Jewlery from an ex - can you wear it?
 

So let's say you date someone for a while, and over the years you accrue some jewlery. A ring here (not an engagement ring), a bracelet there, a necklace here....

Once you break up, what's the etiquette on wearing the jewlery?
And what are the Karma implications???

Do you think it's wrong to wear jewlery an ex gave you, especially when you're seeing someone new? And is it just asking for bad mojo?

For example, let's say you have a really nice tiffany heart pendant bracelet that happens to be engraved and was a present from an ex (for example of course, strickly theoretical ;) ). If you get the engraving removed, is it still pretty stupid/uncool/bad karma/disrespectful to the present bf to wear it? And this is of course after all attempts to sell said jewlery have failed miserably.

What the heck do you do with jewlery an ex gave you?!?

In general, I see nothing wrong with wearing jewelry from exes. Personally, I burn everything from exes. But, if it's pretty valuable and someone cannot sell it, I can't find fault with someone else keeping said jewelry and wearing it.

The only item I would question would be an engagement ring. If he wants it back and has been a complete ass, you can either sell it or wear it for a while just to piss him off and flaunt the ring in his face. If you sell it, take yourself on a nice little trip, etc. If it just brings too much emotion, then still sell it and spend the money on something REALLY nice for yourself.;)

The ring the Ex gave me last year for Christmas was stolen when my apt was broken into last month. I say good, glad it's gone!

Jewlery should not be worn after a relationship. Keep it if you must, but put it away & out of sight.

Save it, and you can do one of a few things:

1-trade it in to purchase a new piece(s) for yourself
2-trade it in and design a new piece(s) using some of the stones (or none, whatever floats your boat)
3-do what my friend did and trade in all her jewelry from all her exes and get a bomb-diggity engagement ring for a few hundred dollars. :D

I still wear ex-boyfriend jewlery. I don't think it's really a big deal.

I've missed youuuuu!! :D

anyway - if it doesn't make you feel bad, keep it and wear it. I have a necklace an ex gave me that I still wear all the time - of course we parted on very good terms.

There's nothing wrong with wearing jewelry from an ex.

I'd also caution against selling an engagement ring or other diamond jewelry. Chances are, you wouldn't get nearly what it's worth.

I love butterflies and have a really cool silver butterfly ring my ex got me in Monterey, CA. I wear it all the time because I like it. My boyfriend now saw it and asked where I got it from. I could have lied but I told him the truth. Yesterday we happened to be X-mas shopping in the mall and out of the blue he asked if he could get me a new butterfly ring to wear so I didn't have to wear the one from "him"..........

I think it depends on the sentimental attachment you have to it... I still wear a really nice Fossil watch that an ex gave me cuz it doesn't really cause me to think of him because I don't place to much sentimental attachment on things like that... but if you do i would say don't wear it...

otherwise it was a gift hang on to it... you never know when it might be useful or you could maybe regift it to a close friend of yours... I have two friends who broke up right around the same time with their boyfriends... and then traded the rings (not engagement) they had gotten from them so that someone would get some use out of it...

There's nothing wrong with wearing or using any gift from an ex.

I was engaged once before (not to my DH) and we broke off the engagement. He didn't want the ring back, so I had it reset as a pendant and wore it on a necklace. My mom HATED (I can't emphasize this word enough) when she saw me wearing it because she thought I wore it out of a type of "homage." I wore it because it was pretty...

Anyway, because of my mother, I put the ring on consignment and got enough money to buy a kitchenette set with my current DH.

My mother has a three diamond ring. One diamond is my father's engagement diamond, the center one is her grandmother's engagement diamond, and the other is from her former fiance who died in a car crash before my parents met. I don't think there's anything wrong with it, my dad gets upset because he thinks the other guy's diamond is bigger than his (Truth be told, it is off by a millimeter or some ridiculously tiny measurement). I get to inherit the ring when I become older, and I'm proud to.

My boyfriend, on the other hand, has this really really really nice watch. His ex girlfriend's parents gave it to him (they own a jewelry store in Pgh) for Christmas, despite the fact they had only been dating for a few months at the time. I am just kinda hurt because I can't give him that type of present and neither can my parents. But at the same time, it's like a $500 watch, and truth be told, I'd be willing to hang onto a 500 dollar watch despite who gave it to me.

I have a nice stainless steel watch and a Tiffany necklace from an ex that I wear a lot. I've never worn jewelry from other exes, but that's not because I like this ex any better than the others--it's just that the jewelry the previous exes gave me was hideous.

I never thought about it being bad mojo to wear it, though...

I never wear the ring (not engagement) that my ex gave me. It's pretty and I like it, but every time I pull it out of the jewelry box, my stomach turns, and it's like eecchhhhh..... All those bad memories come back.

I do however, have a necklace that another ex gave me, and even though we ended badly, I still wear it occasionally because it's so cool!! (It's made out of telephone wire).

I've never kept anything that was an heirloom, but anything else is fair game. Find a good, fair jeweler, and have the jewelry reset into something new and interesting - and all yours.

I was just going to write something similar to that!!!! My friend had this really nice bracelet she got from an ex. She tried to wear it after they had broken up after a year, but couldn't do it and ended up leaving in her car. We get a bit more loaded at the bar then intended, take a cab home, and leave the top down (it was july). Next day, we discover the "lucky dollar" and the bracelet were gone. I told her it was a lucky dollar...lucky the dollar was stolen and not the car.

In my experience, I find I need to take a bit before I can wear stuff again. It also depends on the breakup. I had a horrible one, and pawned a necklace I gotten, cause I couldn't bear to wear it (or see any of my friends with it on either). I had a good breakup with a different guy and I can wear the watch he gave me.

I guess you could wear the stuff again, if you want to, but I wouldn't. It just doesn't feel right to me. The diamond necklace that one of my exes gave me had more sentimental value than anything else and given how things ended that removed any good memories from it. It's kind of tainted.

My policy has always been to keep the jewelry from the ex until the current replaced it with something of equal or greater value. why give up perfectly good jewelry just because someone you no longer care about gave it to you?

Note: I am not a sentimenal person, so perhaps my approach wouldn't work with someone who is. :)

I like your style. I completely agree. ;)

If you can still wear the jewelry without stirring some kind of emotion, then I don't see anything wrong with it.

However, if your stomach starts turning and bad memories come flooding back or if you start missing your ex, then maybe it's best to just keep it hidden.

Heck yes!!!

I wear the pearl earrings my ex gave me all the time. The watch he gave me I broke the crystal on, and a gold chain from him I gave to my mother for a pendant. I have a jewelry box he sent me from Bahrain and a porcelain box out on my apartment, and various other things he gave me like CDs and books.

It didn't work out, but these are Mikimoto quality but purchased in Japan. He'll make someone very happy but I am not that girl. I obviously cared about him at some point, and it doesn't bother me where they came from, they are gorgeous. The guys I tend to be involved with realize I am on speaking or friendly terms with some former boyfriends, and that we're adults and they trust me.

What a fabulous approach! I also like what honeychile said about getting it restyled into a different piece of jewelry.

I had an engagement ring from the last ex and he never cared to get it back. Was going to sell it..when I was in a car accident, the ring was in the glove box because I had taken to get it appraised. Ring was gone later, so...no ring. no problems. Too many people in and out of car to pinpoint who could have taken it. Took care of that problem!

I have 3 necklaces from exes. I wear 2 of them still, but very rarely. I have a ruby necklace from my boyfriend that I wear most of the time, but obviously rubies don't match everything. One of the other ones is amethyst, and the other one is a diamond necklace. All are very pretty, and are useful for many occasions.

Then there's the one I don't wear: another "diamond" necklace that looks cheap. I think I'll give it to my little cousin as a pretty little necklace or something, since I'll bet if I pawned it I'd find out it was fake.

As someone who is fresh out of a relationship:

The rings I won't wear. One says "I love you" and the other was to be promise ring (it never was though). Oh, there was a cubic zironia pendant he gave me but I never wore that after awhile anyhow.

But he gave me a gold link chain necklace and I'll wear that because it doesn't have the romantic attachments the others did.

My ex had given me a "kuuipo" necklace at one point. I actually gave it back to him because it really made no sense for me to keep it. Especially since I was no one's "sweetheart."

But I received a necklace from a guy that I was dating. He actually gave it to me as a b-day gift after we broke up... and I wore it til it broke.

I've never really received large amounts of valuable jewelry in any relationship anyway so I guess it doesn't really apply. New Mr. Chideltjen has some time though. :)

I have a beautiful opal/diamond/gold ring and a Tiffany silver necklace that an ex gave to me. I don't wear the ring simply because its gold and I don't wear gold anymore, but I so still wear the necklace because its pretty and simple and goes with almost everything. I agree with as long as they don't stir up bad memories, or make your current man unhappy, then get some use out of them!! But if it ever bother my current to see the necklace and know it came from an ex, then I would respect his feelings and put it away.

I've been dating my current bf for 27 months, but my longest relationship before him was 3 months.. so I haven't really accumulated anything too fancy or meaningful :rolleyes: I do have one little bracelet with alternating gold/silver dolphins, but I never really wore it when we were dating and I definitely don't wear it now bc it's not my style at all. Maybe I'll sell it on eBay? I'd probably feel a little guilty wearing it around my current bf, but the reason I don't wear it is more because I never really liked it much in the first place. I have a pair of ruby/diamond earrings, a silver tiffany 10-row bracelet, an engraved heart tag bracelet, and some smaller misc. jewelry from the current bf... if we ended up breaking up, depending on the terms of our breakup, I'd save the engraved bracelet but not wear it, wear the earrings occasionally, but still wear the 10-row bracelet ;)

The way I look at it, yes. I mean I am not going to stop wearing something really nice just cause we went our seperate ways. Obviously you don't hate the Ex- cause I don't think you would want that...but I have worn a necklace my Ex gave me for xmas for a while - basically it was to gorgeous not to. But I did stop wearing it when I met my current bf. so my 2 cents - its totally fine.

i dont think its wrong to wear jewelry from an ex - i have a really pretty gold ring with diamonds all across the top of it - i wear it usually everyday - as long as im wearing my gold. ive had it for 3 years now, and im kind of partial to it. and we didnt end on necessarily .. bad terms... so its kind of ok to wear it i think ....
and i have an italian boot charm that i kind of, umm, borrowed ... from a "friend" .. i wear that all the time too .. i love it. its so pretty, and when i broke it i even shipped it back to the jewelers in new york it was bought at to have it fixed right ....
i dont know - if you dont care about it - and you dont really need to divulge to anyone else that its from some ex or something ... i dont know, just my opinion!! :)

What if your current beux gives you an identical (and I mean EXACT same piece) necklace or whatever that your ex had given you? This happened to me and I just couldn't wear it nor did I have the heart to tell him why. :(

i see nothing at all wrong with wearing things your ex gave you.

i still wear the things my ex boyfriend (who i came very close to marrying) gave me. when he and i broke up, i actually asked him if he wanted them back. he told me to keep them and keep wearing them...especially the white gold and diamond heart necklace he gave me since i love it so much. i wore it every day when we were together. i still wear it almost every day. its very special to me.

Wear it!

I have a nice Tiffany necklace an ex gave me, and I wouldn't think of never wearing it again. Of course, we broke up over 3 years ago, so the feelings attached to the necklace are mostly nostalgic and plesant.

I have a 3 stone diamond pendant necklace from one ex that i never wear, i am waiting til i can think of what to do with it, sell it or whatever.. but i only wore it once. its beautiful (one of those past present future things) but he turned into an ass so i decided that i didnt want to be reminded of. its in my jewlery box but i never take it out.

I also have an opal ring (my birthstone) that is gorgeous with two diamond settings on either side. it is so pretty but he also was an ass so i dont wear it.

i have been thinking lately of selling it.

i guess if there are no hard feelings than it is ok to wear jewlery from an ex. but in good taste....dont go flaunting it to a new boyfriend and be like look what so and so got me when WE were dating.. it sounds outrageous but i had a girlfriend who did that once.

wrong no-but my advice... GO BUY SOME FOR YOURSELF! I did after I broke up with my beau-and it was the best feeling ever to treat myself to the gems I deserve that he was always too cheap to buy!;)