Posts on GC that could reflect bad on us cuz our GLO is in our signature
 

This issue was just brought up in the listserv Sorority Alumnae in Yahoo Groups. Some people have stated that Greeks post things on the message boards that are inappropriate when their GLO is represented in their signature because it will reflect bad on the GLO. I can understand this completely. While some things I believe are fine to post because it is our opinion, certain GC'ers are putting their organizations at risk. I was just reading through a thread where the GC'ers were talking about "shot glasses" with their letters on them. This would definately be a no-no I must say and the evidence is right there in the post that could get them in trouble (because obviously their letters are at the bottom of their post). My opinion is that while we are all only human we should be more concious of our actions and what we do that represent not only ourselves but our organizations as a whole.

I know that this may not be right, and that I can sometimes assume too much about a person from the language they use, but it always rubs me the wrong way when I read a post where someone is talking about an experience with their GLO, mention the name several times, and use profanity throughout the post.

As some may know, I used to not give a flying fart about the kinds of threads i would start here in retaliation of another's threads (for example the thread i started about things girls hear guys say durign sex or something like that). Despite having my GLO"s in my signature at the time it seemed to be the "norm of GC" at that time (august '03 through about decemberish '03) so I didnt think too much about it.

However upon becoming an advisor for my chapter and deciding to come back to church and be a practicing Catholic, I now feel like I should set a better example and no longer or try not to (i'm by no means perfect) post such things and try to be more mindful about my use of language here. Now that I have stepped back and looked at some of the things I posted, I feel ashamed and try my best to do better.

So to all the Thetas, AKPsi's, and APO's: If i have offended any of you with my posts, I am sorry.

oooooh weeeee i was guilty of this biz-nass (thanks to MIA librasoul and some of the threads she started :D ), but hopefully i have mended my scandalous ways. :)

the problem is, a lot of ppl's GLO's are in their SN's, too.....or ppl are regular posters so you already know what groups they are in. i don't think we need to censor everything we say or reveal about ourselves. i DO think ppl need to be courteous and respectful of other's...moreso than we need to watch what sexual or drunken stories we tell. i do remove my sig, though, from anything questionable.....last thing i wanna do is cause my online sisters embarrassment. i just think it's just as important to remove our letters from nasty posts as it is to remove them from nasty posts.

winniethepooh7- do you have a book of thread topics nearby???;) i think half of your total posts is from starting threads....i am just teasing you:)

If you really believe that your organizations are damaged by risque posts that have your signatures on them . . . Then your organization is already screwed because its been going on for years.

Unless, that is, you believe that the very next one might be the one to cause your entire organization to self destruct . . . lol.

You girls, you are endless in your attempts to micromanage each other. :)

I'm concerned but I don't let it temper my words.

All of us were individuals before we were Greek.

If a GREEK can't separate my words from my affiliation then I really have to question their cognitive abilities.

I don't represent Omega Psi Phi with all that I say. I represent myself. Sometime my Brothers will agree, sometimes they won't.

Worrying about what I say on a website should be the least of their concerns in regards to me upholding the true tenets of Omega.

I know right.

I wish she would join my MSN Group and start topics in the different forums there.

winnie, could you just list all of your questions on one post?

There is limited useage of web space.

There is also a part of GC that you can go back and look for similar threads.

It is the search at the bottom of a Thread on the right side.

There are many that you repost.

Thanks,

It's funny how some of the mods trash talk new users. It's as if they were moderating, but instead they're really just trash talking.

-Rudey

I agree with laidbackfella here.

Me too.

What is offensive differs from person to person. Some people are offended by accounts of underage drinking posted on GC, some aren't. Some people are offended by ANY accounts of drinking posted on GC. Some people are offended by GCers admitting they use or used drugs, have or had political opinions, have or had sex (etc.!), swearing, bad grammar, personal attacks, whatever. Some of this stuff offends me. Some of it doesn't. And I'm not going to tailor my posts to omit anything that might be offensive to someone out there somewhere.

And even if I did, it wouldn't necessarily be all that effective. Some of the people on GC who I think are not the best representatives of their organizations never have any of the above in any of their posts -- and sometimes its their insistence that everyone appear perfect all the time that reflects even worse on their organizations. I know a handful of GCers who have received PMs from people not even in their organizations saying they're a disgrace to XYZ. Personally, I think that things like that can reflect on your organization in a much worse way than, say, admitting that you've experimented with drugs.

Co-sign...

You can't please eveyone...anything you do say on here can be taken the wrong way.

Plus, this is the way I see it...Alpha Sigma Alpha took me as me (not a censored PC version)...so I'm going to be me, an Alpha, a woman, but also an individual....

The only thing that really bothers me in terms of seeing my letters in a signature is ignorance or stupidity. I can handle just about anything else because I respect the individuality of my sisters.

So what's one supposed to do when members of your own organization don't respect your individuality and they chastise you (either publicly or privately) for being "a horrible representation of your sorority"? :) :D :confused:

Tell em to show you where it's written as protocol to always be warm and fuzzy in your org's membership material.

Right under the part where it says we must never leave the house without four pounds of makeup, duh! :p

LOL.

Now is that before or after the part that says you can't curse in public?

We may have the same handbook. They just change up the gender for Fraternities and Sororities.

Same section on how to behave. It also says no kissing until marriage and we can't go on dates without chaperones. :(

Dammit.

Can we at least hold hands in public with our significant other?

I need to read through the whole thing.

I've noticed that you Sigma Gammas are a bunch of morons. :cool:

Yeah, we're HOs too, but what can you do? ;)

Pardon the interrution but I'd like to formally invite all Sigma Gammas to a cookout.

You can PM me for details.

Carry on

As it was pointed out when this happened to me....isn't publicly chastising a sister of your own organization also being a horrible representation of your soroity....I mean PNM Pam might read it and say: "Hey, I don't think I want to be a SKEPi, if their memebers are acting like that against eachother in public...I wonder what they're like when no one's watching..."

And as for privately...I feel that my sisters do have the right to privately express concerns about my behavior on a national public forum such as this, and I have the resposibility to listen...but then in turn, I also have the right and they the responsibility of expressing/listening to my point of view (I'm an individual, not only a SKEPi...)

PS....Thank you SKEPi for always being a good sport of us using your letters in every trashy situation....

Letters or no letters in a sig....saying things on GC can come back to you if you're in a GLO. Believe me, I know.

In a sense it is the same as in undergrad~you get one or two people doing inappropriate things and it reflects on the whole sorority. I remember all those dramas back then. Most of the times people are ignorant to their own behavior.

If someone doesn't have the sense to know that not all XYZ's are _____, then it shouldn't matter what they think. Even still, stupidity and outright trashiness should be avoided in the interest of brotherhood/sisterhood and self-respect.

We'll be there! ;)

I'm only going if I'm promised all I can eat ribs.

Sandy loves her ribs.

You have the ribs and I'll have the veggie burgers. We'll never argue about food! ;)

<-------- was recently sent a PM about my current signature.

<---will send PMs if Sorors type anything I feel does not represent Finer Womanhood.

Re: Posts on GC that could reflect bad on us cuz our GLO is in our signature
 

Because YOU brought GC up.

We don't talk about things that happen on justintimberlakeishot.com, the Buffy message board or IM (or we shouldn't) on GC. I believe that it needs to go both ways. That board was created not only as a more controlled alternative to GC, but so we could discuss things privately among sorority women we didn't want viewable by everyone, like GC is. It's not a contest as to which is run the "right" way and I feel like that's what you want it to be.

If you prefer it there, fine - but this ain't that.

I was trying to figure out how to respond to this but I really dig the "I shouldn't even be posting this" response.

Senusret, anyone who would send you a mean PM will have to tangle w/ your GC fan club. :)

Re: Re: Posts on GC that could reflect bad on us cuz our GLO is in our signature
 

LOL

It wasn't that bad.....but clearly the signature hasn't changed. ;)

I don't know who would send you a PM about your signature.
Your current sig clearly speaks the truth. :D

Re: Re: Posts on GC that could reflect bad on us cuz our GLO is in our signature
 

Oh snap.

I personally think the worst reflection on a GLO comes not from opinions or admitting that sometimes you do "terrible" things like drink or swear or smoke or have sex for reasons other than procreation, but from people who can't spell. Seriously, members of GLOs are college-educated. It's you, not u. It's sorority, not soritry. It's because, not cuz. You (or your parents) spent a good hunk of money on getting that degree - show that you've deserved it.

Dang so there's no hope huh?

Re: Re: Re: Posts on GC that could reflect bad on us cuz our GLO is in our signature
 

I agree.

I don't know. I'm still holding out for a good guy who's not, gay married, my cousin, or dead. There have to be some good single, straight men that we aren't related too out there.

Now I had no idea that having your letters on a shot glass was a "no-no" so to speak.

Are you kidding me? That's one of the most jacked up things I've ever heard.

Eventhough someone decides to join a GLO they are still allowed to be an individual. I've never heard of anyone having to sign their life and rights away when the decided to join. Call me crazy but I don't think our respective GLOs control the way we think (not yet anyway).

Here's to ordering more shot glasses with my letters on them!