In this thread, we weep with Senusret I
 

Why is it that when they decide they don't want to pursue anything with you because they're not "ready" for a relationship, they still feel the need to tell you:

*I still care about you.

*I think about you every day.

*I read your blog every day.

*I never meant for you to be hurt.

:(

Because they don't have the balls to cut you completely loose and know things are completely done. They don't want to be the jerk, but if they really do care about you, they'll know they have to be a jerk for a while for you to get past it.

Because they suck!

*HUGS*

Sorry. That sucks. :(

<hugs>

that is so true.

:(

This is the worst. Feel better.

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Those two together are the most annoying. Like what part of "I think about you every day" is going to make us feel better...oooo, i know, knowing that you didn't actually plan this whole situation will make me feel better. I had a very similar situation recently so I feel for you. Just know-from personal experience-that the best thing to do to help how you feel is to cut off contact with them completely. Keeping the boy in the shadows won't help you move on to a guy who is ready for something when you are. Feel better!

Sorry to hear that. I've been there and it sucks at first, but it gets better. I hope you feel better soon!!

I feel for ya, RD -

If it makes you feel any better, you'd have a ton of takers for the "ITT, we SLEEP with Senusret I" thread too, judging from forum response

If I was Rashid, I would stay gay, but that's just me. Besides he has no time for b-rods that don't buy his book.

-Rudey

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I find that a ritual sacrifice of all of his belongings (think big bonfire in the kitchen sink) is a good way to start the "getting over" process.

Seriously, though, this sucks. He either can't admit the truth to you or himself, or he's extremely scared of feelings. *my 2 cents*

Sorry dude, stay strong.

*hugs*

People who say those kinds of things are just being selfish. They want to string you along so that they feel better about themselves! You don't want someone in your life that will treat you that way anyway! http://www.handykult.de/plaudersmilies.de//pftroest.gif

Buddy, you just need some of this:

http://www.oleary.dircon.co.uk/NewFi...322%20Beer.jpg

and some of this:

http://www.zenreich.com/ZenWeb/images/chickenwing7.jpg

and all will be well. :cool:

I totally agree - buy his book, help this good man out!

I feel your pain brother.

Wow...you must have overheard the conversation in which I was dumped...the same things were said to me. After 14 months, he tells me on a Monday night...over the phone...while he is in a store shopping for groceries...that he didn't think it was going to work out any more, that he still cared for me, he would not forget me, blah, blah, blah. It is always hard to hear that especially after you have put so much into a relationship that lasted a good chunk of time. The thing that burns me the most...he dumps me in November, told me that he had been thinking about breaking it off since September, but he had the nerve to invite me to his mother's Thanksgiving two days before he broke up with me, fully knowing that he was unsure of our relationship. I have forgiven past boyfriends but the way this one ended...I never, ever want to hear from him again. So, I feel your pain and I am sorry. Like they say...time heals all wounds.

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b/c they are a-holes, basically, who still wanna have you wanting them in case they decide they wanna come back.

a-holes, all of them!!!!!!!

Big hugs, sweetie :(

Thanks for the love, everybody. Seriously.

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Dear Phrat,

Sorry for HIS loss... You are a wonderful, sweet person and you deserve someone who is worthy of all of you...

I guess as a consolation, if you feel like self-introspection and reflection, you have to take this life's lesson, learn from it, move on and beyond, and you are probably better off without fool that does not have the decency to look at your "heart chakra" and take you to your "seventh house"...

Take care of yourself health wise... Because you will need the strength to endure this kind of pangs...

And get out of your bottom level "chakras"--because if you keep going with your gut and below--you will be in the wheel of confusion--contantly "yinging" and "yanging"--you don't need to continually go that route...

And remember, keep your head up and be the man you are supposed to be!!!

OR time wounds all heels!!
(not making light of your situation - I'm really sorry to hear about it. :( )

Because he's an....

http://www.blatti.net/pix/logos/assclown.jpg

:( I'm sorry you are going through this. Have a hug and a nice hot bath (lots of bubbles), a hot cup of tea spiked with something, then write a nice long F-You letter, but don't send it....then burn it.

The F-You for hurting my feelings letter is always good. (At least it has been for me.)

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Because they're being selfish...sorry you're going through something like that.

:(

Because they are so unthinking and stupidly selfish. Also because if he stays in touch with you, it's a mind game on his part. "If I call and they answer, they must still want to be with me." Puleeze!

"I still care about you." If you do, then don't freaking call.

I am so sorry to hear about all of this. I wish I could take a magic wand and just wish away all of the hurt and pain. I know the feeling...and it does hurt.

Stay strong. I'm sending you my prayers and thoughts.

I'm a boy.

Gay, but a boy nonetheless.

Thanks, everyone, for the kind words.

:o

I seem to be suffering from foot-in-mouth disease. Forgive me.

I FINALLY did it.

I cut him out of my life.

I asked him if there would EVER be a chance for the two of us and he said "I don't know."

I said, well when you do know, you know how to find me. Until then it's not fair for you to expect me to be "just friends" when we were NEVER that. I don't know how to be "just friends" with you, man! I feel like you just don't want me to hate you!

So he's out the phone and off the buddy list.

Yay me!

HIGH FIVE! Good for you! :) :D :cool:

Nice job, holmes!

That's the only way to do it. Sticking around, so that he won't feel like the bad guy, will only cause you more pain. In the end, it's all about how you feel. Do you want to have that person in your life at any cost? Even if them being in your life HURTS you? No.

It's a hard decision. It hurts. But, you have to do what you have to do for YOUR well being. As a soror told me, "He's just gotten out of your way for you to meet your husband."

Congratulations! :) Cutting someone out of your life is such a hard thing to do but its so worth it when it affects your emotions!

Long distance hugs for you.

GOOD FOR YOU. (How did I miss this the first time around?) I know it is tough, but if keeping him in your life is just going to hurt, I think you did the best thing you could do.

*bighugs* to you Brother. You know I am here if you need an ear. :)

Good Job

in answer to the first post: cos wants to have cake and eat it too. Wants to break up but not feel bad about it.
in answer to second post: GREAT

Good job. It will be hard, but I'm glad you were able to take it to that step. I'll keep thinking of you.