I am old and alone
 

So my issue ... last week i turned 22 and I already feel old. I have neevr had a relationship for more than 5 months ... I start causing fights when I get to close to people. So I mean does it look like I am never getting married being so old and not in a relationship. It just seems crazy cause the only places I ever go out are bars where I already know everyone. Oh well any advice?

Yes. Stop thinking you're so old and past it silly girl. You're only 22. Widen your circle by going to more places and more different types of places if you are concerned.
If you're not married by 22 it doesn't follow you won't ever be. Pull yourself together :p
And the causing fights thing, wellll some might say you have a fear of intimacy or commitment - whatever. Take some time to think about what it is that makes you do that and talk to your friends; people that know you.

Re: I am old and alone
 

No, you're done. You're toast. Give it up, invest in cats so that you can become That Cat Lady later in life and end up being eaten by your own animals after you die.

Think about it. You are finishing college where you had the largest access to available (albeit perhaps clueless) males all with an urge to mate, that you will likely ever have for the rest of your life.

Further, you even increased your probability of meeting a compatible male by joining a social organization that has as a major component the purpose of introducing you to men (mixers) in a pick-up environment.

So things are definitely not looking up for you.

Also, just to cap it off, you admit that its your own neurosis (fear of intimacy) that destructs your relationships. In other words, your fear of the very thing required for a relationship to work dooms you to a life of either being totally alone, or alone even in company.

And you didn't admit to being in therapy for that or reading self help books or anything. The future looks bleak :)

I thought this morning I should edit my post to say deleted because of being overly harsh. Then I read James' post and realised my post didn't seem so harsh in comparison. :D

it seems that when you are looking for commitment you try to make the wrong thing right, thats why you are afraid of commitment, you have not found that person yet. you fight because deep inside you know they are wrong, and you are just trying to protect yourself. its like wearing shoes that are 3 sizes too small, it just wont work. when you do find your partner it wont seem like commitment, it will just happen. one thing will lead to another and before you know it, boom, its been a few years. my advice is to just enjoy life and see where it takes you. my guess is it wont turn out bad at all. trust me.

Re: I am old and alone
 

You're not old. really, you're just beginning. I agree with everyone's posts, you got to take pride in being yourself and not think negative thoughts because that only can lead to your downfall.

Re: I am old and alone
 

22 is very young. A lot of people don't get married until their 30s which is perfectly normal and healthy. Why not get your life together first before you get married? You have nothing to worry about. You still have many years ahead of you before you have to start worrying.

You need a puppy!!!

-Rudey

LOL, thats so true. If more girls had puppies they would be less needy and have fewer bad relationships :)

I hate animals!!! But my crush party is tonight and I went out and bought a cute outfit so i am excited!!!!

azdtaxi, you aren't even close top being old. If you met the right man, and posted that you wanted to get married, I would suggest that you wait until you are least 25.

Don't look for a realtionship. That only makes you desperate, and men don't like to be lassoed in by desperate women.

Get involved with a lot of activities so that you're life is more fulfilling, and make sure that some of those activities have men. Things will work out. If you're 45 and you're not in a relationship, then start to worry. Until then, just enjoy a life.

Oh good. I have two and a half more years. Whew! :D

Sorry, I should have added, "unless you're content." :)

Maybe you should try to go to different places other than bars. Bars aren't the best places to meet people. (Intoxication takes away the magic of it all.) ;) You know what they say, if you start looking you won't find it. When you stop looking, it will come to you. 22 is a great young age! You're still trying to grow as a person and discover all the wonderful things in yourself and in life. When the time is right, everything will fall into place.

21 and happy to be single!

I don't know you except for the fact that you hate puppies and feel like you're old and lonely because you're 22 and single. Based on that I would say I would gladly dump you even if you were hot.

-Rudey
--Who the phunk hates puppies you cold hearted freak?!?

AMEN to that!!!

Sometimes I forget that I love you, Rudey. Thanks for reminding me. :)

I am 31 and not in a relationship. I hadn't had a date since I was 25 going on 26. I had not had a boyfriend since I was in High School. I was single all of my 20s and now in my early 30s.

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azdtaxi,

I'm nearly 25 years old (YIKES!! Quarter of a century!) and I've never had a "real" relationship! My guys last no more than a month, and I seriously don't know why! I got my first kiss when I was like 18 years old (or 20...depends on what you call a real "kiss"...if it were any kiss, then, well, I kissed a guy in kindergarten. I guess that doesn't really count, since he ran off saying that I gave him cooties). If it were anyone, I should be the one complaining, but I'm not. Sure, I get depressed once in a while because I don't get a lot of dates (I'm not unattractive, btw), but I get over it. The people here in GC help me a lot, you know. You guys are great! :) Well, it's 1 am here now, so I better get off.

((((CatStarESP4)))) Awww :( this too shall pass. :) ::hugs::

So i just got back from crush party and I had some issues there. Won't be helped here helped there. And I don't know I just feel old an dalone

Try basic seduction. A good old fashion sex-fest might be just the thing.

Hoenstly I just want to dump you so damn bad. Please just give me your number so I can dump you. Please.

-Rudey

It's so nice to hear there are other people in the same boat as me......Taualumna, I am going on 24 and have never been with a guy longer than 2 months!!! I sometimes wonder what is wrong with me but my friends tell me I just date the wrong guys. I'm pretty cute, have a degree, a good job and I live on my own.....but my best friend says it's my independence that scares guys off. Oh well. Can't try to be something I'm not. :)

Twenty two, that's still young. I'm 34 and still looking. It's hard I know, but 22, you still have alot of time to look. I really don't. Sometimes it can take a long time to make sure you can find the "ONE", but he is out there I'm sure. Just takes time. I'd like for it to happen. The right one will come a long soon enough. I'm sure.

Who got in a fight? I left like at 1230. I might have been there but I was just sitting at the bar talking.

But yeah I had a good time. I was just tired so i left early.

Tick Tock Tick Tock .. . ;)

This is a guy and his name is Robin?

-Rudey
--I'd punch him just for his name!

I wish I had a kitty but they make me sneeze.

Seriously though I want one so bad.

Me too. They make me sneeze. I like kitties and puppies. I wish i could have walked one in the park today and worn short shorts and knee-high roller skates.

-Rudey

how did you know how i spent my afternoon?

They make me sneeze too.

And this thread makes me feel good about myself, I'm not gonna lie.

I think that's because you're a bitch.

;)

Probably so, and I guess it'll catch up to me later. :cool:

He does know that fraternities are not gangs and that giving someone a beat down, especially a multi-person beat down is not cool?

Although a lot of girls do seem impressed by it, sigh.

Haha I'd just break a bottle on the bar and stab him hardy har har.

-Rudey
--I'd bleed Robin dry!

I am glad I wasn't there. When did this happen?

Oh yeah ... I hate animals

Oh well I guess I will just go with it and see what happens. Do ya'll believe in like the one? That there is one perfect person out there for you?

No. I think there are a multitude of people who could be "the One"

This is such a retarded thread. I know you two Louisiana chicks don't see this but I'm sure others do. Forget the annoying topic - but you just created this thread to talk to each other. How annoying is that? PM each other or at least say something funny for our enjoyment. anything.

-Rudey