How old were you when you got the "talk"
 

Well?

I'm still waiting for it.

I got a book when I was 11. Does that count? :rolleyes:

My older sisters' guy friends explained it to me. I was probably in about the 4th or 5th grade.

My mom still wont talk about such things.

I never got the talk either. I am the offspring of an immigrant mother. Asian mothers from the homeland giving their kids "the talk" are hard to find.

But when I got to high school, 3rd Quarter of Sister Katherine Francis' Growing in Faith Religion class was devoted to Sex Ed.

We watched "The Miracle of Life" and someone getting an abortion in the same semester. :eek:

5th grade. My mom found out that it was part of the 5th grade curriculum so she gave me the talk BEFORE the class.

I think when I was 13. Didnt really matter though, mine was more of a "use condoms" kind of talk. I was already well educated about sex and womanly body parts by the age of 13. Me and a few classmates got busted looking at dirty magazines in 2nd grade while on recess. I think I was like 6 or 7 years old. By 13 I had already felt on few girls's boobs and had stinky pinky once.

my mom is a fob.

i never got a talk.

i got something more like...

" yoooou baadddd boi!!!"

Meh :::shrugs shoulders:::

I take it you've been making the girls wet from the begining?


Thats my boy.

I think I was around 10 or 11. My mom gave me the "talk" and a book, and told me to read the book and ask her any questions.

I learned more from the book than from my mom. You know, like the fact that there are birth control methods other than abstinence.

Sounds similar to mine, except when my mom finally found out I was active, it was more along the lines of,

"yoooooooou fuuuuuuucking sluuuuuut, get out of my house!"
[insert Filipino expletive here]

What can I say? She's from the motherland.

I got a book too. I think my mom thought would be enough to tie me over and she'd never have to discuss the subject but just to see her squirm a couple days after she gave me the book I go to her and "Mom where do babies come from?" She turned bright red. I got a kick out of it ;)

When I was about 6, my mother read me a book that explained to children how babies are made.

At about age 10, my mom gave me a book called "What's Happening to Me?". It was a bunch of cartoon drawings that explain what happens to your body through puberty to adulthood.

She asked me if I had any questions but I was too embarrassed to say anything. I don't think we had an actual sex talk until I was much older and it was more of, "Mom, the school is increasing the price of my birth control pills. Can I put them under our prescription insurance?" I proceeded to get a lecture on using proper protection. :rolleyes:

ETA: I just had to add a pic of the book she gave me because it cracks me up.
http://store1.yimg.com/I/buyinprivate_1812_45018942

I never really got the talk. I'm good at figuring things out on my own.

I totally remember that book. A girl brought it to school in 4th grade and she caused such a stir so Miss Rowley made her stay afterschool.

I only got told about periods. Figured everything else out on my own and through the good help of the public school board.

My mom gave me the "biological" talk when I was 4 or 5, but I didn't find out how babies were really made until I was 10 or so when some friends teased me about not knowing. I got my period talk around the same time too.

I got the talk when a friend of mine got pregnant. And then again when my mom found the Band-Aid Box from freshman year (it was filled with free condoms from Student Health, lol) of college.

Ditto. I never got it. I learned on my own. The word in my house was ABSTINENCE. When I left for college, my mom told me to bring nothing else home other than my degree.

I never got the talk...a book...nothing!

This was the closest talk I ever received...mind you I was 12...

Me: Mom do you believe in sex before marriage?
Mom: No

Me: What if the man and woman are engaged?
Mom: Then they can wait.

Me: What if it's the night before their wedding?
Mom: Then they can wait one more night.

That sent a message loud and clear that we weren't going to be discussing anything! LOL

I didn't get it from my parents. God Bless public school education. We got the "period" talk in 5th grade. Then in 6th grade we had the whole sex/std/pregnancy/anatomy talk with FULL COLOR pictures. We had a very similar talk every year until I graduated from high school. Somewhere along the way, I must have learned something because I'm still a virgin and my brother doesn't have any little ones running around either. It was generally understood in my family that babies would not be tolerated.

My mom never sat me down for "the talk". We simply had open communication for as long as I can remember. I asked questions and she answered them, in an age appropriate way, for as long as I could remember.

I have taken the same position with my daughter. She is asking TONS of questions as she has started to develop and I just answer her honestly and candidly. I encouraged her to read "Are You There God, It's Me, Margaret" and she came home bursting with news when her friend started her period. She was in third grade and hung out with a 5th grader in latch key all the time. The 5th grader started. She has always been curious and has asked questions. I am hoping that by establishing open communication early on, it will continue when she is a teenager and she will always feel comfortable asking me questions.

I adopted my mother's style because I felt she was a good mom that way. I'm curious though, about those of you whose moms were unable to talk about things, whether you think you'll be more open with your own children?

Dee

Oh how I loved this book!!! I read it over and over as a pre-teen.

Mine was a combination of the book, Dee's method of open communication, and a very liberal school district which taught intense sex ed from 5th>11th grade. When I say intense, I mean that, by 10th grade, we had to insert a diaphragm into a model for a grade! It was also co-ed, and concentrated on the correct terminology and exactly what happens without getting embarrassed. It was obviously a good system, because I graduated with over 700 classmates, and there had only been two pregnancies. As I so often say about sex ed, knowledge = power.

To this day, I get confused by sexual slang, but I can tell you all about what happens to the body (physically & emotionally) during sex and/or abortions and/or pregnancy!

Oh, the best part? We always had two teachers, a man and a woman. Years later, I found out that my female sex ed teacher was an ADPi!! :eek:

6th grade here as well..the whole anatomy talk. My mom found out that the class was going to be split to watch both films and she insisted that she and I watch them first. A real winner for both of us...she decided to come to school that day and we watched it during my lunch...to this very day, I tend to shrink away from turkey pot pie....

I don't remember having "the talk" so much as a lot of little "talks" that were appropriate to my age and whatever questions I was asking. (Which were, if I recall correctly, pretty explicit!)

Plus, there were always medical books in the house and that allowed me to figure out stuff that they weren't telling me!

I hope I can be as open with my children as my parents were with me.

i never got the talk either. i guess my mom did not want to face it

My mother gave me a book called When God Chose Man.

I was in high school before I understood how the sperm got into the woman's body in the first place.

Thank TPTB for my friend Erica, who lent me several books. My favourite is called The Guide to Getting it On. It tells you everything you never wanted to know about sex.

And allow me to emphasize that knowing about sex, birth control, condoms, STDs, etc., did not make me become sexually active. I waited a long time before I did.

I don't know what age I go the talk, but I got it from my dad. (I'm a daddy's girl). One thing I remember was the part where he was telling me that at that time the people I loved were my parents and how much they loved me. Then he statring saying that when I got older, that I would start dating boys, and that I would fall in love with them some day. And that I'm going to love a boy more than I love my parents. And when I get married and have kids, that I'm going to love my kids more than my husband and even more than my parents. I swear I wanted to burst into tears when he was telling me all of that and it was so hard to hold it in. I couldn't even imagine loving someone more than I loved my parents.

Another really good book for such things is Our Bodies, Our Selves.

fifth grade along with the disney movie....
and then amplification from the mom

I don't really remember, but I remember it was early! Like my late elementary or middle school years.

Reading this thread got me to thinking... I was one of those who got a book but no talk from my parents. We had sex ed in school of course, but my parents never really told me their stance on premarital sex, and we never talked about waiting for the right person or respecting yourself... except for the mom talk right before I'd be heading out for a date, "If he tries to touch you and you're not comfortable, you say no!" LOL. But.. Sometimes I wonder if I would've been such the wild child in college if we'd had that talk. Not like it matters now-- LOL-- but it does make me think how I'll be around my children someday, if and when I become a mom.

Any other funny stories about sex ed?

I never got the talk...although my mother realized that we never had the talk and tried to give it to me at 21.


I did however get sex education classes at school when I was 9, so does that count as the talk?

i dont think i ever actually got said talk .... definetly the one about my period but i dont think sex was one of those talk .... does snecking in episodes of red shoe diaries count as learning about sex?

I never got "the talk" either. When I was in 5th grade we had to have our parents sign a form allowing us to watch a sex-ed movie, so I guess my mom considered that my lesson. I know my grandmother gave me a book once and then my dad bought a book by Judy Blume and just put it on his bookshelf. Maybe he just assumed I would pick it up and read it? :rolleyes: They never really told me anything that would be considered helpful in regard to puberty, I just figured it out on my own as I went along.

I had access to pay channels as a small child. The talk would have been redundant.

However, I do remember my father telling me that wearing a condom felt like taking a shower with your shoes and socks on . . .

I am not sure how old I was under 10 I believe. . .

My mother sat me down the day after I turned 10 and tried to have the talk. I ran out of the room screaming that I didn't want to know. :eek:

About a year later, we had the talk. I was finally ready. I actually learned a lot of accurate information in the playground from other children. A boy told my sister and me where babies come from in explicit detail when I was in kindergarten. We were positive that he was lying. It just seemed so gross.

This is a funny thread. I never really had the "talk." LOL, My older sister got that "What's happening to me?" book and I read it after she did. My mom also rented "Where do babies come from?" cartoon. I got my "real" education from friends and relatives.

JEEZ! :rolleyes: Hispanic mothers (at least mine) still believe that I don't know what it's all about. Good Hispanic girls find out what happens in the bedroom only after they're married. Bad girls find out beforehand.;)