How would ou like to be broken up with?
 

Is there a good way? If given the coice how would you like someone else to end it with you?

Email? IM? Phone? What should they say?

Ever been broken up with in a "good" way?

In person and be honest (but nice)

Definitely in person or by letter (on paper and pen, thank you), high tech break ups are in poor taste.

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in person... just don't prolong it any longer than it needs to be.

And don't wait to do it either. Once you start seeing that things aren't going right and you KNOW we need to break up... don't wait another 5 months to do it.

Sorry... venting. :mad:

i would definitely say in person ... none of this email or im crap

Post it note on your refrigerator?

In Person sounds a lot better.

or on a post-it...

I prefer a letter so I can react however I want without embarrassing myself. I then, of course, reserve the right to storm over and demand an explanation in person.

Tips for breaking up with texas*princess
 

1) do not make assumptions.. if you think the relationship is over, please tell me and don't assume that I know. As far as I'm concerned, if no one says it isn't over, it's still going on.

2) Do not make me cry and then try to comfort me. YOU'RE THE ONE MAKING ME CRY, YOU MEANYHEAD! :)

3) Don't give me any cliche' lines... like the "it's not you, it's me" one... I am likely to laugh in your face if you try that :D

4) Don't lie about why we're breaking up... I want to know what I did wrong, or what went wrong, so I won't do it with the next hot guy in line :p

5) Don't stop me at the supermarket a few days later and ask me if I'm still mad at you. If we broke up on bad terms, chances are, I am, so don't bother asking.

6) Don't be a kid and ask your friends to ask my friends what I've been up to... be a man and ask me yourself if you are truly that interested. :p

I would prefer to be broken up with in person. I hate the phone because you can't see the person and it seems so much worse than it really is. I would like to be told why I'm being broken up with~another girl, things just weren't working out, etc. But don't feed me the old line "It's me, not you" crap. I'll prolly kick you in the leg if you tell me that! :D

In person, after dinner, a movie and a round of shopping at your expense! Then by all means dump me! And if you feel bad, we can do the whole thing again til after you feel better! :p

Sleep with my best friend or something.

-Rudey
--That feels good probably

- Preferably in person. On the phone if need be (this happened last time since he lived a couple hours away) but none of this email crap. And do it yourself. DON'T have a friend do it for you.

- Do NOT NOT NOT use the fade-out method. (You know the one...suddenly stop calling or coming by or any contact whatsoever, no reason given)

- Be honest. If there's something I've done, tell me that. If you think that you're gay, tell me that. If there's someone else, tell me that. If you were only going out with me on a dare and now that you've collected your million dollars, you can ditch me, tell me that. I'm a big girl. I can take it.

-Do not set me up to look stupid. That's the worst of all. :mad:

The best way to break up wiht a girl as a guy . . . is to just stop calling her, call block her number, im-block her, email block etc . . . usually after blowing her off and not having time with her for a little while . . and then if you are confronted . . says its not her its you and refuse to talk about it at all beyond that one phrase . . .

Much less drama for the boy to do it that way . . . and if you see her out in public just be warmly polite and friendly.

James, I see one day you encountering the wrong woman, and her going Lorena Bobbit on you.

Passive aggressive much, James? ;)




I think you have a massive fear of confrontation.

And yes, someday you will meet a (perhaps crazy) woman who will blow your theory on "less drama" out of the water. :D

I think the "its not you its me" phrase might be just true . . .

We don't like the other person anymore . . blaming them for it seems a little odd, or cruel.

'Sides that conversation is never about the real issues, its baout being hurt, and angry. Thats a lose-lose situation to be in.

Ever argue with an angry emotional woman before lol? ITs not exactly a logical discussion ;)

I'd rather just not be told at all and never hear from her again. I think that'd probably be the easiest way to get dumped and the safest. I've never been dumped and if it were to ever happen I'd probably tear the girl down so bad, mentally, she'd want to be a lesbian by the time I was done.

I personally like the whole "I'll just ignore you for a month and then never talk about anything relationship-y again whenever I talk with you," approch.

Ha.

Oh my God, NO! I hate people who ignore issues, or never return calls! I would rather hear the meanest, most hurtful words ever to be spoken than have someone never call me again or never tell me what I did wrong!

Oh wait, I don't do anything wrong... :)

Ha!:D

I apologize. I should have elaborated that silence was how my last bf broke up with me. He ignored me for a month, and then talked to me over AIM as though we were friends. And would never talk about why he ignored me/ broke up with me. I was being bitter.

In person, with a very well thought out explanation, and then I prefer that they leave me alone for 4 months.

My current boyfriend (we've broken up three times) doesn't get the leave me alone thing, and so we always get back together!!

In person, no other way. Phone, e-mail, etc is just the coward's way out, and it's rude.

In person, always do it in person. I've been broken up with over the phone once and it made me lose any respect for the guy that I might possibly have had.
Anytime that I've broken up with someone it's been in person and while it wasn't exactly a great deal of fun at least I didn't feel like some kind of chicken because I couldn't face the issue that was bugging me. And I didn't use the, "it's not you it's me" cliche, I think that's such a total cop out.

write it in shoe polish on their car window, then transfer schools, or states. just kidding. be honest, because if you dont they will tear themselves down wondering what they did wrong, it causes way to much emotional crap. plus they will never have the much needed closure

Never ever say the following phases (even if they are true) b/c they are soooo overused, and then it just comes arcoss insincere....

"It's not you, it's me..." (we all know that really means "Yes it is YOU")

"I don't want a long term relationship right" (every guy who has ever said this to me has immediately entered a long term relationship-maybe it is just my bad luck)

"Can we still be friends?" (only use it if you mean it!)

I would prefer to hear the truth (even if it really hurt) so if I have a problem I can try to fix it so I don't keep making the same mistake!

When my last boyfriend and I broke up, neither one of us had to actually say the words. We discussed our problems first, and agreed that we couldn't work them out. Then I said, "We both know what the solution to this is, just neither one of us wants to say it." That was it. It was honestly the best break-up, no one was upset, and we could actually BE friends instead of just saying we would and not actually doing it. I know that most break-ups can't work out this way, but it was a huge relief from how my relationships usually end.

ok, i found this thread by luck! i have to break it off with this guy. the truth of the matter is 1. he is overbearing 2. he pouts if he doesn't get his way 3. i have decided i am not attracted to him anymore because of his personality.
so how do i say this nicely? i am assuming "you suck, now go away" won't suffice. (i am kidding!)

here's a little more info:
a bunch of sorority women walked into the restaurant where we were eating and he made a comment "I hate sorority chicks, they are bunch of stupid sluts"......i had to point out to him how he was SO wrong.

i haven't mentioned that i am moving to florida soon.

so what should i say?

Just move one day . . without a forwarding address :)

LOL, that's not cowardly at all.

'cuz really, it's him, not me

hmmmmm....

i've been left twice in my life...i mean flat out just never received a call, a visit, an email, a letter or nuthin'....

it hurt!!!


so i am the one that does the breakin'....

it goes like this....this isn't working out anymore, it's you...not me....

enjoy your life....

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ok ok....i am bitter at the moment! :mad:

ok, i tried to be nice to him, but he doesn't get it. he has called me 4 (yes FOUR) times in the last 24 hours to talk. What the hell is this- I only went out with him twice. I think it's time to be mean.

He's like that after you went out TWICE? Run, girl, run!

Just tell him you don't see things going anywhere and that should suffice. Not that I am one to talk. I am awful at breaking things off and usually just end up ignoring the guy, which is pretty juvenile.

im sorry but i dont get into a relationship just to worry about how i am going to be dumped. there is much more to worry about and fun times to be had. if you are constently worrying about how someone is going to break up with you then why even bother dating? :confused:

I spoke with him on friday afternoon and i just told him i wasn't interested in a relationship, and although he is a really nice guy, i am just too busy to commit my time into developing a new relationship.
he FREAKED out on me. ranting and raving about how i led him on (ok, can we have a conversation about what defines "leading on")
and that i promised that i would make time for him (which i know i didn't do!) and then saturday night he called me all drunk really late yelling at me how i was a tease. what the hell? i haven't responded to him and i don't plan on it. i'm glad i ran away as fast as i could!

so, whats everyones definition of "leading someone on"?

Well in this case . . leading someone on is maintaining contact with him after you have decided that you don't like him without saying you just want to be friends or want nothing to do with him.

Men are not mind readers anymore than girls are . . despite what alikat2 says about him being psycho . . . its not unreasonable for him to feel lead on. Although, he didn't how much diginity in allowing himself to get all upset at you.

Scenario: I go out with a girl on a date twice. Maybe over two different weekends. She is really into me I am less into her. I decide mentally I don't want to see her again. Over the next week or so I stop calling her or maybe I only call her back, and am evasive about wanting to go out. I am busy, plans, hair etc, maybe some other time.

She still likes me so she "hears" that I am busy now, but maybe won't be busy later. She is picking up on the mixed signals, but I keep making excuses that are plausible, and I am still talking to her, and its only been a week or so . . . . she has little reason to suspect that I just don't like her because I am . . drum roll please, I ams till talking to her and not tellin gher anything.

Basically I am treating her like a mushroom, keeping her in the dark and feeding her shit.

Then finally a week or two later, I have enough, screw up my courage and say: I don't have time for a committed relationship blah blah blah . . she is so wonderful blah blah blah. Blowing smoke up her ass.

She is going to be pissed because I could have just told her what was up after the second date. Keep in mind that once we start crushing on someone that crush grows quickly. So I just basically led her on to believe there was the possibility of more, so that she started liking me more.

So yeah, she is going to be pissed.

And yeah, in your case, he is going to be pissed. Although again, is shows a lack of self respect on his part to show that he is visibly upset to the girl that played him.

i understand what your saying, but i told him flat out on the first date that i wasn't interested in a relationship because i am moving in a month and as long as he was cool with just hanging out occassionally thats all i was looking for. after the first time we went out, he started to call and text msg and email me like crazy (three or four times a day) and i even told him he needed to back off a bit. and then i agreed to go out with him on the second date, like two weeks later, and it did not go well at all. he made some really screwed up comments about a guy in a wheel chair that was there, other people that were at the bar and some of the things i was saying. at the end of the night he asked why i didn't seem like i was having as much fun and i just told him that i didn't feel like we were clicking. i had driven myself to the date, and on my ride home he called, he called AGAIN later that night and left a message, then he text messaged me the next morning. i didn't respond to any of them until he called me in the afternoon and was short and brief with him.
but apparently thats leading him on.