I have to get this off my chest....
 

Maybe a month or so ago I started talking to a boy that I knew casually in high school. It led to flirting which led to HIM telling me that he was in love and blah blah.

So anyway everything was good, he was coming home to go to formal with me (he goes to the Naval Academy and I live in WV), and BAM!

We were having a slight disageement when he tells me that not only did he have sex with a girl over spring break (while I was in Washington because my grandpa died) he also had sex with a girl that weekend.

Of course I was devastated. Not only did he break my heart but I also didn't have a formal date.

So why am I still sad about this? :(

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Well, I bet you're sad b/c a guy you liked disappointed you! It happens to everyone and I would venture to say this won't be the last time it happens to you. People are just jerks sometimes and he seems to be one of them. There's nothing you can do but move on and go forward! Stick to the people who treat you right!

It's understandable that you're sad -- I'm sorry to hear that he hurt you.

But...did you ever have a discussion about being exclusive? I think that unless two people come to an agreement that they will be exclusive and not date/sleep with anyone else, both people are free to do what they want. Of course, if you did have the discussion, he's an ass and you should run far, far away from him and not give him a second thought, and if you're morally bothered by him sleeping with other people than it's to be expected that you'd be upset by what he did.

Did he confess his love to you after mere flirting? You mention that you knew him before and then you flirted and then he said he was in love with you. If there's not more to it than that, he sounds like a little boy who mistakes love with something else, and in that situation too you're better off without him.

It sucks that relationship-type things can be so difficult, but if it makes you feel any better, all that suckiness means that someday when you find someone perfect for you, you will really, REALLY appreciate it.

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Can't beleive you let him ruin your formal still! You should forget this loser who sleeps with trash and go out with that other hottie that you almost took to formal. Although he wasn't worth wasting a dress over then I dunno....but he was a cutie.

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Heh...welllll I guess formal wasn't totally ruined....I did go to the after parties! And I have a bangin' dress for next formal;)

See, whenever I get involved with someone....I usually let them be the ones to let me know where they wanna take things. So he was always the one that said he didn't want to be with anyone else and such.

We talked a lot because I couldn't see him a lot such he was in the navy. And over spring break he was drunk and said he loved me. And I was like you are saying that because you're drunk you won't mean it tomorrow. But then he called me the next day and said it again so I guess I let my guard down.......

Bastard!

He's probably gay if he's navy.

-Rudey
--Is what my marine friend said

You know sometimes that's all you gotta say to feel better!

Well his roommate did walk around naked a lot. And he said sometimes they sleep in the same bed. Weird.

Then I'd say you're better off w/o him. Bastard :)

:eek: . . .

Was he the inside spoon or the outside one? That matters a lot right now.

-Rudey

So are you implying that the "pitcher" is less gay than the "catcher"?

Regardless, i had a roommate that liked to walk around naked. He got a big kick out of surprising the rest of us by walking into the living room and plopping down next to us on the coach, naked as can be.

But we never shared a bed.

I think the "i've had sex with lots of girls" is a cover up for "me and my bunkmate are just SOOOO close"

Kitso
KS 361

Well, if he said that he sucks. Go have fun without him!!!

OK you didn't tell me this. No. If I were talking to him and he told me this. It would be the last time i talked to him. I thought guys were really weird about sleeping in the same bed.

We are not wierd about it. We just don't much do it. Girls are wierd about it. You get in bed with eachother for comfort and cuddle. That would be anathema to a masculine men.

Hey kitso, I'm a little down. Maybe i can stay at your place tonight so i won't be alone? Maybe sleep in bed with you and you can stroke my hair? :rolleyes:

--361 reasons THAT won't be happening :p

I think Val's right on this one. Unless A guy clearly says, our relationship is totallty exclusive and we both agree that we are not going to see anyone else . . well its not excusive.

And watch for us to use small avoidance phrases such as: "I don't want to see anyone else right now;" I am not seeing anyone else right now;" I can't imagine seeing anyone else right now . . etc.

In that context, now, means the 5 seconds it takes to say that phrase.

And love has little to do with fidelity when the opportunity is presented cfree and clear.

I know it sound awful but its true.

Why did he confess this stuff to you anyway? What a moron.

He just fed me a lot of bullshit and I believed it. Here are a few of the things I heard:

"You are so perfect for me, I don't deserve you." (OBVIOUSLY)

"I hope that I marry you." (Right.)

"I never thought I would feel this way again after _______ broke my heart." (Hmmm that was in high school?)

"I hope you never cheat on me because I would die if you did." (Ummm WTF?)

Then...after he went psycho...

"I'll have all the AxiD's kick your ass." (Right cause I'm not friends with most of them or anything.)

"You will never be allowed to set foot in the Phi Psi house again. (Cause they are gonna turn away a cute girl for someone who isn't a brother uh huh)

"I will ruin your life." (Right sweetie.....who's uncle is the congressman that got your retarded ass into the Academy? That's what I thought.)

And my personal favorite....

"I passed up the chance to be with a girl I've been in love with for years to be with you." (Well let me tell you she is one lucky girl to get to be with a winner like you.)

God damn I feel better. Where's that kid's number.

Well dude,

I mean, if you bring some ice cream, and your favorite sappy movies, we could do each others hair......

NO!! I MEAN NO!! HELL NO!!!!!

Seriously, most guys have personal space issues. It's why when you go to the movies with a buddy, you've got the straight seat in between you.

I have often chosen to sleep on the floor instead of sharing a bed with another man. Call me petty or whatever, but there's certain boundaries you don't cross.

Kitso
KS 361

I found it somewhat odd that they would sleep in the same twin bed as well. But then again I do have a slight history of turning guys gay.

I think that I must suck at life.

I know right. WTF. The gays love me.

maybe if you didn't hang out in so many gay bars?

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Kitso
KS 361

It's because you're so fabulous!

Also my friend dated this guy once and he was a cheerleader-which some people think it wierd but I don't. And there was this old BILLIONAIRE man that he used to do odd jobs for...like take him to the grocery, mow his lawn, wash his cars...stuff like that. I'm talkin he was old! He also let him drive his cars which included a Lambourghini(sp?), a Rolls Royce, etc. Anyhow a year or so after he dated my friend...the man died and left him EVERYTHING!!!!! He's now a billionaire...after becoming a billionaire he came out of the closet.

Ummmm.....did he plop down on the COACH or the COUCH?

:eek:

PsychTau
--361 ways that visual really bothered me.....

LOL, maybe he had a really large handbag.

You know what? When I drink and I'm around a lot of guys, somehow urination or public nudity always happens (including dropping your sack on them when they're not paying attention). It's harmless fun. One time I remember my buddy walking out naked in the middle of a party and peeing into a pitcher. Another buddy dumped the pitcher on him. Fun times.

-Rudey
--And none of that was gay by the way...I'm just saying ok?

I'll agree.

Drunk FRAPings were always humorous to watch. As well as brothers 'borrowing' the thongs of girls who threw parties at their houses and running around in them. One naked guy around 10 other people IS funny, it's a spectacle.

One naked guy around one other naked guy not in the act of getting dressed is creepy.

and he would plop down on the couch. My typing sucks sometimes :D

Kitso
KS 361

wow...a month or so? kinda quick to even talk about the L-word. was he your boyfriend?

I know it was fast. But it's so last week. I'm pretty much over it. Thanks guys:) He's beat.

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why do you still feel sad about this? You obviously liked him a lot. Usually when you are the one who gets done wrong you're the one who feels shitty afterwards. Why? Because you think something's wrong with you since he did that behind your back. Had it been the other way around and you were the one telling him that you fucked another guy......you'd feel bad for maybe a day but then you'd be done with it.;) Cheer up, you'll be here in Florida before too long.:D

Cashmoney

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That's very true. Fuck 'em. If he wants to get with skanky ho's good for him.

The bad thing is he will be in Florida too. But Pensacola is pretty far eh?

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It actually sucks when things get really intense really fast and then one person. . just basically vanishes or makes themselves repulsive.

Its kind of like cruising along at 60mph only to turn the corner and see a Wall right in front of you . .. it takes a bit to stop and change direction.

I think its great that yo got over it so quickly.

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Too far!;)

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This is SO true, James! I once had a relationship end after just a few months and it hurt more than one that had gone on for years. I was like "wait, don't go - we're still in the happy honeymoon phase... things aren't supposed to go to s**t yet!"

Soooo Mr. Naval Academy called today. At 8:30am. I was not pleased. He said "Call me later."

Uh nope.

Now I feel so in control and I am totally over this now that he's trying to crawl back (at least that's what I'm telling myself).

:D

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That's why I don't trust it when it's intense so early. Crash and Burn Syndrome!

This jackass called me a little bit ago. I answered and was like "Uhh hello?" (I didn't recognize the #) and he was like "Hey DGQueen, it's Navy Boy.....are you coming to Phi Psi tonight?"

I was like "click"

Good for you!

What she said.