Role of a Sweetheart?
 

This might seem like a petty question, but what is the role of a fraternity sweetheart?

I was honored with the title this year, not because I brought cookies to their meetings, or because I'm dating a brother, but because I sincerely love the brothers of the organization.

I intend to continue to support the organization by attending events, rushing boys for them, and just looking out (boys will be boys)... but I feel like now that I have been "deemed" sweetheart, I should go all out.

I don't want to turn into one of those girls that go into their meetings just to bring them cookies, or to say hello, if I do something for them I want it to be different, as well as sincere.

I REALLY want to congratulate the new E-board, and make/bring them something as a token of good luck for the forthcoming year...

Anyone have any input?

PS: I get my jersey this THURSDAY! YAY!:D

It means that a good portion of the chapter has major sexual tension, resolved or unreolved towards you.

i know of a fraternity who had a sweethart named after their flower and the only reason they picked her is because she had sex with the majority of the fraternity

ahhhhhhhhhhhh

i have not slept around within this chapter...

i am regarded to as one of the "boys"...

i rationalize their behavior and keep them out of trouble...

why didn't i see this coming?! :(

A sweetheart is one who is voted on by the brothers because of her contribution to the chapter. for example: helping out with rush.

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Re: Role of a Sweetheart?
 

In my experience, nothing. Or whatever you want it to be.

That is to say, there was no expected "role" for our sweethearts (like many other groups, we can have only one at a time). It was an honor we wished to give them.

So I say do whatever seems natural and appropriate to you.

Re: Role of a Sweetheart?
 

A lot of my sisters have been sweethearts for different fraternities on campus and here are a few ideas that they did:

Make dinner for the e-board, the boys will enjoy a home cooked meal

Volunteer your house/apartment for a party

Remember birthdays, make sure every brother in the chapter gets a card on their birthday, if you leave one out it will be bad news

help during rush with whatever they need, whether its running to Walmart for last minute things or greeting rushees at the door

Help them with any of their events, philanthropies whatever

If your chapter of DPhiE and the fraternity aren't that close, be a bridge between the two, introduce your sisters to the guys and vice versa, encourage your social chair to organize some sort of social or mixer

For the E-board, you can handmake them small gifts, or I know one sweetheart who went and got keychains engraved with each eboard officers bond number and the Fraternity letters, be creative!

I hope these help!

i wasnt saying you did, i just was refering to the only time i have heard of a sweethart...sorry if i offended you

We have a sweetheart program for our sorority. The guys we nominate and select have gotten really into it. Our last one would come to our first informal recruitment event and introduce himself. He brought goodies to meetings and other events and on holidays. He knew everyone's name, b-day and even got to know some of the alumnae. The night before retreat, he would go over to where the new members were having their sleepover and bring them dinner while they studied.

Helping with rush was a big one. If say during informal recruitment you have a girl walk up to your booth with her bf and the bf is interested in a fraternity, you can quietly recommend your fraternity. Don't blow it out of proportion and tell him he has to join. Just say, hey, if you are interested, I know of some really cool guys in ABC fraternity. Check them out.

Also, you can help plan fun events, like BBQs and grab-a-dates and whatnot.

It just depends what you want to put into it.

Re: Role of a Sweetheart?
 

CONGRATS girl :) Enjoy :)

i just wanted to thank everyone for their input, i really like the whole keyring/chain idea... i'm going to see if i can get a quote on that!

For the most part, i'm very supportive of their chapter already, so helping plan or decorate events has already been part of my repertoire for the past few years...

i just wanted to know if there was something that the sweethearts DON'T do that the boys might want to see them do ... like something we haven't thought of yet
(let's keep it G rated though!!) ;)

in regards to taking any offense, please dont worry about me... i REALLY don't get offended very easily, and if by chance i do, it will be apparent.. i can't sugar coat my sarcasm!;)

Congratulations on becoming a sweetheart! I have no suggestions except to have fun! :D

3F's

no, just kidding.

I'm sorry, but why are you doing all that for the boys? Wouldn't it make sense to do more stuff for your own chapter with your extra energy? Or spread it around the greek system?

I mean fraternities do have sweethearts but it was often just a girl friend of the president or exec board member, who came to stuff because her boyfriend was there.

You sound, and please forgive me, like a frat rat or a chapter groupie.

Mind you, there is nothing wrong with that, I just don't understand the motivation.

Let me CLEAR the air...

I am (in my humble opinion) an EXCELLENT sister within my chapter.

I have been an ACTIVE sister for the past four years (and continue to be), I have FOUR beautiful little sisters, and have held numerous positions in my chapter ranging from guard, treasurer, vice president, rush chair... AND i currently hold the homecoming chair & Assistant New Member Educator positions.

I am faithful to MY LETTERS and represent and hold them above ALL else...

I attend just about EVERY event my chapter holds, and have missed fewer than 6 chapter meetings since my initiation. I have volunteered at convention 2000, and will be attending convention 2004 this summer! :D

In addition to being an active member within my chapter, i am an active member of the FIU community, and have been a part of Dance Marathon at FIU for the past four years and served on its E-board as well ... unfortunately, since i am graduating this December, i cannot take part in DM 2005 next year :(

I THRIVE on being busy, and being kept occupied...

I admit I dote on the men of the Delta Zeta chapter more than I should, but I will never place any organization before the one I CHOSE to join. I was originally introduced to the chapter via my Big who spoke volumes about these men, and lo and behold, a semester later, my friends from highschool decided to join, and I just became very close to the chapter...

I'm not going to lie, I take pride in the fact that I know more alumni and brothers of the chapter than perhaps, some of the new brothers do... and I relish every moment shared with their chapter.. those memories in addition to those shared with my beautiful chapter are the ones that are forever embedded into my memories...

These men treat me as one of their own, and I am HONORED to "represent"them as well... for FOUR years, I have been known as "Carolina the DphiE" and quite honestly, things haven't really changed a bit...

All in all, I am DAMN PROUD of who I am and the organizations I represent, and I apologize profusely for the extremely long resume resembling post!


(BTW- i LOVE controversy, James.. keep it coming!) ;)

a few years ago I was the "Kappa Delta King". that is pretty much equivalent to a sweetheart i guess. although, I wasn't really a sweetheart. only reason I was deemed Kappa Delta King was because they held a "dude pagent" for their Shamrock Project and I won. they even put me in their composite.

none the less, some of the KDs could care less that i won. haha. its funny but it is true. as far as what i did? well, i guess i just did the lame thing of giving them cookies and candy at their meetings. i wuold sing to them, write poems for them, do a ilttle dance. tell them a joke. actually. it was really fun being their " King".

BTW- i completely forgot to quote you on that...

i thought it was hilarious!! :D

Even i had to laugh...

i've NEVER heard of the term "FRAT RAT" before! LOL :p

I have, but I thought the term FRAT RAT was a term used to describe a guy from a frat' who'd sidle up to girls to come onto them, playa type. Rather, than the girl in the situation.

Nope. Frat rat is sort of the Greek equivalent of "lot lizard". Maybe in other places it means something else.

LOL. I never heard of "lot lizard" what the hell is that ?

We always called those little groupie freshman types "Frat Rats" at my school - I have never heard it used to describe the boys. We used a lot more, um, colorful language when we were discussing their shady ways.

That's what we called 'em, too.

The frat rats are often the ones who are always up under some guy in a fraternity, but then have the nerve to call Greek women "sorostitutes."

Congrats on being named sweetheart, on my campus it was a pretty big honor!

sounds like a lot of work... baking cookies and stuff.. maybe i'm just lazy. what are you getting out of it?

Does one have to get something material out of it? She just seems to love that chapter and is close with them; I think it's cool. :)

It's a prostitute whose M.O. is to wait around truck stops in order to get w/ the road tired and sexually frustrated truckers. They kind of lamely hang around and will do almost anything to get w/ them.

i love how this thread went into a complete tangent... :D

Congrats, Random. Your boys sound like the guys in my boyfriend's chapter. I became a sweetheart pretty much the same way you did. And no, James, the boys don't have unresolved or resolved sexual tension regarding me. :p I've been dating one of their brothers for over 3 years so I'm thought of as an extension of him more than anything else. :p

I think it's nice that you want to do something for them. Just keep in mind to keep the "gift" small. Going overboard can make people feel awkward, especially guys. See if you can do something small but fraternity-related. I think keychains were suggested? Sounds like a nice and inexpensive option to me.

ETA: I'd just like to add that I think in many cases, fraternity men respect the women who hang out with them who contribute a great deal to their sorority, as Random does. In many cases I think that's WHY they choose some sorority women as sweethearts. The guys here see that I love and uphold the ideals of my sorority, and since they do the same, they have a great deal of respect for that. When you have that common bond, it makes choosing a woman who you think represents what your group is about (to a certain extent, of course) that much easier.