Chicks that annoy/smother you.
 

Anyone else have the same problem as I, I have a girlfriend that is annoying the shit out of me and it feels like I'm being smothered. I don't know what to do about it or what it's supposed to mean. The girl is planning on moving in with me in August. :rolleyes: Last week she stayed with me 5 days and by the 5th day I was like "get the fuck out of here!" in my mind. I didnt even want to hit it by the 5th day. And thats another thing, "hitting" it. I can't stand having sex with this girl. It's so boring and 1/2 the time I don't even get a nut....i just fake it. Its like she wants to have sex all the freaking time and 1/2 the time I don't. And then she gets mad or feels "unacceptable" when I just roll over and pass out. I see the feeling in her eyes when I talk to her. 1/2 the time I have sex with her I imagine its some other chick Ive banged that kind of looks like her or some pornstar just to bust a nut. And it's also like we're in competetion with each other as far as who looks the best. My body is looking good right now, I'm in excellent shape/on a cycle and now she's being miss insecure over there and she's about to get fake D tits in 3 weeks.....and I think it's inorder to keep up with the types of bitches that she knows will be flocking to me in about a month at the rate I'm going.

On the smothering thing, I can't stand it when we're together and she always has to be on me. If we're laying in bed, watching a movie, she has to be on me. Or she's constantly kissing me at home, in the car, at a restaraunt, at the beach, everywhere! And another thing, she's always wanting to hold hands with me. It doesnt matter where we go....when we go out of the condo and there are other chicks around-----she's holding my hand. And the whole time she's doing that I'm sitting here thinking to myself " Ok, chicks only hold hands in public when they feel insecure around other women" so, naturally, I get agitated at that. I feel like she's trying to "claim" me as hers. :rolleyes: :o

I want to talk to her about all of this and see how she feels. I'm really good at communicating my feelings but often it's at the expense of other people's feelings. So, how can I talk to her about all this without making her upset? She's like really sensitive and I'm trying to be sensitive to her sensitive feelings. She's a really good GF, don't get me wrong. She does all my laundry, cleans my entire condo up, cooks for me, wants to give me a blowjob all the time, goes grocery shopping for me 1/2 the time (she does it even though I already have food for my diet I'm on) but usually it's fattening food. Buys all these little things for me like candles from yankee candle company to make my place all smelly. She even went through all my clothes (which I had an assload) and picked out the stuff i don't wear anymore and took it to a consignment shoppe and got money for it. :eek:

So, any suggestions?


Also, just so you know my mindeset, I've also been kind of talking to my ex fiance (the ZTA) on the phone/txt mssg. I got a postcard in a few weeks ago from a Norwegien chick who was thinking of me while on vacation and I think she could have seen it. Ive also kind of been talking to my swedish chick (my breeder) who wants to come stay with me for 3 months. And then I've kind of been talking to this teenie-bopper from the gym but nothing in the dating sense.

You should drop her. It will only get worse. And while I would avoid name calling and anything excessively rude, do NOT work hard to spare her feelings. Girls like this need clear messages about how you feel.

OMG Craig. Your story sounds EXACTLY like my friend who just broke up with her boyfriend (except for the nut part of course). If you don't feel attracted to her, end it NOW before it goes on any longer (I'm not sure how long you've been with here) and don't take emails or phone calls or anything, because if you do she won't get it.

Although if ANYONE touched my clothes and took them to a consignment shop - even if it was something I haven't worn since Bush the Elder was in office - I would open a can of whoopass.

Its not that I'm not attracted to her.....I love those domestic skills she has. And her family is like my 2nd family. Her dad was my Piano teacher from the time I was 8-18 yrs old. My brother even fucked her younger sister. :rolleyes: This girl was basically hand picked by my parents for me. I guess they have doubts on my selection of women, so they picked one out for me and told me to give it a shot. And I have. It makes sense with the whole two families thinking it's a perfect match type of thing and we're both from the same background. Literally, I don't know what the problem is on why it's not clicking. My mother tells me to give it more time and to really give her a chance. She's like 5'1. :rolleyes:

k, I stopped reading after "I can't stand having sex with her" part. If you don't enjoy this anymore, it's time to move it along!!!!!

You don't have to take my advice of course, because I get myself in some shotty predicaments with my BF. Oy VEY!:D

What do you mean it will only get worse? Like as in how?

If you didnt read the entire post, don't bother making a comment. :mad:

Drop her like a bad habit Craig, it will only get worse in that, if both of your families have put these ideas of grandeur and marriage in her head, the longer you wait, the worse she will take it, and the harder it will be for you.

Like as in she will get really REALLY possessive and emotional and maybe even make you go to a Celine Dion concert with her so you can hold hands to the Titanic song.

Yea, well, thats the kind of girl she is. And anytime I tell her she's acting that way....she says she's not and her entire attitude changes. But arent women supposed to be like that? :confused:

Normally I would drop any other girl in this type of situation. But for some reason I havent ended things. I don't know if it's because I know that in many instances in the past when my parents gave me advice on things and I didnt take it I ended up regretting it or it got me in trouble. And now, as I get older, I take their advice because it usually turns out for the better for me.

I want to know something from some of you. Those that say end it with her....have you been this girl in this situation and have already gone through this?

craig,

why on EARTH would you have sex with a fat woman in the first place? i think you should rephrase your signature to "ugly women" instead of fat women. Because an ugly chick can be a butterface.

tis is all


oh and you are with a chick that is 5'1 88 lbs? and you weigh 230? and she wants D fake tits? is this the snatch from the gym?

i know the real reason why you are keepin her...

...its cuz you want to use her as a toothpick!

ULoChiOQTohnoYohKoOHnoProBono... i knew you wouldn't dump your man. You don't get my ten bucks. Ya chicken shiet!

j to the k homie...j to the k.

Hahahaha....on the sig; because every guy has nailed a big one at least once.


On the girl..... no it's not the snatch from the gym. That bitch is hot as fuck but dumb as a brick. I feel really bad for her father, seriously. When/if that chick goes to school and comes near a pike house, she's done. If you can picture the ideal pike girl....this would be her. She's cool and she knows I have a girlfriend, and she's got a bunch of hot little teennie bopper friends.....but she's nothing more than a fuck.

Did she at least give you the money she got from the consignment shop, or did she go spend it on Yankee Candles?

Get out while the getting's good. (Don't know exactly what "the getting's good" means, but it seems like it would apply in this situation.) You've never listened to your parents advice before, why start now?

You disappoint me Craig. What entertainment will we have when our resident playboy settles down with a chick he doesn't even like to bang? I guess we'll have to rely on Bobby and his fart stories.

Well, she had them send me a check once they sold all the clothes. So....yea, I guess you could say she gave me the money.


I don't find Bobby's fart stories entertaining. :D

So you are dating a Short Girl, with Small Tits, whom you Hate to Phuck??? Is she a brunette too?


Hell Craig, marry her now-- she can do your domestic stuff- like sell your clothes and make your condo smell like girly yankee candles and cook fattening food for you, and then you can go out and find some hot girlfriend to keep on the side. Make sure you tell her this is exactly how it will be though-- no use treating her decently in the beginning, she will only come to expect it later on.

After about 5 years of marriage, she'll then be able to drag you to see Dr. Phil. She'll win a spa vacation and you'll win a free lifetime of therapy and get to be America's newest cheating husband.

Yes, she's a brunette. I thought that it's kind of ironic she's acting this way and is a brunette at the same time.

Well, I'm not smothering, stupid, or a brunette, BUT I have been a girl who was crazy about a guy who saw it going no where, drug it out way too long, and then, broke my heart. I only say that for her sake (and your sake because I'd hate for you to have mediocre sex any longer than absolutely necessary :D )

The best advice I've read in a long time is to stop dating the "right" people for the wrong reasons, and start dating the "wrong" people for the right reasons. Don't pay any attention to your family or hers.

Craig, sweetheart,

Are you really ready for all of this? Homegirl is playing for keeps--are you?

I kinna agree with winnieb on this one. It's jacked but, hey, that's the way you roll...

As one of those possessive insecure sensitive women, I am working on myself and letting go of a lot of things. It is hard and it is probably easier to be alone for the "right" reasons than to be with someone for the "wrong" ones... But, hey, I am doing just fine.

The fact is, your cleaning lady girlfriend is trying to fill her void of neediness by using you as the bait. Now depending on the "craftiness" of her abilities, which would amaze even me if you couldn't see right through her, then eventually she will be trying to putty whoop you... Given that ain't no woman will never ever make you her slut puppy, boy toy, it may be best that you tell girlfriend that you like to play and your playing time isn't up yet...

Besides, sex in a formal relationship is not everything... But, money is... So, what you outta do is get girlfriend to the tantric educator and make her learn some moves quick if you want to keep her in the loop for serious relationships. Meanwhile, you better have enough money to pay for her shopping trips at that new mall in Altamonte Springs with the Needless Markup (Neiman Marcus) and high end stores so that when you do get busted with the hoebag tramp who is having your baby, then you can buy the wifey that 10-carat, color as your like it, platinum ring and bracelet set for forgiveness--Kobe-style...

That's my opinion, though...

I disagree with your assessment of hand-holding. She may be needy and insecure, but I think it's a mistake to think *every* girl who likes to hold hands is needy and insecure. The fact that this girl is making you her life should be more an indication of that.

HAHAHA! Now THAT is some good advice!

I bought this 50$ book, it's called the Karma Sutra Illuminated. It's pretty big. I bought it at one of these hippy stores. It has all these pics in it and she's read it. The wierd thing is, sex got worse after reading it. :(

I bought this 50$ book, it's called the Karma Sutra Illuminated. ... It has all these pics in it and she's read it. The wierd thing is, sex got worse after reading it.

Dude. That's not weird cashmoney, that's logical. If someone tries something unfamiliar then it follows there might be a learning curve where things slightly deteriorate before getting better: adjustment.

Never looked at it that way....thanks. :)

And why???? Is it because you like to hold hands and don't want to think of yourself as needy or insecure? Haha. :D

Clearly.

^^^^

What a bitch.

Please hold my hand? :(

My guess is that she is being this way with you (the kissing and holding hands, always wanting to have sex, and the domestic stuff) because she suspects you're bored and wants to keep you interested. She's trying to show you that she is a great girlfriend.

I mean if you can't stnd having sex with her that is not good. But there is obviously a reason that you aren't breaking up with her. It sounds like you don't want to break up with her, you just want some things to change.

It also sounds like you are getting more confident with yourself which is making her insecure. You are improving your body and you notice people noticing you and it irritates you that more women are noticing you and that she's there saying "He's mine"

I'm no Dr Phil or anything but this is what I think

Read me like a book, hottytoddy. ;)

OK now I am going to ask you an unpleasant question...

How would you feel if she suddenly became really distant? And people were paying attention to her...?

Seriously? I wouldn't sweat it initially. I'd go out and fuck tons of girls for about 6 months and then it'd start to hit me and I'd miss her.


I talked to my pops about this the other day and he said something wise in the world of pimps and hoes.....

"Son, you're always going to find a hotter chick out there who's available for you. But the really good ones, like her, are really hard to find."

Then he started to get sarcastic with me...

"Now, what you need to do is get back with that ex-fiance of yours with the crazy ass family and then come talk to me after a year of that."

The talk did wonders, I appreciate her a whole lot more.

While the talk may have helped..it probably didn't solve the problem. You and she are probably going to still have to talk about some things.

I know.

I don't know if it's more good than bad, but everytime there has been a talk needed for some reason we ended up rolling together and major talks took place. I think thats why she likes doing that crapp more than drinking or anything else. :rolleyes: For some reason I'm the nicest person in the world and can talk about anything while rolling. Its been about 2 months since the last time....or whenever the paul van dyk show was.

Update.....


I'm warming up to her. She doesnt seem so annoying anymore. I don't know if her dying her hair black has anything to do with it or not, but the sex is a lot better now. She also bought like 3 porn DVDs to learn a better tenique to suit me, I guess.

This is what she's kind of looking like right now.....
http://www.iafd.com/graphics/headshots/TaylorRain.jpg

But she's aiming to get Jessica Simpson's titties in the next week or two. :rolleyes:

is that really her or just a picture of some celeb that looks sorta like her?

before i saw that picture i would say dump her and keep working out for a month and wait for the hot bitches...

I was in a similar situation and prolonged it and finally cut it off really abruptly. I just couldn't deal with the clinginess anymore. I felt like the guy had no other ambition but to be with me and that's a huge turnoff.
If you do decide to end it, you'll get the usual amount of phone calls that range from sad and hurt to angry and cussing to desperate fake suicidal messages but you'll get a new cell phone number and move on and months later when you bump into each other they'll still give you evil looks and you'll smile back because you remember how awful the sex was and how glad you're not with them anymore.

At least that's how it was with me.

So you can't get off half the time and you take viagra?

-Rudey