Men!!!
 

they are hard to understand too..

my boyfriend called an hour ago. the conversation went fine until he asked if i wanted to come over to his house. i said that i did not feel like leaving the house due to the fact that i am tired and i have to leave for work tomorrow at 4:30 a.m. and i also have laundry to do tonight. well, when i told him that i wanted to stay home, he gets upset like i just told him that i want to break up. i do not think it is that big a deal. we are spending the day together tomorrow. so we hang up but he calls me 15 min later saying, 'i cannot believe you are telling me no'. i am like 'my God, it is nothing personal, i just want to stay home tonight. i will be with you tomorrow.' then he just hangs up in the middle of me saying 'i do love you'.
it was very weird. he has never acted that way before. he does not have a mean bone in his body. it was like i was talking to someone else.
men and their mood swings:mad: :mad:

oh i totally feel your pain

I swear they can be moodier than women

He was probably tired, stressed, hungry and horny . . guarenteed to bring out the beat in any man.

I feel your pain. I'm having boyfriend problems tonight, too. :(

It's called LMS.

Little Man Syndrome.

:p

he better have been drinking last night, or he is going to get a piece of my mind today.

Put it this way...
 

At least he's your BF and not your not-BF who tells you "I LOVE YOU" on Christmas Eve and you don't know what to say or do because you know admitting that you love him would only mean trouble. The not-BF did have a busy day, but he's done doing whatever he did today 4 hours ago and he still hasn't called.

Sorry, too many beers on Christmas Day.

Oooh, I hadth4e "not-BF" do that...he would say it like everyday of the week. I never said it back..ever! Then he did a 180 one night so I got mad and hung up cause I didn't feel like hearing his shit ever again. Wer didn't talk for a few days and they were the most stress-free days I'd had in a long time..so I decided that I would probably never call him back cause I just didn't want to stress about his shit...Anyway to make a long story short..he called back a few days after that...and acted like a baby and hung up on me thinking I would call back...haven't talked to him since...and you know what? I don't care. I don't want to hear some whiny guy dropping the "L" bomb like no other when I don't feel the same way. Perhaps I liked him at one time but I just don't feel the same.


Anyhow..yeah men are babies most of the time. Don't feel sorry for him tell him to cut the cord already.

That's the thing. The not-BF has been a friend for 20+ years. Wayyyy longer than he's been my not-BF (which has been a year and a half already).

For all I know he could have been just telling me what I wanted to hear on Christmas Eve, but that was the first time he ever said it.

As one of his teammates said, "you guys make everybody pissed off and you both should just cut this isht and drop everyone else and just be each other's onlies already!"

I can see myself with him. Just not with the way he is now.

In about ten minutes or so I'm turning the phone off and going to sleep, so if the not-BF calls, he's isht outta luck.

smiley, I'm wondering if he had something special set up for you for Christmas and that's why he was so upset? Or... holidays mean a lot to him and he really wanted to see you on the actual holiday???

Dee

no, that wasnt it. we had already made it clear that we werent going to see each other on christmas day. i just talked to him a while ago. he was drunk when he called me last night.:rolleyes:
i am on my way to see him now.

The title of this thread is wrong. He's not a man, he's a boy.

By the way, Men don't have mood swings in that manner, that should answer your question based on all the other points you laid out smiley. He's just bein a sumamabitch.

Applause, applause. Well said Russ.

I gotta tell y'all - mr. honeychile has a friend who thinks he's a prince or something. Ben is not "all that" and is a control freak, on top of everything else. I won't bore y'all with the dumb things he does, but just as an example, he'll buy 6 concert tickets, then you how much you owe him - without even asking if you want to go!!

Anyway, Ben has met Girl Wonderful. He had last night all planned out, and she called to say that she had a really bad day at work, could she miss Part A of the evening, and catch up to him at Plan B? He was so freaked out! He called me and said, "I don't like people telling me what to do!"

I laughed uncontrollably for at least 5 minutes!!

He got the point. I am now waiting for the update!

Ugh I've had my share of guys having mood swings and all that. It's like why do I even bother putting up with it? I especially hate it when some guys think a girl is just plain PMSing whenever she's in a bad mood when it fact she actually is in a bad mood.

So Smiley, you have a good heart for still going to see him the day after despite what happened, drunk or not. I personally wouldn't be able to handle it and just ignore him for some time. You have patience.

i think it is because i am a sucker.:p
lol...actually, if you were here to witness our whole relationship, you would see that i do have a lot of patience. it has been rough, but things are great now. him being drunk is the worst of it thankfully.

yea- how bout the "not bf" who has a girlfriend ! (looonnnnggg story) telling me that he loves me but won't leave his girlfriend and lives in mortal fear that she'll catch him with me (she goes to another school but has friends at ours).... but he won't leave her and then i told him that i was leaving to study abroad in london- he gets upset and hasn't called me since and we've been "dating" for a year- what a baby..... the problem is i'm so freaking attracted to him that i feel like i love him too- but i'm too smart for that.... ugh hopefully i'll meet a hot british boy that will help me forget about him ;) (at least till next fall...:rolleyes: )

I'm bumping this thread because it seemed to be the logical one i which to say this:

AAAAGGGGGHHHHHH!!!!! Men are infuriating. They're clueless, heartless, brainless idiots. Not all of them, just the select few who are irritating me today. Please, can I forget I'm a lady and hit him? Just this once?

I would like to participate in the hitting.

**** can go to hell.

STRAIGHT to hell.

my boyfriend can be increadibly moody....which can be a pain in the ass.....but lucky for him i'm fairly patient. i also will call him out when he is being a pain in the ass...which is important and has only served to strenghthen our relationship :P

When guys are pissing me off, I pretty much always tell them. Perhaps I should join the Heartless Bitches Society ;)

I've been involved with several fickle guys. You know, one minute they're all over you and so in "love" with you (please, what's up with saying that after like two dates), the next they're backing off and will barely look at you. And girls have the reputation of being moody? Give me a f*cking break!!

But the WORST is when you still like them despite all that! I wish we could be attracted to who we want to be attracted to!!!

Yeah Aries.....there was this one guy I went out with a few months ago who claimed he'd been dying to ask me out for months.....so we start dating, then he blows me off one night because he wasn't sure we were doing the "right thing" (whatever the hell that means). Several weeks later he said he wanted to date me, so we started again--and the same damn thing happened all over again! It was WEIRD.

Thats usually because you send us mixed signals. And yes I know you think you are being clear or that we should be a mind reader . . . but trust me you are probably playing it to cool.

Actually, sometimes I wonder if I AM playing it too cool. Could have been the case with this dude.....he's got some self-esteem issues and is really insecure :rolleyes:

And not to sound so high school, but what's up with him staring at me all the time?

Not his fault you're hot! :cool:

The girls that can't get guys are just ugly.

-Rudey
--Because even gay men go for the nani sometimes.

Bad Week
 

I'm a sad girl! I had to cut my man loose this past Monday. We've been together off and on (mostly "on") for over three years, but I just can't take him anymore. Let's see...he didn't finish high school, has no job, has no nothing, doesn't care about education (which is VERY important to me!), cusses constantly, drinks constantly...he's verbally abusive...HEY! What was I doing with him?? Oh yeah...he got to me...I love him - WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!! I need someone to tell me what is WRONG WITH ME???

Ok...I just had my gallbladder removed recently and he promised to take care of me when I finally got home. But, what did he do?? He came to my place three hours late and drunk off his boooootay! Then when I fussed at him, he threw a glass at me.

I suppose it's good riddance, but I miss having a warm body around me all the time!

My friend and I made a pact to be single for a year (her boyfriend recently dumped her because she happened to find out he was cheating!) - this doesn't mean no dating, just no commitments!

Oh, last thing...I know I'm 25 but I had to pull a high school move on my ex-man. When I told him I couldn't be with him anymore, he used my phone to "call his boy." After about an hour, it dawned on me to try the number, just to see. So I got a friend to block her number and give the person a call. Mmmhmm...it was a girl. Now, how is he going to call a girl RIGHT after I told him to leave me alone?? The craziest thing is that he did it from memory like he'd been dialing the number all his life!

I needed to get that out!!! Thanks GC for being my therapy!!!

preciousjeni

OMG sounds just like me!! I am always attracted to fickle guys or assholes...one of the two.

I've realized the reason I still like them is that I do, annoyingly enough, love the drama of it all!! YES...I AM a drama queen!

BOYS are mean :( !!!! Especially when you tell your ex you still care about him and he says "i dont' care".

Yep! That's me! What, after all, would I bitch about? ;)

I just want to say I want to date all of you.

-Rudey
--And then dump all of you!

Rudith that's just sick.

Platonic guy friends......
 

.......with crushes on you.

Yeah, not so bad when the feeling is reciprocated, but when it's not......oh, it just sucks!!!

So last night, I was out to dinner with one such friend when he starts telling me that I date all the wrong guys and that "whenever he gives me his opinion, hasn't he always been right?" What a condescending asshole! Did I ASK for his opinion? NO! I was simply telling him about a guy I used to date. Jesus Christ.

And maybe I date some of the wrong guys, but that's how you meet the right one--by dating a lot of different kinds of guys. At least I'm putting myself out there and not just sitting in my apartment waiting for the right person to come knocking like he does.

You suck that is mean. Don't complain about other guys to guys who like you. That is like rule number one.

Do guys only date slightly bitchy women???

Seriously...It's either you're really nice but I'm not attracted to you or you're really nice and too goof of a friend I don't want to ruin our friendship!!

Damn, from now on I'll be mean to guys then.