dating older men/women
 

Would you ever date anyone who was 10 years older than you, if you were say 23?

I'm 20, and my currently off-again boyfriend is 30. At the moment, we're seeing other people, but our ages have nothing to do with the fact that if we spend too much time together, we drive each other nuts!

I would reframe your question and ask you:

If this person could possibly be the true love of your life, would her/his age difference be enough for you not to want to experience that?

My parents are 7 years apart and have been married for 29 years. So yeah, it could work.

No

Yes, I would. And I did, for a year and a half. My ex-boyfriend is 32 and I am 23. There were some issues with age, but most were tied to my I'm-graduating-from-college-and-I-don't-know-what-I-am-doing-with-my-life crisis. He was a year behind me, but had come back to school to get a higher paying job and got a consulting offer so he didn't really ever go through the same thing.

No. N-O. Never.

I don't think I'd ever dig a guy who is 10 years older than I am. Now, 10 years younger would be another story... ;)

My boyfriend's older. I'm happy so it's all good.

;)

My Parents were 9 years apart and they were married for 40 years before my Father passed away.

As for me, I had dated a couple of women that were younger than me. I'm still friends with both of them to this day.

mr. kddani is 34 (i'm 24). He doesn't look much older than about 27 or so... he's gotten carded when we've been out.

I honestly think it depends on the age and maturity level of the younger person. 2 years ago I don't think I could've dated a 32 year old. But a lot has changed since then. I've also always been sorta mature for my age, so it makes the age difference seem smaller. That, and he doesn't act old.

I would have an issue if he made it like oh, i'm 34, therefore I know so much better than you on everything, etc. We have a pretty equal relationship and both talk to each other pretty equally.

I must admit to be skittish at first about the age difference, but it's a case by case basis. For this one, for me, it's not an issue.

Hmmmmmmmmmm...yea I don't think I could date a 13 year old right now. ;)

well, that makes one of us.

Yeah see, I'm probably a bit older than you are. ;)

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I dated a guy that is 10 years older than me. Well, I actually went on a lunch date with him today (I hadn't seen him in about 8 months). We got along great and we have a great time together. I really don't know why we quit dating. For now though, we are just friends.

I couldn't agree w/Kddani more...my boyfriend and I are 10 years apart and currently involved in a pretty serious relationship...it used to bother me and I was afraid to introduce him to my parents. Well, I got over that, and my parents think he's the greatest thing that's ever happened to me. I think maturity levels for both people play a major factor. :)

It's funny that you bring this up...I am kinda in the same position right now. My friend set me up with her boyfriends fraternity brother and he is older than me. I am 23 and he is 29. I'm not really sure what I think about it. He is a graduate student right now so it's not like he is working and in that adult stage. I am trying to overlook it but it is bothering me a little bit. I don't know if I will get used to it or not. I think I am just going to give it a chance and see what happens. I hope your relationship works out good.

Anne Marie

I'm with you here. A 21 year old could be fun. :D

My general rule is 7 years in either direction. Of course there are exceptions. My most recent fling was with someone 8 years older.

I could never, ever date anyone old enough to be my father, though. That would be too weird.

I just got asked out my a 38 year old on Saturday nigt (I'm 22). (Or cornered by a 38 year old.) I justified the whole reason that I couldn't date him when I realized my dad would kick his ass. And he shouldn't be dating someone who's dad still looks to kick guys ass. He's at the stage where fathers usually say, take my daughter, please! (The usual dodging age response i.e. me saying, I'm really immature for my age didn't work cause trust me, he's really immature for his age.)

I told my dad the story and his whole response: I'd kick his ass.
And he was really weirded out.

I am squmish about age - for me, 4 years up, only 1 year down. The whole idea of dating an undergrad for me right now is totally unappealing. But in the same respect, someone who's seriously looking for 'the one' (not that we're all not looking) would stress me out cause I'm no where near there either. Age is one thing, where you are in your life is an entirely different matter altogether. And a guy who says, wow you were born in the eighties?!?! Yeah, seriously a minus.

For us old married ladies up in here...
 

I had a youngin' tell me:

"When you're 50, I'll be 42... And my back will still work well..."

Without vitamin V... Or Cialis or Levitra... So, hey, whatever floats your boat...

Someone who is 42 when I am 50? No problem!

Older women are HOT!!!

One of my roomates told me tonight that I need to have sex with a couple of 30+ yr old women....the last time I had sex with a chick much much older than me was when I was 20 and she was 30. That shit set me off like a screaming banchee.

Yep. I'm dating someone older than I am...5 years older actually. He's 24 and i'm 19, but we met when I was 16. So a three year relationship with a 5 year difference has worked OK. I dunno about dating someone much older than that. I've been attracted to older and younger men but...alas, none have ever been attracted back.

I thought you were a boy . . .

I have to say I am really into older guys. They just treat you better. More mature. And SEXY.

What an intriguing thread.

hahahah! Awesome! What gave you that impression? Sadly, no, I'm of the female persuasion. The sig didn't give it away?

My boyfriend is 32 and I'm 24. We've been dating for 9 months and everything is going well so far. We tease each other about our age all the time. I tell him that I'm going to trade him in for a 25 young, virile 25 year old and he says that he's going to trade me in for a more mature, seasoned 30 year old. We joke about it because it doesn't matter to us.

:cool:

My BF and I have an 18 year age difference. We've been together for over 9 months and things have been great. We're in it for the long run with hopefully having a family and getting a house. The age difference doesn't bother us, we forget most of the time until we actually think of it and of course he's happy cause he scored a younger chick. lol. We make fun of eachother's age sometimes just because it's funny. I joke about senior citizen stuff. hehe. Even though I'm in my 20's, I think I'm mature. He doesn't look his age either. He looks like he's 30. I've been in enough relationships to know that this one is right. And if you have a good man (or woman) you shouldn't let them go. I definitely lucked out :)

Indeed. ;)

I dated a 26-year-old briefly when I was 17. Age is just a number...the compatibility between the two people is what really matters.

(My parents, however, failed to agree with me on that issue.)

Exactly. I dated a 26-y/o when I was 18 and...Well, dad never found out (I was living in another state), but my mom wanted to rip his heart out. Eh. Now that I'm a smidge older, I still love older guys. My two current interests are 30 and 31.

So I want to be a 50 year old man with a hot young thing, but I don't pretend it's something it isn't and say age is a number.

-Rudey
--But some of you might.

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Already did. I was 22 and he was 35. He was also my semi-boss. He didn't look (or act) older than 25, though.

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When I was 22, I dated a guy that was 37. Bad choice.
When I was 29, I dated a guy that was 45. Good choice.
When I was 37, I dated a guy that was 35. Worst decision of my life.
When I was 41, I dated a guy that was 28. Bizarre choice.

I doesn't come down to the age. It comes down the the person.

I'm old as hell, and my last date was young as hell. I like robbing the cradle.:o:D

Seriously, I tend to date younger women. Like 10 to 12 years younger than me. A lot of people think I look a lot younger than I actually am, so it just ends up that way. I like it.:D