Is it Cheating?
 

Is it considered cheating if your man looks at porn? I personally dont think its cheating unless he starts fantasizing about the women in the porn. I dunno tell me what you think. . . .

If he's looking, he's fantasizing. Why else would a man look at a nekkid woman? LOL

women fantasize just like men do...so are we cheating?

NO. its fabricated. i think most will agree.

but if theyre looking at it before/during/after intimate moments, thats a problem. still, not cheating, but an issue. remember, if you can have sex with him, you can talk about whats goin on.

I do not think it is cheating. I would much rather my man look at porn instead of physically cheating or trying to date another woman behind my back.

I'm with you brick. I'd much rather he look at it than cheat on me as well. I think that's it's perfectly fine as well as he wasn't addicted to it or needed in order to be turned on to or enjoy sex. A lot of men do it and he will probably rebel if you tell him not to do it... let the man handle his business!

It depends on how you define cheating.

For some people cheating only counts when two people physically connects. Others consider cheating counts when you are thinking about connecting with some one.

In my opionion, when a boyfriend/husband choose porn movie over his girlfirend/wife, that is definitely cheating.

Re: Is it Cheating?
 

I don't think so.
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I don't consider it cheating. Like others have said if your mate becomes addicted and all of his attention is devoted to porn, then it's a problem and needs to be worked on.

I didn't read the question that way.

I think you are right. I got caught up in the replies . .. :)

Internet Porn is a gateway to cheating. Recently on The View, that question was asked and they mentioned that many men begin cheating after seeing that. They start to fantasize about certain things, and try to go out and get it.

huh?
 

He could fantasize about other Women just looking at MTV, BET or Janet Jackson's white meat Superbowl performance lol...

Really... it's not cheating unless he's cheating... He's cheating if he's intimate with another person.

Fantasy, masterbation and a few other things are not cheating.

No, it's not cheating. I'll leave it at that.

Heck no its not cheating... Cause when I'm watching Ray Lewis play...Im thinking about more than his Tight Defensive playing skills ;).. ITs all fantasizing..

As a Preacher I deal with this question all the time. Is it? or isn't it? Hard question because cheating is relative. now Adultry is a whole different thing entirely. By biblical definition it is having intercourse with someone other than your spouse. So you are not committing adultry, btu it can lead to it. In philosphy we would call maturbation, and the likes the lesser of 2 evils. Unfortunalitely Bible doesn't fully address maturbation, if at all. Anybody have any private questions just PM me. Peace!!

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changing question. . .
 

Ok thanks everyone for your responses. A friend of mine had a real concern with this issue and your answers have really helped her.

My questions: What constitutes as cheating? Is it the feelings for another person or the actually act?

1.Is it ok to be married and like somebody else while liking your significant other?
2. Or is it only cheating if you act on the those feelings?
*let me hear it. . . .

Biblical definition of adultry????
 

I think this is a really interesting topic and there have been some interesting replies. I'm honestly not sure how I feel but biblically speaking.... contrary to what the above quote says....

In Matthew (5:27-30) Jesus says, "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart..."

I am no biblical scholar and the only real reason that I knew where to look in the bible is because my Sunday School class was talking about the passage right before this one (on hate) just yesterday. I just wanted to set the "biblical" story straight.

hey justme, you are very correct in qouting Jesus's answer to the Pharisees concerning this issue. In defense of my answer I was not qouting a text about adultery as much as I was giving the exact translation of biblical greek as it pertains to this word that we translate in english as adultery. Your text deals more in context not with who is really doing what as much as it is equalizing the playing field of those who were calling themselves the religious leaders of Jesus's day. Jesus's issue here was not adultery, but was more about the religious people who looked fine on the outside,acted moral, and yet as Jesus called them they were white washed graves. The genesis of your sin is lust but lust is not sin until it becomes manifested. Read James 1:13-15. If it is not context don't qoute. Now the record is straight.

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Hmm PreachDawg Im hearing you. But i dont know about that. A couple of preachers have told me that so a man thinketh so he doeth ( i dont know if thats scripture or not) I just know that what you think you will eventually act out. Thats not only Bible but science tells us that too. I mean I wouldnt want my husband to look lustfully at another woman. But like i said i dont know? thats why im getting answers

Hey da1, I'm hearing you and I like yhese types of discussions, they remind me of my seminary days. I believe the scientific portioin you are talking about is psychosomatic, which means were your mind goes your body follows. I agree that you would not want your husband to lust after another woman. I hope by this discussion nobody has taking me as saying that lust is alright. I am not saying that, but what iam saying is that sometimes especially in relationships we need to sometimes be willing to look at the bigger pictuer and not get caught overly focussing on what can be considered secondary issues. The bible is true when it says that all have sinned and falling short of the glory of God. Your husband or boyfriend may be looking at ornography( which by no means is a good thing) but dont be so quick to categorize him as some kind of lustfull deranged person, and at the same time miss the fact that you to may be in lust just not sexually. Which according to God's word is no different.

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