Age difference
 

My mom told me it was funny I am so supportive of gay marriages and interracial marriages but so against people with HUGE age gap getting married.......i prefer no more than 5 years......10 years is a big TABOO with me...... how about you? what is the maximum age difference between you and your (current or former) partner?? I have dated young guys but maximum 3 years younger and 4 years older.

I used to think that way when I was younger. But then as I grew older I became friends with people who were 10 sometimes 15 years older than me and I noticed there was no such thing as an age gap, and that we got along regardless of our age. The biggest age difference I've ever had was 15 years, and it never mattered that he was significantly older than me. The relationship didn't work out, but we're still friends, and that's what matters.

I just realized H is going to be 40 this year.

I think when you are younger age is a big factor that the gap widens as you (and your peers) mature.

I agree that age differences matter less and less the older one gets, but any more than 5 years personally makes me uncomfortable. I've been asked out by men as old as 36 and 37 (I am 23) and even if they are nice, professional men, not dirty old creeps, it still weirds me out. But that's just me.

Ditto to what's been said. I will usually not date anyone over 40 but that all depends and younger just depends as well. To me, it's all about attitude and not age.

I do tend to stay away from men who LOOK significantly older than they are (that's more than just a little graying). My genes will always have me looking younger than I am so I'd prefer a similar person.

I love it. I get older and can convince girls we have something in common so I can use their young bodies as I see fit and get rid of them whenever. All I have to do is falunt some money, some power, etc.

-Rudey
--Awesome for me.

You remind me of Matthew McConaughey's character in "Dazed and Confused"

"I love highschool girls. I get older and they stay the same age."

I don't think age differences are that big of a deal as long as they aren't like 20 or 30 years older. That is a little strange.

My general rule for dating is 7 years in either direction. I am 30 now, so my range would be 23-37. However, the last person I had a fling with was 8 years older...not a huge variation from the range. I could never date anyone old enough to be my father, though. That would be too weird. :eek:

Ditto. Joe Namath rules.

When I was younger I felt the same way. Now that I am much older, I have no problems with being with an older man (my husband is almost 7 1/2 years older than me). I must admit I PERSONALLY would be hesitant dating a man that was a lot younger than me. I think it is cool that women have the cajones to date a man that is MUCH younger than them. Hell, men have been doing that isht for years!

For me, a guy 5-6 years older is ideal, though I've liked guys up to 10 years my senior. I'm 24 right now, so I probably wouldn't go too much younger (probably no more than 2-3 years right now).

My current and I are seperated by nine years.

I love that he is mature, stable, has his shit together and some amaaaaaaazing stories to tell.

I never thought I would date someone with that kind of age gap, but in this case I am really dating the person, not his age. I don't think I would be comfortable dating a younger man. As I am 24 I would be picking them right out of the cradle!

My sweetie is the best! :D

Is this the 'distraction' that you've mentioned? Good for you!

My current is significantly older, and I don't care. He makes me happy. :D

Myself, personally, I like to date guys about my age - not younger. But my dad and my step mom are 14 years apart and PERFECT for each other! To each their own.

Do you think it would be weird if one of your parents remarried, and the new spouse was only 10 years older than you? This hasn't happened to me (my parents are still together), I know someone whose stepmom is only 10 years older than her older brother.

No what would be were if my mom or dad divorced and pulled a "Just Shoot Me" and one one them married some one from my SR. Class is high School.

That would creep me out.

When I was in high school, I wasn't interested in younger men. Now, I see the age difference as merely a nonissue. I mean look at Aston and Demi, he's 15 or 16 years her junior. I have a crush on a guy that is 7 years younger than me (I'm 31 and he's almost 24).

http://www.stupid-boy.com/smilies/co...rinbounce2.gif

I know a girl that her stepfather is only 9 years older than her!!!

Re: Age difference
 

WHOA! Ya threw me off a little and gave me chills! While I think it's completely wrong to suggest that homosexuals shouldn't marry, it was the other comment that's messing with me. :) It's so strange to me that we address discrimination while denouncing our connection to it. I know I do it and I don't like that about myself. But anyway, whew!!

So, about that age difference...

I've never dated anyone more than one year younger than I but I have dated men that are at least twelve years older. Most of the time, my limit is three years up and one year back.

When you're younger, even a 2 or 3 year age difference can cause problems. There's the maturity level thing, there's the whole one-of-you-can-drink-and-the-other-can't thing, and if you start talking about teenagers, statutory rape can enter the picture. Once you're past that point, though, age differences become less important unless they're HUGE. It depends on the couple, really.

I've dated guys ranging from 1 year younger to 3 years older than I was. My husband is 1 year older than I am. Never had a problem attributable to an age difference (except for one time when an ex wanted to go to a bar and I couldn't go with him because I wasn't 21 yet).

My husband dated a college freshman when he was a senior. She was totally immature. She used him to get into the Senior Ball and then dumped him the next day. :rolleyes: Her loss, my gain! :D

A friend of mine is engaged to a woman who is 7 years younger than he is. She's very mature for her age; he's immature for his age. So it works out. ;)

THat is indeed my distraction.

He rocks, but don't get me started :D

I like dating guys that are atleast a year older than me. It just usually works out that way. But, it is SUCH a pain being under 21 (and looking 16 to boot), and going out to dinner and not being able to drink with them. Like it seriously limits your options for dates and stuff to do. But I still like older guys. Now that I'm almost 21 though and still in the college environment, its getting a little bit harder to meet those older guys, so I've actually been out with one or two who were younger than me....and I immediately regretted it.

i typically date older guys--up to about 12 years older (i'm 25). the guy i'm currently dating is 3 months younger than me. which isn't much, but i rarely date anyone my own age, let alone younger. i don't think an age difference is much of a problem, but 15+ years can be kind of weird.

the age range of guys I dated is 2 years younger to 3 years older. I would never go any more than 2 years younger than me because my brother is 3 years younger, and I just have issues with that for some reason. The oldest guy I ever would date is 11 years older than me, but that's just one specific case. Other than that, I'd have to say 5 years older is my limit, I guess. It all depends -- I don't think I could date someone who isn't at the same kind of stage in his life as I am.

i dont really think that age differences are a big deal. ive always dated older guys. actually - ive always just let myself be around older people because most of the time they are more mature, and it sort of makes you want to be/act more mature.
the guy im sort of.. seeing ... right now, is 26, im 19 .. its an awfully big difference, but we have fun with each other, and actually understand each other. hes a good guy, and he treats me well, thats really all that matters .. not age :)

What do you guys think of a 23-year-old guy who dates a senior in high school? (He's a co-worker of mine.)

She's 18 I guess, so it's legal, but if our boss ever found out, he could lose his job. He's a sports writer and I believe she plays on one of the local HS sports teams.

I don't know, whatever works for him, but I would have a problem dating someone in such a different stage of life than me.

Come to NY and you'll see all the junior high school girls getting picked up in bling blingin cars at 3pm by their 23 year old boyfriends.

-Rudey
--Girls are so stupid and think they're so mature.

I don't understand this. Why would this guy lose his job? What they are doing is perfectly legal. I just don't understand what you're saying. Maybe I am reading this wrong. is it a conflict of interest thing?

ETA: Statutory rape laws are different I am guessing from state to state and province to province.
My brother's new girlfriend is 16...almost 17. He's 20. It's legal. Her parents know about it and adore my brother.

The issue here is that she plays on one of the teams he reviews. There could be bias. What I don't understand is why he can't be transferred to another department or something like that.

I don't udnerstand why he can't be tramsfered either?
I also don't really see the big deal here. If he is reviewing a sports team and the team plays like crap and loses badly, or whatever, he's not going to give them a good review because there would be no reason to.
I can see how there would be a problem say if he was a scout or something and because of their relationship she received something (ie a scholarship) when she probably shouldn't have.

We work at a small, very conservative newspaper in a small, very conservative town. Yes, what they're doing is totally legal, but trust me, the boss would frown upon it because there is a potential conflict of interest/bias. Do I think it's a reason for the guy to lose his job? Definitely not......but our control-freak boss would.

I personally have always dated older guys. Unfortunately, the ones I choose are not necessarily very mature for their ages. :rolleyes: My current boyfriend just turned 30 (I'm 20, will be 21 in November). He is the oldest guy I've ever dated, but he's also far and away the most mature. For example, he has a car, he has a job, and he doesn't live at home with his parents! :p

The guy I am seeing is 9 years older than myself. We get along great. At first he was afraid that I was too young, I am 24- but now he isn't. We have great conversations and he loves that I appreciate good wine, a nice evening out, but still want to occassionally do the goofy stuff. We have a lot in common.
I am attracted to guys older than myself, I wouldnt date anyone my age, the youngest I would probably date is 28 now. Guys in the 27-33 age are ideal for me. They are more mature, a little more settled and comfortable with themselves. They are stable and articulate and have more knowledge than guys my age (at least 90% of them).

I've dated immature 26 year olds, and totally mature and capable guys who were my age. As long as it's legal, kids...

I never thought it was peculiar that someone younger would date someone older . . but as one girl once told me, why would she want to date someone less good at almost everything than she is?

She went on to say that assuming you both had similar interests and similar development the older party was going to be more skilled at just about everything and more emotionally mature.

So why would should the older party want to put up with someone more immature and less skilled at everything than them?

She wasn't knocking it, just wondering. Why babysit? the advantage is with the older party.

My mom's boyfriend is 8 years younger than her...making him 8 years older than me. It's a little strange, but since my mom is so young, anyone she dates who is younger than her would be fairly close to my age.

what about dating a guy who is 29/30 and your 34/34

and his your younger brothers age?

Re: Age difference
 

Wow talk about exact opposites. I have no problem with age gaps, but I am whole heartedly against gay marriage.

The oldest girl I've gotten with was six years older, on the younger side the youngest I have gotten with was only a year and a half younger.

The range for me currently is two years (I'd maybe consider 3 years) younger and if they are older than me I really don't care about age. If a girl is hot she's hot doesn't matter if she's 22 or 42.