The One Most Important thing about your mate
 

If there is one thing that your desired/current mate MUST have (no compromises), what would it be?


As for Nikki's mate, he must have INTEGRITY

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I will bless the Lord at ALL times His praise shall continually be in my mouth. (Psalms 34:1, KJV)

As for Nikki's mate, he must have INTEGRITY

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I agree with you Nikki, I think integrity is a must.

Okay, if we have to limit it to one thing ;-)

It would be INTELLIGENCE.

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Intelligence

If she can't hold a conversation then its not going to last. I once went out with a girl that talked about nothing but music videos and her hair. What the hell is that?!?!

He has COMPASSION.

I knew that I could trust, honor, and obey this man when first I saw that he was truly compassionate.

IMHO
A person whose heart is ruled by compassion has, by default: self love, integrity, honesty, passion, a desire to love, sincerity, strength, and the ability to give of themselves.

my man has all of dat, and den sum... I lub him.

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"Success usually comes to those who are too busy to be looking for it."
Henry David Thoreau

You may think that I am joking, but I am not. My mate must be able to CRANK! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif There are other things that I want as well, but he must be able to CRANK, IRON, DRIVE, LATCH. HOW EVER YOU WANT TO SAY IT http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif I AM VERY SKEERIOUS ABOUT THAT! AND YOU KNOW THIS MAN! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

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skeet, skeet!!!(DRUNK OFF NIAGRA) http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif



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TRUE DAT!!!
Hahahaha... No tell us how you really feel!!!
But I feel you, seriously... He can be the mostfinestwonderfullest man in the world, but if da' pipe ain't laid right... He's not much more than a Nice Guy.

I had to step out of my Halo and Wings for a sec http://www.smilies.nl/devil/goodnevil.gif

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"Success usually comes to those who are too busy to be looking for it."
Henry David Thoreau

Girl, that is how I really feel! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif There are other things that I want him to have, but honey that is high high high on the list. Girl, you don't want me to really tell you about my prerequisites now do you. That's another chapter entitled SPECIAL FAVORS 101. Let me stop before Soror Regulator and dem delete my crazy self.

Original Ape yo azz is CRAZY! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

Putting the beverage down! hee hee

True, but technique is something you can always work on. As long as you ARE attracted to the person, you can teach them what you like, no? I think that what I would want most in a mate is an ability to really share with me...when you get married that person becomes your best friend/lover/protector and I think that since communication
is so key in all of those things, I would want someone who is able to do that with me, and who makes me feel comfortable sharing with them.

My (future) mate must have CONFIDENCE in himself-the one thing that I cannot stand is men who feel the need to accuse their partners of being unfaithful & are always getting jealous for petty reasons because of their insecurities with themselves http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/mad.gif

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"Mind ya own, stay true to ya own, be ya own."

Peace and God Bless
*Classy_Diva5*

My foremost requirement is that he MUST be a MAN of God.

Now, after we've gotten our prayer and praise on...I'm with Conskeeted19 - he must be able to CRANK!

LovelyIvy, I agree with you 100%, you are correct. What I said was to be taken in good humor, although I meant it.
If my man & I had this problem we'd have to work REALLY hard on it. Really HARD. Thank GAWD that he...*ahem*... nevermind. Conskeeted, look what you done started!
I may have to make a phone call. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/tongue.gif

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"Success usually comes to those who are too busy to be looking for it."
Henry David Thoreau

Hey Conskeeted... Crank it up!!

http://212.123.122.124/users/chacabaou/smiliez/490.gif

LOL. I need help

Chile, I hear dat!!! Tell the truth and shame the devil, 'cause you ain't never lied!!!!!
In addition he must have GOALS!!!! No goals no can do!!!!!

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"Don't hate me because I'm beautiful"

When da EAST is in da house....Oh my GOD!!!! DANGER!

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I agree...he definitely has to be SOLD out to JESUS first then will all things that we both want in each other will come to pass!

May we join hands and bow our heads...Lord help sista Novella today Lord...lol http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/tongue.gif



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ROFL@ YOU!!! Only YOU would find a smilie for that! I'm laughing so hard my husband peeped in on me to see what the hell was so funny. Oh Boy...luv u guys.

Soror Conskeeted, yo azz needs some serious HEP! you's crazy! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

OA, you know, you is too koo-koo, I thought your viagra had expired. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/confused.gif http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

novella, you ain't hardly right with that Smilie....

Rainman - Most certainly I can answer yes to your question. I'm already married and I thank God daily for blessing me with this man. He is a saved and sanctified man of God. A woman can't say that she wants a Christian man if she hasn't studied the Word of God and knows exactly what that entails. Likewise, she must study the Word and understand what her role is in the relationship as well. I would have it no other way.

Some women say that they want a Christian man simply because they want someone who won't cheat on them, will take care of the household, children, etc. They are missing the bigger picture though.

I won't quote these scriptures, but anyone seeking marriage should truly understand the following scriptures:
Genesis 2:24; Ephesians 5:21-33; 1 Corinthians 13:4-7,13; Provervs 18:22

The following text is from a bible study that I attended last week where we discussed this topic.....
1. The ROOT of marriage is God's covenant with humankind that extends to us the opportunity to experience His perfect love.

2. The REQUIREMENT of marriage is that husband and wife submit to each other in love even as they do to the Lord.

3. The intended REWARD of marriage is an enriching relationship that provides both husband and wife with concrete evidence of the constancy of God's magnificent love.

I'll leave you with this...
"As for me and my household, we will serve the Lord." (Joshua 24:15)

Just checking, Prayerfull http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif

You pretty much said it all!!

May your marriage be fruitful, and you glory be to God. 'Nuff said.

RM

FIRST and foremost He MUST be a hard worker. I have met very intelligent people who don't work up to their potential....

Honesty and everything else is important but I do feel everyone lies sometime.... http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

Provider

Can you go out there and make us some money when a hurricane, tornado, monsoon or something strikes and the banks are CLOSED AND the atm machines are down?

Can you go out there and make us some endz (chop some wood or summin) to survive until the all clear signal is given?

Can you build my house? Can you fix my car?

Plus what everyone else said. That's cool too! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

You all don't follow my rules when I ask for ONE or THREE things, so why should I? http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

Oh, my! This little guy reminds me of "Ace Ventura". "Can you feel it!?! Can you feel it!?!" http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

Okay, Dreamful One (and Prayerfull) now at this point I gotta ask the question:

Are you sure that you truly want a man of God?

I ask this b/c last night the woman who I was courting ended the courtship b/c (among other things) I was too spiritual and wanted everything to be biblically based as opposed to just letting everything be (whatever that means). Now when we met she said she must have a saved, sanctified man of God--she's a minister's daughter, and active in the church. Now I am not upset with her for breaking it off--I'm glad she did.

So I say all that to say that I have learned to exercise a "healthy" skepticism when I meet women who say the man they want must be a man of God, because unless they understand what a true man of God entails, they will be disappointed, frustrated, and "run away".

Being a wife to a man of God is much like being the wife of a mayor, governor, or president: sure there is some prestige and honor that goes with it, but not every woman is fit or qualified to be a wife to one because they don't fully understand the requirements and responsibilities that goes with it.

My .25

RM

Honesty! That's all I need, everything else will fall in place. Even the Crank!

a heightened awareness of the reality of reality and all that that reality encompasses...

PATIENCE


It ain't easy loving and living with a princess.


Miss. Mocha

Ambition Ambition Ambition Ambition is all that I require. Due to the laws of attractiveness (psych major in da house) the BROTHER is already fine, intelligent, and well preserved with only a higher power feared. However, with all of that in the bank, if the brother lacks ambition he has GOT to GO! Something about me won't let me settle for less; and I won't apologize for it!

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Anything Worth Doing Is Worth Doing Well

I would say loyalty. I say that because it encompasses all of the characteristics yall've mentioned.

He must have a SOUL and be in touch with it. If a person truly listens and reacts to what's in his SOUL, the area in which your hopes, fears, blessings, compassion, love, desires, intuition, dissapointments, spirituality and needs are stored, he will rarely find himself off track.

I agree with some of the others. He must be a man of God, if he has that in order then all other things should follow.

Kay