Do you excuse yourself when....
 

you pass someone in narrow spaces?

I was taught to always say "excuse me" whenever I needed to pass someone in a doorway, aisle, etc. I was also taught to get offended whenever someone else doesn't say "excuse me" when they pass me.

I noticed lately that people rarely say "excuse me" whenever they pass me. I used to get really offended, but now I question if this is becoming the norm. When I was at a picnic and a party sunday night, there was little room, NO ONE excused themselves when they passed me. A few even pushed me gently to get me out of their way. Of course, I didn't move for them until they said something, but I didn't get defensive.

Yes. Even when the brush up is neither person's fault (due to lack of space, etc), I still say "excuse me" or "pardon me".

I don't notice a complete lack of manners or anything....people still offer an "excuse me" often enough for me to still have some faith in the world. :)

I don't get offended when people don't say something unless they really knock into me or push past.

.....Kelly :)

I always say "excuse me" when passing someone in a narrow space. And, for the record, I always thank someone when they hold a door for me. It's always good to be polite :) (I know I sound like a priss, but I just got my kids to bed so I'm still in mommy mode)

By the way, Dionysus: The answer to your signature question is "no" :) Also, is Missourah the right pronunciation or is it Missouree? Or is that one of those questions that divides families???

Yes, ALWAYS!

People not saying excuse me when they pass (especially in grocery stores, etc.) is one of my biggest pet peeves.

always.

although i've noticed many people don't. i've also gotten many dirty looks even though i do say it.

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How are you "taught to get offended"????

Yes, it's polite to say excuse me, and I try to do it...but to be "taught to be offended"???

Not all people have manners, and not all people have the same manners, why expect more out of people then you know you're going to get? I would rather be pleasently surprised when people do say "excuse me" then pissed off if they don't

I do say"excuse me" and I try my darndest to teach the kids at my school to say it, too, expecially when they are all trying to get to one area of the library shelves. I'm just glad if I can get them not to just say "MOVE!!" when they need to get by.

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You're right. You shouldn't get offended or annoyed at all whenever you feel disrespected. :rolleyes:

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Being annoyed and offended is no way to spend your entire life, and you can find something disrepectful all over if you're LOOKING for it. I'm just saying that maybe you should go around LOOKING to be disrespected. I mean, how do you even drive without going off the deep-end if you just go around looking for people being disrespectful?

It's one of those questions that divides families. Younger people from St. Louis and Kansas City tend to say MissourEE. Older people from rural areas tend to say MissourAH. There are exceptions, of course. :)

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Having a specific pet peeve doesn't make you an annoyed and offended person in general. Please don't get those two confused.

Not a big deal, but I say it. Doesn't bother me a bit if someone else didn't say it.

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I was also taught to be offended. If you hear how rude it is (or not nice in little kid speak) not to say "excuse me" you learn to get offended--someone is being mean to you, therefore it is offensive. At least that is how my family is.

I always say excuse me if passing someone. If I pass someone in an aisle and I walk in front of what they are looking at, I also say "excuse me". If I am with another person, I always say "excuse us"

And for the missourEE and missourAH thing-- I would agree with Dionysus. I say EE, my mom says AH--- my argument to my mom regarding the pronunciation-- my name is WendI --pronounced WendEE not WendAH!!! She doesn't buy my argument!!:)

Yes I do.
But I also say sorry or excuse me (apologetic not accusatory) when someone pushes me.
It's a Canadian thing, partially.

I say excuse me. I like to be polite. But it seems to surprize a lot of people.

I say excuse me whenever I'm in a situation where the walking is narrow. I also say it when I'm cutting in front of someone's line of vision at the grocery store while they're debating over which box of cereal to get or whatever.

I also thank the people who open doors for me or show me some other sign of common courtesy.

YES. To not do it is tacky and those people should be smashed with a sheet cake.

My dads peeps are from Missouri and I learned it as MissourAH.

They were from rural MO.

I always say "excuse me", unless it's my brother, because after years of saying "excuse me" to him, and getting the reply "Why, did you belch?", I just stopped saying it around him!

(Of course, he was a teenager back then... it would probably be safe to say it around him now)

Dee

I do, but most people in this city don't. When someone bumps into me I usually say "Excuse me would have been nice" or "Excuse you". They usually just look at me with a blank stare.

yes.

I always say it. I was taught that you always say it and it is rude if you don't. I don't get offended if others don't because I know not everyone is raised the same way. What is important to some is not important to others.

How true that is!

I always say excuse me when passing people in a narrow place, or sorry if I accidently bump them or step on their toes.

However, I can turn into an uber bitch if you purposely push me out of the way, especially on the TTC.

I'm suprised no one else had mentioned this. I'm suprised by how few people will say anything when they do this to you, or conversely, how strangely people will look at you when you *do* say "Excuse me" as you reach for your Pop-Tarts.

I was looking for new eyeglass frames yesterday, and there was another girl in the store, maybe in her late teens, very early 20s. We were both looking in the same section, and I was standing back aways, just darting in to pick out an occasional one I wanted to try. This girl stood about 2 inches from the frames (and I know it wasn't because she couldn't see, she later pointed something out halfway across the store), giving me dirty looks when I reached for one, and actually walking in front of me to look in the mirror as I was trying some on.

Of course, though, that doens't hold a candle to the tween-age girl who called her mother an f*ing c*nt standing in line at Lerner's. I actually had to silently count to 10 to not turn around and slap the little brat.

Sorry... I'm on a ettiquette/deceny tizzy right now :)

Yes, I always try to say "excuse me" when passing people in narrow hallways, doorways and the like. I also say it when I'm at the store, reaching or moving around someone to get something I need. Does it bother me that not everyone does so? Not really. It's not something I feel it's worth getting all bent out of shape over.

I have it from highest authority, Marian Klingbeil Williams, former Kappa Fraternity President, NPC Chair and graduate of Mizzou that it is indeed Missouree. (Yes, this was actually brought up at our Convention, in a humorous way.)

Saying excuse me is like second nature to me (must be that canadian thing). I don't notice I'm doing it. I don't mind if people dont say it back when we are in a passing eachother or reaching over, as long as they don't do it in an arrogant manner.

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No, i just bump into em and nudge em with my elbow and keep walking.

Thats not what bugs me even though I do say excuse me in such a situation.

What really bugs me is when you hold a door for someone and they dont even say a word let alone a thank you.

I just think some people are too lazy to have manners ? who knows...

Now that I really hate.

I pulled this girl BACK through the door one time and walked out first.

oh I really hate that.

Especially when you were already through the door.

And then you are holding it just for them.

Makes me wanna push em down.

I have a neighbor like that. Suddenly, I become the doorman when I see her. No "thank you" no acknowledgment whatsoever. After it happened twice, I no longer hold the door for her. I haven't seen her in a long time so maybe she has moved and graced another building with her rude presence. ;)

I always say please, thank you, and excuse me. I was raised right. :)

Oh my! That's just outright disrespectful and that her mother allowed that type of behavior is ridiculous. I'm no parent but no child of mine will ever utter those words to my face and get away with it.

As for the Missouree/Missourah thing I feel that it is definetely Missouree, however my mom says Missourah. But my dad, sister and I also say Aunt and not Ant (like Mom does) when refering to a sister of a parent, so I guess it's all about where you grew up.