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Will the interests please calm down
Of course those seeking membership want to be a part of this forum, myself included, but are any of you Greeks turned off by the simple minded ass kissing going on by those who want to be down? I am.
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Hang in there! Be humble, be discreet, do your research, do your school work...no average students...PLEASE!!!!, continue giving to the community...have fun and remember Greek life is not necessarily for everyone. We are only visiting this planet! ------------------ Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Incorporated...Every Finer Woman's Dream! |
Finer Woman, I'm ROTFL....you hit the nail on the head. Good Luck to all interest, no matter what organization you're pursuing. And like Finer Woman said, NO AVERAGE PEOPLE. We are organizations who are built on a foundation of SCHOLARSHIP AND SERVICE. Like a slogan I once heard said, "Either come hard, or don't come at all". Again Good Luck!
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now out of all the posts on the greekchat...i had to laugh at this one.
The most important advice to give to anyone is: Be Yourself!!! *CTFU* kissing ass...now that is funny... Hot Damn!!!!!! |
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You could have done it with a lot more tact... Peace Nicole [This message has been edited by NicoleRey (edited September 20, 2000).] |
"Damn" and "Pleaze" get a life, really. The same way you think some of the interests are tacky, you two are without taste and tact yourselves. It's always some unregistered person that's running off at the mouth.
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I agree with DAMN..yall, get off ya knees!!
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Yeah whatever. Should be mad cause Mocha, youre one of the people Im talking about. I'd rather read and get a feel about things than tell XYZ for the zillionth time how much Im interested in their sorority. And how you can have the nerve to get down in conversations you should not be apart of anyway I just dont know.
This makes me mad cause then they go lump us all in the same category. People come on. Really |
And do you really want Greeks here to have your e-mail and personal info? And then it cathces up to you that yeah this girl was hounding us, this girl is pathetic, oh wait, you have that girl on line? Thats that girl that STAYED talking on greekchat. Alot of people look at these boards and you never know how they'll respond to you being a Greekchat groupie when you're not even greek.
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I don't know about others, but I don't think I'm kissing anyone's ass. I myself am rushing right now, so yes I would like some inside info on what goes on. I've never done this before and would like some advice. If you don't like it, then that's your problem. No one holds a gun to your head and tells you to read it. As for us "not even being greek" we probably will be very soon, so maybe you should consider that.
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DaisyMargarita-I think that Damn is referring more to people who go on to an orgs board and talk about how much they love the org, and how much they want to be a member, etc. I DON'T think she is talking about prospectives who are going through Rush right now.
Just wanted to clarify that. As far as the subject matter goes, I am going to leave my 1 cent out of it! ZetaAce |
ZetaAce- Ok, that makes more sense. I myself have not even visited any of the individual organizations' boards, so I didn't know about people doing that sort of thing. I do think it's lame if people are doing that though.
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Personally I don't believe I am kissing anyone's a$$ and I will never kiss ANYONE'S a$$ to get along with them. This is how the whole thing works...
How would I look if I just went to XYZ's rush and didn't know a soul there? It is about geting to know people in the community and getting to know other members of the sorority. Why would I join a sorority in which I don't know any of the members, and just popped up one day. I surely am not in the a$$ kissing buisness and I don't see anything wrong with expressing your intrest in an org to the members, of course XYZ isn't all I think about, I do have a LIFE! We all do here and I see Sexy Mocha's posts and she carries herself with the upmost respect and dignity, the way a prospect should act! She isn't kissing butt at all!! Being greek is a privlage and I will try to earn it in a RESPECTFUL way... To all prospects good luck in your quest... and don't let anyone deter you from your dreams... To Damn and Pleaze, Don't be mad at other interests because they are seeking and working harder at persuing membership into their respective orgs THAN YOU! You may percieve it as a$$ kissing, for most it is just about persuing their dream. Instead of critisizing, work on yourself and BE YOURSELF! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif ------------------ In complete darkness we are all the same... It is only our knowledge and wisdom that separates us... Don't let your eyes deceive you Janet Jackson [This message has been edited by Diva_56 (edited September 21, 2000).] |
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Furthermore, I, like most people in these forums, respond to ALL posts that I find interesting...not just those dealing with Greek life, unless, of course, it is stated that the post is for members to respond to only. Looks to me like you've taken an extra dose of that Hatorade today...what's the matter? Issues becoming too much for you to deal with? I have important things to deal with at this time, but I promise I will get at you later! |
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the purpose of the individual chat rooms for each organization is to post info and to talk about topics be it current events, about the sorority/fraternity, or other greek issues that pertain to that organization. Non greeks are allowed in those forums as long as you are registered with greekchat (That doesn't mean you Damn and Pleaze!) Many of us (Non Members) in the rooms are seeking membership with the orgs and just want to associate with women/men who are where we want to be... nothing wrong with that. NO ASS KISSING INVOLVED! |
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And I said I was going to keep my 1 cent out of it! (I guess ya'll should have known I wouldn't, LOL)
Diva_56 and Mocha, I understand what you two are saying and I agree with you about pursuing your goal with earnest... However... There are people on these forums who do 'kiss butt'. I have seen it in ALL of the BGL Sororities forums, and it is not necessary. Why do those people feel the need to continually shower people they don't know with praise about how wonderful they are? It's one thing to compliment the organization, but some people on this forum take it to the next level. IMO, that's ridiculous. It's the internet for goodness sakes. Maybe I am in the minority here among my greek sisters, but that irks me to no end. Like my Soror, Finer Woman10-A-91 said: "Be humble, be discreet, do your research, do your school work...no average students!" Like MaMaBuddha: "Be Yourself!" ZetaAce ------------------ A FinerWoman since 1997... |
If it doesnt apply to you , dont sweat it. Diva I never thought you were a kiss up. But alot of other girls are here
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Dangggggg! I think that everyone has thier own opinion on what should be said and not as far as potentials go. And I can see both sides, But just for you folks trying to join a BGLO, a few words of advice.
1. Descretion is best. 2. Repeat #1 3. Don't be so eager to show all of your cards too early in the game. 4. Our orgs are world wide, and guess what? We talk to each other all the time. (I could tell you the name and rank of this Kandy azz fella trying to perp Kappa in Germany. Germany!!! You get my point.) If he ever makes it back state side, and shows up in DC trying to perp, he will get the beat down of his life. If you do show your true colors and let a member know your feelings, be sure that your s$%^t is tight. While I think that you should get to know the members of that org,I am sorta feeling Damn on not having my e-mail and other info out there for everyone to know, especially if I am a potential. The great part about forums like this is that none of us know each other (for the most part). That enables us to say things that we might not say face to face. Now I may not (and often don't like) some of the questions that people pose here. But you know what? Who cares? Yawl don't know me, and outside of the Nupes, I probably won't meet any of yawl, unless you come to DC and want to Kick it with a brother. Just my two cents. MN |
If you don't personally know a member of XYZ, what's attracting you to them? Image? What you think the organization stands for? That means like someone said a while ago you must not be doing SERVICE or must not be involved in any CIVIC organizations. If you were you'd know several
XYZers. Look interests, I'm in the same boat, and Im mad that Ive even said this much but yall are too much. Don't put yourself out there so much. Talking about whatever is fine but once it gets to talking about membership related stuff you have stepped over some bounds. IT COULD ALL COME BACK TO YOU FOR REAL THOUGH THE GREEKS HERE DONT TELL YOU THAT! |
*giving ZetaAce and Finer Woman10-A-91 a hi-5*
MandingoNUPE also said it best...and i quote: 1. Descretion is best. 2. Repeat #1 3. Don't be so eager to show all of your cards too early in the game. 4. Our orgs are world wide, and guess what? We talk to each other all the time. i am still cracking up because in this because as ZetaAce stated and i quote "There are people on these forums who do 'kiss butt'. I have seen it in ALL of the BGL Sororities forums, and it is not necessary. Why do those people feel the need to continually shower people they don't know with praise about how wonderful they are? It's one thing to compliment the organization, but some people on this forum take it to the next level. IMO, that's ridiculous. It's the internet for goodness sakes. Maybe I am in the minority here among my greek sisters, but that irks me to no end" *it does me too, you are not the only one* that is my whole $19.13 and my $19.25 worth....you do the math |
First of all, let me say this: I certainly exercise my First Amendment right and I'm an advocate for free speech. I love this form of computer network speech. So, Damn, do your thing but please register as a member. Your post really made me think about some things such as:
1. Yes, there are some butt kissers on GreekChat, but in all actuality who really cares because what can I REALLY do about it???? 2. If these interested folks, especially those who frequent the Delta Sigma Theta forum, have not paid attention to what many of us have stated in the past about qualifications of membership into our esteemed sisterhood, they can do all the butt kissing they want....it won't help unless they have their "stuff" and "act" together. 3. If the shoe fits, wear it! Don't get bent all out of shape over a post. 4. Some of you all ought to be glad that I don't have time to find out what schools you attend because I would road trip! ------------------ Director #2 LMAC Spr 99 |
I'm back. Now, as far as putting an e-mail address or the name of the school one attends out for everyone up here to see, I personally don't see a problem with it...unless you have something to hide. So, to me that says a lot for people who come in the forums with the sole purpose of stirring things up. If you're up here chatting, responding to different posts, etc. and not setting off senseless arguments and being disrespectful, then there shouldn't be a problem. If you are...then your best bet is to stay unregistered. This way you can say all sorts of things and no one will know who you are. I don't do that sort of thing and I am registered so I feel quite comfortable with my posts. I can be myself...and guess what? If I weren't being myself, it would be ignorant on my part KNOWING that I have all my business out there. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/rolleyes.gif So that's my opinion on that.
I didn't think...rather, I KNEW "Damn's" comments could not be applied to me, but I find it very hard to sit back and watch people come in these forums with the sole intent of being rude and nasty. That is whether, they're referring to me or other sistas on this board. Instead of questioning why interests are sweating and kissing ass all the time...I question why another interest who has merely sat back and been a silent participant up until now (and out of all the wonderfully interesting topics that are discussed) decides the one time they do want to come in and particiapte it's something negative. Some people..... AND...As far as "Damn's" last post "if you don't personally know a member of XYZ, what's attracting you to them...yadda, yadda, yadda" I don't know WHERE that came from. All out of left field and what have you...Girl, I don't know what you're talking about with that one...guess it's just you being angry and griping again *sigh* Anyway, I won't continue with this little game...I just wanted to let you know that I'm not mad at ya, don't have an angry bone in this body http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif Just try and get rid of some of that anger sweetie...other interests kissing ass is really no reason to get yourself all worked up. Especially since you're not a member of any Greek organization and they're not kissing up to you....consider yourself lucky for not having to put up with it personally. Please sista, try and get past this...let it go. I'm sure you have more important things to worry your little head over. Oh, and Zeta Ace, I agree with you wholeheartedly. I have seen some of the posts of intersts who are screaming "How Can I Be Down"... Im not questioning that. I am questioning why another interest...Another Interest would feel the need to post something so trivial, and in the rudest way she could muster it up? Is this the way interests should be acting toward each other? We're all in the same boat, you know? I see plenty of things said in these forums by interests that I sometimes cringe at, if I really had a problem with it...I'd e-mail them personally and express my "problem with them", it's all in how you go about doing things. I believe it's called being tactful. [This message has been edited by Sexy Mocha (edited September 21, 2000).] |
Dang my post was long! Sorry y'all!
I'll delete it myself after a while... Diva_56, thanks for lookin' out girl! Anyone that's literate, can see I don't go around repeatedly professing my love for the sorority that I'm interested in. Heck, I can't even remember the last time I posted anything regarding me seeking membership into the org! Folks are just too funny in here! |
lol..lmao.. did some of yall hear Directordst99..she said yall better be glad she don't know where some of yall stay because she will do a road trip..lol.. that was funny to me.. ok now to damn.. if u ask me i think u trying to kiss a little ass your self with this topic..Mocha wouldn't u agree?
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I can only speak for my organization's page. If you would go there (AKA), you will indeed find that most of our topics, at least 90% of them DO NOT deal with the Sorority.
Basically, our forum discusses what is HOT at the moment...i.e. CDs, music groups, critical thinking questions, scenarios, the list goes on and on... So most of those non-Sorors who are posting don't really say I am interested in XYZ. Basically, they have found a topic that is interesting to them and respond accordingly. From time to time issues or situations occur relative to the Sorority and we respond accordingly as well. And these same SFs who have posted in our forum have posted in other forums, too, so who am I to say if they are interested in ABC or 123? HOWEVER, I have said this to say...that I HAVE NOT ENCOUNTERED ANY AZZ KISSING... FRANKLY, MOST OF MY SORORS (INCLUDING MYSELF)IN THE FORUM HAVE ALREADY GRADUATED FROM COLLEGE, THERFORE, THEY (I) DO NOT HAVE SAY IN WHO DOES OR DOES NOT GET INTO THE ORGANIZATION. WE ARE ALL SISTERS AND SHARE MANY THINGS IN COMMON (EVEN THE SISTER-SORORS IN THE OTHER ORGS). WE SHARE MANY EXPERIENCES THAT MANY IN THIS FORUM DO NOT SHARE... THEREFORE, ALL WE CAN DO IS OFFER OUR ADVICE TO THOSE WHO ARE SEEKING MEMBERSHIP, REGARDLESS OF THE ORGANIZATION. [This message has been edited by AKA2D '91 (edited September 21, 2000).] [This message has been edited by AKA2D '91 (edited September 21, 2000).] |
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Wow I never thought this would get so many responses, Well to each everybody's own, I do agree that discretion is VERY important, if your are a young lady/man that can handle your buisness its fine. There are lots of loose mouths out here that don't. Jesus has a plan for me and he will fufill it in His riches in glory. Don't get caught up in the drama and live life as God would expect you to. Anybody who has done it knows how hard it is to approach a member of the org you want to join for the first time. Greeks are people too. When we realize this and not look to members of XYZ sorority/fraternity as just a means to be down, we can cut the apprehension, Blessed be and be Blessed! Just some truth from the Diva. ------------------ In complete darkness we are all the same... It is only our knowledge and wisdom that separates us... Don't let your eyes deceive you Janet Jackson |
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I interpreted that as she was interested in membership. I could have easily given her the cold shoulder or made a sarcastic comment like "I don't NEED to do anything." Instead, I ask the # 1 question that I ask ALL of those who are interested in Delta and that is "What type of public service are you currently doing?" I simply extended an invitation to some of our upcoming functions. It's out of my hands now. Ok, perhaps I digressed a bit, but I hope you see my point. ------------------ Director #2 LMAC Spr 99 |
There are a few a$$ kissers and some people may think that I am. But personally I don't think that I am. But guess what?....... I don't care what others think about me if it is something this negative. Like it was said before if the shoe fits wear it anf if you are offended by the original post then you must fit that descrpition. (NOT you Mocha and a few others) you clearly stated that you didn't like the rudeness. Some people just like to talk about things that they are interested in. Just like if you like basketball, you're going to talk about all the time, especially with others that like it to. BUT......there still are a few that try too hard. And there's no need to do this on the internet because no one knows you so how can it help you. Quoting another thing that was said before....."be yourself"!! Chill, mingle (did I spell that right), and have fun! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif Most of all.....worry about how YOU conduct YOURSELF don't worry others. If you are trying to become a member of a greek org...you need to focus on yourself and getting YOUR stuff together.!
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I can say that I do recall a message that was written in a particular forum (I won't say which one) but the young woman wrote a particularly LONG post about how she was sitting at her school's libraray/study lounge (if I recall correctly). She went on to say how she couldn't believe that she was hearing two women talk about the stereotyped personalities/looks of a particular organization and how the other said she was going to rush but she didn't know.
Besides the fact that the e-mail system "seems" anonymous, I would have to say that was a form of a$$ kissing. Although posting such really wouldn't benefit the woman either way (because she may not attend school where any of the sorority members on the board attended) it was a$$ kissing. I've seen it a million times. Like "These women don't know that they shouldn't do XYZ?" "I would never do that because blah,blah, blah." Okay so you may be a more seasoned a$$ kisser than the next prospective but still an a$$ kisser nonetheless. It's a$$ kissing any was you slice it. What's the purpose of letting the women on an e-mail page know that women in your library were discussing them or not discussing them besides a$$ kissing? I will say that the women in the forum didn't seem to mind so what the hell. I did expect one of them to say something like "Although it is all well and good for you to inform us that XYZ is going down at your school, I would suggest that you take more time tending to whatever it is you were tending to prior to your overhearing this discussion and not what people are saying about my organization." But...no one said that so it must be cool with them. I KNOW that in my particular organization's forum, someone would have broken it down like that. But to each his/her own. OUT!!! |
Obviously we didn't have a problem with the post.
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Oh Lawd, Anonymous! Why do you care what other people are doing in other org's. discussion areas? Apparently, we didn't give a flying....care, so if you really meant "to each his/her own," then you wouldn't have needed to state the obvious.
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I recall stating that in my post...didn't I? Yeah...I did state that the members of your organization obviously didn't have a problem with what the young woman was saying. That's all good. I was making a point that sometimes what others deem as kissing up may or may not be perceived that way by the perpetrator(s) or the recipients of the puckered lips.
We all venture into one another's forums DG so, your point was...? That is the reason I didn't comment when I originally read the posts in the topic because it wasn't my place to comment on that issue. You personalized it, I didn't. OUT!!! |
So why comment now, except for the fact that you were trying to find a way to tell/show Sexy Mocha that you felt she was "kissing up" to my sorors. If you read through that thread only one or maybe two (at the most) of my sorors even responded, and when they did respond it was in a general sense. Most of the responses were from sisterfriends.
What I find interesting about your response is that if someone were to call Sexy Mocha out if they believed she were "kissing up", then someone would be offended and say we were being mean or rude. So, sometimes we as greeks are all damned if we do, and damned if we don't. [This message has been edited by AKAtude (edited September 22, 2000).] |
Ummm, didn't personalize it, Anonymous, just wondered aloud why, if you don't care, and to each their own, would you go on a board and state that you don't care and to each their own. I mean, if you didn't care, why would you say something? Unless your intention was to get a dig in...then score! for Anonymous...you made your point, do you feel good?
It's pretty disengenuous for you to state that in YOUR organization's forum, butt kissing wouldn't be allowed, but in SOME OTHER organization's forum, they didn't have a problem with it, but of course, to each his/her own? Aren't you doing the same type of thing your original post pointed out as ass kissing? Let's continue this via email, if you wish. This topic doesn't need any more back and forth. [This message has been edited by Discogoddess (edited September 22, 2000).] |
Ok, Ok, I'll bite:
Anonymous till asked: I'm asking! What org are you a member of? What is your normal handle on here? MaMaBuddha- I'm glad I'm not the only one! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif ZetaAce ------------------ A FinerWoman since 1997... [This message has been edited by ZetaAce (edited September 22, 2000).] |
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