Psycho/Stalker PNM's?!
 

HAHAHAHHAHA
 

My lil'Bro who was dinged for being a weirdoh/disrespectful pledge. Man he could not get it_we did not like him; and we gave him an explanation. To me that was very nice of us alittle to nice. He would follow any member in the quad around. Jeez, he even followed my ex-girlfriend around trying to find secrets out, what secrets is what I'm wondering. Also, he claimed to have different names and lives, sh#@t he was a mad man.

Someone needs to tell that girl to get a life. If she's rushed 3 times and she still hasn't gotten the bid, it's not going to happen. I don't agree with the folks on here that tell you to keep COB'ing over and over again. Why lower yourself to that level of pathetic? There is more to life than being a Greek.

Wow, that chick is all kinds of scary :eek:

You know, the minimum grades to join a sorority aren't exactly astronomical. What; anywhere from a 2.5 to a 3.0 maybe? And this girl hasn't been able to make grades three times??? It sounds like she needs to spend more time on the schoolwork and less time on stalking the TriSigmas. Before she knows it, she'll be done with college and will have basically no education and no status in the sorority and she'll be wondering where the h*ll four years went and why she can't find a decent job!

DITTO!!!!!!!!!!!DITTO!!!!!!!!!!!!DITTO!!!!!!!

I believe i and someone else has posted about this before.......I dont like it either giving PNM's false hopes when we all know what is going to happen most likely, and since we all know that they are usually recognized when they come through multiple recruitments. A year or so may have gone by, but those that remember names will remember that person's name, and those that remember faces will remember that person and 2 and 2 will be put together. I dont mean to sound harsh or a bitch but that's how I see and have seen it first hand on both sides.

A few years ago, we had a girl who was obsessed with ZTA. I still had AOL at the time. The girl did a search through the AOL profiles to find UCF ZTAs. At first, she just emailed us to let us know she was interested. No big deal. Then, she started IMing us. I would sign onto AOL and I would get an IM from her immediately asking some really weird questions. During the summer, we weren't supposed to talk to the PNMs but she still kept trying to get ahold of us. We all put her on block. She would then show up at the places that we hung out to try and talk to us. We'd all be hanging out at a bar and the stalker would come running over to us and try giving us hugs. It was so weird.
She never ended up going through recruitment. Not sure why.

Someone probably shot her for being so annoying . . . :)

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Okay I must have too much cold medicine in me, did he ever make it into the chapter or is this a relative as in younger brother?

I've been friends with a girl for a while who's obsessed with AGD. I mean, yeeeeah I am flattered that she loves my sorority like that, but come on.

She rushed us when she was in college but for some reason we've never extended a bid to her. The reasons for that have never been disclosed to me because they know I am friends with her...and they probably don't have the heart to tell me "OH IT'S BECAUSE SHE'S PSYCHO!!!". They know what I really think about her, but as with all reasons why PNMs get cut--they try to be discreet and confidential. :)

So now she wants to join AGD as an AI. Ok, cool. She's not even an AGD yet, so why the HAYLE is she already looking into booking a flight to Chicago for Convention? EEK EEK EEK EEK EEK! :eek:

The alums are well aware of her "reputation" of not being the most well mannered and "stable" person. I don't think that my friend quite understands the honor of being an AI.

I think I need to start being mean again and I should just tell her to leave me alone.

ARGH.

We had a girl who went through rush who really liked our house, but we ended up cutting her about halfway through. She had a twin sister who was like the total opposite of her, and we didn't cut her, but the twin sister ended up pledging another house.

So anyway, on bid day, we got like 5 calls from this first twin's girl's mother demanding that we give her a snap bid, and we were just like "wtf? We CUT your daughter." It was really odd.

oooh oooh, i had one of those.

this girl went through rush as a freshman and was cut. ok. i wasn't even in college at the time. then she decided her junior year to go through cob, but didn't get a bid. i was a member at this point and truthfully, was iffy on her getting a bid. i knew her personally, so in some ways, i felt really badly. in other ways, i knew she was completely inappropriate for our chapter. in the fall of her senior year, she decided to go through formal rush. again no bid. great...she wanted to cob with us. some people who knew her pretty much stopped her from trying again. she was still friends with a bunch of people and it was fine. she would say that she was an honorary sister. on our letter days, she would always wear pink. i heard a rumor that one of our sisters gave her a bid day or formal t-shirt and told her she could wear it. she always wore it under a sweatshirt, tho. so spring comes around and our chapter gets a message from the greek advisor that panhel is going to bring us to judicial because we are promising freshmen (who can't even go through formal recruitment until the fall) bids. we were pretty shocked and asked who was the sister that was being accussed. ms. honorary sister.....yep...some members from another sorority on campus thought she was a sister and overheard her talking to freshmen and telling them that they could get bids at phi mu. we obviously couldn't get in trouble for that because she isn't a sister.

there is a part of me that hopes that this girl never finds out about alumnae initiation. and if i ever heard that she was trying to become a member, i would email the chapter president and fill them in on her real story!

i have a story that is slighty on the other side. In school i pledged XYZ, had a great time blah, blah, blah (if you want the whole story go here. When I was finally ready to leave and move into another dorm, I was telling my pledge sisters that when I go through recruitment again they should really seriously consider giving me a bid. I do believe that they thought I was psycho, perhaps I was a tiny bit from the grief, from what happened to me. Needless to say, none of this happened because for one, I was not going to through the humiliation of FR again and when I had moved into the other dorm, one of the pledge sisters happened to be my suite mate and that was a bad experience. Afterwards it was pretty hard reverting to a normal life of school and friends outside the sorority because it was basically my life from the time I stepped off the plane, but I did and moved on. I did freak a tiny bit during FR the following Fall, but by then I was ready for something else.

But STALKING is something entirely different and these young ladies in the above stories, truly need to get there heads examined. :eek:

I'm just glad that I had a support system through my family and friends that helped me, I don't know that I would not have gone to these extremes. Perhaps these ladies don't have that.


ms. gwyn

I never thought of that...could be a possibility. At the same time, UCF has a pretty close-knit greek system so we tend to know who is a member of what sorority. It might have been that she was an alumni member of a sorority that was trying to get us to break the rules but I would like to think none of the sororities on our campus would be that petty. :)

This is definitely a bizarre one. My neighbors daughter is (was) a real sweetheart. I've known them for the past 8 years. Anyway, when I first rushed, her and her mom were real nice and even gave me a small gift when I got a bid from Sigma Kappa b/c they knew it was my first choice.

Well, soon after, they told me that they were investigating all the Panhellenic websites b/c they had decided that the daughter wanted to join a sorority when she got into college. O.K. I thought. That's smart. Then they sent out for information on the ones she liked.

Pretty soon, on Tuesdays I see her wearing shirts that say "I love Sigma Kappa" and ones that say "My Best Friend is a Sigma Kappa"
I asked her where she got them and she told me that they had them custom silk printed at the mall b/c she decided that she loves my sorority. Now she's getting weird and it gets WORSE! The next time I saw her on a Monday, she was dressed up and I asked her why. She said that b/c she knows we have meetings on Monday so she has to look her best.
As if that wasn't enough, she is now contemplating buying one of our pins on E-bay so she can have ready for when she gets a bid from us. I've tried to explain that just b/c she knows me is not a guarantee of a bid but it seems it goes in one ear and out the other. The good news for me is that she still hasn't heard back from the colleges she applied to so I'm hoping my school rejects her b/c she is weird.

We had to deal with a complete psycho one year... I've told her story elsewhere. Long story short, she came through formal rush desperate to join a sorority, and got cut across the board before pref. One of my sisters really liked her, though, and invited her to a COB rush we held a few weeks later. Again, a decision was made not to extend a bid. I think she wanted to try to COB again in the spring but was talked out of it...

We had one girl I remember that tried to pull that stunt. I think she came through rush my soph year and was cut by everyone. She was in the same extracurricular activities as me and some other sisters and she always freaking asked us when the next COB was or if we wanted to go out to dinner with her, or, if you can believe this, she once asked me and another sister if we were ever going to pledge her or if she should just start coming to meetings. :eek: :eek: WTF? Fuh-reak. She finally stopped asking when we just started ignoring her.

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Say Suzie PNM goes through rush at her campus multiple times but does not get a bid. For some reason, there's something about her that sororities don't like because they don't extend bids to her.

And then you find out that not only is Suzie PNM transferring to another campus with Greek Life, but she's planning to go through rush again. One can't help but wonder if she's just doing this to be accepted in a sorority.

Psycho...? Or no?

I dunno if it is psycho. It is not unheard of for PNM to transfer from a school with a competitive Greek system

It would depend. If Suzie's school is very Greek influenced, there's nothing to do if you're not Greek, and she's miserable because of it, well, I kinda wouldn't blame her.

But she's transferring to the new school JUST to rush and the academic programs are nothing remotely like what she wants....yes, psycho.

Gwyn-
I read your story in the AI thread... and you know... national groups have rules about kicking people out of a chapter (there are VERY few reasons why you can hold a pledge pack from initation). What they did was probably not allowed according to their constitution. I'm sorry that happened to you!!!!!

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Superfreak, superfreak, she's super freaky...

For somebody to have rushed multiple times, they're an upperclassman. Transferring that late in the game is pretty unusual.

33girl-It would depend. If Suzie's school is very Greek influenced, there's nothing to do if you're not Greek, and she's miserable because of it, well, I kinda wouldn't blame her.

I am 100% with this statement. People tend to forget how much the recruitment experience meant, either good or bad. I know a lot of these stories sound really...well odd to be honest. Still, these are very young girls who may come from families that have no concept of what rush is all about. Lack of maturity, lack of polish, lack of knowledge- I say give them a chance UNLESS it's REALLY scary behavior that needs the attention of a professional.
BUT sometimes recruitment is so successful, the numbers don't bode well for anyone who "missteps".

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Co-sign!

WOW!!!! You win!!!! That is weird :eek:

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!

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if that's the only reason she transferred was to pledge a sorority, then yes I think she's a psycho......or has priorities messed up.

Geez, you Sigmas sure are popular! hehe.

wow.. that's SCARY.

I think it works just the same as, say, a new sorority that forms that bases everything they do/symbols off that of a national sorority that they "like".

It's like they are trying so hard, that it just becomes a major turnoff.

I'm sorry that you have psycho wannabe Sigmas

I black balled my first little brother because he went nuts and attacked our president. Plus he lied to us about everything and said that learning the creed (what we all live by) was something he didn't care about, just looked at what needed to be in done to get what he wanted. Those are his words, don't ask me what he meant by that. He's nuts.


My real little brother who is still and always will be Theta Chi is much cooler.

Okay, this wasn't just an individual psycho PNM, it was a whole group...

AST is on a few campuses where they are the only NPC sorority. On this particular campus, AST had been there a good 40+ years. Anyway, one of the local groups, not knowing the official way of "going National" and not bothering to find out, decided on their choice by looking up the other NPC sororities on the internet. Once they found the sorority they liked (btw, it was b/c of the colors and the mascot that they made their choice), they all went out and got letter shirts, t-shirts, buttons, car stickers, etc. and proclaimed themselves members of XYZ! :eek: Needless to say, XYZ's headquarters got word of their "new chapter" rather quickly and called the group to say that they were flattered by their choice, but they had gone about it the wrong way...

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This happened on my campus. We ended up with the girl pledging us after her second trip through rush on our campus, which was the second or third school she had transferred to. Probably shouldn't say anything else.

That is all.

When I was a PX, there was a pnm who was OBSESSED with ZTA. Going into Pref. she had gotten cut by ZTA, but not from all the rest of the sororities. When her PX told her, she went nuts! She threw a chair and yelled at her PX because she knew that she was a ZTA (which she wasn't) and blamed the PX from telling her sisters not to invite her back. No matter what any of the PXs did she would not calm down and security ended up coming to "remove" her from the student center. She then dropped out of recruitment.

A few weeks later, I was working in the bookstore, and this same PNM came in and bought all ZTA stuff (bumper stickers, I "heart" pins, cups, etc.) and when she got up to the register I was like "Oh, did ZTA snap bid you?" and she looked at me glaringly and was like "No, I'm just gonna wear it so people think I am a ZTA and it will piss them off!"

I ended up telling one of my friends that was a ZTA about this next day in class. Apparently, the Greek Advisor had to meet with the PNM.

I heard she had dropped out of Elon the following fall.

Whoa.. why would someone spend a ton of money (at least around here Greek stuff costs a lot of $$) just to "piss someone off"?!?!?! :eek: :confused:

I think there are just a lot of kids who went unnoticed in high school... and when they get to college, they go a little nuts in the new social environment... and then you realize, they're quite crazy OR just very immature and unable to handle the rejection.

Also, I think a lot of PNMs are very overzealous. They're so excited to be at college and are really sold on the idea of joining a sorority. They may hear reputations or know someone, and they decide "I'm rushing for XYZ," when they really don't know any of the members or how the system works.

I also think that the "etiquette" factor of wearing letters that are not your own is something we take seriously, but PNM's just don't know any better unless they care to investigate it further. IE: I want to go to Yale, so I buy a bunch of Yale stuff. I want to go XYZ, so I buy a bunch of XYZ stuff. The PNM's intend it to be flattering, but they don't know that it is really a turnoff. Can't blame them for being young and unexperienced, though.

I do blame the ones who are psychos for being immature and I am proud of any chapter that can keep those people out of their chapter until they grow up a little!

ETA: I hope no one thought I was making light of psycho stalker PNMs. I certainly understand that the only people who should wear your letters are the members of that org! But I was also remembering what it is like to be 18... pretty clueless! So while it is wrong to wear letters that aren't your own, and there are some legitimate "quirky" people out there, imitation (while not always the most appropriate) is the highest form of flattery... and even the more immature "quirky" folk do grow up at some point... maybe to the point where they finally get it and will be a good fit for a sorority!

Damn...http://www.handykult.de/plaudersmili.../shakehead.gif That's sad

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When I was a new member, there was a suitemate of mine who basically rushed because she was our suitemate and really had no other "friends" outside of us (I should say acquaintances though). To make a long story short, when the new member process began, she didn't get along with any of the new members no matter how hard we tried. She used to literally scream and yell at us constantly, and talk about how much she hated most of the sisters. The sisters ended up dropping her when she threatened to kill one of us, and showed one of the sisters this huge knife she had in her bag. I learned after I crossed that she went to h.s. with one of my sisters who begged everyone not to give her a bid cause she was crazy but the sisters decided to extend her a bid anyway because they couldn't really just go on my sister's word at the time, and besides, during rush, she presented as being sweet as pie. Needless to say, the one person on my line she threatened ended up dropping and one of the reasons she said was because she was so stressed out with this person constantly threatening her.