Good at sex? How do you truly know?
 

No one thinks they are bad at sex.

But how can we know how good we are? Have you studied sex? Learned techniques? Watched Videos? Become a student of the masters?

Most people just kind of do what seems natural, but is there a better way? Source material? Maybe men should study oral sex with lesbians?

Maybe really experienced partners think less experienced partners suck?

It must really be rough for people with like only one or two partners, they will think they are awesome with them, but maybe no one else would.

AKA_Monet speaks of Tantra, which shows she is on a whole different level than the average sexual initiate.

Maybe we should strive in our personal relationships to reach that level of knowledge and spiritual tie-ins.

Share your rated PG-13 thoughts if you dare. :p

one of my best friends in the world is a lesbian. she has taught me alot as far as techniques with girls ( oral sex). my only complaint with her is that she barely came out 3 years ago. so for all i know, i might have sucked ass three years prior.

i recommend everyone go get yourself a lesbian best friend. they can do wonders for you, however just watch out cuz they will try to cockblock you.

Porn movies, Karma Sutra, and my fave of all..........HBO's Real Sex Documentary!! its so informative. YOU know you are good when your partner can barely walk or is passed out afterwards lol......... dont believe the words look at the BODY LANGUAGE.

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Feh. With only one partner, you know how *bad* it was when you started, and how much better it's gotten since then. And as long as you are happy, and have sex often enough for you that's good enough for you, that's pretty much enough.

I never have to whine or worry that my husband isn't as good as my first couple of boyfriends. I don't have anything to compare it with. That's fine with me.

We're probably average. Which is nice, because I don't feel like I need to perform like a slut to keep him around-- he's already mine, and if I want to perform like a slut (or he like a stud) that's just a bonus, not something that you need to live up to every time.

Real Sex is a great documentary, btw-- Thursdays on HBO. Which I'll be able to watch again when my father-in-law moves out of the house. [He's not a prude-- he used to *tape* it-- but I just don't want to be in the same room with him when anything sexual is on.] As long as you don't mind seeing "average" naked people going at it as well as the hot young things going at it....

I think perfection comes with experience. The more you do it with more people...the better you get. Practice does make perfect. For me, there's too many coincidences for me not to be good. I've had way too many girls tell me they started to really enjoy sex after they've had it with me and I've turned way too many girls in to nympho-sluts (sex crazed slut). I got to where I am through practice (lots of it) and plenty of porn. Combine that with the right girl who's crazy about you and then throw in a couple of MILFs here and there.....next thing you know you're a stud. See, older women can teach a young man lots of tricks. First Milf I ever had was when I was 20...she was 30. I think that crapp changed my life in the bedroom. I swear, I havent been right since. Ever since that little stint....I havent ever been able to get enough ass to sastify my cravings. It doesnt matter if I get it 4 or 5 times a day....the very next day I want it just as much all over again. The only restraint is there's not enough time to lay around all day and bang.

Baby P made a good point about the K-sutra. Ex-miss-cashmoney bought the book...or a smaller version of it I think. Anyhow, once she started wanting to have sex everyday and all the time...she bought the book and said she wanted to try all the positions.

I have to second a lot of what cashmoney said. That's all I have time for right now.

I like "Family Business," too. Quality television right there :p

Yea well, there was a lot more i wanted to write but i didnt have the time either... ;)

kate--Ditto.


I've only had one partner and I'm happy about that, my boyfriend however, he was a little whore before I came along :p He's told me about numerous times that I'm the best he's ever had and that I'm a naturall ;)

Plus it doesn't hurt when you can make your bf come to the brink of blacking out in the good way :D ;)

Ok, so I totally understand that watching the body language thing. But, do you think if you've heard from like 3 or 4 different people that you give the best head ever that maybe it's true? Or are they all lying? :p

I kinda figure if it's ok but not the greatest, you just don't say anything, right?

Once you really think about it....When have you never liked head? In my view there's really no such thing as bad head. I don't know one guy, who's straight, that doesnt like his penis being in a girls mouth period...regardless whether or not she knows how do it up right. The thing is, you have some women that were born to suck a good penis. They have the right lips, the right mouth shape, the right teeth...everything. Then you have girls that werent born to give head and it doesnt come naturally. Those you have to teach but more often than not become the best at the job once you teach them.

Still, you're not going to find a guy who doesnt like head.

It depends on whether you asked or not. And how polite they are . . .

Wow, thats the best Tex Mex I ever had would be an obligatory compliment if you cooked.

Plus there is always the posibility that they are saying it because it was actually terrible . . a kind of cover ;)_

Not that I think thats true. I am just teasing.

I would NEVER ask a guy that unless I had been with him a long time and thought I was doing something wrong.

I guess I would just think the best thing is to assume you're the best until told otherwise.... Shows confidence, and guys like that, right? ;)

Thats right.

strangely enough, there's been a strange pattern throughout my life where the best head i've ever received was always the last head i've received . . . hm, i wonder . . .

One word will change all that: teeth.

-Rudey

LOL. I was wondering when someone would bring that up.

The best movies to know about the Tantrica practice is:

The Kama Sutra--and Indian movie about the tales of love...

Bliss--with Craig Sheffer

The best book on the Tantra is by the Muirs, "The Art of Conscious Loving".

The best set ups are by The Kama Sutra--Weekender Collection and Body Chocolate Paints by Dilitante Chocolates...

Also, Queen Afua's Books on Afrikan Holistic Healing teaching appropriate cleansing habits before and after sex for healing baths...

Such as Sandlewood Oils are good for most men, whereas, Rasberries are good for women... There are reasons for that... Let's just say it tastes better...

Margot Anand music is a must to put sound in the mix. And there some Tantra CD, but, I think it's a waste of time and money...

Like I said on some other posts, only practice the Tantra carefully--NEVER do it with any old body. Most people's guards are waaayyy up the first time they have sex with a new partner. So performance is very low.

Also, if no relationship has been expanded, no matter how high the level of attraction, the sexual act will have a level of violence or quickness or whatever level you want to assess to it.

Besides, the Tantra was used to help procreation, so folks who do not want children will want to watch for that key aspect...

And, when one lets his or her guard down, then there is always a risk of inappropriate feelings arising... Something that they call the "gut chakra" activating... Especially when you are trying to get to the green heart chakra and beyond...

Just think, one look by your lover will make you express the "nectar of Amitra"... Y'all ain't ready for no kinna special lovin' by Shakti and Shiva...

Tantra means expansion... The Divine Sex... Folks who practice it, maintain their love relationships...

Now as far as the type--such as a "dichotomous relationship" or "multiple parties involved one" are two different stories...

Believe me, finely practiced players get angry when their world's rocked... Think PC muscle "scratch" without anal stimulation...

The University of Indiana has an institute to answer such questions... might want to ask there.

I think I'm in love . . hehe . . . ;)

You best be careful... It might be a bit too much power between your legs, honey... Sho you got the DCIK-strength???

Okay so I have a question.

Say a girl meets a guy and they have a one night stand. That's all they expected -- just a one night bang and that's it.

Fast forward two and a half years later -- they've never officially hooked up (even though he buys girl Tiffany's/Coach/Louis for her bdays and Xmases), but they still get together (all the time, even when he's had GFs) and it's always like it was the first night. Bear in mind that guy always calls girl and girl HAS NEVER called guy whenever she needed some ass.

Would it be egotistical for the girl to think that she's doing something right? Or should she just assume that guy is just a horny bastard who gets tired of his hand or his GFs that can't quite hit it? :confused:

The girl should have a small statue made of her so that other girls may show their appreciation.

She gets wild sex when she wants it and he buys her expensive gifts but doesn't try to control her?

She should write a manual lol.

She gets Tiffany's/Coach/Louis for Birthdays and Christmases??? Then, she's Finessee-ing and layin' it on him right to get the hook up like dat...

Slow motion for him...

But, hey, Homey knows what homegirl is AND he knows her price range...

That's why you just don't layin' it onnn lak dat, back, front, side ta side, to I like it daddy---and be sharin' dat chit with sum odda chick...

But don't hate, 'cuz boy's being a playa... Don't hate the girlfriend, 'cuz she really don't know... Just know the game--And it just gets Pimped lak dat dere...

Oh, I think the manual is already in the works. :D

He doesn't control her and vice versa. She doesn't expect the gifts, but they're definitely appreciated.

What's cool is that they're friends and they respect each other a lot.

To sum it up, he's convenient, she's convenient. Everyone's happy.

Sometimes the girl feels bad because she know he got a girl.

But fcuk dat, a woman has her needs.

I think that I am probably bad at sex. A lot of times I just want to lay there and not do anything which doesn't usually work out since 99.9% of guys like the girl on top. Which I believe is because THEY don't want to do the work. Lazy asses.

Oh and my ex boyfriend told me I was an awful lay after I've had too much to drink, but I guess thats probably what happens when you can't even remember your name.

My friend Dara was notorious for falling asleep on her BF. I think it's obvious that their sex life was bad.

Thats when you just pile the pillows up, put your head on them and put the ass up in the air. You don't have to work and no guy ever gets lazy over that one. ;)

When the glass windows are broken by my man's voice at the end of the night, that's how I know I'm that damn good. :cool:

Imperial1

All of you girls that are making your BF Black Out . . . you need to teach a class.

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Scratch marks on the wall/bed post are a good indicator.

The game is to be sold, not told. :cool:

Imperial1

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I second this opinion!

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Broken bedposts and holes in the wall are better :p

My last apartment had scratches on the wall from the headboard when I moved out. :p

Yea, me too....only mine had holes in it as well as scratches. :D

We have to move the bed back to the wall every couple of days because it keeps shimmying to the middle of the room. We also screwed up the dryer, but I think that can be fixed :p The neighbors have mentioned the noise (screaming, bed smacking the wall, etc), but it's mostly "what are you doing that makes it that good?" We practice Tantra, and I swear it makes everything so much better. There's a connection far beyond the physical. Our entire relationship is amazing, not just our sex life.

Chris hasn't blacked out yet, but he's come pretty close to it. He told me that I have a "gift" and that the last guy I was dating was insane to let me go. Of course, having someone whose sex drive matches mine helps a lot. The former Mr. Bunny didn't and it kinda killed my urge to want to rock his world. If Chris didn't work 12 hour days, we'd probably be going at it 4 times a day. Right now it's pretty much just before bed (whenever we can actually make it home, out of the car, and in the front door). There must be something in the water that makes those Texas boys fucking awesome. I'm not giving him up any time soon!!!

DAMN... Does he have any hot friends still in Texas?? :p LOL

Something about those deprived military men that keeps it going--especially the Marines... But the Navy doesn't too bad either...

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Rock and roll and wiggle with it while on top and he's inside... Then make it bounce...

Nobody said that you cain't have de-funk-tifying in the shower with you and Mr. Bubble...

So homegirl and her homeboy were talking the other night about "the future". Yeah.

Homeboy wanted to know if the homegirl would join him wherever he's at next year when he joins the NFL (because he most likely will).

Now homegirl doesn't know what to do. :confused: