What to do when you think you have a female stalker after you
 

Seriously, I need some help. I think I might have a stalker. There's this crazy bitch out there that seems like she might have went off the deep end because of me. She knows where I live, knows all my friends, has actually had sex with 2 of them and then her friends have also banged other friends of mine. And these girls are seriously crazy, I think. And I can't exactly go to the police about this....period. Cops are out of the question here. I've thought about DeeBoeing her into leaving me alone....but she's the kind of crazy chick to where that would only fuel the fire all the more. Like she's talked about slashing my tires, coming over out of the blue to my house even when none of us here want her dirty butt over. She straight up told me that I don't know what kind of girls her and her friends are. I fired back with " If thats a threat, you might end up in a landfill one day." Of course i'm not serious....but was trying to scare her into leaving me alone. And it all comes down to her being pissed because she feels like a little whore. To give you a little background info, two of my boys double teamed her last thursday night. She likes me....alot. I don't know why, but she's all about me. So anyhow, we had an afterparty thursday night and her and a friend of hers came over....along with a lot of other people who were here. Well, sex came up in a conversation while the porn channel was playing spiceclips and everyone was watching it. Someone mentioned something about double teaming to the girl....I was asked what I thought about it and said I thought it'd be cool if she did both of my friends at the same time. Make a long story short.....they did it. She feels dirty as hell now and wants to talk to me, as if I give a shit, and now she's flipping out because I think she did it because I told her it'd be cool if she did and now she realizes I look at her like a skank. And so, this is where we are now....her talking about me waking up and me and my roomate's tire being all slashed or her coming up to our jobs and raising hell. They've been calling all my friends wanting to hang out and everyone has told them no....no one wants to chill with them. And just so some of you know what type of chicks these are....they're strippers. So yea, these are crazy b!tches. When she mentioned the whole tire slashing thing....I told if she or her friends did anything like that to anyone's ride....I'd douse her house in gasoline and torch that fucker to the ground. On a serious note, I don't have the balls to do that.....but I figured that'd scare her enough to make her think twice about actually messing up anyone's ride. However, I'm starting to think that she's getting off on the whole dominance thing and it's turing her on all the more. She might be crazy like that. Like I'm all open for suggestions as far as a way to deal with this. Has anyone ever had a stalker after them? How did you deal with it? What can you do without going to the police? Any of you have any suggestions on how I should talk to this chick to kind of calm her down? I mean really, I shouldn't even be involved in this but somehow everyone gets me mixed up in the drama.....and the b!tches always seem to come after me when something goes wrong or feelings get hurt. And whats worse is....her day job, she counsels young, troubled teens and tries to help them with their problems at home. But yet she's a stripper by night. The chick has problems herself.....and I've not done anything to lead her on or did anything to make her think I like her.

So, any advice?

The only thing you can do is Mace her. Tell her that shes a dirty ho and she needs keep away form the blue bitch. If she doesnt listen let me know, I'll kick her ass. I'm from a rough neighborhood.

Hahaha.....thats my girl. Muah. And yea, the blue bitch doesnt need any drama.

Sweetheart...

How in the HAYLE did you get yourself caught up in this mess???

Honey, you gonna have to go to Jesus on this one... And pray you get out alive... 'Cuz there is a thin, thin, thinnnnnn line between love and hate...

And try not to speak to this woman with threats... 'cuz if she is as crazy as you say she is, that means she's already identity theived you and has trashed your credit and if you do anything--even as much as eyeball her--she will report your ass to the police saying all kinds of crazy stuff and saying you did it...

I'd change everything... Even where I live...

Trash heap... Now you know that ain't right... And the police are lookin' for mo'fo's that try to do that chit...

AND you're in Florida? DAYUM... Who was the last person they kilt on death row???

And you ass is crazy enuf to curse this lunatic out? Wow, you've got some kahonnas... And you tried to be the pimp... A Mack??? Oh well...

I'll pray for you...

How do you always get yourself into these messes with crazy girls? ;)

Like I said, I don't know how I got caught up in the drama. All I did was tell her I thought it'd be cool if she had sex with two of my friends at the same time. She did and then flipped out when she realized how I looked at her. But I mean, htf could she expect anyone not to look at her like a dirty b!tch after getting double teamed by two dudes? So what if she likes me. I've never liked her. In fact, she's lucky she was even allowed to come over to my house the other night. And that was only because one of my boys wanted to tagg her friend she brought over. I got pissed when she started making threats about everybody's ride and both of them coming up to everyone's job and making a scene. When a female says that...I start thinking boiling rabbits and Michael Douglas and it doesn't make me laugh. But yea, we're already thinking about getting a different house now. This being one of the many reasons.

AKA- I'm not worried about her going to the police about anything. That shit wont phase me. She can't. She was all phucked up on oxycotin, lorecets, perkecets, coke, been drinking all night and she did GHB on top of eating a xanax bar. And she was the one with all the drugs. She was actually wanting to know if anyone wanted to buy any from her. Thats why I said she's lucky she was even in my house. Besides, nothing wrong was done. She just got dirty and decided she'd get double teamed. The reason why I don't want the police involved is because me and cops don't mix well. One of them would make some smart ass comment and I'd have to tell them they're all a bunch of doughnut munchers and next thing I'd know I'd be in jail.


ZTAngel....I don't know. I beginging to wonder if all women are actually crazy like that but that it just takes that one guy to set them off. Or maybe I just make girls go crazy. You-know-who got a little crazy there for a minute when she quit her job/ got fired because of me. But seriously, how do you think I should deal with this? Just talk to her? Would talking be better than ignoring her? I think that if I talk to her I might end up having her really want me if I show her any kind of attention and she might take it the wrong way. My roomate, one of the one's that did her, talked to her last night for about 30 minutes. He calmed her down and she said I was the one with all the hostility. Then he said that she told him..." Oh, fuck Craig, he's such an ass, he knew I liked him and then told me to have a sex with both you and brent at the same time." But the funny part is...he told me that after he talked to her she asked him if he'd go to dinner with her tommorrow (tonight) and said to him that they need to start hanging out. He was asking me wtf is wrong with her. :p The other guy she did, my friend brent, she wanted his number but I said he didnt have a cell phone. I'm thinking I ought to give it to her to get her out of my hair.

Keep on ignoring her. Don't answer her phone calls, avoid her, and try to get your friends to do the same. Hopefully, she'll get the hint. Talking to her will only make her angrier about what happened and she'll keep on trying to contact you.

Sometimes I amaze even myself.

I'm gonna eat some pudding now.

The is a Dr. Philism for cashmoney. The common denominator in these situations is you. Your radar should improve to spot trashy and crazy so your involvement is brief and avoided with these types of women.

Definitely use ZTAngel's advice. If she starts threatening again make an anonymous call to the cops about her drug deals or to her place of business to let them know about her moonlighting job.

Haha, I'll eat some pudding now.

Question for the militant feminists on the site:

If she was all messed up on drugs and got double teamed by his two friends, couldn't she claim that was technically sexual assaulted?

The whole, unable to give consent by reason of intoxication angle?

Better be careful guy, if you keep treating her like a whore she might cry rape and ruin your buddies' lives. I am sure one of her friends will mentiom it to her as an option.

ETA: I would keep any of your friends from hitting that in the future. And you should not even be alone with her. You don't need that kind of agravation and you don't have Kobe Bryant's money.

Oh, she isnt going to go to the cops. There are at least 11 people that will say when she came over she was all messed up on drugs and while we were all in the living room she agreed to go at it with both of them and then went in the bedroom. Plain and simple. Besides, she doesnt want any heat from cops in refference to her extracirricular activities. She's just that crazy girl that wont go to cops and instead fuck you up in other ways.

Well, I wasnt involved with her and I can definitely spot trash and craziness....any other girl wouldnt let herself get double teamed if she wasnt trashy. The issue isnt me....I was fine before I decided to have roomates again. I didnt have this type of drama again untill I decided I wanted to live with 2 of my boys after living alone for 1 1/2 years.

This is just my two pennies...Id tell your friends to get a full range of sexual health testing done...
regarless of if they used protection...anything is possible...

and from the sounds of it...this girl isnt miss innocent.. better to be safe than sorry...

good luck and stay far far away... run if you can

No joke there.

Tell her to move to Chicago so she can be friends with Miss Magpie. They're totally MFEO.

Yea, there's some crazy women up there in Chicago.


Btw, how are things going with whats his face? QB dude.

Alright, I guess. He had a great game this past Saturday, looking forward to another W this weekend against Nevada. Haven't had a chance to talk about "everything", but at least we're more civil with each other these days.

He irritates the shit outta me, but he still tugs at the heartstrings every now and then. I just wish he didn't screw it all up.

Yeah, cashmoney, that's my question...

Typically, most cops arrest dudes just by what gwirlfriend lied about...

And it all gets sorted out by the judge later...

So why want the headache of court no matter how "strawberry" this ho is???


James, I have seen psychotic women lie and ruin men's lives over the crap they got themselves into...

Best advice, let "sleeping dogs lie--'cuz if you lie with dogs, you wind up with fleas..."

Time to remember that the 2 people directly involved here aren't the only ones who can go to the cops. If she has been talking, word will get around. You threatening her back does not make you look good in this one. Yeah, she's nasty and obviously is about 2 sandwiches shy of a picnic, but it isn't the smart ones cops end up talking to the most. I'm guessing both she and her friends will know how to play the game, and her being doped up at the time is not prosecutable -- no physical evidence (and really not worth the court's time). You'd be surprised what CI's will go to cops with. It can come from a totally random source.

You're playing her game with her at this point. Every time you talk to her, you put fuel on the fire, so to speak. Every time you "out-threaten" her, you've dumped gas on the fire. It obviously hasn't stopped her from coming around, right? So change the tactics. Change the phone number, get caller id, and handle the whole thing like you're the grown-up in this.

If she does come after your car or something, you get a report done, call the insurance, and get it fixed. Then you prosecute her (provided you've decided that some cops actually work for a living and don't know the fastest way to the donut shop).

Seriously, though. You'd be surprised what gets overlooked for a bigger fish. Make sure you're out of the water before someone thinks you and your friends look like Jaws.

James: Yeah, depending upon the state and the specifics, it could be a lack of consent thing with the amount of drugs. Could sound something like, "given the amount of illegal drugs in her system, a fact which was known to the suspects, Ms. X was unable to make rational thoughts and arguments. The drugs left her incapacitated to the point where she was no longer able to say no." I'd not take it on, but there's a lawyer for everyone out there, and some don't care what the case is (just like cops, and everyone else, there are good and bad).

Good Luck.

I remember this one time when I was being stalked. My friends and I have this simple formula that usually gets rid of the stalker.

Heres how it works:

Ok only use this plan if he doesnt get the point when you say you dont like him.

When the stalker weasels his way into going to the bar with you and your friends (and trust me he will) thats when you put this plan into action.

Hit on every guy there. If you see a guy you said hi to last week, he is your new best friend. Run up to him and hug him and ask how he is and just hang all over him. (Bonus if it gets you a drink)

Make sure your girls know that you dont like the stalker. That way if he somehow gets ahold of you they will know to come pull you away. After this happens a few times he SHOULD get the point however some guys are persistant.

If all else fails throw up on him. Or even better if he really likes his car do it in there.

This plan normally works, however, some guys just don't get the message. As we speak my best friend is trying to get rid of a stalker. He just doesnt get the point.

Cain't y'all just talk about Jesus and how Jesus Saves???

I mean, you go Christian Religious Right on crazy folks, and the fact you'd invite them to church to see God, if they confess their sins... That usually scares the lunatics off... Unless they really crazy and actually do show up to church... Then if they do, you can sick that old lady on them to hog up their time and make them go to Sunday School and Bible Study...

That is how my girls and I would get rid of lunatic men... If they actually did show up at church, they'd have some old folks on they butt about what their intentions were when they walked in...

Only time it backfired was when dude had a rap sheet and had been incarcerated... But, that was a strange case anyways... And he really needed Jesus...