Monique,

I am sorry to hear of your loss. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. As for the premonition, I have them every so often. Most of the time, they don't end in death, but usually they are accurate dont to the detail. I'm not saying Im psychic ( I dont know if I even believe in psychics), but I know it happens. I can share one death related experience though:

In 1999, my grandfather died, and I was helping my grandmother clean out his library, which had a piano & an organ in it. Well, while I was in there by myself, I was looking through some of his books, and stumbled upon his masonic texts.

Even as a child, I remebered being so fascinated about the Masons, and begged him to tell me more than I should probably know. Well, ofcourse he didnt, but for a moment I realized that all this information was right in my hands. I thought about it for a few seconds and started to open the book, when the organ started making this loud pulsating noise! Needless to say, I put the books down, apologized, and left the room.

But, just 2 weeks ago, I went to visit my grandmom, and was in the library. Again, I was going through the books (this time looking for genealogical info)and as I opened the family Bible a letter fell out that was atleast 15 years old that spoke of terrible news. I took it out and was showing it to my aunt, and returned to its original place. As I was putting back, I heard that same loud pulsating noise. Only, my grandmom had given the organ away, so I have no idea where the sound was coming from.

I REALLY BELIEVE THAT IT IS MY GRANDFATHER!

Monique, I'm sorry to hear of your loss. The Lord is with you and will continue to be.

Yes, I've heard of these situations before and even experienced it. It was with an old boyfriend. People thought that I was only in "shock", but I too know what I saw!!

Continue to pray, the Lord is your rock.

Sorry to hear about your loss. I will pray for you.

As far as knowing that there is life after death, let me tell you this occasion in my family:

All my grandfather's brothers had passed including himself, except for one brother. That one was terminally ill with cancer. On his deathbed, with family surrounding him while he was in and out of conciousness (sp.), the last words and expressions that came from him before he left this Earth were, "Dickie (my grandfather), it that you! Hey! All of you are here in this bright light! It's so good to see you all!" as he smiled very happily and brightly as if he were "skipping" like a little boy toward them. Then he took his last breath...

I was not there, but if there isn't a God in Heaven, then I don't know very much!

You are more than entitled to your grief and take it now while you can. At least you CAN grieve for your beloved cousin.

And just maybe she was trying to tell you that she knew that she would not see you on this Earth and that she loved you very much before she left... At least you were able to get that...

I know that my mere statements are no consolation, but I hope you can find some comfort that you are truly not alone in this big, wide Universe...

Monique, you and your family are in my prayers.

I do believe in spirits, and I have seen one (my sister) awake, and a few (mom, dad, friends) in dreams. I used to be worried when I didn't see my parents right after they died. I thought that that meant that they didn't make it to heaven. That is what my grandmother told me when we (yes, both of us) saw my sister. She said that that was her way of leaving this world to go on to that one. Well, needless to say, I was in dire straights when at first I didn't see my parents. Then I had a dream about guy I went to high school with (CrimsonTide4: Cliff the twin) who had died in a car accident, and he told me not to worry that he had seen my parents and that they were fine. After that, I began to see my parents in my dreams regularly.

I too will keep you in my prayers. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif

I've experienced a simular situation. My God-mother came to see me before she passed and she told me she was feeling great and was going away to have a good time. In that vision she looked as she did when I was a young girl, with her bright red lipstick and nail polish.

Now I cherish the fact that I could see her agin as she once was. Stay in prayer It will become easier.

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Monique,

I am truly sorry to hear about your cousin.

Monique,
I also will keep you and your family in your prayers.

Believe in what you saw. Your cousin had a great love for you and that is why she showed herself to you. Since you saw her so upset, say a special prayer that God may give her spirit light and help her in her transition. I've been told that sometimes a spirit isn't aware of what's happened esp. if it was sudden. I ask God to give you strength and for her spirit to rest. Take comfort in the love that she has for you and the love God has as well.

Lilma

Monique,

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I myself just laid my cousin to rest this past Friday. He'd have been 29 yesterday. Although it hurts me to my the depths of my soul that he's no longer with me, I feel strongly that he is fulfilling God's purpose and all is as it should be. This was the first loss I've experienced so closely and am still struggling with the grief.

My prayers are with you and that you too will find your ease in Him.

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Between 5:30-8:00a.m.yesterday, My dogs started howling and whining like crazy outside. The wind was blowing and i couldn't sleep. Around 8:10 I got up, took a bath and was about to brush my teeth. I was cleaning the mirror when i saw my cousin behind me crying and looking so sad and shocked. I turned around( she lives in different state from me and i wanted to know how she got in my house and when did she get here) but she wasn't there. Needless to say I was shaken. Around 9:00 i recieved a phone call from my boyfriend telling me that my beloved cousin was killed in a car accident around 8:20. She died on impact. This left me shocked, sad, and frighten. I must have cried for 3 hours str8. Even now i am crying because i love my cousin so much and she looked so sad. I feel like she is in so much pain and it makes me feel so bad because i can't help her. I have never believed in life after death but i know what i saw. Was my mind playing tricks on me. Have any of ever experienced anything like this. What is your views. please pray for me that i will be strong during this time.

Monique, I'm sorry for your loss. May God give you comfort to ease your pain. I was told that when a love one dies and you dream about that person after they die, that's their way of saying to you that their okay.I did'nt give that much thought until my father died 11 years ago. Shortly after he past I dreamed about him sitting in the back seat of my car where he always sat when he got in my car. In the dream he was just talking to me like he always did before he died. After that dream I was able to cope a little better with the fact that he was gone. I felt that was his way of telling me that he was alright and at peace.

Monique, I sympathize with you and the loss of your cousin. Remember God will never put more on you than you can handle, so rest assured that you will get through this.
While I have never seen a spirit, I know my mother has. She was able to hear and see an image of her aunt after she passed. She came to my mother because the family was looking for some very important papers that were hidden away. She led my mother right to the papers.

I have also heard that people we care alot for visit us in many ways after they have passed. They may come through electricity or temperatrue or through your dreams.

I'll be praying for you and your family.

Monique, I'm sorry to hear about the sudden death of your cousin. My prayers are with you and your family.

I have heard people say that departed loved ones have come to them in their dreams. I watched a show a very long time ago that dealt with this very topic. I remember hearing that deceased people may choose to visit you in dreams if they think you could not handle seeing them as a spirit.

Monique,

I'm sorry about your loss. Stay close to God, and talk to him about your cousin.

Monique -

First of all, as everyone else stated, I am truly sorry for your loss.

My father passed away my junior year in high school. This May will be 3 years. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif I dream of nothing else but him. The dreams are never really sad dreams, but rather just him coming to visit me and talk to me. Everytime, we are both aware that he is not alive and can't stay, but we catch up on my life and then he will hug and kiss me and leave until the next time. I have actually come to find these dreams to be extremely comforting. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

I have also had experiences where I would walk past the chair he always sat in in our living room and felt something tugging at me and pulling me back, but I would be alone in the room. He knows I'm scary, so I doubt he would ever "show up" while I'm awake, if this is even possible. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif But I often hear him say things to me as clearly as if he was right beside me, at exactly the right times.

Although the circumstance is one of tragedy, I am so glad you posted this topic. I've been thinking about this *a lot* lately. Stay encouraged - you'll never get over it but it DOES get easier, I promise. E-mail me if you would like.

Monique:

I am sorry to hear about the death of your cousin. You will be in my prayers.

As for your vision/premonition, I have not had one, but believe they are possible. Its okay to own your feelings and trust your mind that you saw what you saw.

I would like to offer my condolensces to both you and your family. I've heard people discuss spirits saying a final goodbye before they enter the next realm.

Monique:

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. My prayers are with you and your loved ones. I believe our loved ones resting with the ALMIGHTY do visit us and try to console us when we grieve or make peace with us when there is tension. They also look over us and guide us much like our conscience.

This has happened to me too. I believe your cousin wanted to say goodbye and I guess that was her way. I hope you find peace and comfort within your soul in knowing that she loved you. May you be blessed and may GOD keep you in your hour of need.

Much luv and respect.

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Monique

May God bless and comfort you and your family during this time of sadness.

You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

To echo the sentiments of everyone else, you and your family are in my prayers.

I read the original post yesterday and last night I had a dream that everyone in my family (maternal) and my husband's family were at a family reunion. The dream included deceased members of our families as well. It was just like they never left and I was comforted.

Your comfort will come in time. God Bless.

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Monique,

I am very sorry to hear about your cousin. While I have never seen a spirit, I often feel them near. I also frequently have dreams that predict things in the future. I don't doubt your "sixth sense": we all have it. It just varies in degree by how in tune we are to it.

Monique,

You and your family have my condolences.
May God be with you in your darkest hours.

Monique, I too pray for you and your family. Just know that the same God that watches us in life, is there is death. Life doesn't end, it just continues in another state/realm. Perhaps what you saw was a premonition rather than a sprit (I noticed the times that you posted). Either way, I believe that both are possible of happening.

When I was a little girl and first moved down south, I used to catch glimpses in my peripheral vision of what appeared to be a light skinned man in a dress watching me through a side door of our house. It scared me so badly once that I ran inside and asked my mother about it. That's when she told me that my grandfather (part white/part black), who I'd never known, had died in the room connected to that door, and that he'd been ill for a long time, so he wore a bed "dress".

Monique, I am very sorry about the loss of your cousin. I have prayed that God will comfort you and your family and I will continue to do so. Go ahead and cry all you need to. Crying is a major part of the grieving process.

Monique,

My condolensces and prayers are extended to you and your family during time of intense sorrow. Please take comfort in the reading of Thessalonians 4:13-18...that scripture really got me through as I grieved over loved ones.

Godspeed,
Nikki25

You and your family are in my prayers Monique.

Monique...I offer my sincere condolences as well. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

I DO believe that this happens, it happens to very frequently, most times it's not a serious as death, but usually, it's something serious. I think sometimes, that it's a tool that God uses to help prepare us for the news we are about to receive.

When I was a sophomore in high school, I was a member of the marching band. My cousin, who was a lot older, had told me that he wanted to me to come over that weekend so he could show me his new motorcycle. He NEVER told me what kind/color, etc. As we were on the bus, heading to a football game, I saw a bad accident, and it was a motorcycle, the driver was dead, and they had him covered with a sheet. I immediately started crying and I couldn't stop, I said that's my cousin!!! My best friend said, "Well, Frank never told you what kind of bike he had, think about all the motorcycles there are in SC, that's not him, why would you think that?" I was so shaken that I couldn't even go out on the field with the band. After the game, my mom was late picking me up. So I called my cousin's wife to see if she could come get me. She was crying and she said, "Oh, you didn't hear, Frank was killed in a motorcycle wreck"

That was only one of the things that's happened to me...most times is just an overwhelming sense/need to call someone. I got this for my grandma a couple months back, and I just said I HAVE to call Nana, that day she'd fell and broke her ankle. I got an urge to call my grandma and pop-pop, and my aunt said the ambulance had just left, he was having a heart-attack. Had an urge to call my sister in NY, and that morning, she'd stepped off the curb and gotten hit by a bus that was pulling into traffic (not serious, it wasn't going fast, but she was in the hospital for a few hours)

Anyway, I could go on and on with examples, but I talked to one of the ministers about it, and they said that it's a spirit of discernment. You are so in touch with your family and friends, that you KNOW when someone is greiving/aching/in pain, and you are sensitive to that. So DO believe in what you saw, that is just more of an affirmation of your bond with your cousin is such that even DEATH cannot break that, you are in tune with her spirit. Be Strong and We are praying for you..

Sorry about the length, ya'll

Thank you all for your prays and kind words. I needed all of them during this sad time in my life. I can only pray to God that she is at peace. I am still in shocked because she was only 19. *smiling* Everyone said we looked sooo much alike we could have been twins. I will miss her soooooo much but i believe everything will be ALRIGHT.thank you once again..may God Bless each and EVERYONE OF U.
Monique

You and your family are in my prayers.

One time this semester I was thinking about my father and how I missed him so much. I prayed and asked him to come and talk to me while I am asleep and tell me what happen with his death. I also have dreams that he came back and said that he was under police protection and that he is not the person that we buried. I actually do not think he came because I think deep down inside that I am not ready for that kind of visit or my heart is not ready. I miss him Sooooo much and there is a police officer in my home town that looks exactly like him (mouth, beard, and same shape and size of his mouth). I think that if he was alive so much would be different for my siblings that he had for another woman. I am just sad now just thinking about it.

Well be strong and everyone you are in my prayers.

Monique, I just wanted you to know that I haven't forgotten you and I hope you and your family are doing well.