meeting women
 

i feel almost certain people do this, and i even have vague memories of having done this myself at some former stage of my life...but that memory is blurry and maybe i was only watching the tele.

the point is...post college (and not even, really - I'm still in law school - only they're ALL married) how is this feat accomplished?

Ha, ha, I knew a guy who was all excited to go to law school because he thought he was going to meet tons of smart girls to go out with, but 99% of them turned out to be married! I wonder why that is?

AA meetings.

-Rudey
--I like them messed up

Church

It does not matter if you're that religious, because I'm sure that many young adults look for booty instead of Jesus...if it's anything like my church. :o

Oh yeah, the church is a hot bed for traditional anti-feminist women, some of them are actually hot too.

On the flip side, how do you meet men? It's darn near impossible

SigmaChiCard


Internet Dating Service, the hot ones are from the Old Russian Provinces!:)

Dont Go Trolling with Your Ding Dong Hanging out, Laws against that!;)


Dionysus,

Is that Sacralegios or what?:) God Will get you!:D

Blue Hair Alert, Church, OOPS! FuPa!:cool:

LEARN POKER!

AMEN. Especially when you're in your late 20s-early 30s. Most of the decent men are married or gay.

Or that crazy Halo game?

Or going through a divorce so the last thing they want is a relationship (booty call:yes - relationship:no).

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I met my husband-to-be at Borders. :) On Friday nights, they have live music (various bands and types) so a nice older crowd always turns out.

Try your local Borders to see if they do this too.

And church of course. :p

ETA: when I was in grad school, there were lots of single guys there too.

Well I'm *almost* 21 and all the guys around here are hardy partying all the time or in some sort of relationship... or gay.:D

This all depends on the church and where it's located (ESPECIALLY where it's located!) At my church (or rather, the church that I'm thinking of leaving), you're either old, have family or are gay (or any combination or even all of the above).

That's not an internet dating service, that's a mail-order catalog. :p

Re: meeting women
 

Its simple....be a noticed guy. Don't look like the average joe schmoe. Get your body in check, jump on a cycle if you have to, get a tan, have a pimp ride, make your crib look tight, be a social nut, be nice to chicks (even the ugly ones have hot friends), don't get majorly fucked up around women and have a decent job (chicks don't go for unemployed mid-20 something guys even if you are in school still). Do all that and the pu$$y'll be beating at your door.

Oh but Halo is SOOO Much fun!!!

Yeah, I have to admit that my church demographics are sort of unique. It is uber diverse. All ages, all races, all classes. I think we have over 2000 members and like 500-700 nonmembers who regularly attend but don't want to become official members.

I think that if I moved to a brand new place and didn't know anyone...I'd actually break down and try some dating service. eHarmony or something equally as lame.

On the other hand, I also think that it's about who you are social with. The people I am around all the time attract other people and I just get to know social networks that way.

Meet women? You should be briefing cases. Get back to work. ;)

It really depends on what type of woman do you want? You could meet one at church, at the library, at the bookstore, in a CD shop, while taking a jog, in the park feeding ducks (CAUTION: THIS WOMAN IS PROBABLY VERY LONELY AND CLINGY)...anywhere! So who are you looking for, the intellectual, the spiritual, the athletic...scary, baby, ginger, posh, or sporty, take your pick! Then, go from there.

you go to KY...I go to KY...?

haha, only (half) joking

valerie - haha...you sound like my dad..."you can enjoy your life when you graduate...just put it all on hold"

the problem lies in a multitude of things.
[list=1][*]Law School = NO TIME for shit[*]New City with only a few girl friends who are usually the best wingmen there are[*]Introverted[*]A little too idealistic[*]I'm still a little in love with my ex, but only because I don't have anyone else to fill that spot yet...and I mean I haven't even had (much of) a fling[*]Everyone I know is married[*]I can't really go out to bars at night & meet people because of school except on the weekends, when not THAT many are out...but I'm too shy anyway, so that is kind of a nonissue[/list=1]

Looks like a match made in (GC) heaven! ;)

Lexington is very much a college town, you might have to date a little younger than what you're used to. A good deal of the people at the bars are not even 21! And especially since it's summertime, the pickings will be pretty slim. Don't dwell on the ex, and you're gonna have to get over the whole "shy" thing (haha I say that, but I suffer from both of those as well). But yeah, you're young enough (still older than me), you'll find someone soon enough!

i'm not really too bothered....i just like having someone to have fun with...to care if i miss their calls or to miss when they're gone.

Oh how could I forget? The gym here (Johnson Center) and the main library are both great places to meet people. My guy friends loove the JC because of the girls there, and the library is more of a social place than anything, especially around finals time. Speaking of which, I need to get my butt to the library and stop playing around here on GC!

I meet girls in the most random of places. Anywhere from the BART station or when I'm walking to work. Downtown SF and the Union Square/Powell area are good places to meet the females.

The Marina and the Mission are pretty key too.

Thank God it isn't just me! I have no clue where to meet these elusive guys. I've had two set up dates and one was too young and the other decided he wasn't "ready" to date someone yet. I'm about four steps away from a web site. This stinks! Anyone know any single guys in Detroit???

theres your problem right there!

MICHIGAN SUCKS! Get the hell out of that state!

I was in Maryland and it wasn't any better. Oh wait, I had a boyfriend while I was there, that's why I wasn't looking. Michigan in itself isn't bad but I think I'm missing where the boys are....

Yes, conform and move to Cali.

DO IT NOW!!!

Haha niiice. Thanks for the translation for sheltered girls like myself :p

I know a few who are nice guys but too young for me <sadly!> cuz I'm 40. How old are you? Head to Royal Oak on weekend nights.

Re: meeting women
 

Get with that girl from Kentucky before she gets a breast reduction.

I hope that I keep up with my trend of never wanting to date anyone b/c trying to meet guys after college sounds like it really sucks. I just like to have crushes on pretty boys, get them to fall in love with me, and then break their hearts...which I am way too old to still be doing...:D ;)

Anyway, for those of you who are searching for someone...try the grocery store! Or the gym! (Those are actually probably really terrible suggestions, but hey you never know?) Good luck. :D

It's really not bad -- there are always BARS.

Because there are such quality men hanging out in bars. If you're going for quantity...sure. =) I'd have to say, it's hard to meet decent folks when you get out of college though, unless you have a lot of single friends with the hook up.

Yeah, I'll hurry up and tell my boyfriend of 3+ years that he's not quality. ;)

Just thought of another idea for the gal from Michigan. There are a zillion street/art fairs with bands/music, etc. Wyandotte starts next week and Ann Arbor is the week after that. Lots of men there, especially hanging out around the stages.

This is the classic "easier said than done" application of RC's First Rule of Greekchat.

The answer is obviously, "STOP BEING A HUGE PUSSY"

Now, since we're all here right now, this is obviously easier said than done. Frankie says that's life - but I know one thing that definitely doesn't help: bitching about it.

I am in the same boat you are... either that or they "don't want to risk one of the best friendships" they've ever had... PUH-LEASE!!!
Maybe it's just a Lexington, KY thing!

I think its a Lexington, KY thing. B/c i"ve been single for a while. ANd I never used to be single this long. And all the guys I meet are tools or already have girlfriends, or don't want to risk the friendship but hey they want benefits too. GRRRRR!!

Maybe all of us need to get together and help scout out the opposite sex for each other! ;)

LOL... uh I agree :D
Maybe we're looking at the wrong schools or something.
We should start a support/search group.