How much do YOUR parents know?
 

How much do your parents know about the people you date and your sex life.


My mom was one of those "wait til your married" parents. However, she is one of my best friend and I tell her almost everything. I lasted 4 days before I told her I lost my virginity. Suprisingly she wasn't pissed as I thought she'd be.
She also figured out when I was sleeping w/ my last bf before I even told her.

Of course I don't get into the specifics of it, as that would just be weird. But she does know about every guy I've dated and slept with.

She also knows I plan to go hook up w/ the ex-bf this coming up weekend. Considering my mom is 65years old (i'm only 20) and she waited until she was married and has only had sex w/ 1 person in her entire life, she is suprisingly cool about my sex life.

So how much do you tell your parents?

my mom knows very very little. I barely bring guys home only if they are "marriage potential". but I always end up dumping them. oh well. I believe parents shouldnt have to know much as long as its legal of course. I am sure my mom knows I am not a virgin but its not said or talked about. My mom is the same way as yours - sex after marriage.

My mom has only met one guy that I've dated (actually it was only 1 date). The rest of the guys I've dated were while I was living away from home. But she knows all about them from me talking to her on the phone and such.

I haven't told my parents anything but they've got to know by now. I have my boyfriends & boy friends over while they are away & I often stay the night w/ my boyfriends/ boy friends.


I think my parents put themselves in denial. Its just much easier for them this way.

I don't think my mom ever expected for me to wait for marriage. She's a licenced councilor and she's worked with so many teenage/college clients that she knows better. (It's a little harder to live in denial when you hear about pre-marital/teenage sex every day). In fact, when I was with my ex, SHE tried to talk to ME about it. She said when I thought I was ready to have sex with him, I should come talk to her about it (YEAH right, plus she was a little late with that).

Now, this Thursday (after some drama with his parents about moving back to Mexico) my fiance is coming down from IL to live with my parents and I until we close on our house. My parents (well, my mom...my dad doesn't get much say) were debating on putting us in seperate rooms. My mom was talking to a friend about it and she said "HELLO, she's pregnant, what difference does it make if they're in the same room...she can't get MORE pregnant!"

And it wouldn't be pre-marital if we had gotten married when we were planning...but my mom wanted me to wait and focus on the pregnancy without the stress of planning a wedding...and consitering we're living with them and they're helping finance our house, we'll play along with them for now...

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My mom knows what I do. If my dad knew he'd have a heart attack......after he got out his shotgun.

I would have to hang myself. If I were married and pregnant I would still deny it all to my mother. She's my mother ewwww! Oh, she'd like me to talk about it and she'd like for us to be all close like friends. FORGET IT!

My parents know nothing but probably assume a lot.

I'm sure my mom is in denial. What she doesn't ask she doesn't have to know. It is something I would much rather not talk about with her. Besides, being in college away from her, she doesn't know about my doctor appointments...or what kind of doctor I see. I keep up with my yearly junk all on my own.

My mom knows a lot since she pushes for information each time she calls me when I'm up at school. I figure I'll tell her and keep it in the open and if there's a problem she'll stop asking about it. This goes for anything, not just relationships.

That is also how I got the bit of wisdom from her, "It's ok to date as many people at once as possible, you're not married so it's not cheating." :p

Re: How much do YOUR parents know?
 

I think the last time they knew I was dating someone was either my senior year of HS or the end of my freshman year of college.

Either way- they dont know jack about my love life. And I like it that way. If I ever get someone special and important to me then they'll know about it. I failed that test twice though- 2 different times, 2 different guys- I should have taken them home and I didn't. Needless to say that put a nail in the coffin of the relationship.

As for sex life: hell- my sisters know everytime I go on a date and almost everything about my life and not even they know anything regarding my sex life.

My mommy doesn't know very much about my exes. I usually tell her after the fact. Culturally, I don't think she can handle it. But you can never hide anything from mothers, they know too much!

Too much, I think, but my mom did give me sage advice on how the guys at this school sucked 30 years ago and they still suck today. :)

I'm from a 'wait till you're married' house. I'm sure they assume what really is going on but secretly hope it's not happening. Denial has always been a favorite location for them. I started telling my mom about a make out session I had with a fella the other evening and she was like "Ok that's enough talking about him" and it was just KISSING. :rolleyes: I know they are still carrying on the same idea with my younger sisters, teaching them nothing about safe sex, so I like to make sure they know they can talk to thier big sis about everything and anything.

I actually AM one of the "not before your married" types (not judging anyone else; it's just my own decision :) ) But even if I was haivng sex, HELL NO my mom wouldn't know.

I don't even tell her about guys I date, or guys that I like. Of the guys I've dated (there's been about 6 or 7), she's only known of two of them.

mom knows everything. period.

now daddy is another story..... denial like whoa.

My dad passed away not to long ago...so I'm sure he knows everything now. He's probaby hanging his head in shame...

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i can't decide if my parents don't know, don't WANT to know, or what. as far as I know, they know nothing, and i will continue that b/c i'm so from the southern baptist no-sex-before-marriage-upon-penalty-of-eternal-damnation kind of houses. ;) actually, i had the "i think i'm gonna have sex with my b/f" talk with my mom 4 days after i lost the v-card.......she was really cool about the whole thing, just pointing out the bonuses of waiting. in some ways, i kinda wish i had stuck to the original plan of waiting, but at the same time.....well, y'all know how it is! :D

Oh, my parents know. And my mom wants to be my best-friend-type and talk about it. I think that I'm more restrained about talking about sex with my parents than they are. But it does save from having to hide the fact when my boyfriend comes to stay at the house on holidays with me. :)

Mine is reversed than the majority of posts I've noticed :p

My mom is in denial.....and my dad buys my birth control (The Pill). :)

My parents always assumed I was a raging ho, when I was actually pretty innocent.

my mom was the type who just "trusted us." there were many times when my boyfriend and i would come home to an empty house after school (the same with my brother and his girlfriend). my mom used to let boyfriends stay at my house overnight (when they were there, although i did know friends whose parents let their children have their significant others over while they were out of town).

i told my mom when i decided to go on birth control. her only issue was "dont tell dad." she knows i have sex but she's okay with it because she knows i'm safe. (the same with my brother) my mom never had this kind of relationship with her mother so when she was raising my brother and i, she felt that by being open with us and vice versa would make life a lot better.

in general i was one of those kids who was able to do what they pleased, but i knew if i messed up, i wouldn't get to do the things that i was able to. i had no curfew ever, i could go out during the week as late as i wanted to (as long as i got up the next morning and went to school all day), i could skip morning classes if i felt like it, i could leave school when i felt like it. i was one of those kids who just got bored easily and i needed the freedom to roam. thankfully my parents saw that and let me do my thing. i was an honor student and i did well in school. the teachers didn't understand my parents way of raising my brother and i but for us it worked.

the funniest part was everytime i would go into school late my mom would ask me if i wanted her to write a note for me. i was like, "hell no, they check the handwriting and compare to previous notes.....i've been doing this for years, if you write a note they're going to think i forged your signature"

I think my mom thought I was doing a lot more than I really was for quite a while.

I told her about a year after I lost my virginity, and she had assumed that I'd slept with my first (serious) boyfriend and just never told her. She had no idea I'd "held out" so long.

She's a little more comfortable talking about it than I am, so we generally avoid the subject... I know it's going to get mega-uncomfortable when we start trying for a baby. :o

my dad knows nothing. period. and i guess thats why he assumes i'm dating my best friend. i've told him i'm dating a guy and he asks me about him sometimes but thats going to be the extent of it. he prolly knows we have sex but doesnt act like it. so i'm hoping he doesnt but if he does, i'd rather not know he does. to save myself the embarrassment.

my mom SHOULD know about my boyfriend but she doesnt pay any attention to me so she prolly just thinks he's another friend. i have a lot of guy friends. they out-number the female friends. my best friend comes over a lot and he's allowed to stay the night but its usually because he doesnt have anywhere else to stay and his parents have kicked him out for the night. my boyfriend comes over sometimes but usually at 7AM when he gets off work and my mom is already gone to work. and then one or both of us leave by 11 or 12. most of the time i'm gone to his house. he's not allowed to spend the night. i'm sure if she thought he needed to then he could but he'd have to take the couch. as far as i know, she doesnt know we have sex but she could just be playing it off. if he's here and we're in my room then she won't come in there but later she tells me that it doesnt look right for him to be up there with me alone. i would never in a million years tell my mom that i'm having sex because thats just not something to talk about with her. i have hard enough times trying to talk to her about school and stuff because she just doesnt pay attention or she wont let me finish talking.

my boyfriend, on the other hand, tells his mom anything she wants to know. theyre really close and she knows we have sex and she's fine with it. if we go there for anything she's super sweet and if its late she tells me to just stay the night so i wont have to drive home. she makes sex jokes too.

i wish my mom had been the type i could talk to and the type to let me by with stuff that really isnt bad. i've never really had a curfew but she has thrown fits about me coming in late on a school night. if for any reason i missed school or missed a class she would take my truck away until she felt she could give it back. she's a control freak. she realizes that i'm independent and get bored easily and have to keep moving and keep busy but she uses that against me and i hate it. i will never do that to my children if i have any. my mom is totally opposite of everything i need but if i try to explain to her what i need she just thinks she's a bad mom and starts crying.

My parents are firmly in the "wait until you're married" camp. I'm... well, not. ;) As far as I was concerned, they didn't have to know anything... until Mr. aephi alum and I decided to move in together. Realizing that my folks would notice that our addresses were suddenly the same, I broke the news gently to my mom. She took it surprisingly well, asking only if we were using protection.

My dad is another story. He could write the book on living in denial. We've been married nearly 5 years; I think he thinks I'm still a virgin. :rolleyes:

Parents know (for other reasons, they had to have access to my medical records, and they know what prescriptions I'm on), and have known since I was about 16. Do we talk about it? No. They know I'm safe and have been so.

My mother and my father both know... but it's not like something we discuss often. My dad only knows because my mother tells him everything :p Even before my mother officially knew though, I think she just assumed, like she does with my sister.

My fiance and I decided to wait til marriage, but both of our parents think we're humping like bunnies. They'll say stuff to us and we're like, "No, really, we're not doing anything", and they'll say, "RIIIIGHT."

They DO, however, think my sister waited, when, in fact, she didn't. They always see her as the goody-goody and me as the rebel. I guess things change :)

And YAY for my 500th post :D

Same for me.

My mom said something to be about sleeping with my boyfriend (who I have been with for 5 years, we waited 2 years into the relationship to even have sex..) a little while ago.

She brought it up at a horrible time.. I was driving.. on a curvy back road with her... I almost crashed because she caught me so off guard. Here I was thinking I was being all stealthy-like :rolleyes:

My dad is in denial.. hell.. he's still in denial that I've kissed a boy. :eek: hahaha

I'm from one of those families, too. I know my dad thinks I'll stay a virgin til I'm 30. My mom on the other hand... well, I'm sure she knows something, but probably assumes it's a lot worse than it is since I sleep at Mr. Bunny's nearly every night. We really do just go to bed most nights, and I like it that way.

I'm going to go on the assumption that they're clueless, though. That just makes me feel better. I don't want my parents knowing about my sex life. When I finally get pregnant I'm still going to want to deny it, because the topic of sex + my parents= really friggin awkward.

So true. My father once mentioned he was so proud that me and my brother knew the power of abstinence .... when i had been living with my bf for several months.

yep thats it. i always wonder how much my mom knows. people say parents know more than you give them credit for but do they really? i wonder if she knows i stay at my BFs house some nights...i mean its not like i leave to go see him or leave with him. lol. just kidding. i do. prolly too obvious.

My parents don't know a damn thing. Not that there's that much to know, but the little there is, is none of their business. I like to keep things undercover. Makes if easier to deny if the time ever comes. Not that I have to since I'm a well-behaved, upstanding young gentleman.

My mom thinks more has happened with me than it has in reality. I STILL get the occasional "Are you sure you haven't had sex??" Granted, I've come close a few times, I never went through with it.

I think it's kinda funny in retrospect because when I was in high school, I just wanted to get it over with, but it just never happened for one reason or another. As I got older in high school, I realized that I wanted to wait for the right person, but by no means was I going to wait for marriage. Well these past 2 yrs almost, I was convinced I had found the right person and was truely ready to give it to him when he came home (met him here but then he got deployed in the army..so it turned into a LDR), but then I found out he was cheating on me. So now.. knowing everything that he had said to me about being in love and wanting to get married in the future, I'm not sure I can trust another guy when he says all that stuff, so now I'm waiting until I'm actually engaged..or I might decide just to wait another year for the wedding night... I just don't want to be hurt that's all. I'm too emotional as it is, and I think that I'd go ballistic if the relationship I had with my first one ended badly (ie cheating).

Be glad about that! I gave my V-Card away the first opprotunity I got. I had my first kiss AND lost my V-Card all in one night. I so regret it now. Especially since he found "the One" right after breaking up with me and he is now engaged to her. There's not a day that goes by that I don't regret sleeping with him. He was a total hottie 6ft 4, with tons of muscles and a sexy tan, but I definitely wished I would have waited. :(

Yeah, I know a lot of guys can't handle having sex with held, but I *try* to make it interesting in other ways. ;) I'm not a COMPLETE prude...

The way I look at it, the one man who *is* willing to wait until whenever for me, is the man who deserves it most.

I tell naaaaaaaaaaadaaaaaaaa....my parents know very little.

They know my boyfriends and friends well, but they'll never know the 'details'. For what? Do I want to hear their details? HELL NO. And i think that's only natural...you know those things you don't broadcast in the hallway at school or around the office? Yeah the same rules apply at home.

Mom was from the "I don't wanna know school". I got on the pill my freshman year and confessed to her when I came home for the summer. She took it so so:
"I don't like it, but I can't do sh*t about it. I'd rather have ya on the pill than preggo"

She still thinks my college sweetheart was my first. :p

Yes I am married but I do NOT talk to her about my sex life.

My sperm donor doesn't know much. He knows that I had a serious boyfriend in college. We haven't spoken in 3 years (and I plan on keeping it that way).

My mum knows. I don't care. She's pretty cool with it. Even my brother talks to her about sex.

My dad on the other hand, well he knows, bu just don't mention anything to him or around him. I think it freaks him out.

My mom's pretty cool about stuff like that. When she gave me the "sex talk", she said- "Sex is wierd at first, but once you get the hang of it, its a lot of fun!" :eek: We don't ever get into details, but she knows what goes on.

My dad, on the other hand... I told him I was on birth control (I have a hard time hiding things from my parents), and he looked at me and said, "I'm going to go throw up now." hehe. Its just hard when daddy's think their little girls have sex.