a serious question
 

I pledged a sorority that I thought was going to be the bomb and it wasnt. On the fourth day I decided that I was going to drop. Is it to late to join another sorority?

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Is this an NPC group, an NPHC group, or a local group?

nphc

I think I know what the answer is, but rather than misspeak I'll let an NPHC member answer it instead if they like.

well...
 

i am an NPHC member. while you actually CAN renounce your membership to one of our organizations, once you do so, it is almost UNHEARD of for another NPHC organization to accept you as a member, since membership into one of our orgs is a LIFELONG commitment.

i have heard of many NPHC members choosing to not be active(that happens all the time) and i have heard of NPHC members who have in fact contacted their nationals and asked to renounce their membership (usually after developing a different set of personal convictions after they already joined, i.e., a religious or spiritual "awakening" or conversion), however, if you did that and tried to join another NPHC organization, that would be HEAVILY frowned on and I think there's a 99.9% chance your application would be declined. please PM me.

Just a quick question.....

"fourth day" of what, exactly?

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Yep :D

Re: a serious question
 

Were you pledging or did you already cross?


eta:
Ok, question for NPHC members:
If you're pledging NPHC and decide to leave, can you pledge another NPHC, or is that just not done?

HPHCs don't pledge.

LOL

Re: a serious question
 

which one

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If someone is going through ***membership intake*** for an organization and decides not to complete this process, this person is not a member if this person is not duly inducted.

While that is generally unnacceptable in NPHC organizations, especially given the timelines for membership intake, there are some instances where that person is accepted and inducted into another organization.

Sometimes the second organization of choice does not know the person had pursued another organization first. When that organization finds out, the person may be viewed differently or not.

I was four days into the pledging process with one specific African-american sorority. I thought I like these girls at first but while in the process I noticed that these were girls that I did not want to call sisters.

Whatever "pledging process" means.

Why are you asking us and not the OTHER sorority that you are interested in?

If I were you, i would leave it alone. Im sure the Greek community at your school knows your story. IMO no one is going to MIP you after you walked away from the other situation after only 4 days.

If you did it to one, whatever your reason, why should the new sorority trust that you would do it to them? You seem wishy-washy.

Leave it alone Greek life isn’t for you.

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Thank you for answering that for me.

HA! I would'nt take you

Nice answer!:(

If the fit for you is not there, it may very well be with another GLO.

Many times if not most, The Best Foot is put forward, but when it gets down to it, things change.:( This is a give and take situation from both sides isnt it?

Please disreagard some smart and smug posts. No respect is being shown, is it?

Not everyone is exactly alike so dont try to cookie cut Associating.:eek:

Good advice.

Expelled much?

NPHC accepted your org into the conference? If the answer is NO then you are giving homegirl some messed up advise.

I still wouldn't vote on you

lol

dang, LOL

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Actually, this use to happen. Two people very close to me started pledging one org, decided it was not for them and eventually went another org.

BUT this was back in the day when a major purpose of pledging was to determine if their was a fit on BOTH sides.

It was not unusual for a depledging to occur--either initiated by the pledge or by the chapter. Shoot, I lost 10 LSs within the first 2 weeks. :D

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You shouldn't humiliate yourself or another organization by showing interest in it, and then dropping it because your heart wasn't in it. That's why it's important to research organizations PRIOR to joining them. No one likes a flip flopper. Look at where that got John Kerry.

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Somewhere, in Vegas, Rudey is beaming with pride.

My reply to your question::

Yeah, I cannot comment on whether you can or not because I'm not in an NPHC, but I depledged half-way through last semester due to numerous reasons, and I am now pledging my fraternity for life.

Four days into pledgeship is pretty quick and pretty disrespectful, in my opinion. Maybe you should give it more thought before you make such a decision. I laid out a very intricate de-pledge process and at the end, we were both on positive terms. I spoke to my Greek Life Advisor at our school as well as other advisors within student life organizations(those who are Greek). Even a representative of my past fraternity came out as I was depledging and I had a four hour discussion about the chapter and what was good vs. what went wrong. I had to make sure that I covered all my bases. Everything went smoothly and in the end, was a success.

I still hang out and talk to my old fraternity, brothers and alumni, no hard feelings there. :)

Make sure you are really wanting to depledge.. and list pros and cons to make sure you have enough to actually commit to de-pledging. Make sure you've been there long enough to make this decision with care. It's a BIG step and you do not want to burn bridges.

Make sure the next one you look at is the one you definately want to choose. Right now, if you are definately into trying to join a GLO, go out there and start talking to any other organizations you want to join, have lunch with the presidents, try to reach out and explain your situation. Get out there and show you want to still be in a GLO.

I did what I've told you and through what I did differently I found the fraternity that I am joining for life!

This is how I attacked the situation, PM me if you want to go into more depth.

Jeff
Proud Associate Member of Lambda Chi Alpha

*edited to correct content of the post*

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I don't know why, but that was funny!

cosign

Try to stick it out longer if you can.
Because it sounds like NPHC is not an option for you if you quit, I'd look at either locals, multi-cultural or NPC orgs if you still want to be greek. National groups will be your best bet for after college interaction.
Good Luck

I agree Little E. There are also professional fraternities or special interest GLOs that you might also want to look into.

Without knowing the details of why you want to depledge, I don't think anyone here should be saying "that's too short" or "that's disrespectful".. b/c none of us know what they are going through that makes them feel that way.

This seems like a good place to put this...
I don't know your situation so I'm not commenting on that. But, please, if you want to join a special-interest or professional GLO, make sure you are doing it because you agree with the ideals/aims of those organizations. I am a little tired of this advice that if rush or whatever doesn't work out, just try a different type of GLO!

All I'm saying is, please don't join just so you have some kind of letters, join because you actually want to be a part of THAT group. I'm not trying to tell anybody not to join SAI or APO or whatever, but we aren't just "fallback" organizations.

Yeah, that's right up there with "You can always do AI".


.....Kelly :)

I TOTALLY agree that SAI, APO, and other special interest orgs are not "fallbacks," but some people investigate Greek Life because they are looking for camaraderie, community involvement, and a long tradition. Suggesting these "alternatives" may catch the interest of potentially wonderful members who will find a perfect fit in our "type" of GLO. If I had not had an "unsuccessful" Rush experience as a freshman, I probably would not had the time to even look into APO that Spring. I am REALLY glad that things turned out as they did.

Erica

Yes, I totally agree. Being a part of a professional group, I have seen people who come through wanting just letters or wanting to be part just to put the professional/special interest group on their resume or whatever.. and just like NPC rush, those are the ones that do not get bids :p

I also agree w/ erica812, in saying that suggesting these alternatives, may catch the interest in potential members b/c they also offer camaraderie, community involvement, and things of that nature. It doesn't even have to be limited to service/special interest/professional GLOs. If they find they like math, I would suggest looking for a math club or something like that. It might be another way to get involved on campus that they did not know previously existed aside from the "mainstream" GLOs.

oh, then...
 

oh, then...
that's different. i thought you had already PLEDGED as in "crossed"...as in ALREADY A MEMBER.
that changes everything...

Unless you were being hazed in those 4 days, there is no way you have given enough time to getting to know all of the members and giving the organization or yourself a true chance to get acclimated.

If you are so quick to drop an activity, then Greek Life is probably not the right outlet for you-- you might enjoy 1-2 activities on campus that are not as time-consuming or exclusive.

Actually, I find the original post suspect.

What makes you think that the other organization's pledge process would be different? I know of a girl who was pledging Alpha Phi Omega and felt like some of what was required of her was too "extreme" and then decided to "pledge" a BGLO sorority only to find that the same things were expected of her (i.e. humility, commitment, etc.)

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What do you mean they were the bomb? what was so "the bomb" about them? You need to ask yourself this question. Did you do research and come to that conclusion? Or are you basing it on your perception of the girls on your campus?


You need to figure out all the viable reasons why you don't like these girls anymore. Is it just that chapter, or the organization in general?

I would take the advice of what most people said on this thread. You need to take a time out and figure out why you want to join a sorority to begin with, and do research.