Women: would you trust your man to take birth control. Men: would you take it?
 

This was a question that popped into my head with my birth control rant in Chit Chat:

Women, would you trust your man/a man to take birth control pills?

Men: would you want to take them?

Discuss :)

My boyfriend and I had talked about this before, he's all up for taking bc for guys. So as you can tell I'd trust him to take it.

Hell no!!!

I don't want my boys screwed up. So no.

-Rudey

Depends on the man. Some men I would trust. My boyfriend, unfortunately, is not one of them. I'm surprised that he remembers how to get himself dressed in the morning nonetheless take maintenance medication everyday. Seriously the most forgetful person I have ever met....

This thread regards birth control PILLS for men, not contraception in general.

It's my responsibility. As great as my partners have been about contraception, I'm the one who would be pregnant.

Since they are not the ones getting pregnant....Hell no!

Yes I would.

I just saw a report on this yesterday. Scientists are testing pond scum because it has a similar make up to semen.

The report struck me because the catch line before the report was "Men and Pond Scum... they have more in common than you think..."

Oh really?


As far as BC for guys... depends on the boyfriend. My current bf... I think he would be responsible with medicine to remember. My last bf... no way in HELL would I trust him with taking pills every day.

As far as Mr 33, yes I would. Considering he freaks if he forgets his vitamins and is VERY scrupulous about taking them every day. This would just be another pill on the pile.

Men in general...NWIH!!

I know a lot of guys who hit it with jimmy hats even if the chick is taking the pill.

You never know what she might be up to.

You might be bagging chicks left and right or not commiting and the next thing you know she's preggers and wants to lock you in like an interest rate on your mom's mortgage.

-Rudey

One of my male friends once said the same thing, that committed relationship or not, he's never done it without a condom because he didn't want there to be any doubt that he wasn't responsible for a pregnancy.

There are meds you can take - like antibiotics and St John's Wort - that can screw up the effectiveness of your BC pills. Lots of girls don't know that.

Exactly.

By the way, can you refer to them as jimmy hats and not condoms?

http://www.glynlewis.com/JIMMY%20HAT%20PHIL.jpg

-Rudey

No way would I trust a man to take BC. Since it's my body that has to go through the joy of pregnancy, I will be in charge of the birth control.

PS - Anyone else notice that GC is abuzz with preggo/birth control discussions today?

I don't think that dude has to worry about using them no matter what they're called.

Thats one pill that even forgetful guys are likely to take I would think . . given the evil consequences of an 18 year jail term.

I would take it depending on the side effects.

Yes. I will definitely trust my partners - but to me, that's not enough - I need to bear responsibility as well. Why do so many men insist on wearing condoms even though the woman is on the Pill?

It's not a lack of discussion - it's the fact that nobody wants to end up with an unplanned pregnancy.

Unless the person is a virgin or has been tested prior to being with you, a condom is a smart thing whether you're on the pill, have your tubes tied, whatever.

Dee

I only trust myself. Period. There are some guys out there too I am sure who secretly hope that the woman gets pregnant so they can stay in her life. Also, at this point in my life, I cannot afford children, nor do I have time for them, so I take full responsibility in this area.

I would trust my husband to take a BC pill, however I would insist on a second method of BC. There's something comforting about actually seeing a condom or knowing that you took your pill.

I wouldn't trust men in general, though. They don't have to deal with the consequences of becoming pregnant. A man could just say "Oh, I'm on the pill" in hopes of convincing a woman not to insist on a condom, then blam! she's pregnant and he's disappeared.

Thanks for the public service announcement, but that really doesn't have anything to do with the thread....

*handing out free condoms to all*

But it's totally ok for me to take something that increases my chance of blood clots and may or may not hurt my chances of reproduction in the long run?

Why?

Regarding "responsibility," my partners have been very responsible in that regard. I know, however, that since I'm the one who would have to deal with the physical aspects of being pregnant--the ultimate responsibility is mine.

Any woman who believes differently is, in my opinion, naive.

Honestly, I'm OK with you not reproducing.

-Rudey
--Really, I am.

OH SNAP!

This is kind of ridiculous. My boyfriend is an incredibly "responsible" person, but he's also the most forgetful person alive, and I'm amazed he always manages to leave the house without forgetting his pants. He forgets to take his contacts out, so I don't think relying on him to remember a pill at the exact same time everyday would be the best method of contraception.

Then again, I have to set an alarm to remember to take my pill.

I think it's just absurd to assume that because women don't trust their partner to take the Pill, it means that they haven't made rational decisions and had adult discussions about birth control.

I would feel more comfortable with a dude who gets a shot every three months, like Depo, rather than a daily pill. I would also be ok with a male patch.

Any medical researchers on the board???? Can you start working on this????:confused: :confused:

The Conservinator doesn't wear any pants???

Gotta agree with GP.

Whether or not you "trust' the person you're sleeping with has nothing to do with their reliability in taking a medication. My parents have been happily married for over 25 years. Yet I know my mother wouldn't ever trust my father to take a male BC pill. He's lucky he rememebers to flush the friggin toliet.

I guess it's just inherent in that women are the ones who have to carry a child and give birth to it, so it's a more "real" concern to them.

Well I mean, I'd be amazed if my boyfriend didn't wear pants as well...

IT SAYS NOTHING ABOUT PANTS IN THE BIBLE.

At least that's what he says.

I am making the best typos EVER today.

Trust and irresponsibility are completely different. My boyfriend is forgetful...not irresponsible. I trust him 100% when it comes to our relationship. I just don't trust him to remember to take a pill everyday. I think it would be silly of me to say, "I'm not going to be intimate with you because you're kinda forgetful."
Since I'm the one that would be getting pregnant, I'll keep on taking the Pill so that I don't have to worry whether or not he forgot to that day.

Just a thought...

When BC pills are "marketed" to women, the other benefits are stressed as well: clearer skin, etc. Maybe if the BC shot/pill for men had an extra bonus side effect (bigger manhood :D ), they'd take it!?!?!

Personally, the onus should be on the couple, not one member, but hey, it's an age-old arguement that can't be fought, decided, or won on here...

Heh, I love how you always address him as Mr. 33 on this board....

Anyway, back to the topic at hand. I know more women that are forgetful about birth control then guys, so you girls need to get over your high horse that you are more mature than most men. If it was my choice to take pills (and they were proven safe enough not to make me sterile) I would be able to handle that with no hestitation. It's my ass on the line if she gets pregnant, and that's something I'd like to have the "power" to prevent as well.


RUgreek

GP had just asked in the post above mine So, I responded with my post stating one reason why they might do that.

Dee

As someone else said, irresponsible does not equal untrustworthy. When I was on the pill, I had major problems remembering to take it. We always relied on a second method of birth control because of this. Does that mean that I was "untrustworthy" in regards to the relationship? Dude, I wasn't trying to get myself knocked up so I could trap him into staying in the relationship or anything -- y'all know how I feel about kids. I just have a bad memory. That doesn't make me a bad person, mmmkay?

I'd definitely be okay with a guy taking the pill -- I just wouldn't make that our only method of birth control. But then again, I'm neurotic about birth control. Most people overestimate how effective it is. The pill is 99.9 percent effective only if you take it perfectly every single time, which almost nobody does. Backup methods are never a bad idea.

Judgemental much?

I'm not into the "hook up" scene at all. I know that a lot of the women here who have responded in similar ways aren't, either. You've completely missed the point of what some people here are trying to say.

Really? I guess my 4 year monogomous relationship with my boyfriend has just been downgraded to a hook-up. Thank you for not only offending me but a bunch of other female GCers as well.

ETA: I just read your comment above and I don't believe that your comment was read into much. You said your views were unpopular on GC because you're not into the "hook up". That translates to me that you believe our relationships are merely hook ups.

I am in the shortest relationship of anyone in this thread. Also, every woman in this thread is still having PREMARITAL SEX, so let's not act like we're holy rollers when we aren't.