Girls persuing guys
 

Girls, have you ever persued a guy? How did he react?

If you have not, do you think you will in the future?

If you answered no to both questions, what are your objections?


Guys, has a girl ever persued you? Did you like it?

Girls, have you ever persued a guy? How did he react?

Yep! Well, apparently well, he's now my fiance, heh.

Yeah, I asked a guy out and we ended up together for 3 1/2 months. Worked for me!

A majority of the boys I dated in college were boys that I pursued. So, I guess that's a positive reaction. :)

Re: Girls persuing guys
 

yea I pursued him....he let me chase him until he slowed down enough to marry me! :)

Re: Girls persuing guys
 

Yes, but in varying degrees.

Hooking Up – If I hook-up with a girl the first night I meet her, I will never seriously date her. She might think what were doing is dating but it’s not, it’s just sex until you realize that you don’t mean anything to me and you a find a guy who actually likes you. Now I’m sure some of you ladies might freak out about this but keep in mind the only girls I have ever hooked up with on the first night are the ones who pursued me in that manner.

Numbers – If a girl gives me her number without me asking for it, I’m ecstatic. Because honestly even when I get numbers from girls half the time I don’t call. Don’t ask me why I don’t have a legitimate answer. But if she takes the time to give me her number I will call 100% of the time.

Dates – Now I’ve had two different types of dates where a girl asked me out. One just the pretty standard date…I drove, paid for everything etc. But I’ve also been asked out where she took on the dominant roll by paying and picking everything. It was pretty relaxing not to have to worry about anything but it was very weird being paid for. I’ve come to the conclusion that if you ask me out then it better not just be a way to get a free meal but in the same sense don’t go full out. Treat me to dinner or a movie but don’t go full out because it feels emasculating having someone pay for the entire evening.

Do I like being pursued by girls? Sure who doesn’t. Have any of them ever developed into a significant relationship? In high school yes, but not in college.

For the most part I will only persue a little bit, as in make it known I'm interested in a guy but beyond that I'm more willing to sit back and see what he does next....it has worked out so far...

When a girl persues me, I use it for what it's worth. It just goes against my entire concept of dating and the game. I have fun, but if she wants anything more than a few hook ups, she will end up disappointed.

I only date girls that I persue, and not many of them.

All of you are lying.....


Girls that chase guys get used unless the guy is desperate and no one else is trying to fuck him. Fact is it's not a challenge and thats why the girls get used, they're easy.

Is there a balance tho? The way I see it is the girl who could care less about whether the guy likes her or not isn't going to get the guy's attention. I don't think a girl needs to chase just...quickly walk. You have to put SOMETHING out there in order for it to be reciprocated...

I think some clarifications are in order...

Firstly, chase and pursue are 2 completely different words, I think they've wrongly been used synonymously here, but we can fix that. And we're talking about pursuing a guy, not his penis. Why'd you bring that in, no one had brought up sex *cough*Freudian slip*cough* ;)

I pursued my first husband. We worked together, ran into each other at parties and I flirted with him a lot. When we had a mixer with his fraternity, I asked him to walk me home. We sat outside the library and talked for a long time. I asked him to my formal. We dated exclusively from then until we got married 4 years later. He was pretty shy and kind of social phobic, so I don't know if he would have asked anybody out first. He had only had one girlfriend before me and that was in highschool, and they had dated for a couple years. It started when she asked him to a dance. My "pursuit" ended with asking him to my formal. From there, it was up to him whether we continued or not.

I also pursued my second husband, I guess. I was at Happy Hour with all my co-workers and I told them I was going to practice flirting with this guy who was playing a video game. I was pretty newly divorced from the first husband. He asked me for my number, but I had initiated the contact. I would call that "pursuing". He called and asked me out two days later.

Dee

Or maybe we're the ones using the boys. ;)

Re: Girls persuing guys
 

I've pursued lots of different guys over the years. I dated one off and on for most of college. So that worked out well for awhile, I guess.

And yes, I will be persuing it in the future, again. As soon as I can figure out when that hot guy is going to be working again.

Same here :)

i love it when a girl pursues me its just so much easier that way i think.

You need to stick to reading the bible. You know about as much of the mechanics of women chasing men and my post as you do about fornicating.


How's that for clarification?

Oh, it was just fine. It's really a shame, though, you could have at least pretended to have more maturity and intelligence. One would wonder why you're offended by a mere observation. But that's okay, making pathetic attempts to insult me by ASSuming you can size up my knowledge base only validates my view of you. :cool:

FYI: This is an "open" forum, not a "pick-and-choose" forum. If you don't want to hear comments on your words from everyone, be what they may, it might be in your best interest to keep it to yourself.

God bless you, honey, have a great day! :)

I just find it really hard to take anyone serious on the topic of sex that has a screen name title "christiangirl". And don't come at me with that 'god bless you, honey" bull shit after making an ill attempt to rip me one. You can take that preaching of yours back to the damn pulpit and speak to morons that'll actually listen to you. As for me, my ass will be burning in hell sharing a beer with Satan.

I persued the crap out of my boyfriend, but not without his reciprocation. Being younger than him (significantly so) put the responsibility on me, and it's worked out for almost 4 years.

WOW. :eek: That was so RIDICULOUSLY naive, I don't even know where to begin.

I've pursued a fair share of guys, but I think it was more physical than anything- most often when I'm on vacation or out at night. I guess I'm a traditionalist at heart. If a guy is interested in me, I'd definitely like him to do the pursuing.

Then again...with my last boyfriend, mom played matchmaker. (long story) He turned out to be really cool and we had some good times. Unfortunately he was a Philly guy here on assignment after the hurricanes.

I guess I'm open to meeting guys in any circumstance. I'll still give a number when the guy makes an impression on me, but overall, I like it when the guy pursues me :)

a mix of both
 

Of the three boyfriends I've had,

two made the first move in asking me out (I only went out with each of them for about three months).

I have been going out with my current boyfriend for what will be two and a half years as of July 11! I sort of made the first move in saying I liked him (high school!), but he had been flirting with me first. Seems to have worked perfectly. ;)

Never. And I never will.

I'm the chasee, never the chaser.

How do you let the guy you like him then? Assuming he hasn't made the first move yet?

I don't. If a guy is interested in me, he persues me. And then, if I'm interested, we have a match. If a guy isn't interested in the first place, nothing I can do can change that, and he'll only be after me for sex, not a relationship. So-- why bother... because I'm interested in a relationship.

Im guessing this girl is ridiculously hot... :p

Surprisingly, I prefer to be persued also. I just don't have the nerve to make the first move.

Could I just take a moment to flex my future English teacher muscles and mention, just for a second, that it is PURSUE? Thanks.

Silly bastards! Why didn't anyone tell me that I spelled pursue wrong...before now?

It can go either way player!

Is she or isn't she? Nobody knows! Welcome to funchat.com

Amen, sister!

I pursue in a very indirect way. ;)
I make them think they took the initiative -I beleive guys love challenge even the ones we defined as shy-
I make them believe they are the chasers and that I worth the "hard work" they go through to take me out.

But in reality I make all that happen.:cool:

In conclusion I agree to pursue them.

Arg, there's this one girl on my floor who refuses to ask a guy out, or make the first signal of "hey I like you". And then she whines about how no guys like her or are interested in her. She also refuses to go out without at least 3 of her friends, and she won't date anyone who doesn't want children and didn't vote for George Bush (almost half the nation is gone there). I told her she's going to be an old maid, or she's going to marry herself.

Been there, done that...

Pursued and been pursued...

Some of it was fun and games... Most of it was sport fcuking... But how else was I able practice the tantra???

Anyhoo, I think there should be a level of "reciprocation" that is comfortable for both parties involved...

Now if gwirlfriend is a dominatrix, then you will be her slut puppie... But if gwirlfriend is a choir girl and doesn't know where to put it, then you will be with a nun, don't get nun, don't give nun...

Somewhere in between (pun intented) the pursuit must begin... It's the way of the world, how else should the species go forth and multiply?

I've participated in buying funky drink combination at TGI Friday's for guys I thought were attractive...

I've thought that any clothes my man wears are the clothes I chose for him, or he doesn't wear any... :rolleyes:

And I've dropped major cash for some of the men I've dated, been with, hung out...

But I stopped all that kind of stuff when my heart got stomped on by a fool in my mid-20's. Yes, I was stoopid back then, but I was in "luuuvvv" (spelled lust and greed). Anyhoo, from that point, I learned through relationships, it is about "give and take" and alot of work. More like what are you willing to give up and what will be taken from you... And there is gain, sometimes.

I guess you just have to ensure your own happiness and satisfaction with you life...

yep.

it was cool.

I have a recent story about what I wrote before:

Last night as I was posting in this thread, I received a call from my ex-boyfriend who I had no news from for several months, (he told me last week he was sick and I sent him a get well soon hand-made card) He called to say thanks ..blah blah.
Then last night he called to ask me out, we went and I remembered this thread.

I pursued the guy to contact me, but he is thinking he is doing the chasing. The point is I want him back! and I'll have him!.

Sometimes we have to take action in order to get things to happen.
Once again. Pursue but don't let him know you are after him.