Soul-Mates
 

i was just listening to bilal's soul sista when i started thinking....

do you all believe that there is a person out there that is your soul mate?

do you have someone in your life that you believe that you are meant to be with even though circumstances right now have you apart from one another?

I'm inclined to say no. But that's only because I haven't met mine. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif



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"Service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on earth." ~Mohammed Ali

absolutely believe in soul mates--but--

I believe there are different soul mates for different times in your life.

I believe a soul mate is not necessarily a lover, but someone who teaches you a profound lesson about yourself and life.

I believe a soul mate is someone whom, when you look into their eyes, you see yourself and your truths reflected back at you.

just my thoughts-
Amy



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"The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams." - Eleanor Roosevelt

Wow amycat! That wsa deep! I love that song soul sista by Bilal. I do believe there is a soul mate designed just for you. Then again, I'm a hopeless romantic. My question then becomes: how will you know that that person IS in fact your soul mate? I met this guy who should me that I settle for any and all guys. He wined and dined me. We went to church together and parties together. He allowed me to see the REAL me. He boosted my self esteem and made me feel good and proud of who I am. We were friends all this time, even though I began to catch feelings for him. At any rate, I feel he served his purpose for me in my life at that time. One month later-he got married. I was a little angry to find out that all the time we spent together he was engaged. However, the things that he showed me and taught me about myslef and life, outweighed the little bit of anger that I harbored towards him.

Amycat, I agree with you.


I have/had a soulmate who was just a friend. We used to tell each other that we were the same person, just different sexes.

If God had chosen me to be male, I know I would have been that person.

"Soulmate" can be a vibe that you have with a member of the opposite sex. Somebody who truly feels you, and accepts you the way you are.

Believe me, my husbands doesn't even do that all of the time.

Miss. Mocha

I definitley believe in Soul Mates. It is someone that completes you or makes you feel whole and also vice versa. He or she is the cherry on your sundae. Hi Arhogance, liked you page on nupe.com. You Go Girl.

Amycat, I agree with you one hundred percent. I feel that my husband to be is my soulmate, cause I feel his pain just like he feels mine, as well as his joy. He has taught me that I have more strength then I realized. I had given up on men when I meet him, but he turned my life around in a way that I never thought was possible. To me a soul mate is someone that when you look at each other, you know that deep in your heart that there is no other for you. I also agree that a person can have more than one soul mate, at different times in your life, each to teach you a different lesson about yourself and the world around you. I liked your topic RHOyal-Silence. Keep posting such great stuff.

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I do.

Whew, am I glad I did I search because this thread clearly already exists.

Basically, I am going through some things and am redefining what I believe (in love as well as other aspects of my life)...

Just wondering: Do you believe that most married people have found their soulmate? Or, are they with someone they mate while waiting on their soulmate and just made things work with?

If you believe in soulmates, are we destined to meet our soulmate as long as we hold out? Or, could we wait and wait and never meet the soulmate, or never have it revealed that a certain someone is the soulmate?

Would you ever marry a friend (a la My Best Friend's Wedding pacts) just because you hadn't found your soulmate and had reached a certain age?

Is to do so wrong?

If one never finds his or her soulmate, and refuses to settle, is adoption okay without a mate to raise the child with? Is that selfish?

I'm just wondering...my life is love life is looking pretty hopeless right now and after med school...well, then I'll be like 30 and I would love to have kids....

I still don't know if I believe in the concept of soul mates. I know of people that say they are with their soulmate, but why are there so many other people out there that aren't with theirs?

I don't believe most people marry their soulmates. In the conversations I've had with married men, most of whom have divorced, they say things like "I married her because I thought that was what she wanted", or "She was pregnant and I wanted to do the right thing" or "We were living together. People kept saying that I was using her, so I decided to marry her".

I would not marry a friend if I could not find a soulmate. I hate settling for less than what I really want. I want to marry someone that I am passionate about.

I think adoption is a wonderful idea, married or not. I hate that so many of "our" children get bounced from one foster home to the next and don't really get to experience family. I think it's very unselfish to take someone else's child and raise them as your own. I've given it some thought myself.

You're starting to depress me with this hopeless lovelife I'm not getting any younger stuff. I'm not getting any younger either. :( Focus on what you have instead of what you don't. You will be so much happier. :)

Thanks for the words of encouragement! I'm actually pretty happy right now, just the prospect of the future can be daunting.

I do believe that everyone has a soul mate, however, sometimes we do things in life to mess up that bond or relationship. Sometimes we can be our own worst enemy.

Serioussigma22:cool:

I think it's definetly possible, and i think i've met mine, problem is, shes already engaged to someone else. We'll see just how real "fate" is.

Good luck to you PKTSU01!

Serioussigma22:)

I believe that soulmates exist. However, I think that there is only one out there for each one of us. We may or may not meet them and if we meet them and lose them, there's no one else that can be your true soulmate. You may love someone else after that but the love will never equal what you and your soulmate had. No matter what you do and how hard you try. If you never meet your soulmate, then you never experience TRUE love. Sad, but I think True.

ms dopenezzz,
i like your view (even though it is a little sad)

sometimes i feel that i missed out on my soul mate
but who knows, i am still young

I believe that everyone has more than one soul mate. I think there is one for every phase of your life. You learn something from the first to take to the next.

I totally agree with this.

I read a lot on this subject and I read and reference Sylvia Browne. I don't think that there is such a thing as a soul-mate to complete you in this lifetime as in marriage. I believe that your soul-mate is your identical twin in spirit and not someone you would even be romantically interested in, especially since opposites usually attract.

Actually I think that God has a person for each one of us. My soul mate and I have been going back and forth for years now. We have both gone through different phases in our lives. (From our teens into adulthood.) Through the years somehow our paths continue to cross in the craziest places and the strangest ways. When I hear his voice on the phone I melt inside. When I receive an email from him I melt. He has always understood me. I always accepted him for who he is and vice versa. I see so much of myself in him and it has always been that way.

Now we are in different states and yet somehow I know when something isn't going right for him. I can't explain it so I stopped trying. Twice I almost got married to other people. I don't regret not marrying my fiances. It's funny how I can see now what I could not see then. It wouldn't have lasted because my heart wasn't in it.

I also see how the time wasn't quite right for me and my soul mate either. We are more mature now. We have finished our education, etc. Sometimes it takes some knocks and bruises for you to appreciate when someone really loves you.

I think I have found one of mine. Before I found him, I was not sure about the concept. Now, I know that they exist, though I hope that we have more than one, because I am not sure how things are going to work out with this one.

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Hey guys have any of you tried that soulmate calculator? that advertised everywhere? i think the url is http://www.soulmatecalculator.com i tried it the other day but i think it's not very accurate. I got some name like Donny. lol.

I'm scared....it said my soulmate is named Brooke iono no dudes named brooke...:eek:

LMAO!!!!!!!! Maybe his last name will be brooke:rolleyes: :o :confused:

I think that the little experience that I have had with relationships (I'm 22) does not qualify me to answer this question as best as others. Yet, there is someone whom we are apart right now, but I don't want to say he is my soul mate, but I don't know what to say...

I think DSTCHAOS said it best when she mentioned the la-la land and refusing to close certain doors...that is where I am now. I try to look at the situation with a more mature view and look further down the road as to weigh the options.

Soulmates do exist to me, but I think that people get complacent (either in current relationship or don't want to pursue) and miss theirs. This makes me think of Charlot (sp?) from Sex and the City.

I found my soul mate 8 months ago. We live 1,000 miles apart, but we were high school sweethearts. We reunited at our class reunion and hadn't seen each other in 20 years. We communicate by phone and email. He makes my soul feel good and I his. It's not about sex, it's about knowing how to uplift each other.

Otherwise he lives his life and I live mine, but we are joined by our mutual like, love and respect for each other. That's all we need from each other.

ttt. worth bringing back up.:)

Yea i do believe there is someone out there that is my soul mate. I think everyone has a match and even the ups and downs are part of what brings them together.

:(I do have someone in my life that i believe is my soul mate but due to the distance between us we are just friends But i now realize that being friends can't work because i obviously have deeper feelings than that. S even though i believe he's the one....I think i pushed him away because of what other people told me to do....:(

"I think if you got something good don't ruin it Nature spoils things naturally...So either you'll get ripe or rotten..only time will tell" - Supreme

Look at you being all grown and stuff.

:o Just celebrated our "one year anniversary." He remembered, I didn't. LOL

LOL. You still celebrated and that's what counts.

Just don't forget the 2 year. :o

i believe there is more than one soulmate per person. i know a man whose mother was married for 22 years to his mother, and remarried and was with the 2nd husband for 38 years. now, i know that time married does not equal soul mates, but her children (all 8 of them) truly felt as though this man embodied their father 100%, and were glad someone could fill that space in her life.

i also believe that soulmate doesnt always equal husband/wife. i feel as though some people i have met over the years will always be in my life and i immediately felt a connection when i met them. i have a coworker i have worked with for a year, and it feels like we are sisters on some higher level. we look alike, love the same things, finish each others sentences...its very weird, but i almost feel the same connection with her as i do my blood sisters...

I pretty much agree with you. I don't think that the soulmate has to be the person that you marry/carry on a lifelong intimate love relationship with. I feel that a soulmate can be a child/friend/relative/life partner, etc. Additionally I feel that a person can have more than one soulmate. Right now I am 23 and I am in a relationship with a man that I feel I could spend my life with. Do I feel like he's my soulmate? I don't know about that just yet, but I do believe that God brought us together and that he has a major purpose in my life.

I guess I really don't believe in a soul mate as being one person that you marry because by definition a soul mate is just someone that you have a strong affinity to. As was previously stated and I agree with, a soul mate could be my best friend of whom I have known since I was in grade school. We have been through thick and thin and she will always be my best friend and soul mate.

Having a soul mate and meeting the love of your life are different concepts in my opinion.

^^But it is nice if there is some overlap there too.