Younger/Older
 

Well, I was out at the bars with some of my buddies this weekend and as a joke (we were a few deep to say the least ;) ) we started hitting on a group of women probably in their 30s (Sidenote: one of my buddies actually went home with one of them but thats another story...)

Anyways it got me thinking, how many of you older women would hook up or date significantly younger guys? Or for that matter are attracted to younger guys?

I'm 38 and won't go out with someone who's under 42.. men in their 40's and older really know how to treat women!

Dee

Re: Younger/Older
 

Damn, this makes me feel old!!! I will be turning 30 in a few months--- and according to you I am an older woman!!!!! :(


-wendi

I said older as in older than myself, not old ;) besides 30 isn't old. As a side note, in Maxim a couple months ago there was an article that said men reach their sexual peak between 18-20 whereas women hit their peak at 30, so look at it that way ;)

Anyways back on topic...

Edit: oh and you never answered the question... :D

Thank you for explaining. :)

I would hook up with with someone in their early twenties. I don't think I would have a serious relationship with someone that much younger than me. But hook up I could handle (as we would both be at the height of our sexual peaks!!)

-wendi

What do you consider significantly younger?

I date guys who are 30 (I'm 34) and would probably go to 27, it all depends on the guy. Someone's age does not determine their maturity level.

Significantly I would say would be like 20 and 30

I'm 30 and I say yes, definitely. :D

My general rule has been seven years in either direction, though I would make exceptions.

I'll go as young as 21 if they're really something special. (I'm 26.)
I'll go up 10 years.

I never really thought about this until last summer my brother was dating someone who was 20. He is 29. She had her fake ID taken up at one of the bars we went to on vacation. I realized then I hadn't had to worry about someone not getting into a bar in a long time. And I like it. :D So I would never date anyone not old enough to walk into a bar with me legally. And I really can't see having a serious relationship with anyone under 25 or 26. Being 31 years old, and a single mom, I don't think anyone under that age could really relate to my realities.

Re: Younger/Older
 

No offense, but me and some of my other thirtysomething friends would beat your asses if you even thought about hitting on us as a joke. I think y'all need to get a life. I know you offered more of an explanation, but that just really hit me the wrong way.

My (seven years younger) fiance is lucky he can keep up with me most of the time... ;)

At this point in my life, I don't think dating a MUCH younger man would be an option because as a mid-twentysomething, I wouldn't want to date someone who couldn't go to the bars yet! :)

A year or two younger, I would consider.

After thinking about this more, I think it has more to do with your life stage than your age. There are men younger than me who have kids already, etc and there are men younger than me who are looking for the first wife to start a family with. My dad was 53 and his wife was 41 when they got married. That sounds like a big difference but she was already a grandma and he was about to become a grandpa. They both had adult children, etc. Same life stage. Those life stages become more diverse as you get older, I think.

Dee

Say you were in Europe or Quebec for a year where one can drink at 18. Would your situation change?

Being a single parent definitely changes requirements (or should)... Most 21 year old guys I know wouldn't be able to handle this situation. (I said most, guys, not all.) With me still being in college, and being an active member in a GLO, I can relate to some guys younger than me. The hard part is that I do have the grown up real world thing too since I also work full time and have responsiblities that the majority of the guys I've dated didn't have. I'm in an inbetween stage where it's strange to date guys who have graduated, have real jobs, etc, and it's often exasperating to date guys in college.

Yeah but who really wants to do the real life thing before they have to?

Re: Re: Younger/Older
 

Sorry if you took it the wrong way and perhaps I stated it the wrong way, but it was kind of a joke we were a little faded and were like "this will be funny" nothing malicious about it. Heck one of my buddies ended up hooking up with one of them so no harm no foul. I certainly have nothing against older women ;)

Not a problem! :)

By the way Valkyrie you never answered the question :p

I didn't do the real world thing before I had to, and I realize some people's circumstances enable them to hold off. If I wasn't doing at least part of the real world thing at my age however, something would be wrong. That does sometimes make things hard for dating younger guys that DON'T have to be in the real world.

So I take it you left school for awhile and then came back?

Which question -- about younger guys? If I were single, I'd have no problem dating a guy 10 years younger, or 12 for that matter (as it stands now, I have to "settle" for someone who is seven years younger). I would probably not, however, date an older guy, not because I have a problem with them but just because I'm very young at heart and I'd most likely be bored.

no younger guys for me no thanks... only older

I'm 21 so going much younger wouldn't work for me. I agree with what one poster said about being able to go into a bar with your sig other. I think I'd go up to 30. I have an uncle who is 43 and his s/o is 28. I think they make a great couple. After my aunt died, he has only dated younger women. I asked him about it once and he said the main things that mattered to him besides the physical, were that they had a "real" job and were able to keep up with a real conversation. The oldest I've dated is 27. There was nothing wrong with his age, it was just him... or, maybe it was me.

Usually what most ppl have difficulty with regards to age discrepancies is that they tend to associate that person's age to a family member..."ahhh he's younger than my baby sister..."

Since I am in my early 20's, I don't really like the idea of dating a much younger man. If he can't get into the bars and clubs I go to, then it's not going to work out very well for us. (My roomie is dating someone who just turned 20...she's 22 and it causes all kinds of problems). However, I would date a man up to the age of 28. I think I just like the 5 years apart thing! :p My current boyfriend is 3 months younger than me to the date and I love it!

Yeah, I have to agree with the bar thing (although here in Ontario the legal drinking age is 19). I'm 23 and I probably wouldn't date someone younger than 20. I probably wouldn't date a much older man either, but I'd go up to 10 years older than myself.

I don't have too much room to talk on here, but I'm 23 and I would date someone as young as 21 (because of the aforementioned bar thing) and as old as 27 or so. I've always had a tendency to date guys that are younger than me, and I always joke with my friends that "if you can't find a good man, then raise one"