel.

Mr. Munch and I live together, and we haven't gone through anything like this.

I'm speaking for myself only, but I can live with anyone. Oh, yes. My family are some of the most difficult people in the world to share a house with, but I did it for over 18 years. It's a good thing I'm like this, because I'm sort of old-fashioned...or maybe it's just selfish, because I would think I was getting the short end of the stick if my guy asked me to just live with him as opposed to getting hitched. I guess if you aren't like that, you just sort of have to make it a point to spend a lot of time with the person you think you might end up with...because most people I know usually end up informally living together anyway (spending the night at each others' places almost every night) even if they're not actually cohabitating.

I don't know...basically, in a nutshell I would think a guy was a wuss if he wanted to "try things out" by living together first. Nope, sorry buddy...if you want me to share your house, you know what you gotta do.

Me either - I lived with my wife for over two years before we got married, and it was a painless process.

When I grow up and get married, I'm living alone! Did you hear me? I'M LIVING ALONE! I'M LIVING ALONE!

Kevin McAllister had the right idea...

Who?

My BF and I have been living together for over a year now, and some of the same things happened to us...all my hair and body products, shoes, etc. But lucky for us, we moved into a new place together so there wasn't any toes being stepped on when we moved in together.

In your case, I think you need to have a talk about how you feel and let her know that yes, its her home now, but she has to understand that it was your home first, so she can't just come in and take over the place.

BTW: like everyone else has said, we use toliet paper every time we use the bathroom, but we also use it sometimes when we put on our make up. My BF still questions why so many rolls of TP that use to last him a year, are know gone after so many months.:eek:

Macualey Culkin's character in Home Alone.

What's wrong with leather seats?

Am I the only girl who actually wants black leather couches in her house when she moves out?

Also, AchtungBaby80, I'm right with you on the not wanting to live together before you get married thing.

Me and my boyfriend have also just moved in together...

I moved into HIS place and he makes sure that i know that it was HIS place before.

He also has the infamous black leather couches which i have to admit are NOT my favorite part of the place. But we tried to make compromises...

for instance
he can keep his couches..as long as i can buy some decorative and colorful pillows to throw on them to make them look better, also i had to spend a good day CLEANING them... black leather couches dont LOOK dirty...but they are if you dont take care of them. Im sure the couches had seen more play, partys and all out maddness that Id like to know about...but at least now they are CLEAN..and have some nice pillows that compliment them.

Also, his office remains his office, and since he is a buisness guy and does alot of things in there, i dont complain. We put my desk and things on one side for my teacher stuff and he has his things on one side. It works, I dont try and change his setup though...

The toliet paper complaint i get ALL the time..but i cant help it.. girls use it every the time..not just once or twice a day like boys.
But if I buy it I dont hear the complaint, so I buy the huge size and it lasts longer.

When I moved in with my bf the amount of "products" i had amazed him, I also have baskets under my sink..but luckily we have seperate bathrooms so this helps ALOT with the complaining. Before his old roomate moved out we were sharing one..and we faced many of the same problems.. my hair things, my lotions etc. Now that we have seperate bathrooms we are all set...everyone is happy.


I guess the most important part of all of this is that its a learning process... its like a trial run to see if everything works out if things get more serious. I like to think of it as an adventure..

but most importantly remember ...compromise.. and if your GF doesnt understand that sit her down and explain the meaning of compromise.. maybe then she will see it slightly different.

GOOD LUCK!!!

I think the reason you, the Munchkins, and the KSigKids haven't had any problems is you're mature couples who were ready to make the committment.

When you have an immature couple moving in together, you're going to have problems no matter what.

And what's more, you're not going to have the emotional tools to think of things like compromising, letting the little things go, etc.

touche'

I moved in with my boyfriend a few months and haven't experienced anything like that. I moved into his condo knowing that it was his name on the mortgage and that I was just lucky enough to find a place in Atlanta that's in a good location, spacious, and for a good price! Our place is a 2 bedroom/2 bath condo so we both have our own walk-in closets and our own bathrooms. This certainly alleviates a lot of the stress of giving up personal space. I don't nag him about leaving the toilet seat up or leaving whiskers in the sink. Only when we're having guests come over do I ask him to clean up his own bathroom...or if it becomes a toxic waste zone.

We have the normal couple arguments but never an all out fight. Living together takes getting use to and it takes compromise. The best thing we could've done was sit down with each other before the move in and told each other our roommate pet peeves. We knew ahead of time what the other was expecting out of the living situation and I think it's made us much happier roommates!

Craig, I think your problem might be that you still think of your apartment as being "your" space and she senses that. When she moved in, the apartment became both of yours and she's trying to show that she has a say in things too and that it's her space, not just yours. Just let her know that you realize it's her space too and compromise.

I find it funny that a thread made for men was filled with nothing but women voicing their opinions about living with their boyfriends and how good it turned out. I wonder how different the stories would be if your boyfriends gave their opinions, ladies. ;)



Anyways-


The living together thing is coming along fine. I had to handle my business. I moreless got gangsta and laid the law down on how things are going to be. I kind of had a feeling she was trying to establish some sort of leverage or semi-dominace by redecorating and I had to let her know who the boss is. Come to find out her mother was the one who told her to do something like that. :rolleyes: *ever notice how its always the would-be mother in laws that make everything a pain in the ass?*

I gave her 3 rooms to have out of the 7. Its a 2 bedroom/2 bathroom condo. The office was already staying and we both decided on that, so we each had 3 rooms to do what we wanted. Since I own everything I had first pick. I chose the living room, one of the bathrooms and the kitchen (because I do all the cooking). She got the bedroom, the dining room and a bathroom. To make her feel better I also gave her the utility room. We have 2 walk-in closets and one of them had our stuff in it and the other was like a storage thing. This week I cleaned it all out and gave away a lot of stuff to poor people to make room for her clothes and shoes. So I solved the closet issue. We already did the pet peeve thing before she moved in, I saw that one coming long before ZTAngel and Mr. ZTAngel ever thought about doing it. ;)

As far as my couches go, I found out the reason why she didnt really like them. I didnt know it but there were nut stains all over it from where people have screwed over the past few years. I never saw them until she pointed them out and even then you have to look real hard. She didnt say it outright, but I know she was thinking they came from me taggin my ex-fiance's ass. And in all likelihood thats where they probably came from. We used to watch porn together on the 64inch when we were drunk. I told her they were from my old roomates, Brad, Travis, Billy & Tony fucking dirty bitches late night or from my english bulldog, Beavis, when his little pink thing comes out. After that I quickly changed the subject.


Its not that bad having her living with me. She does all the cleaning, cleaning that I couldnt keep up with if my life depended on it. She thinks I was spoiled growing up because my mother always had an aunt jamama that did the cleaning for us. But it evens out. I do the cooking because she can't cook for shit unless its cookies, muffins or a cake. I let her try to cook last night and she gave me raw broccoli, water chestnuts and sliced carrot with unseasoned chicken she cooked on a george foreman grill :rolleyes: I had to drown everything in soy sauce just to be able to eat it, but I still ate it. I think the only thing that gets on my nerves is the fact that she likes to fuck entirely waaaay too much. Its when I wake up in the morning, when I come home from work, after dinner and before I go to bed. Sometimes I feel like I don't even have both legs in the door before she's already trying to take my damn clothes off. I'm like fuck man, let me get both my legs in the door or get a glass of wine down me first. Seriously, whatever happened to just giving a man a blowjob and letting him passout? 2 nights ago I asked her if she was about to start her period and she said yea, in a couple days. So later on I was laying on the couch and she walked by and bent down to kiss me (which aggrevates me because she kisses me like every 5 minutes). Instead, I grabbed her by the waist and put my head between her legs and sniffed real big. I pulled back and said Ewwwww!!! She got mad and stormed off. She was pissed for about 30 minutes and then was back to normal. Later on that night she wanted to fuck and I told her I don't put the dank in the stank. She got mad and rolled over. I told her not to be mad because all chicks have a distinct smell right before they start ragging and that I don't like fucking when pussy smells like pre-period vagina. She sighed, gave me a kiss, told me she loved me and rolled over to go to sleep. But other than her always wanting more sex than I.....everything is fine.


As for those of you who think its a "wuss" thing to live together instead of getting married first....thats probbably why you ladies are the single ones still living with your parents after college. Its called being smart. Its called not putting yourself in a situation to where you'll end up getting a divorce. First you have to be friends with a person of the opposite sex, then you have to be really good friends, then you see if the two of you can still be those really good friends while dating, and then you see if you two can remain that way while living together. If you can do that you'll have a great marriage. At least thats what the old people I know who have been married for 40+ years say to me. Said.

Is redecoration more of a girl thing than a guy thing?

I have known girls to move in with heir BF's and they seem to want to get furniture and stuff . . .

I have known boys to move in with their GF's and i don't know any that really wanted to redecorate or started taking up a lot of space with their stuff . . .

Why the difference?

Also, the guys i know were pretty ok with the girl changing things around, I wonder though, would girls be as likely to be ok with the boy wanting to make more masculine changes and take up lots of closet space in her place?

I dunno . . . Its still really his place isn't it? She's just staying there for now on a trial basis that may become permanent.

I am not sure that her wanting to launch sometype of permanency campaign this early is precisly sane.

Thats pretty territorial. Although I guess this is better than pissing in the corners to mark her space.

If she lives with him and helps to pay rent then it's not just his space anymore.

Oh my craig. You have a very uhm . . graphic writing style. Its not precisely TMI . . . just graphically written.

If she ever reads this she is going to kill you . . so of course I had to quote it to immortalize it. :p