Your best remedy.......
 

....for a broken heart. :(
How do you get over it?

Shopping! :D

Seriously though... go out with some friends and hit a couple dance clubs. Maybe something funky like line dancing, or swing, or salsa.

Time, good friends, losing 10 pounds, and when you are ready, other boys ( don't try the last one too quickly! I went to a club a week after breaking up with my ex and burst into tears because I couldn't handle the meat market). Nothing beats heartache like finding out there are other fish in the sea who think you are hot.

No really, I was going to suggest joining a gym and focusing on yourself for awhile! Thats what I did - and am doing right now. And I think its the best when you're waiting for time to pass!

This is a great idea, nothing makes you feel like a heifer more than being dumped out of the blue. :(

Time heals all wounds.

In the meantime, throw yourself wholeheartedly into productive things like your studies, your job, exercise, hobbies, spending time with friends, etc. Do things you couldn't do while you were in a couple. Don't dwell on "what was" - move forward into "what will be".

When you feel you're ready, go to a club or bar, not necessarily to meet someone, but just to be seen. It's quite an ego boost to have guys checking you out ;)

I'm going to recommend this thread:

http://forums.greekchat.com/gcforums...threadid=48741

It helped me a lot. ;)

Drugs and Tang
 

Have you tried drugs and narcotics? You can also sleep around. Most guys don't turn down tang, unless there obviously something wrong with the tang. I mean it's nothing to be proud of, but hey it's a temporary fix.

-Rudey
--By tang, I mean the pooti tang and not the orange stuff astronauts drink

Just think "fuck him. fuck him. fuck him" He obviously doesn't deserve anything from you, especially tears, if he's gonna do some fucked up shit. I agree with the gym part. You'll feel better about losing weight and being in shape. And you'll be like "ha!" since you'll look better also!

Shopping is always fun, hanging out with friends to keep your mind off of him helps.

good luck and hope you feel better!

Re: Drugs and Tang
 

remember that dollar drafts are considered a drug, too.

Re: Re: Drugs and Tang
 

mmmm dollar drafts.

Re: Your best remedy.......
 

You surround yourself with men who'll treat you wayyyy better.

Jim, Jack, and Jose!

Re: Your best remedy.......
 

What do you want to do? And hopefully not hurt yourself... I mean, do you want to go running out there after your loved one buck nakkid screaming "whyyyyyy"? Or would you rather wrap yourself up in your house in a little ball and cry? I really don't know...

But one thing that worked for me when my past relationships failed is:

It's Spring Cleaning Time--like "I'm gonna wash that man, right outta my hair"...

Get rid of all his or her chit... Burn it if you have to... Set it outside your living space and put a "FREE" sign on it...

Then write a letter to him or her saying how much you hurt and why you think it was wrong for him or her to dump you, etc. Seal that letter up in an envelop--and BURN IT--seriously!... DO NOT SEND IT to them, because it will only hurt worse... Think of it as a "baptism by fire" thing or whatever you have to do to "sterilize" the memory of the past pains this person caused you...

Then go shopping and buy a fantabolous pimp mackidocious outfit for the club tonight with an aphrodisiac pheromonal cologne, groom yourself up to the "nines"--get your hair done, manicure your nails and toes, get a facial--whatever, but pimp yourself out...

Then go to the most happening club in the world in your area, and buy a drink that will get you lit quickly, and flirt your ass off. But go home alone so that you can sleep off your hangover--don't rebound physcially with anyone until you think you're ready... The point is to have "dreams" about having an extremely good time, ALONE without fool that thought you could be dumped...

And I say, within 2 weeks or so, you'll be over it... It usually takes that long if you do it this way... And it doesn't drag on and on... Moreover, you don't have to self-reflect about the moon and stars and why this person did what they did, whatever...

Remember, as my Dad said to me, if you miss the first city bus, there will always be another one to come along that same route...

Re: Re: Your best remedy.......
 

I have done this, and it's really cathartic. When you burn it, make sure you are near the kitchen sink with a bowl full of water waiting because those letters can burn. :eek:

Also keeping yourself busy with friends and family helps. If you are really lonely and have nothing to do, do some volunteer work. It helps put things in perspective when you realize that your life isn't half as bad as someone else who is really suffering.

I gotta second the dollar drafts and the three wise men . . .

Also, it helps if you can find hot guys in bands to dedicate songs to you. The only way this gets sweeter is if your ex is in earshot when it happens.

Just go out and have fun! I know this sounds cheesy, but remind yourself about what is so great about you and why you don't need him. Flirt with hot men. Do silly but harmless things while drunk. (Take his number out of your cell before you get drunk so you won't be tempted to drunk dial.) The gym is a great place to burn off excess emotion. Just concentrate on you.

And no malicious revenge schemes. You might feel better now, but in a year you'll appreciate it more that you took the high road. Living well is the best revenge and all that.

And erase all contact with him from cell phones, to caller ID to whatever--erase it...

And being indifferent is also helps with the vengeful thing... I really don't think it's revenge you should even care about--more like, "self-care" and love...

Only you put idiots to invade the beauty your temple...

turn on the t.v. and watch comedy central or whatever puts a smile on your face. At all costs, do NOT stay home alone on the weekends. Go out and do something to keep your mind fixed on other things. Not really a remedy, but it makes the time move along faster....

May I recommend Long Island Iced Teas... they usually work for me, 'cept I don't go home alone after drinkin' those.

Take a break from your life, if you can. See if you can get away for a few days with some friends. Being around your best buds can be so helpful and healing.

I couldn't have gotten through the last breakup without some very good friends who let me stay with them to get my head clear.

Get rid of all of his junk, too!

SLEEP

Take some unisom or something and go to bed early. Try to sleep around ten hours a night for the next few nights while following the no-contact rule.

I'd say give yourself a goal that requires work. Something like train for a marathon (or half marathon). Become certified in something (Scuba perhaps?) Learn a new language. Do something that reminds you of just how strong and wonderful you are, without a guy!

Surroud yourself with your sisters!!

That sounds so cheesy and something you'd say during rush ("Whenever I'm sad, I can always turn to my sisters!" lol) but seriously.

It was the only thing that worked for me, just sitting in the sorority suite with the sisters I'm closest to, sharing stories, just being ridiculous, etc.

You know. The most important thing is to remember its a process. And that its not forever or fatal, even if you have anxiety/depression issues.

If you obey the no-contact rule from day one, it takes only about two weeks to get through the worst of it. And its a lot easier if you excercise, sleep 9 hours a night and eat frequently.

If you keep talking to him it astronomically increases the time of recovery even if you eventually follow the no-contact rule.

So remember focus on process. Its not something that you can just turn off like a light switch. ITs more like the Flu you jhave to endure it knowing it will be over soon and do some small things to be easier.

Now if you don't follow the no-contact rule . . well you deserve your misery :p

I have to agree with what people said about sleep and working out. When Mr. AOTTAdvisor and I broke up, I made a point of sleeping as much as I could, because you have so much clearer of a head when you have sleep. Tylenol PM is a GOD!
Same goes for the gym--I got rid of a LOT of angry thoughts on that treadmill and lost 20 pounds in the process.
And just try as hard as you can to move on. It hurts, it sucks, and you need to be sad but it didn't work out for a reason and you deserve SO MUCH BETTER!!

Yea, for about a week we were still trying to be friends and finally I was like, freaking leave me alone. You lead me on, changed your mind, and now I don't want to talk to you because I have to get over you. Anyway, it's working alright. I still want to talk to him though.

That's the best way to cope! Two birds, one stone.

I second all of this...especially the getting to the gym. Also, James' No Contact Rule is a MUST!!!! After my most serious relationship ended we tried to be "friends" for about 3 months after...worst idea ever. DO NOT see/talk to/call/e-mail/IM/text message him. If you do you will only prolong the 'getting over it' process.

And then you fell for cashmoney. Now you have a lovely online cutie pie to hold you over!!

-Rudey

I spent this summer getting over an ex boyfriend and it really is true, time is one of the major things that can mend a broken heart. I'd also try to keep busy as much as possible. And as immature as it sounds, my friends and I pick apart every little annoyance about him. Think of things that made you roll your eyes when you were together, and focus on them when you start to miss him. Like everyone else has said, DO NOT contact him. Take down all pictures you have of him, put away any of his clothes you might have (or give them back, cuz trust me, it hurts when you find them eventually), and don't rush yourself into the dating scene again. It's easy to make the mistake of replacing one guy with a new one, and it hurts almost worse when they're both out of the picture. And remember, eventually it will get better.

Step One: Buy some really great wine

Step Two: Listen to All of your Weepy/Angry CDs while drinking aforementioned wine

Step Three: Cry or Scream

Step Four: Lots of masturbation so you don't run into the arms of a rebound or the ex

Step Five: Sleep

Step Six: Take lots of nice, long walks

Repeat until you feel cleansed!:D

Yeah sometimes I also like to admit I have issues.

-Rudey
--But not really because I don't.

Very funny :p

thanks for the advice. i'm having the same issues.

Smash as much as possible (and I'm not talking about breaking shat).

Read "He's Just NOt that Into You".

It reallly is a quick and easy read, and it makes you remember you're a fabulous person and you don't need to waste your time with someone who is too dumb to realize that :)

How come the hurt girl is always a fabulous person?

Sometimes I think . . . maybe the guy is a wonderful person who had to leave a less wonderful one?

One night stands.

I'm just sayin'.

That is so true...............although in THIS case, I am fo sho the fabulous unfairly treated one. :D

Well guys, I survived the first month. Can't believe it's been that long! Thanks for all the advice. The no contact rule, as much as it stinks, is the best. :D

Best Remedy is to forget about him.

Works everytime....