In what ways do you THINK people treat you differently?
 

Lets get a little creative and exclude race and weight...since both have been discussed here 1001 times. :)

Do you think people treat you differently because you are tall? Quiet? Short? Attractive? Have money? These are somewhat obvious questions, but the aim of this thread is to talk about our personal observations and experiences.

I think people treat me differently sometimes because I work in retail. I've had some of the most obnoxious customers think all I am is a retail worker...and therefore, have no education and paid minimum wage.
On the contrary, I have a degree and get paid so much that I'm in no hurry to leave because I have been able to support myself to my liking for over a year and a half now.
People in retail aren't just idiots you know!

ETA: Nothing pisses me off more when people think that mom's who stay at home are worthless, have no career ambition and can't think for themselves. My mom stayed at home for years and I couldn't be more thankful because she was always there for us kids...putting her career on hold for us.

I really get tired of all the little children, throwing rose petals on the ground, before me as I walk. I'm not your king. I just want to be left alone, and live my life among the people.

I think people treat me like I'm unintelligent sometimes, because I am very supportive of traditional values, gender roles, etc.

Once they find out that I work as a secretary on purpose, because I want to be able to devote my life to my husband and child(ren) instead of a job, tend to look at me like I've grown a 2nd head!

Edit: I swear Hootie's post hadn't loaded when I responded to this thread ;)

Edit again because I thought Hootie was saying that SAHM's ARE worthless, and it was funny that I'd said the opposite. But she didn't. So now I just sound stupid. Maybe there's a reason people think I am... carry on! :)

I get treated absolutely charmingly by many of my coworkers because my parents pay my rent and some of my tuition. I've had some of them tell me I don't need to be working because my parents will take care of me.

Yeah, the GPParents have some money, but they sure as heck aren't sharing much with me. ;)

I also get stellar treatment from lots of women who find out that I dislike children and do not intend to spend the best years of my life bursting forth wtih my husband's seedlings.

I get treated differently because I scuba dive and don't expect to be treated any differently than the men I dive with.

1) Childless middle aged couples think I'm a "typical trendy 20-something" and always point out styles from more "trendy" stores.

2) Because I'm really young looking (I can pass for a high school junior if I'm dressed down), people often don't take me all that seriously.

On occasion I will be treated like I am brainless because I stay at home with my kids but my friends are supportive and my husband and daughters prefer it so that's all that matters.

I think certain things have come easier to me than they would have otherwise because I 've always been fairly cute looking.

I guess that's all I can think of for now!

Well, most people think i am ditzy because i am short, cute, and have big boobs. So big boobs means no brain I guess. Guys think I am easy and girls think I am a slut. I am a very intelligent person. I resent the fact that if you are attractive with a nice body people think you are only good for "standing around and looking pretty". I am very rarely taken seriously, and unless I am with people who know me, I am treated as a toy. Of course, that lasts for about 20 seconds until I open my mouth. Not so pretty then.......:D I have a wicked tongue for those unfortunante people who care to judge before they know me.

Although I'm sarcastic probably wayy too much, I really try to be a kind person. If you really look at what I say, I try not to say things that are intentionally hurtful. People automatically assume I'm a bitch/heartless which really isn't true. Because of my sense of humor, they get defensive and think I'm saying something about them before they even hear what I have to say.

And for other reasons I can't figure out, all my good friends say that they hated me when they first met me, b/c I was "intimidating/snobby/stuck up." Also hurts, b/c I'm usually EXTREMELY intimidated by people, especially girls.

I am treated differently because I am a female chemist. Most of the people I work with are "old school" and think that a woman's place is at home with the children. (And there is nothing wrong with being a stay-at-home mother. That's just not me though.) These men are amazed to see an attractive, 23 year old female walking around the lab performing the same tasks as they do. And they're always amazed to find out that I actually know what I am doing!:D

You told me you'd cut my pen15 off so I understand why they think you're intimidating.

-Rudey
--Who's in the pen15 club??

So you fell for that too eh?

Don't worry, I doubt you were in San Diego when I was doing it to people. I was 10 anyway.........but they couldn't get it off their hands for DAYS.

I'm in the pen16 club.

Maybe they think that about me b/c I got a demerit in junior high for initiating a third grader into our pen15 club.

She went and cried. Her mom was a lunch monitor.
Yep, that's gotta be what's haunted me all these years....

Let's be honest, I'm immature. I did it to an ex before a job interview.

-Rudey
--Heck I want to do it to one of my co-workers. It's awesome.

What did you say? I told kids that some art company would send them supplies every month if they kept it on their hands......

You actually convinced them to keep it on? I've done it a million times. I've done it at a graffiti party with permanent markers. When I did it to the girl, I did it in regular ink and she sat there spitting on her hand for a while.

-Rudey
--And if they have dry skin, it's harder to wipe off btw.

I get treated differently because I'm bipolar. I don't hide it; I feel no need to. Me having bipolar isn't any different than someone having diabetes. It's just a disorder I have. I do well with medicine...very well. But I have bad days too. But see when you're bipolar, if you have a bad day, people ask, "did you take your medicine today?" :rolleyes: I'm not abnormal. I'm not a psycho. So don't treat me differently.

Also, Hootie, I COMPLETELY AGREE about stay at home moms. Mine is one. :D She could have worked; she did before she had children. She CHOSE to stay at home and raise us.

*I'm 22 but I look 15 or 16. Guys ask me if I'm legal. Ushers don't hand me a church program unless I insist (they don't hand out programs to kids).

*The reason here is unknown. People treat me as if
i'm really sympathetic (strangers have told me their life story), innocent (lol), a pushover, and naive. People get suprised whenever I act less than sunny. Funniest thing is that people don't treat me like this on the internet. So, I assume there's some kind of non-verbal signals that I send out in person.

*Like AXJules people percieve me as bitchy and racist because of my sense of humor. If someone thinks I'm unfunny, fine. But, there's no need to think that you're on my sh*t list because I said something sarcastic or that I'm a bigot because I said something less than PC. Sometimes it's those that I'm the most sarcastic to are the ones I like the most.

1) Working mom. You get it at work because you have to take time off every time they're sick, have a snow day, or a school break (and you can't find a babysitter). You get it because all the swimming lessons, dance lessons, etc start right after school or are during the day in the summer. Scouting summer day camps start at 9:00 am and end at 3:00 pm making it impossible for my kids to go. And NO, I can't be the Girl Scout Leader AND the Cub Scout Leader AND be on the PTA. When I do take a day off to go on a field trip, I'm not in the "In" group of SAHMs who hang out together every day while the kids are in school so nobody talks to me (except parents I know from being a Cub Scout Leader and a soccer coach).

2) Divorced (and happy to be on my own). NO, I'm not going to steal your husband, I got rid of one of those for a reason. NO, I don't want to be set up with your husbands co-worker who just got divorced. NO, I don't want to be married ever again because it's the most overrated institution on this planet. NO, I wouldn't stay together for the kids because it was hell on them while they lived in a house with two adults who couldn't speak two words to each other without getting into an argument and you'll never convince me that it was better for them to live with two parents simultaneously with that kind of tension in the house! NO, I don't feel lonely or sad when I'm alone on a holiday.. it's a treasured break when I can stay in my jammies and read a good book or watch a chick flick all by myself! And, lastly, It is MUCH easier to be a single mom than to deal with an idiot husband on top of raising two kids!

Dee

I am treated different because I am southern.

Yes I say yall but no I am not supid. Just because I am southern an 20 does no mean I smoke pot or drink (ever, nasty stuff) or sleep around (don't date, don't have time)

Yes, I am catholic and Irish. That does not mean I want a big wedding and have 3000 children. I honestly don't care for kids (expect my cousins).

Yes my parents are both diabled (in one way or another) That does not mean they (or I) am stupid. My dad is in a wheel chair, why are you yelling at us like we are deaf? He can't walk, I push him around... that is all. Stopping treating him like he is 2!!!

OMG i can relate so much on so many of those things being a single divorced mother of a pre school and soon to be this coming yr a regular school aged child who is involved in many extra activities.


I am treated differently because i am from a well off family and have had things handed to me like a brand new house for my son and I, a new car paid off after an accident, my schooling always paid for, gift money from inhertance on a yearly basis, but i really resent being treated unfairly becasue of wt or the fact i have things.


What they dont understand is that i am not stuck up nor have a shallow view or personality. I have been blessed in my life and i know how to work hard and to value things. I just wish society would look at a person closer then to judge on superficial and material things.

This is a good thread. I think that I get treated differently because . . . .

1. I am attractive. I'm not trying to be conceited but I think that I am good looking and most men seem to agree. Because of that, I get doors held open for me, seats given up for me on public transportation, and other little things like that. Almost everyday, somebody does something nice for me that I know they don't have to do.

2. I wear expensive clothing. I tend to wear very nice clothing and carry designer handbags. People always think that I am rich and that everything that I even touch cost hundreds of dollars. Most of my clothes were bought on sale and extremely marked down. Can we say 70% off?

3. I look young. I can still pass for a high school student or maybe even younger. One day, I was shopping and wrote a check for my things. The cashier had to call it in for confirmation because it was an out of state check. My father and I have a joint checking account so he can easily depost money into my account. This cashier asked me if I was old enough to be writing checks and if I had permission to use the checks. Isn't that my name on them right there?????

I get treated differently by all kinds of people for numerous reasons.
Because I like to build things and enjoy real, physical labor (play in the dirt, saw, paint, hammer, drill) men think I'm cool and women think- "What ya trying to do, make us LOOK bad"
Some because I am unaffected by social stratas-it drives people mad that I don't give a hoot about what's going on and I'm not a big gossip, therefore I'm not considered "fun" by some.
Others because my Hubby's family has standing and they think by virtue of marriage it should carry over-see above.:rolleyes: I have been called a "flower child" as recently as a year+ ago.

I am intelligent, outgoing, sarcastic and MOST would say funny.
It can put people off, but it's nothing compared to being known as a straight shooter-which I am.

I am known as a highly creative person, so I get a lot of requests
and for my opinion or ideas.
I too look younger than my age so that is agravating to many women. Plus I'm tall, so my weight isn't TOO much of a problem.
HA ha, one more-I have a low voice (think Lauren Bacall) so older people LOVE to talk to me-I'm in their hearing range.

Can ya tell I've got more male friends than female???:p

JWOW, how tall is tall?:D

Damn, I have never ment you and I am in love all over again!:) Ah, The Mother of My Brother! God I love that!

For the tsticlearone Freaks you are all blow and no go! Jeeze give us a break from you uninsightfulness!:rolleyes:

You clowns self importance is underwhelming!:p Pardon oui while I retch in the porcilion pony!:(

Now back to fixing dinner!:cool:

Earp Speak Rules, it is good to be the KING!:D

5'9"

It's like being in a museum. Everyone sees me as really a piece of perfection, ya know? It's hard but once I had some girls try and get me to stand on a pedestal so they could admire me.

-Rudey
--It's hard being me.

I believe ya!!!! (I've seen your pic!) AND I know how your mind works!


Only thing is-it get's mighty lonely on a pedastal---and it kind of hurts when you fall off.

By pedestal I meant the back of a supermodel. They have amazing backs. You can stand on them and you'll never fall off.

-Rudey

People in college used to give me shit about this too. My parents paid my necessities, but I was on my own for spending $$$...most people didn't seem to understand this.

When my friends and I go out and get kinda sloppy drunk, everyone acts like we're these alcoholic, out-of-control sluts......yet when the guys I know get all piss drunk, everyone's like, "Hell yeah man, you rock!!!"

Double standards suck. :mad:

This sounds VERY much like me.
I'm shy but I have a sharp tongue. I can be pretty sarcastic. And I've had so many ppl tell me they thought I was a snob until t hey got to know me.

ETA:
My parents pay for school, rent, etc BUT I also feel the need to work so that I can reduce whatever they're paying. It's a lot. SO people ASSume I'm rich. It's not that I'm richer than anyone, it's just my family's priorities are somewhat different because of our culture.

In addition, I guess I'm somewhat prissy so people seem to think I'm an airhead. Ummm - how about NOT - I have a degree in computer science and I'm getting my Master's now thank you. Because I like to shop and talk about clothes does not mean that's all there is. I do happen to do fashion design so CLEARLY you will hear about clothes. I refuse to apologise for being a girly girl. In the same vein, I won't hesitate to put furniture together, paint a house etc. I just don't care for sports. SO SUE ME!!!!!

This part is a good thing somewhat. I'm young so when people find out, they tend to respect me more because I'm already in grad school. Funny thing is I know a lot of people like me (it's because of where we were raised). Bad part - people think I must be dork if I'm my age and have a degree in Computer Science. That is until they meet me.

When they do meet me, they're shocked that I had any interest in CS.

Most people think I'm a pushover. And I am. I always get asked to do the things no one else wants to do. And I do them. Maybe I'm too nice.

Yeah, me too.

...and because my parents pay for everything dealing with school/sorority. I have a job for spending money. I'm not a spoiled brat. My parents just happen to have the money to support me through college!!

Actually, and I probably shouldn't admit this, but I'm almost two years out of college and the parents still help out--a little. They pay for my groceries and cell phone, sometimes miscellaneous other things such as when my car needed a $200 repair......I do work full-time, but as an entry-level journalist working in Appalacia, I don't get paid squat. But some of the people I know from lower-middle backgrounds whose parents can't afford to help out at all really think I'm a rich, spoiled brat. Oh well.