Oral rejectors?
 

Ok, how can a significant number of girls not like receiving oral sex? (I thought we would need a spicey topic)

I mean guys are in training for that their entire lives. We start doing tongue excercises at age 6, study tactics and strategies, and are ready to do it at a moments notice for hours at a time.

But some girls just don't like it . . . Beyond the old adage of "You just haven't met someone good at it", is that usually a body image issue?

Where the girl isn't very comfortable with her body so the whole idea skeeves her out so she won't really enjoy it?

Or is there some other sinister reason? She just hates orgasms maybe?

I would say it's just very severe body image issues. Some girls are brought up to believe, or are told by insensitive ex-boyfriends (usually the ones who don't want to do it) that their genetalia are dirty or unattractive.

I mean, bad oral sex is kind of like bad pizza, it's still pretty good. :) Unless the guy is using his teeth in the wrong places or something.

Re: Oral rejectors?
 

Because there's other things you could be doing with that tongue that are more fun.

Oral is all fine and dandy, other things are finer and dandier, so I'll take those.

ETA: Fingers do just as good a job at making a girl climax. So why do it with your tongue when you could be kissing me and touching me?

Re: Re: Oral rejectors?
 

If there is something else that a guy can do with his tongue to a girl that is more pleasurable than oral sex . . I would wager that there are thousands on this site that want to know . . ;)

It's also a very vulnerable position to be in. Consider it this way- when a guy is getting oral, he's still often in a position where he can feel in control. I mean in the stereotypical position, girl on her knees, your hands on her head...lots of control. But when a girl is receiving, she's often laying on her back with her legs spread open...exposing a part of her that many have been taught is extremely private, or dirty, or at least represents a definitive aspect of our feminity. I wouldn't do it for a long time because I just felt too...open to the world. But I think that most girls can get over it when they realize how good it can feel...I did at least ;)

Let's not forget that every woman is different, too. I could cosign on to what both Veemer & Wishinhopin said - there are other, more wonderful things that tongue could be doing, and it's a terribly vulnerable position.

I'd say more, but then I'd have to kill you...

some girls are not just not very stimulated by oral sex. it does not give them the pleasure that intercourse or fingering might have.

Thank you, James, for these kinds of thread. My GC surfing wouldn't be as spicy if not for you. :)

Reasons for women being wary of oral sex or cunnilingus to use the vernacular are most often body image views. Based, upon a held view it may look funny, smell bad etc.

I think... every woman is different. That said, some experience as well as natural flair the guy or girl thinks s/he may have will help. Some knowledge of below-waist anatomy will go a long way. Further, there are different things that can be tried and advanced techniques like pressure point stimulation etc.

Fingers are very very different to tongues. Tongues are flexible, warm, wet; plus it says something positive if a partner is prepared to go there rather than just use fingers.

As for the only position in which a woman can receive oral sex being her lying on her back legs apart that is simply wrong.

Umm...is it just me...or did anyone else think of a woman spitting a man's penis out of her mouth (think funky spunk :D) when you seen this thread title?

Ok, back on topic. I don't think I will go on a man unless he returns the favor. In other words, I don't think I will mind. I can see how some women would oppose to this, especially if they have body image issues.

I didn't intend to imply that this is the only position available...but many times, when a girl hasn't done such a thing very frequently (if ever) before, this is a natural starting position. I have found that more advanced acrobatics- such as the infamous 69 position-seem to develop after a certain mastery has been accomplished. That was my relatively unimportant clarification, thank you for listening :)

Yep I gotcha in your earlier post, you made the point it was the most widely employed position, yep.

I was just making a general comment really, about the existence of lots of alternatives. :)

*raises hand* I did!

I think body image does have a lot to do with it, especially if a girl is taught that it's "dirty" or "ugly." But I have also heard people say that the sensation is too intense when that's going on and they can't handle it.

I, however, am not one of those people. :D

A girl I used to have benefits with wouldn’t allow me to go down because of an early childhood experience. I didn’t exactly ask for details.

I think the fear of someone telling you that you smell bad, or tase bad or look bad is a big one.

Next time one of you charming ladykillers on GC wonders why a girl doesn't like this stuff, think of all the comments you made in junior high and early high school, about "tuna" and "fish tacos" and calling girls thunderthighs and being general jackasses.

I hope your next partner uses her teeth.

Excuse the "heck" outta me?

Actually...I thought it sounded like the title of some weirdo video game. :p

What GP said, plus....

different people just like different things. Some people like ketchup with their eggs. Some don't. Some people like to dress up in leather and dog collars to get off.... others don't. I don't think it's strange at all that some people just don't think it's all that.

I know this was meant to be serious, but I found it to be so amusing. Thanks for the laugh, Kath. :)

It was a little of each. Some guys on GC just need a good chomp chomp.

Practice makes perfect (well, better).

It is kind of funny that women differ so much on this one because I don't know of a single guy who doesn't like getting oral sex.

I never thought of the laying on the back position as vulnerable....that's the way I like it.....I kind of feel like Cleopatra or something, lounging back with my hands behind my head getting serviced....I never understood how any woman couldn't just love getting it but that's just me. I did have a friend who hated it but then again she was a Summer's Eve junkie and used every douche, spray, powder, etc available......can you say ISSUES? My husband loves going down, always has. I remember when he told me that, before we really started getting intimate way back in the day. When he told me how much he loved going down and how badly he couldn't wait to do it to me I was like "cha-CHING!!!!"

Is the guy wearing a raincoat and is the act taking place in an alley?

I have never and will never have a problem with this issue. In my opinion there's not a whole you can do wrong in that area ;)

:D

Cosign! Can I get an amen??? :p

A-MEN!

I have been lucky in this area and met a few extremely skilled fellows. And while I definitely think there are some things that can be done wrong down there... it's worth the risk to find out if he can do it right!

I've never been self-conscious, but I do think that is why a lot of girls have issues. For girls who are worried about someone thinking they look/smell bad - just wash up, get a Brazilian and you'll be good to go!

Cosign....

Not to put all my business out there, but I have no problem with my own genitalia and just have an aversion to oral sex (giving and recieving). I was taught to enjoy my body because if
I didn't, no one else would (knowing what would please me and what would not). Simply put, the last time a guy "went down on me", I remember about an half hour of "Selena" and damn near forgot what was going on down below!

But then again, for women, IT IS very much so a mental thing. Trying to convince a girl that her privates CAN be an asset, something to cherish (:D ;) :p ), is something she would have to work out, and going down on her may be a later step after figuring out her stimuli, turn-ons, whatever.

enigma_AKA

BTW: If a girl doesn't "come" (if you will), it says nothing of your sexual/tongue prowess...or maybe it does! J/K...but you'll never know unless you try, try again! :cool:

I don't know - I kind of think it does... It has been proven that, for the majority of women at least, it is much easier for a man to succeed with his tongue than other "instruments."

Not to be funny, but if you have a mindset that you just don't like it, then he may not be able to shake that...the whole mental barrier thing (or you may just hate direct contact with the "wonder button"). Or at least, that's how it is for me...:confused:

Feel like I am missing out on the mystic of the oral reception/gift...

enigma_AKA

I have a mindset that I just do like it!!! :)

How to change that (re: mindset of hatred)? Is is possible? Or will it forever remain that some will have a repulsion? Matter of mind over matter? :p --- Women have sometimes regarded me as wierd for this "handicap", lol---

enigma_AKA

I'm pretty sure a shower and a bikini wax won't undo 20 years of insecurity about my body.

Thank you, drive through.

this thread is absolutely hysterical! lol but on that note- i agree with what a lot of other girls have said on here- i love having sex and enjoying it- oral sex i like- but there is always this voice in the back of my head thinking that the guy REALLY doesn't want to be doing it... so then i get all self conscious and i make him stop... i know that he wouldn't do it if he didn't want to... but i still feel kinda weird about it....i guess it comes from the fact htat i sometimes feel obligated to go down on a guy- and i don't always really want to be doing it (depends on my mood) - so i guess i feel like my guy feels like that too...

Wonder button? That's a quotable. And from what I've been told by a wide variety of males is that they in general do enjoy giving, even if receiving isn't guaranteed. I'm sure there are those few who don't, but I think it's safe to assume that your guy is enjoying it.

I love a good blow job about as much as I like licking a clit. Thing is though, if I'm good enough to have my shit shaved down there.....the girl better of went to see the little asian ladies with the hot wax before wanting some clit licked. There's no bigger boner killer than seeing a hairy bush down there. The way I look at it, the people who wont shave down there and say they don't like it....thats just their safety net in case they have an outbreak. Seriously, there's no other reason. Hair just doesn't look right down there when it's grown out.

Haha little Asian ladies with hot wax. My waxer(?) is not Asian.