the one and only true love of your life
 

Have you met and lost the one true love of your life ?

I don't think that there is one true love. I think there can be several true loves over the course of your lifetime, depending on where you are and what you're doing. You can love someone and think he's The One, but it's entirely possible to meet someone in the future and feel like he is The One. I think that's more likely than there being one right person for everyone.

No I see him every morning when I look in the mirror and know he'll be there forever.

-Rudey
--I loooooooooooooooooooove me!!!

Yeah, I've lost the one true love of my life, but I'm trying to get her back. I know we'll be back together at some point, I'm just not sure when. Until then I will be very patient as I wait for her to realize she can't live without me.


-Mark

I agree with this 100 percent!!

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I think it is all a matter of perspective. I know I thought I had lost my one true love. For ten years I mourned that relationships ending, and foolishly tended the flame I carried for him. I bounced through a number of relationships that were doomed because of the way I was still feeling about my lost love.

UNTIL.....I met my husband. THEN I learned what "true love" really is. It IS hard work. It is holding your hands (and head) while you are heaving your guts up with morning sickness. It is worrying about your recovery after your 5th CSection :) It is going grocery shopping (and having to put the junk food back cause he is as bad as the kids! with filling the cart), it is paying the bills together, it is shoveling the sidewalk when there is 12 inches of snow, it is cleaning the bathtub cause you hate to, it is trying to make all the hanger clothes share the closet, it is driving him to work when he is on pain med for a bad tooth :(, it is cheering as your son cross the goal line (finally), listening to terrible bass playing cause your husband has unfulfilled dreams about having a rock band so he bought everyone an electric guitar for Christmas....it is daily life, the good, the bad, the up, the down...

You get my idea. I lost 10 years to the mist of a dream, but I found a lifetime with reality :) once I opened my eyes and heart

Can't you tell I sure love my husband

God I hope he wasn't my one true love, because if that's "beautiful/turn you upside down/movie" love I think I'll just become a dog lady.

I met and lost someone that I THOUGHT was it, but I believe there is ONE person made for you to be with, your "true love" and so since he died, sadly I guess he wasn't it.

Sageofages, I totally agree with you. I broke up with someone who I thought was the love of my life, but I realized after two years that it would never work out. It was one of the hardest decisions I've ever had to make.

Five months later, after I forced myself to get back into dating again, I met my husband. That's when the light-bulb finally turned on. I feel exactly the same way you do! My husband's also a junk food fiend with unfulfilled dreams of being a rock star. ;) We've seen each other at our absolute best and our very worst, and I wouldn't trade him for the world.

Its the toughest job you'll ever love (sorry Peace Corps!) but it is so, so worth it.

OMG I asked this because i just ended a divorce recently and i think i married him to cover up the loss and hurt i had when my fiancee was killed in a hit and run accident few yrs earlier of the divorced marriage. and to me I think he was the true love of my life and i do agree you meet along the way someone who makes your heart feel all those things too. But i think youalways have that one reserved space for someone who open you up to that first and only feeling.


just pondering out loud when i came up with that question :)

I beleive in soul mates. I have not met mine yet (that I know of)

I tend to agree with valkyrie. Besides, believing that there's One True Love and all that stuff puts too much pressure on a person...I mean, what if you can't manage to sift through the 6 billion people on the planet and find him/her? Then what? Are you doomed to roam through life alone? Nah.

Believe it or not ;), me too. I've had two men in my life who were "the one" for me, in very, very different ways. I'm marrying the second. Practical matters got in the way of the first... but in retrospect, I'm glad they did. If they hadn't, I would never have developed a relationship with the current (and permanent) Mr. Ginger!

AXJules is my one true love; she just doesn't know it yet.

I thought Big Pun was the only true love of your life and you cried your eyes out when he passed away.

-Rudey

I once thought so but now that I've met Jules I realized the error of my ways.

:(

sageofages and greeklawgirl -- I agree 100% with you. I spent many years mourning my ex boyfriend when it was my decision to end it, spent too long convinced he was the one....

and then I met mr. amycat and it was as if a lightbulb went off--this is how it is supposed to be, that relationship was just opening me up to everything I could feel when the right one came along.

How sweet are you? I needed that. :)
Now that I have LJ it's bringing out my depressed demons, lol.....:(


And you know what, ppl in this thread?? I am a strong believer in destiny. No matter if you had him and lost him, or had her and she
dumped your ass, you didn't mess anything up. That was meant to happen, to bring you to someone better. Or to make you get up and take control of yourself. Something like that.
All I'm saying is I very firmly believe that we all have a story that's already written, and the person you're supposed to wind up with, you WILL wind up with. So there's really no point in stressing about it, b/c it will happen.

Who cares really? I just buy them enough crap from Tiffanys so they think I'm the one and then I end it.

-Rudey
--And then I brag about how I dated another hot girl

But Rudy, you told me I was special http://www.handykult.de/plaudersmilies.de/bawling.gif

-KR
--at least I got some good stuff from Tiffanys

I think i met him but now he is long gone and we dont even live in the same state.

here is my 2 cents
 

i have a hard time believing in fate/destiny stuff. i dont know how i feel about having one true love. if fate was real, everyone would be happy and in the perfect relationship. but in reality the divorce rate has never been higher. i think that maybe god puts the right person in your life one time, and leaves it to your free will to do with that chance what you will. whether you take it, or leave it. As for the ones that have lost loved ones, and believe they were your "soul mate", i think that maybe thats gods way of letting you know what you deserve. you should never forget them and never accept anything less. if you are patient, one day you will find something so perfect that words will not be able to express. dont give up on something big just because you think it has already passed you bye. life is a funny, weird thing, and never goes in the direction you think it will. my life has been a trip. its what you make it, you can sit there and feel bad or get out and enjoy life while you have it. this life is just a test to get to something better. make the most of it.;)

It was fake.

-Rudey
--I bought it from ebay :)

Good Answer!!!!

To answer the question (and I haven't read any other responses so I may be repetitive), I don't think that there is only ONE person out there for you. I think that there may be a whole bunch of people that you may be compatible with and the paths you take through life bring you in contact with these people. I refuse to believe that there is that one little needle in the haystack...but maybe that's because I haven't found it yet.

Ha ha ha ha, you crack me up

Ditto!!

You know, I hate to be such a realist and I really do wish I could live in the fairy-tale, soulmate la-la land, but I think it's really all about timing. Any number of people could be "the one," if they come along at the right time. I mean, sure, there is one person that you are going to end up with in the end, and that is the one you are meant to be with, but there are a lot of other great people that you could be happy with too. It's all just situational.

I'm really a cynic about these things and I don't really know how I feel about this. I'm just gonna get all Carrie Bradshaw on this and quote Sex and the City, NYC, that's my one true love baby!
I've been dating the city for 18 years. I think it's getting serious. I might be in love.

I'm going to go ahead and be a broken record here- I believe that there are several people you can be compatible with. I have two of those in my life right now, but I chose to marry the one who came second. The first one is my absolute best friend and I believe he's more valuable to me that way. Of course, we had an agreement that if neither of us was engaged at 25, we'd get married. JR just happened to come into my life and sweep me off my feet. Granted, we've had our rough times. I'm a bit of a commitment-phobe and I left three times thinking that I would be happier that way. My heart always won out over my libido. I still have a hard time realizing that I'm committed to this one person and that I'll be with him forever (I'd better be, anyway!). I almost lost him last year and now I won't even take a chance on him walking away.

My husband is definitely the true love of my life. I agree with whoever said there can be more than one out there for you but I don't plan to put myself into the position to find out! I knew within 2 weeks that I was totally in love. We have been through so much together over the last 12 years that I don't think we could ever split up. We've had our ups and downs like anyone else but when it comes down to it I couldn't imagine life without him.

Cosign.

There's a million different "the ones" for me. All I want is a nice Chad.

well... i don't think he was the LOVE of my life... but it was love at first site- he is my ultimate guy as far as looks- so i'm sooooooo attracted to him and we have incredible chemistry... however- to be honest... he's just not as smart as me... or not willing to show it/work for it...so our conversations are a bit lacking... i miss him terribly- but i know that it would never ever work out... however... the problem i have now is- NO guys are attractive to me... i'm just not interested in anyone- and even hot guys i talk to- i'm so bored wtih... whats wrong with me???:(

I won't meet the right guy until I am ready to meet him, if that makes any sense. Right now I could meet the most perfect man in the world and he wouldn't be right.

maybe....there were only 3 women in college who could keep my attention and interest me on that kind of level. i'm with one of them.

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that is so beautifull, thank you for sharing... that is what I want with my boyfriend.

sageofages, that is a GREAT story. :)

i dunno.....i know that five years have gone by and i am still in love with my ex. we still talk, no other relationship compares to ours......we fight like maniacs, but at the same time, that's what makes us "us"......and we love as hard as we fight. we've been through so many ups and downs, he's made so many dumb mistakes and i've been really naive and immature about some things, but we always find our way back to each other. we talked last night and it's just impossible for either one of us to let go of each other.....despite the fact we live so far apart now (i'm in KY, he's in CA).....and we're not together....we are together b/c we don't want anyone else, we're not with anyone else, so it's just difficult.

so, yeah....in my mind, he's the one and only true love of my life. i don't know what's in store for us....but i don't think we'll be finished until we're married....then divorced.....then married again. ;) :) :D :p