Cheating Defined
 

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Anything from have a sex to cyber/phone sex, to dating to cuddleing with some one.

I would say any physical contact that goes beyond what you'd do with a friend -- kissing or more. Beyond that, I think that there could be emotional cheating, but I'm not sure how I'd define that.

Not to get off on too much of a tangent, but do people actually have cybersex or phone sex?

There is definitely emotional cheating. In my last relationship, I was worried that there was something physical going on with my man and someone else but then I started to get the feeling that it was more emotional than anything else and I was losing him in that respect. There is a change in the relationship that, if you're paying attention, you can see.

If I know there's chance that you're attracted to a particular person, anything is cheating - physical or emotional. I'm strict too in that I consider viewing pornography to be mental cheating.

Allowing anyone who you may or may not be, but could eventually be, sexually interested in become closer to you than your your girlfriend/boyfriend/partner - emotionally or physically.

My EX ran into his Ex girlfriend one Friday night and slept with her while I was out of town for the weekend. He did promptly break up with me as soon as I woke up on Monday morning. He tried to say it wasn't cheating, but I disagree. He couldn't keep his pants on for a day or two until he broke up with me. Thats cheating.

I think Valkyrie has a pretty good description.

I also think anything over a hug. I may give him a chance to redeem himself if it was just a kiss, but chances of it only being a kiss, are slim. If you have to kiss someone else you obviously arent interested in the other person anymore.

Ditto to Valkyrie's def.

When having FRIENDS (of opp sex) is some sorta CRIME it's time to say "puhleese".
 

@ "emotional cheating" : hahahahahahaha. Oh please.

I could expand upon that but, really, puhleese.

It's common sense and doesn't need to be defined.

-Rudey
--Like love and the color orange

Re: When having FRIENDS (of opp sex) is some sorta CRIME it's time to say "puhleese".
 

No one said having friends of the opposite sex is cheating. And I definitely think their can be emotional cheating. If you are more willing to bond with and open yourself up to someone besides your significant other, there is definitely a problem and I would probably call that cheating.

'Emotional Cheating' is a nonsensical invention of American so-called relship experts
 

If you are unwilling/unable to bond with or ever open up to people generally, bar with one person; I would probably call that a possible psychological problem.

Re: 'Emotional Cheating' is a nonsensical invention of American so-called relship experts
 

I didn't say anything about being unwilling or unable to bond or open up to people in general. What I said and what I meant was that if you form a stronger, more emotional bond with someone besides your sig. other then you are cheating in a way. I realize there are exceptions to this and every rule. But for example, say a woman is married but meets a man at work and she proceeds to open up to him and share things with him, maybe intimate things, that she doesn't even share with her husband anymore. I'd call that "emotional cheating."

Mental & emotional cheating exists, but not in the definition most of you are "making fun of." Even if there is no phsyical contact between two human beings he/she can still be cheating because falling in & out love entails more than just a physical relationship, but a mental & emotional relationship too.

I have to disagree with that statement. I cheated once on someone that I loved very much. I kissed another guy. Looking back on it I realized later on that I had deeper emotional issues that I hadn't dealt with that led me to cheat. In no way did it mean that I wasn't in love with my boyfriend.

In general, I think cheating is, a lot of times, a case by case basis. It's hard to come up with one general definition that applies to everyone and eveyr relationship.

Like preciousjeni, I have a very strict idea of cheating. However, I don't think that porn falls into mine.
One of my ex-boyfriends tried to convince me that he hadn't cheated on my because I was in another city. We broke up before I found out, but I realized that he broke up with me because he knew I would find out.

This is a really good definition. You guys should reexamine it.

It especially applies to anyone that is in a really long relationship.

If people find themselves doing this, it shows that there is a lack in their own long term relationship.

ITs usually a good sign to move on because the other person isn't meeting enough of the needs someone needs met by their significant other.

I call them surrogate relationships. Relationships that are substitutes for a encompassing romantic relationship. The Best Friend when you are single.

Or the a supplementary relationship, where you develop it to compensate for what is lacking, excitement, closeness whatever.

ITs a sign to make a move.

Agreed.

I once ended a relationship because I felt there was a high chance of me cheating and I did not want me cheating to be the reason the relationship ended (it was an odd ending).

now what kind of kissing?
i think on the cheek and 'friend pecks' are ok.
but if it's inspired by more than saying bye to a friend, then there are problems.
i'm jumping on valkyrie's bandwagon, people still have cyber/phone sex?!

oh, and i don't think look at porn is cheating. if anything, it's a blessing, because it gets him to leave me the hell alone.;)

Technical cheating would be anything that could be determined as romantic contact with someone you are interested in or is interested in you. At least it will appear that way to the person watching.

what would you guys do if it were the girl who cheated on you and by cheating - kissing or more...

um, what would i do if my girlfriend cheated on me?



























let's go with, "break up with her"?

I agree with valkyrie's definition.

But I think there can be emotional cheating. I'm not talking about crushes on other people... it's hard to explain. I think it's possible to get too close to another person while in a relationship. To depend on them like you should depend on your lover. But it's only really detectable by the person doing it. Because only they know what's in their head.

I think what really matters is how you and your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife feel about the situation afterward. Are you going to make it work or aren't you? People make mistakes, and this is one that happens all the time.