'Ships on GC??
 

Who on here has dated or wanted to date someone you met on GC??? Did you do it? Why or why not???

I am REALLY NOT trying to start any drama, so please don't use names (unless you guys married or something :) ). Simply, did you do it, have you thought about it, did it work out, why or why not.

I'm curious-- a bunch of us have "the crush thread" and some of us talk offline, but does it go further than friends????



I'll be the first to answer my own question. I have made 2 or 3 great great friends on here that I love dearly....but I keep everyone else at a pretty far distance on purpose b/c I saw things that I didn't like happening to other people about a year ago. So no, I have never wanted to date anyone. Haven't pursued anything (also b/c I'm in a relationship with someone I love immensely), and it would take like, moving mountains to get me to go out with someone from online (not just GC).


And you???





And I'm serious about the drama...I'm not stupid...you can say something didn't work without getting nasty. Ruin my thread and I'll beat your ass :D :::::INSERT ANGEL FACE HERE:::::

Ivory I never say anything bad about you :( I'm sweet like bubble gum!

-Rudey





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OK, I admit that I've dated a few people from JDate.....but I've definitely never seriously considered having an actual relationship with someone off of GC. Sure there's someone I may flirt with online all the time and talk to, but it stops there.

Considering the male-to-female ratio on GC and the decent-male-to-not-so-decent-male ratio (not to mention the psycho-to-normal-people ratio), I feel like I'm at a disadvantage here . . . ;)

But seriously, though I have never done the online romance thing, I have done the long distance thing for a few months and HATED it. I don't think I could handle internet relationships. I've had enough trouble with internet friendships getting all crazy that I don't think I want to move it up a level.

I just think it's all very interesting. We have these circles on here, some tighter than others. And some people flirt and PM and whatnot....but then you have something like Ivory's, where when you attempt to move it off the computer it is like it never happened. That's fascinating to me.

I guess it all goes back to the trust thing. I keep a more than safe distance from the majority of the people on this board.

Remember when you sent naked pictures to a couple of us?

-Rudey

Remember when you liked it?

No. I'm gay.

-Rudey
--So yes it turned me on...long time.

So what you're saying is, you're a chick?????
OMG what's that short for? Rudina? Rudith???

Dude I never knew....


And hey, remember when you hijacked my thread b/c you wanted me so badly???? WTF?! At least make something up....

I think everybody comes into it with so many different past experiences with the way they relate to people online, you know?

I've had enough experience with people online not being who they said they were (not personally, but with friends) that I'm pretty wary of people. There are a lot of warning signs that will make me suspicious -- people refusing to give out fairly harmless details about their lives, only having one or two photos of themselves (or none!), having too much going on in their lives all the time, etc. -- and it takes a lot for me to get past that. There are still a number of GCers that I wouldn't be surprised aren't legit. And semi-recent events on GC have just proved to me that it makes sense to be careful, you know?

There are a lot of people who are a lot more trusting, and that's not necessarily a bad thing, but it makes for a totally different way of relating to people they meet online. There are people who assume somebody's a fake until they get proof otherwise, there are people who assume somebody's real until they get proof otherwise, and there are people everywhere on the spectrum between.

When it comes to flirting -- when I said before about how I've had internet friendships get screwed up, flirting played a major role. People are so different on the internet than they are off the internet and especially if you've never met them in real life you have no idea what that flirting is supposed to mean. I flirt a lot in real life -- it's just one of the ways that I bond with people -- and I had one of the closest friendships I ever had ruined by the fact that we first started talking over the internet (though I knew his brother and a couple of his friends offline) and because of that flirting there were a lot of complications and mixed messages when we finally met in real life. And though ultimately we sort of became friends again, the friendship was never the same and it's never going to be the same because of that.

So while I still sometimes flirt online, I do a lot less of it, almost none of it on purpose -- and at least on GC I do a lot more flirting with girls than guys ;) , simply because I know it won't lead to the same kinds of complications as it did that one time, assuming that they're straight.

Every brings so much baggage to the table that they're bound to have different levels of trust when it comes to the whole internet thing.

P.S. RUDITH is the HOTTEST NAME EVER.

Stop it, you're making me wet.

Me too.

There are about two dozen men on GC and 30,000 women so it would be hard to meet a guy here.

My sister has met three boyfriends through online dating websites. The first was okay, but it didn't work out. The second guy was a cheating, lying psycho. She is with the third guy now, and they are taking about getting married. Maybe it will work out.

RUDITH!









Damn.

You people are freaks.

-Rudey
--I had sex with Jules on a public bus and everyone watched. There!

I don't know if I haven't been around long enough or I've just had my head up my tail or what. I miss out on all the good gossip.

Let's take votes on who thinks Rudy should change his GC screenname.

Do I get $100 or something for coming up with Rudith??? Like when you sign someone up for a credit card??

And please tell me you know the stuff about me is jokes ;)

wait..you mean you're not dating blaine, haven't made out with kath or had sex with rudey on a bus???

Wait. So you DIDN'T have sex with Rudith in the back of the bus, or you just didn't know his real name was Rudith?

I am so disappointed. :( The bus sex with Rudey, I mean Rudith, seemed unlikely, but the rest seemed possible.

;) :p just kidding

LOL the three of you girls crack me up...
No- Blaine and I are divorced, Kath and I tried to make out but couldn't figure out how (???) and the sex with rudey was at the bus station .

bus station..ahh...thats so uhm..unsanitary. was it good ;)

Not as good as the bathroom at McDonald's would've been.

2 ladies never tell ;)
THREAD JACKER!!!!!!

read the forum guidelines - its my forum i can do what i want :)

okay then. back to the topic:

i don't see GC as a dating service so i've never developed a real life crush or anything more on any of the guys here (altho i hold a special place in my heart for that ksigrc fellow). i have "met"some cool people on here that i consider to be friends but for the most part i keep people at a distance for various reasons...altho jules, you may be one of my new favorite people :)

Aww thanx! Same here....and that actually pretty accurately sums up how I feel about dating on GC. I don't see the site as serving that purpose for me,so it never occurs to me to think of people in that way.

KATH HAS NO GAME.

It's true. :(

nonono..not at all ivory, i swear..i didn't mean for it to come off like that, and i'm sorry if it did..


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OMG NO . I feel so horrible, I swear from the bottom of my heart all we're doing is making fun of me b/c the things we brought up were rumors or jokes about me. I started the thread honestly and was interested in your reply. Which is why I restated later that, after thinking about it, because I don't think of the site like that, I see people as lil internet personalities, not real people, if that makes any sense.

That wasn't to insinuate that YOU see this as a dating service, I was simply thinking out loud that that's probably what leads me to keep people on here at such a distance.

It is interesting to me---- somehow you (not you in particular, Ivory, but you in general) got past that and things didn't work out. I'm just trying to figure out if its a mental block, if other people have "gone into that territory" as well, or whatever.


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And yes, Kath has no game. We couldn't figure it out???? How pathetic is that?

Jesus, Kath, the more you talk about it the more true it becomes.

I can't help the fact that the MAN OF MY DREAMS lives across the country and I put all my game in a safe deposit box until we'd be in the same state. :p

Yes I did have sex with Jules at the bus station. I was begging for some change and this chick wouldn't take no for an answer.

-Rudey
--The good thing was I was on top so my goodies didn't touch the dirty benches (plural).

dirty benches make me laugh.

hahahaha Grapeland, University of. On that note I'm going to go do something productive.

Didn't have enough fraternity boys around college so I joined GreekChat...
:mad:
Doh!

Kidding...I go for the GDI's anyway ;)

While I have a couple of people on here that I actually talk to outside of GC, I've never had a "relationship" with anyone on here nor would I ever want to. Several reasons I suppose, I have a boyfriend that I love and I've never done the online dating thing and I don't ever plan to.

Either way though, if it works for you then good for you, it just isn't anything that I ever even considered.

I do think Rudith is quite possibly the hottest name I've ever heard by the way. Jules I will give you $100 for that when we get back to school. :D