Uggh
 

This annoys me to no end......

I hate people who complain about others whose parents support them through college by paying tuition, buying them cars, etc. I've heard so many people say that these kids are spoiled and that they can't wait until they get in the real world and see what it's like.

Well what is so bad about someone's parents saving money and supporting their kids so they can get an education? I certainly hope I can give my kids everything that my parents have provided me. I'm not spoiled. At least not to me. My parents bought my car, but I have a job and I pay for my sorority expenses and things that I want.

I think it's very admirable that some people go to college and work and do things completely independent....but I don't think it's fair for those people to look down on others because their parents saved for the future.

What do you guys think? Anyone?

Oh I agree. My parents do not pay for school or my car, but they pay for a great deal of many other things which I am grateful for.

I think people are very lucky to have their family pay for school. That means the person can have a job if they want, not beucase they have too. They then can put more time/energy/effort into school then I can (sometimes).


what does piss me off is people whose parents pay for everything and they just waste their time getting high/wasted and not even going to class!!!! Do you think you parents are going to keep supporting you and your habits when you are 40!!!


To me I will know when I am successfull when I do not have to live pay check to pay check and I can buy my (future) child a new car (not expensive, just something with a warrenty)

This is a huge pet peeve of mine.

The idea of parenting is to provide for your children and do what you can to give them the best life they can have. BEFORE ANYONE GETS HYSTERICAL, there are parents who are amazing parents, and feel that although they are capable of paying for college, they want their children to do it themselves. More power to them. That is a personal choice and God knows I wouldn't knock it- their kids will be much more ready for "the real world" and doing things on their own than someone who lives in a dorm for 4 years.

But on the other hand, if I'm not judging you for working your ass off to put yourself through school, how dare you make assumptions about me and assume that I'm spoiled because my parents are financing my education. Guess what? My father and mother have both worked my entire childhood to have my college paid for. They pay my rent, they pay my utilities, and I have a monthly stipend to pay for all of this with. I am still responsible to get the checks in on time, budget my money and make sure that I have enough covered for food, entertainment, school supplies, etc.

Over breaks I work at home, save up all that money, and use it to pay my credit card bills over breaks.

(This is like Jules finances 101....my apologies.)

It's a mutual respect thing. I admire my parents for their unbelievable work ethic and selflessness- they have never left me wanting anything. In return I go to class everyday and work so that my degree actually means something.

We're all given what we're given, you do the best with what you have. Anyone who wants to call me spoiled can kiss my ass because they have no idea just how much I appreciate it.

i definitely agree. people think that i am stuck up and spoiled cause my dad bought and is paying for my brand new car and insurance. he just says that as long as i stay in school, he will take care of my car. also, what financial aid doesnt cover, he will take care of. what is wrong with that?

cheering!!! bravo!! exactly what i would have said only better!! i totally agree!!

**curtsies** Well thanks. I'm surprised it came out that calm.

Thank god...FINALLY people who get where I'm coming from!!!

I intend to pay for my daughter's tuition, housing, car, sorority and daily expenses AS LONG as they are going to class, making good grades and handling finances appropriately. I'll pay for it as long as they uphold their end of the deal. If they want more than the month allowance provides for, then at that point they can work during breaks and summer vacation!

That's exactly how my parents are with me :)

I don't care for the people that make snide comments about my finances.
1) I have a J-O-B check into it
2) I have money for school because my father and grandmother died. I would give back every damn cent for one minute with them, so stop being a jealous selfish money whoring cow, THANKS.
I buy everything on sale and am a cheap ass, oh and my new car? I will drive it for more than ten years, GET OVER IT.

(someone not involved in GreekChat keeps making nasty comments, I know them from CHURCH)

Most people who bitch are just jealous.

As long as you don't complain about how poor you are it's all cool with me.

I would have to agree that most people that complain about it are complaining about the people who take it for granted. I am all for supporting your kids thru school, though I had a roommate that made me a little disgusted b/c she WAS spoiled--made good grades and all, but she could never have enough and her parents never told her no--as a parent, you have to draw a line somewhere.

I do want to help my kids--I don't want them to have to work their way thru school. Their job IS school.

that is how my parents were with both my sister and me when we were in school. my father didn't get to go away to school. he had to live at home and work and put himself through school. my mom did get to away though. but, he always felt that he missed out on the college experience and therefore him and my mom worked real hard and started saving when both my sister and i were babies so that way we could have the college experience he had wanted, and he did tend to live vicariously through us when they came to visit and stuff. and i am forever grateful to them that i didn't have to worry about money/job when i was in school. and i don't think that i was any less prepared for the real world when i graduated because they raised me right, plus as AXJules said, they provided the money, but i still had to manage my expenses and checking account and pay my bills on time.

A friend of mine worked 40+ a week while in college and he always gave me a hard time because I never had to work while in college. While I think it's admirable that he worked that hard to pay his tuition, I would always get offended when he thought of me as spoiled and unthankful for what my parents did for me. My parents did Florida Prepaid. For anyone unfamiliar with Florida Prepaid, it is a system that allows parents, grandparents, or whoever to lock in a future student to the cost of tuition, dorms, etc. for that year. You then invest your money throughout the years into the Florida Prepaid system. My parents invested the day I was born in 1981 so my tuition was completely covered and my parents only had to pay the 1981 tuition price. (Unfortunately, the state of Florida did away with this last year) On top of Florida Prepaid, I had 4 scholarships. Since my tuition was paid for, I used my scholarship money for my books, rent, utilities and sorority. I managed my own finances. My parents didn't mail in a rent check to my landlord and they didn't pay my credit card bills. It was my responsibility to make sure all these expenses were paid on time. It was my responsibility to budget how much money I had for the semester after my scholarship checks came through. My parents wouldn't give me more money if I decided to blow all my money on partying every night or buying a bunch of clothes.
I will never take for granted that I never had to work while in school. It gave me more time to study for my classes, do an internship, and hang out with my friends. I worked during the summer or during winter break.
To show my thanks to my parents for all they've given me, I completed my degree in 4 years and I got really good grades.
My parents worked very hard to give me a good home and a great lifestyle. If that means I'm spoiled, then so be it. I only hope that one day I can give to my kids what my parents were able to provide to me.

I am so gratefule to my parents for putting me through school.
While I don't have a car...and it's something my parents would never buy for me, I could care less. The fact that they put me through school is plenty, not to mention all that they have done for me on top of that.

My parents, especially my dad look at it as paying it forward. My dad's grandparents were very generous to him and instead of paying them back, he's helping me with the things I want and need and in turn I am do do the same for my kinds, and I have every intention of them out as much as I can.

Wow! What an awesome program. sucks the it's no longer available.

My parents saved for me - an amount that would have covered all my tuition had a I gone to school before the nineties, but tuition has raised so much that it ended up covering my residence fees first term and then a 1/4 of tuition every academic year. But I'm still very honoured and grateful that they did that for me - neither of them got to go to university and they always wanted to make sure that I could.

My parents (divorced) paid for my Freshman year, and then my tuition for the rest of college, and I worked for the rest. In my case, that was good, because I was able to get some OJT and professional experience which helped me get into the job market immediately.

My wife's family paid every cent of her college costs. She got much better grades than I did. Cause and effect? Who knows?

We paid for college (including a nice little condo) for daughter number one and hair school for daughter number two.

Then I was out of work for a lengthy amount of time, and we were somewhat worried about college for our son. The good news is that he got a full ride (academic), so we will try to help him out some when he graduates. He works summers and did use his own money to buy a car.

Having said all of that, my personal feeling is that college should be a time for study and learning about living away from home, etc. You will get to support yourself long enough once you join the work force. So, in my opinion, if it is possible for a student to concentrate on school without having a job -- that's a good thing. I understand, though, that sometimes a family simply can't afford that.

I paid for school in the sense that I took out student loans, which I am paying back, to cover tuition and housing but, whatever those loans didn't cover, my parents helped me with. I also had a small academic scholarship every semester. As long as I was in school, I could use a credit card that they paid for (but if I went overboard with it, they let me know!!!) and I didn't have to pay for my car. I did work part-time most of the time I was in school and that was my bill-paying and play money. My parents both worked very hard and wanted to help out their daughters as much as they could. Even though it took me a bit to learn how to be completely responsible with money (credit cards can be evil) I'm proud of what my parents did to help me out, and what I have learned from them. I only hope hubby and I can teach our kids the same thing as they get older.

If you can be taken care of during anytime in your life by someone else, well bully for you.

Maybe challenges do make you a better person, but who cares? I have heard that Privation/starvation refines the soul, but who would willingly partake of starvation given the choice?

I do confess to being curious about the people that were taken care of like that, but still professed to have trouble and no time for academics, or were overwhelmed. But I figured they just weren't very bright. A situation money doesn't help.

I'm not sure who would hold any of your situations against you; I worked my way through school, working around 30 hours a week to pay for my way. That was just my situation; because of various situations within my family, my parents just could not contribute as much as they would have liked. I did very well in high school and got a lot of scholarships/aid, but even the remaining cost was a strain. I worked my tail off and was able to pay the bills.

If there were misunderstandings, it was related to this; sometimes friends, etc. couldn't understand when I had to work on a Sat. night or go into work early on a Friday or Monday, thus negating weekend plans. Because of my work schedule, especially senior year, I just couldn't go nuts on nights because of work. This misunderstanding wasn't anyone's fault; just one of those things.

I never would and never have held a grudge against those who were in more fortunate situations. If I ever have children, I will try my best to make sure that I can pay for their educations. People do the best with their situations, and that's that.

UGGG people can be annoying like that! My parents pay for a lot of things for me, but I don't take it for granted! Things that I "want", not "need", I pay for -- even my sorority and fraternity dues. I had a job from the middle of my freshman year until last summer, and I feel really guilty even that I don't have one now. (I don't because it's hard to find one while studying abroad: don't think I haven't tried.)

I got the biggest amount of crap, though, when my uncle gave me a car last April (my first car). Everyone seemed to think that that indicated that I was spoiled beyond all belief, 19 years old and not paying for my own car. Then they all shut up when I asked them, "And how many of y'all had your first car given to you by your parents??? You might have been 16, not yet in college, but still!"

Then again I know people who are my same year in college, but STILL don't have a car because their parents won't help them out on it, and they don't have enough money to get one. I don't really like that either. I think that, if the parents have enough money to help their children out until they get out of school, they should do so, within reason.

You're all a bunch of spoiled bastards.

-Rudey
--Stop complaining because you know you all are you offensive bourgois pigs!

I just had this conversation with my boss a few weeks ago. We're looking at resumes for possible summer interns and we're looking at this one guys resume and she's like "Oh...see he can't have a good work ethic....all of his jobs are summer jobs. He doesn't work while he's in school. Mommy and Daddy probably pay for everything."

I was :eek: :eek: :eek:

My response was "You've always told me that you've admired my work ethic and professionalism...well all the jobs on my resume in my younger;) days were summer jobs. I never worked while in school...I wasn't allowed. I received a monthly allowance and had to make that last. THAT'S how I learned money management." It was then her turn to be :eek: :o . She thinks that's a free ride so to speak. I thinks she's straight hating.


I know that I'm am very blessed and very fortunate that my parents were able to do this and I hope I can do the same for my son.

Spoiled.

-Rudey

LOL.

I think if you have been treated to all this you have been spoiled.

It doesn't mean you act spoiled. What would be acting spoiled by the way?

And whats wrong with being spoiled?

My parents paid for my tuition, car insurance, books, and rent/utilities. I am very grateful for what they did. I was able to do other things and have a little fun. I had good grades.

I lived with a girl that was jealous that my parents did all of this and I didn't have to work. I did work just to have a little extra money. Whenever I left for work, this girl would bitch about something. For instance, she'd bitch that I hadn't taken out HER dog, or cleaned up HER crap that was strown all over the common living room, etc. She told me she wanted me to do it before I left for work since she was the one that let me live with her. I told her to shove it and just walked out the door. As I walked out the door, she proceeded to call me a spoiled bitch that had my parents pay for everything.

Oh well. I am grateful for what my parents did and am ready to get out into the real world to do my own thing. Yes, that might seem like a slap in my parents face for some people in a weird kind of way, but that's what my parents paid tuition for, for me to get a job and pay for my own things in the real world.

Spoiled.

-Rudey

I tear into my spoiled buddy all the time...and yeah, he is spoiled. Now in his 6th year, all i hear from this kid is 'oh i'll have three degrees, making 60 k right after graduation', 'i'll sell my stock and that will pay for my first car'...blah blah blah. His parents have paid his way the whole time without any concern of gratitude. He skipped so many classes, never studied - basically dicked around most of the time doing the bare-min. I think first year he even said something to the affect of, oh your parents didn't save any for you because they didn't think you would go to university. I only wish i had that kind of leverage now, instead of starting out with large debts and 3-4 yrs financially behind.

Maybe you can see why people like me have opinions of kids that had it a little better.

Go to partypoker.com. It helps supplement my income.

-Rudey
--You spoiled prick!

it's tough - when you're in a situation when you're working all the time plus school, you can't help but feel a little jealous of those who aren't working. it's not necessarily the right way to feel, but it enters your thought process.

no thanks, i'd run into guys like my roommate who would take all my money.
- think Matt Damon from rounders

It sounds retarded to say that people hold your "fortunateness" against you, but it happens all the time.

For example, one of my friends who is putting himself through school turns into a little bitch whenever I ask him to go out: "Sorry, my daddy doesn't pay for everything I do...I actually have to get off my ass and have a job." I may not work while I'm at school (they don't usually hire a lot of people from out of state) but that's not to say I'm not CONSTANTLY doing homework and working on my ad portfolio for graduation.

And as soon as you say anything about it....like "I'm not spoiled!That hurts that you think I do nothing all day" you get "Stop bitching. Your life is perfect, you have nothing worth complaining about."

Um guess what- If you buy me the car I want, the house I want, send me to college- there's nothing stopping people from dying, or yourself from getting sick...I could go on and on. Having everything set for school is really nice, but it doesn't guarantee my life will be any easier than yours.

My parents could afford to put me through college but they decided not to. My mom put herself through college and I think she thinks that it's as easy to do that now as it was then, which is nothing close to the truth.

They came up with a solution that I think was a decent compromise: They pay for four years of tuition (up to a certain amount -- they weren't going to cover four years at Macalester at $35,000 a year, for example). If I end up going for longer than that (which I will), I have to pay the extra years. Between them and my grandma I also got a lump sum of money as a "high school graduation gift" for housing and everything else, enough to cover about three years. Anything beyond that I have to come up with myself. And I think that's a reasonable solution because it allows me to make the decisions about how much I'm going to pay for where I live and what I do with my extra money, whether it's worth it to go for an extra semester or two if it means paying more, things like that -- but I still don't have to sell myself on the street corner trying to come up with the money every month and I can pay my sorority dues and go on vacation for spring break if I want to.

Of course there are some spoiled brats out there, but I think most of y'all whose parents pay for everything are just lucky. ;)

I am spoiled and I admit it. I did however pay for all of my schooling myself. My mom did buy me a townhome and car so I didn't have to worry about rent or car payments (until the last year in school when I bought my mustang, but even then she paid for 1/2 of the car and I paid for the other 1/2). I never worked during school just during the summer-she also supported me some during this time.

When I sold the townhome we made a 10,000$ profit b/c of the work I put into it so she did get her money back. She put up the down payment for my condo here in Austin. We sold it this year and made a very nice profit so she was repaid.

My mother still does a lot for me and people say I am very spoiled but she has taught me how to handle money, buy and own a home-lessons that are priceless IMO.

If I have children their schooling will be paid for as long as their grades are good.

Neither of my parents attended college. My father has only an 8th grade education. But they managed to pay for my tuition, books, and provided a monthly allowance. I appreciated every dime my father had saved for my college education, and made the most of the experience. I worked part time to pay for my sorority dues and car.
MRAXOMOM3 had it pretty easy - never had to work, parents bought him a condo while he was in school, and he is about three classes shy of a degree 15 years later. I think he realizes now that if limits had been set, he might have actually been a little more serious about school.
We don't intend to hand our girls everything on a silver platter. We will however give to them as long as they appreciate it and use the gift wisely. I hope they will also appreciate being "spoiled"!

Well . . . you're a little touchy so it may not be totally your roomie.

My parents pay up to a certain amount every year. Luckily, after transferring, my scholarships and grants and loans keep me under that amount. I didn't work freshman year of college because my parents didn't want me to, and it was a really good decision on their part. Since then I've worked, but this semester I'm cutting back to help out the GPA.

I don't like the fact that there's such a chasm at MU - there's kids who think I'm spoiled because my parents pay the difference between my scholarships and tuition and pay for my apartment, etc, but then there's kids who think I'm poor because I have a job and had to take out loans.

I know damn well I'm spoiled and I don't feel bad about it - I see that the education my mom got here has ensured that she's able to provide for me. My parents financed my car loan for me, but I've paid it all back, which is awesome for me, since I'll have tons of loans by the time I'm done with school. I know that I'm learning to manage money (albiet not my own) and live independently, and most of these FIBs aren't getting that.

I completely understand...I grew up in a single-parent household, where I worked even in high school, got good enough grades to get into a prestigious university, and am paying my way through college via work (I work just about every free hour I can when I don't have class or meetings or activities during the week), loans, and scholarships. I have some friends that are pretty well off, but I am not jealous of them (at least not most of the time), nor would I hold that in and of itself against them. For example, my roommate is well-off (her parents pay her rent and she has a car), but she works (I've seen her work two jobs) to cover her other expenses (and She does not walk around wearing Prada or Burberry). What bothers me about some people I know who have their expenses paid by their parents is when I know they don't appreciate it, when they complain about how hard they have it (in terms of school--not life in general), and when they don't even try to save money when they can (ie. spending $$$ frivlously then complaining that you are broke, or complaining that you don't have time to study and are tired when you are taking less classes than me, do not work, and are not involved in any on-campus organizations or clubs, and then you don';t get good grades). If your parents pay all your bills, and you've never worked ever in your life, and your not at all involved in campus life, do not complain to me that you are (1) broke or (2) tired and don't have time to study, b/c chances are, you can't be as tired or broke as I am...:o :(

***By the way, I do commend those of you who are paying your own sorority expenses (it shows that you do take on some responsibility and aren't part of the category of people I am speaking about above) :)***

I think some of the "bitterness" comes from those who have everything paid for THEN whine about not having money. As a former treasurer, I can assure you that I felt that bitterness. My scholarships paid for tuition, my parents did help out w/ room and board- but I worked to support myself and pay my own bills. As treasurer, when people came whining to me about money problems, but yet they drive a brand new car their daddy bought them, they don't have a job, and they just can't pay because they spent daddy's check this month on those brand new Seven's or whatever, I have no sympathy. If you can't survive on what daddy gives you- GET A JOB. Some people act like it's the end of the world to get a job when you're in college. News flash: millions of people do it! And it's not like they were atheletes or in a super demanding program either.... they had plenty of time to go to the bars, but not get a job.

Or maybe (this is just a guess), some of you don't realize what you say to others. If you make fun of someone or bug them about going out when they can't because they have to work, they're going to be bitter towards you. It goes both ways. If you're gracious about having the luxury of having things paid for, then there wouldn't be as much of a problem. But if you're obnoxious about it, you're going to have some people annoyed with you.

*Disclaimer- this is not about anybody in particular! This is based on my general experiences in life. I don't know how any of you act outside of GC, don't know and don't care who has money or not. Just giving my opinion from someone who has been "bitter" (for lack of better word) towards those who had everything paid for.