When is it TOO soon/late...
 

to...

-have sex with someone your casually dating?

-consider someone your dating as your boyfriend/girlfriend?

-start sleeping over at each others places?

-meet their parents?



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5th date

10th date

20th date

30th date

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No seriously, It depends on the situation. It's never "too soon" or "too late". I'd say just let things go at the pace that they need to.

38 minutes
a week and a half
33 minutes
four years

Concerning these matters, I think that it is up to the 2 (and only 2) parties involved in the relationship. You should go with your heart and your gut instinct. On a personal note however, I wouldn't introduce someone to my parents unless I thought they had potential to be a serious long term relationship. If you have the "talk" about dating exclusively, I think that ties into when you can start calling someone your boyfriend/girlfriend. As for the sex question, some people do it immediately, some wait, it is a personal choice and again, it has to be up to the two people involved. Don't confuse sex with love though in the beginning of a relationship.

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-have sex with someone your casually dating? 5 minutes...you dont want to look slutty so wait at least 5 minutes

-consider someone your dating as your boyfriend/girlfriend? never have a boyfriend or girlfriend it's too shitty

-start sleeping over at each others places? whenever you want some

-meet their parents? never parents are dumb


haha jk

;)

Lets see.... just going by the time table w/ my last bf.


-have sex with someone your casually dating?..... 3rd date

-consider someone your dating as your boyfriend/girlfriend?.... he asked for me to be his gf on the 2nd date

-start sleeping over at each others places? I started sleeping over on the 2nd date (but that was all we did... i put off sex until the next date)

-meet their parents? hahaha, we broke up after a month so I never met his parents, but I have a feeling that it would have been at least a few mnths.


However if I were to do it all over again I would wait until at least a month to start having sex. Basically sex=me sleeping over at his place, so that would be a month too. Dammit, if I'm gonna go over there and screw him I'm at least gonna spend the night. And I have no restraint, so if I sleep over, he's pretty much guaranteed sex.

I think it depends on experience. In regards to sex and sleeping over, I would recommend that someone who hasn't been in a serious *adult* relationship take things slower than they would like, just so they don't rush into physical intimacy, and confuse sex with love. Once you have a little more experience under your belt, you can probably move faster. At least, that's how it's worked with me.

Labels? Have always come naturally. Sometimes I've had the "State of the Relationship" address, sometimes no.

Parents? I guess in college, sometimes you have the option of meeting parents a little earlier, since parents come to visit, and most kids don't live too far from where they go to school. It seems to depend on how much pressure your families put on you...some like meeting casual relationship-mates, others assume that every person you bring home is the One.

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Why would you be dating someone you're not having sex with?

How can you be dating a person who isnt your boyfriend/girlfriend in the first place?

Sleeping over at each other's places while not getting any? Thats retarded.

Meeting the parents??? You never really meet the parents, just their represenitive. That said, only when you have to.

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you say that as if it is not possible

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At our age, its highly unlikely and is often looked upon as wierd. Honestly, if some girl wanted to date me but didnt want us to have sex....I'd think she had some STD or something.

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or she could be a virgin. it is not weird to date and not have sex. sorry if seems i am snapping at you, i am just very annoyed at some things.

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Adrian-

You're not snappy. I just havent ran in to a virgin since high school. ;)

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they are still out there though. it is funny how rare girl virgins are. to me, that makes them more beautiful

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Maybe I should start going to church if I want to find them? ;) Sometimes the worst girls are found in church. I remember meeting this one chick at my parents church when I was 16 or 17 yrs old. Make a long story short...I seduced her and then 4 months later I got a call from her saying she was pregnant. I didnt think it was mine, the dates were all messed up. She kept saying the kid was mine even went to the state attorney after the kid was born and them tried to come after me when I turned 18 years old. I got a DNA test done...came back negative. Did it again....came back negative. The kid was not mine. Ever since then I've never hit on a chick that I thought was hot while at church.

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not everyone in church is pure. everyone knows that. don't let the cover fool you. but also, do not let it make you think that all church girls are undercover loose women.

whether you are a virgin or not does not concern me. i just hate how some people make them (virgins) feel like they are outcasts.

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Don't they have some hotties at New Life? ;) :D

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hello? i go to that church, so what do you think? haha just kidding. there are some very pretty girls there. some are engaged though.

TOO EARLY
 

have sex with someone your casually dating? before you officially go out.

-consider someone your dating as your boyfriend/girlfriend?

the next day

-start sleeping over at each others places?

the same day

-meet their parents?

Before you go out with them.


I somehow to meet the parents on third date I dont know why BUT when its time for HIM to meet MY parents - at least four months!!! Most of them dont make that long - I dump them.

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Hey, being engaged doesnt mean jack...ok? I just got out of one. :p Hey let me ask you a question....do you know Heather Malevan? or Malvan? or maybe it's Mailvan? I forgot how to spell it. Anyhow, she's tall. I think she goes to school down at Warner Southern or one of those type of schools down south. She may have even graduated this past spring or summer.

The answer - anytime you're ready.

Seriously, there's no timetable on relationships and when to do certain things. There are exceptions to every rule, and a relationship isn't something you can hold to certain guidelines.

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you are asking the wrong person. i never know anyone. i need to get out more.

anywho, the percentage of people engaged getting married is pretty high here. remember when we talked about the pastor's son? well his third son just got engaged

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Brandon? And I'm sure you know who Heather is, just ask Paul Jr....he should refresh your mem.

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no brandon is already married. i am talking about nathan

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I'm going to come to your church one day. Pray that the walls don't come tumbling down from the sin that walks in. ;)

i want to know when you do. i am not missing such a history making moment;)

-have sex with someone your casually dating?

It depends on when you and the other person feel it is right.

-consider someone your dating as your boyfriend/girlfriend?

When you have talked to them and you have decided together to be officially dating.

-start sleeping over at each others places?

When you're comfortable doing it. My boyfriend slept over before we started dating - - - because we were friends before that. :)

-meet their parents?

I think maybe once you are official, or maybe it depends on if they LIVE with their parents. My boyfriend (of a year and 4 months) lives in Illinois, and I live in Michigan, and we met at school in Illinois (although not where he is from). Due to that fact, I didn't meet his parents until our 1 year anniversary. It may be weird to some people, but not for us. :)

What if you've conceeded that you're only seeing each other, but no titles have been addressed? Is it safe to call someone your BF/GF then?