Aggressive Versus Assertive
 

In terms of a relationship, what is your definition of:

1) Aggressive

2) Assertive

And cast your vote as to which you feel is better in terms of a relationship.

Like date rape vs just who's pushy?

-Rudey

My sentiments exactly.

Women tend to confuse the two terms aggressive and assertive.

That's why you gotta be upfront about it and while you're ordering them a drink joke about how it'll help her get in your bed quicker.

That's right I have expectations.

-Rudey

Hmmm, I've done that before.

After ordering a drink for a woman I make sure that the bartender hands the drink to me.

I look in her eyes and say very firmly, "If you're not here after what I'm here after, you'll be here after I leave."

I can't remember where I heard that before but it's very effective.

Based on the body language she either gets to keep the drink or I simply hand it to a random female walking by.

Have you ever seen the look in the eyes of a female when her six dollar drink goes walking off in another woman's hands?

Priceless

I had to look "frottage" up online cause I didn't know the meaning of it.

Is that like a front butt?

More like dry humpin til you nut.

Dry humpin: what's in it for me? That sounds about as exciting as unrequited oral sex.

That is fucking hilarious.

I'm definitly going to try that sometime.

Rudey & laidbackfella, while I think some people may not like you're attitude and may call it agressive rather than assertive, for me you're 'tell it like it is' attitude is really just honesty and that's essential for a relationship. I'll be sure to think of some whitty comebacks to those kinds of questions for the next 'just drinks' date I have...

I was simply clarifying that it wasn't front butt.

But if you wanna discuss what's in it for you then hit me in PM http://i2.photobucket.com/albums/y40...on_twisted.gif

3 drinks in, if a guy said that to me in a noisy, crowded bar, I'd probably be like, "Wait. What?"



dictionary.com:

frot·tage ( P ) Pronunciation Key (frô-täzh)
n.
The act of rubbing against the body of another person, as in a crowd, to attain sexual gratification.

A method of making a design by placing a piece of paper on top of an object and then rubbing over it, as with a pencil or charcoal.
A design so made.

After you've had three drinks and we're still at the bar I'd be like, "Wait. Where are your single friends?"

Heh. ;)

Only $6 for a drink. You're so lucky. They're about $10 around here.

Oooh. And $8 here. Didn't even catch that.

I'm in the country part of South Carolina.

Wait.

That's redundant.

I'm in South Carolina.

You should go with the $2.75 drinks at the cougar bar. They're there for the same reasons you are and you will save all that money.

If I lost one of my beloved martinis...I think I'd cry...

Fuck that, I just get them drunk as hell. By the end of the night they're wanting to come home with me. :D

Me too. :( I am sad just thinking about it.

what kind of martini?

I like any martini, tend to drink them dirty or ultra girly with crazy fruit in them...


I made sure my drinks didn't leave me last night...

does this mean you did it? like, it?

oh wouldn't ya'll like to know...:)

This means "YES"

Is your crown crooked?

Is that the right expression?

I had merlot last night. :)

When I worked in resturants we used to pronounce merlot the way it's written. Same with cabernet. Just in the back, between the staff, but I still think it's funny.

I've gotten where I am in life with at least some measure of charisma or charm.

In other words, I'm not some keg standing, beer bonging, frat boy who says he "just wants sex" on his t-shirts.

-Rudey

my whole world just crumbled.

My tshirts say "I want to give you bukaki" instead.

-Rudey
--Better?

I was just trying to figure out how many bottles of merlot I had. This was looking to be at least a 2 bottle night.

-- much, thanks

THAT Sublime song is stuck in my head now

Coramoor,

I think I'd just lie to you to get the drink and, then, say, "Oops I forgot I'm NOT here for the same thing you are" and walk off with the drink. :D ;)

Well it definetly means I'll go out with him again that's for sure. :D


My crown is a little crooked, but it's not dipped in wine like yours you big VINO!

I don't have a crown. I have a ring. ;)

I like my merlot. :p