Fill in the Blank: In Honor of Mother's Day...
 

No Matter How Hard I Try,
I Cannot Get My Mother to Understand __________________


If I'm upset, then I'm upset and I'll tell you (speaking generally about others, not her) I'm upset. :rolleyes: :D




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To call me after 7PM on my cell as it is FREE at 7PM not 6:45 or 6:59PM....7PM mommy....that is 7 o'clock (your time and mine)

That just because she gives me advice, it is just that, advice. I am still going to do what I want to do. I'm a grown a$$ woman now.

...that she can no longer fight my battles (although it's sweet that she still wants to :) .

..that the clothes and sneakers I pack up for Salvation Army are off limits!! LOL...she's a funny lady..:D

Good One
 

I can not get my mother to understand how to leave a message on my voice mail.
That I'm grown.
That I'm my own woman.

A time that we do not talk about how I look physically. Like who has the body image problem??? Can't you be satified with the way I look no matter what??? And why am I trying to make you happy so that you love me more??? This is driving me nuckin' futs!!!

... that I am an independent woman. I always have been and always will be. I like my own space. It's not you, but I don't want people all up in my face sometimes.

That I have the message center at home and NOT an answering machine so yelling "Hello...baby? Are you there? It's your mamacita" isn't going to get me to pick up the phone because I can't hear it.

Deltabrat, that is way too HILARIOUS!!!!!



I can't get my mom to understand that I want to talk to her MORE often. I feel really envious when my friends complain about their moms calling them TOO often. I wish we would talk everyday...even if it's just to say, "I love you. Now, bye."

...that I am truly am a woman now and that she must let go.

Wow...that's really nice!

I wish my mother would only call me like once a month. I don't know anyone that can make me go from zero to bitch in 2.2 seconds like my mother. I wish she would understand that I am grown now, and I don't need her approval nor do I need unsolicited advice. I wish she would understand that the reason why I don't tell her stuff is because she will hold it over my head later. I wish she'd understand that just because I don't talk to her everyday doesn't mean that I don't love her...I just have to love her from a distance. I wish she'd realize that her husband is the reason we aren't close. Ummm...I think I better stop now :o.

Duhhh!!! This is one for the HC section. How come it JUST dawned on me that I don't have to sit around waiting for her to call me? I guess the telephone does work both ways. If I wanna speak to her everyday, I should probably call her and tell her that.
I was sitting around pouting, and being spoiled. Oh Miss. Mocha, grow up and go call your momma!

Thanks AKA2D for this thread. I'm over here cracking up at myself. I need to get real. (Dr. Phil would be so proud of me.).

Not to kill the morale but.....
 

Y'all are a trip. Here's mine:

I cannot get my mother to understand: How much my life changed when she passed away.

Focus on the postive stuff. I would do anything to have my mom call me before 7pm, give me advice, or fight my battles for me, or any other thing that used to get on my nerves. Trust me, when your mom is no longer there, you miss those little things that used to peeve you. And mother's day is so much more difficult, when you are a motherless new mother.

Happy mothers day to you all.

Sistahdiva, you KNOW that we are birds of a feather! I've already told you all about it.... :p

Re: Not to kill the morale but.....
 

I wish my mom would understand that I can't have a job from 9-5 like she would love for me to, AND go to school 9-2. Mommy, I'm not cloned, nor will I be cloned. I have an almost full time job in the summer, so during school season can't I just have a slack job of some sort and it be ok with you????

No Matter How Hard I Try,
I Cannot Get My Mother to Understand...

that the reason my phone bill is so flaming high is because I'm talking to HER all day long!

We talk every single day, bare minimum an hour a day, over the dumbest stuff, watch tv/surf the internet together over the phone (yes, my roomate thinks I'm CRAZY) It's sweet, but she shows no mercy when that verizon bill comes through and she knows that all those charges are from HER phone! (we're like the people on the couples talk free commercial... we need to get that plan!)

I wish I could get ______ to realize_______

My Mom:
* Realize that sometimes I need you to be my Mom and not my friend...
* I'm the daughther, you're the mom...you're supposed to be responsible and in charge...not vice-versa
* It's hard to have respect for you like a mom when you've never been a mom
* I need you to be there sometimes

My Grandma:
* I love you
* I do hear what you have to say/I do listen
* I'm not my mom
* I'll never be my mom
* I can take your advice, but I HAVE to be myself
* Just b/c I'm thicker than I used to be doesn't make me a FAT A@@ so lay off sometimes
* You push me away when everytime I talk to you all you do is give me the negatives of what's going on.

Happy Mother's Day to all!!!

SKEEphis...you're in my prayers
Thanks for saying that, you really made me think.

...that even though I piss her off sometimes, I love her very much and value everything she and my father taught me.

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY MOTHERS!!!!

that i don't know the answer to everything;

that i really don't like my brother;

that i'm really going to stop shacking and do the right thing;

that i'm too old to have and set in my way to have children;

that i don't won't her washing my clothes;

that the housekey is for her using only during emergencies;

that i can't help but spend money on my godson;

that i'm trying hard not be as picky as she is and as non-emotional as my father;

that i'm not interested in her soror's daughter cause she is ugly and i don't want to come right out and say that's the reason;

LOL! Professor, although her looks are... unfortunate, I'm sure she has a delightful personality. *smirk*

Happy Mother's Day Sorors, SFs, et. al. :D

Enjoy your day!


Back to the topic:

I wish I would get my mother to understand that no matter how hard she tries, she cannot pull those guilt trips on a sista. :p :D

. . .that despite the fact that I'm now separated, I REALLY AM doing just fine!
. . .that I still feel like such a little girl around her sometimes.

I can't get my mother to understand that I'm 23 not 13
that I like my pants to be a lil' snug. :p

I wish I could get my mother to understand....

* that her actions taught me lessons beyond her wise words.
* that she was a major pain back in the day, but I'm thankful for every prayer she prayed, for every game of mine she attended, for every "you can do it" she ever gave me; (even for some of those undeserved hotwheel track whippings)
* she can stop quizzing my sisters; when it gets serious with somebody I'll holla;
* just how truly thankful I am that she is here to answer the phone when I call;

*P.A.M. -- you, indeed, are one of a kind. I love you


Happy Mothers Day to all the GC moms and those who take on the role for children not their own....

I can't get my mother to understand that I have to learn lessons on my own. Her telling me not to do certain things only pushes me to actually do it. And even though she says, "I told you so," I am so blessed that I have her to offer wise words. She's a phenomenal woman and I love her so much for everything!

Happy Mother's Day everyone!

Honestly there are a lot of things I wish my Mother would understand, but we've had a rough couple of years with her health and my aunts also, so I'm just grateful that she's here to bug me about anything........

I loves my motha GAWD knows I do.......:o but SHE CAN WORK THE HAYLE OUT OF A NERVE sometime.....:D :p

I wish my mother (or lady as I call her) would realize that...
I am my own woman, with all the love and lessons she's taught me.
That I am going to make my mistakes, and she does not have to remind me
That she so needs to let go of old isht:mad: they only breed evil:mad:
That I'm not moving back to CA..no sir!
That when I'm upset, let me be upset, it aint go nuffin to do with you..sheesh:rolleyes:
That no matter how upset at her I get, I thank GOD for her and all her crazyness.


HAPPY MOTHERS DAY TO ALL GC MOTHERS :D :D

Re: Fill in the Blank: In Honor of Mother's Day...
 

-why i choose the life that i live.

-although she was in labor with me for 48 hours...it was my grandmother and father that raised me.

I wish my mother would understand______________________

If she wants to be kept in the loop of the family secrets...when I say don't tell nobody that's what I mean. If she wants us to have a relationship like me and my Grandmother (RIP) she needs to keep her mouth closed. Until then she is on restriction.

I WISH....
 

I could get my mother to understand that we just CAN'T get along. That we are two different people. That she needs to grow up. That I am more of an adult than she is. That no matter what, she needs to get her act together. That it is too late to be a "mother" to me or my siblings. That she needs therapy. That no matter how hard I try to make a connection to her, SHE is the one that deadens (is that a word?!) it. That her mouth is going to write a check that her azz can't cash. That NONE of us (her 3 kids) can stand her. That this is ALL her fault. That help is there and so is God. That I pray that she gets herself together and that NOTHING will be right until then. :o :o

I guess I better stop now. I am happy for all those who love their mothers and have great relationships with them. I used to be hopeful that I would be able to say that one day, but as hard as I have tried and as much as I have been hurt in the process, I just don't care for it now. :(

Sorry if this is not quite what the thread is about, but it helped me release somethings. All of which I have said to her before.

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I cannot get my mother to understand:

...that because have cleaved myself to my husband and we have become "one flesh", that he is now my end all, be all family...

...that her immediate family issues are no longer my issues...

...and what can I do about them way up where I live???

...and why do I want to do anything about those issues to begin with...

...and if she wants to keep our relationship superficial and passive aggressive, then I no longer want to play that game anymore...

...that she needs keep her life together before she gets the men in her life together...

...that my grams(R.I.P.) raised me and both my sisters. Everything I know about life, SHE taught me and thats just the way it is.

-That we have been on a first name basis since I can remember. Things haven't and prolly won't change.

-I don't let my daughter around you for the same reason's that your mama didn't let me around you.

-That you have 3 AMAZING daughters, but, you're so caught up in yourself that you don't realize it(maybe you don't care...)

-That you need to get your life together. God is taking His people everyday...don't get caught without having made amends. You did give birth to me, I don't want you in end up in eternal damnation.

-That I go put flowers on my grandmothers grave, instead of giving them to you, because she was the one who put a swift kick in my a$$ when I needed it (even when I didn't) to make sure I grew up to be a responsible woman. I hope that you understand that. If you don't...well, thats on you.

I'd give ANYTHING to have my grams with me again...anything. For those of you who have your mom, grandma, whoever raised you--cherish the time you have with them.