Would you forgive your spouse if he/she cheated?
 

Since that other thread started.

Not in a million years.

A girlfriend cheating is something else, that to me is a lot easier to deal with: she's gone...

But if the two of you both stood in front of God, and said all that jazz....there's no way I could ever pull back on that...

Shit, to me, that's cause for letting her AND the other guy meet their maker and their fate...but that's another thread.

I wouldn't forgive a spouse or boyfriend for cheating.

I would not forgive. My trust could never be regained.

I heard the other day on "Today" that 40% of wives and 60% of husbands cheat at sometime during their marriage. That's totally crazy!

Nope. It would be over because I would never be able to trust him again.

Well...
 

Once a cheater, always a cheater....just my opinion!

Absolutely not, maybe they did stand before God and said all that jazz, but infidelity is biblical grounds for marriage, so I wouldn't have a problem. I have other reasons (besides family and friends being in this situation) that I would never forgive my husband for cheating on me. Not an option, he does, he's gone.

Yeah, I probably could if I truly thought he was sorry. However, I freely admit that I could possibly be feeling this way because I could never imagine him cheating on me.

I would beat her. hahahhaaha

-Rudey

I might be able to forgive, if I was financially compensated accordingly, a la in the style of Kobe Bryant's wife

Re: Would you forgive your spouse if he/she cheated?
 

Here is an added dimension to the question.....

What about EMOTIONAL infidelity? NO physical contact (cheating as commonly defined) but rather an intimacy on an emotional level?

Is that an 'affair'? How do you deal with that?

;) CHEERS!

HELL NO! If they can't be faithful to you about that, what else are they keeping from you?

Never. My trust in him would be 100 percent gone.

Re: Would you forgive your spouse if he/she cheated?
 

Cheating is inevitable in a marriage. If not one it's the other, and in some cases both. You just can't get caught.


But since you asked in that manner of getting caught and what I'd do, I kick her ass to the curb.

He cheats, he's gone.

Nope. However, I also realize that cheating is a symptom of far deeper problems in the relationship and not the problem itself.

OK, so it would hurt like hell, but if I were married and my wife cheated and then wanted to make things right and asked for forgiveness I would have to be guided by the advice received from JC, "forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us". Yeah, its a trite answer, but if I really mean what I say then I have to be willing to apply it when it counts.

i would forgive her only if she was my sugar momma :p

i dont know, i might forgive, but for damn sure im going to use my free pass to cheat too... how healthy of a marriage does that sound like though? I dont know i probably would file for divorce and then cheat on her back...

I don't know...

I mean if I truely loved the girl...nope. If I just didn't care about her anymore but we were still married-yeah, b/c I don't really give a shit what she does.

It's unfortunate in our society today that everyone always takes the easy way out. It's difficult to even be raised with the mentality of working through the tough spots b/c hardly anyone else will. In the end you end up getting screwed over.

When I do get married (if I should say) I am definitly going to protect myself from a messy divorce. I've seen some really shitty things done b/c a woman's lawyer knows the game. My father had this house sold, truck sold, and his work vehicles sold, along with a country cabin he built sold-all by his wife. He was practically on the streets b/c he didn't protect himself from this type of thing.

i think i could forgive my husband if he was really sorry and i knew they loved me.. but i would cheat back.. or i won't be able to forgive him completely unless i did.

i would burn the bed that they sleep in...

That might be your bed so you should relax and re-evaluate. I recommend putting nair in their shampoo and bleach in their contact lens solution.

-Rudey
--I like to go for the throat ASAP though.

maybe perhaps boil a pot full of oatmeal and put some pennies in it and throw it on their skin.

ever got hit with a hot ass penny...not nice!


one of my girlfriends did this once...to her man!!!

I don't know. What would really hurt the most for me is wondering why...now that's torture.

Once again, the movie Unfaithful shows that....there;s doesn't HAVE to be a reason....

BTW, whenever one of my buddies gets played, I tell him he got "Diane Lane-d"

Re: Re: Would you forgive your spouse if he/she cheated?
 

Again, because of that stupid movie, I believe that there's some truth to this, and would like some response.