how long do you wait?
 

couldn't find a thread like this anywhere...

after starting a new relationship that you would really like to see last and grow into something good, how long do you wait before you have sex? not that there's a magical number of months or dates, but what is a good amount of time?

Its not good to make the boy wait long . . get it out of the way as soon as possible! :)

I like to wait a few months. This is because I like to really get to know the person first.........and I dont think that can be done after the first date, second date, or even after the tenth date.......takes time. I've found that those relationships where I wait longer usually last longer.

Never has such a profundity been so clearly articulated!

If you don't know for certain how he'd react if you told him that you're "late" - it's too soon!

Damn girl . . . you are a buzzkill . . . :)

I bet that you are beautiful, clever, accomplished, and gentile in bearing, but there is something called sex for pleasure, and I am told on the highest authority . . . that it Feels Really Good.

So go with the feeling. :p

Heh...I waitied 2 weeks with TKE209..and that's with losing the great V also...but then again we've been together for over 2 years...

If we would ever break up I would wait at least 3 months.

I think it's a good idea if wait until you know for sure they're not only in it for the pootang....

Enough said..

I was friends with Mr. OTW for a few months before we actually started dating. When we first started dating, I knew that he was special because my first instinct was NOT to rip off all his clothes and boink.

Dates and dates and weeks and weeks later, we still haven't did the deed. It's better off this way, for now, anyway.

There's still some baggage to be dealt with on both fronts, so I really can't put a timeline on how long it'll be.

But when it does happen, bet that you'll be reading it in the diaries. Mwahahaha.

OTW, you are NOT encouraging the rest of us who are hoping there's a great guy out there who is also up for a clothes-ripping boink.

I'm well aware that it Feels Really Good!

But so does drinking a lot of amaretto sours - until the next morning....

I'm just not into the "genital handshake" thing.

Didn't wait.

Four years later, I don't regret it AT ALL!

I'm not a Rules girl! :)

Until marriage.

-Rudey

There's a very easy, surefire way to figure this one out. First, multiply the number of dates you've been on by the Magic Age At Which People Should Get Married, and divide that by the number of licks it takes to get to the center of a Tootsie-Pop. Then, add the guy's shoe size, subtract the number of Sundays in the year 1980, and then get the square root of the number you just figured.

In other words, I don't think it really matters. :p Everybody's different.

no no no . . .

I just had NASA do that calculation and it came out to . .Drum roll please . . .

The first date!!!!! so thats the answer:) Thank you for playing the game: when to phuck your man :cool:

I wait until it feels right, usually you just know when it's the right time for you...and if he doesn't feel the same way then that's his problem! :)

Currently with mr. jharb it was quite early on...but with my previous boyfriend it was quite a while before it happened.

Well I think most of us can be pretty sure that they'd freak out. :p

Yes, but freak out how?

*"You're on your own."
*"You must have an abortion."
*"We must get married."
*"How should we handle this?"

That's just a few possible reactions. If it's not the last one, you're not really ready, are you?

How about the trash talk show classic "it isn't mine you must have been with someone else" then the young "lady" has six men tested, claiming she was with "no one else".

How long would I wait? Until I'm ready.

In chapter 12 of the Guy Manual it covers this ituation under the section, Unforseen Consequences (AKA: Bad Luck).

The appropriate default response is to throw your arms around the girl, give her a heartfelt hug, and say: "Oh my God sweetie you must be so scared!" then you hold the hug for a couple more heartbeats and say, "Your not alone we'll work this out together."

Heartfelt kiss is good at that point as well as some more pampering and comforting.

If you have trouble remembering this guys, just break out the emergency cue cards in the Appendix section of the manual.

All obvious thoughts like: It must be someone elses. I am to young to have my life ruined. I want a paternity test. And just weeping in despair should be kept you yourselfuntil a more appropriate time.

/end public service announcement

james for president

Re: how long do you wait?
 

I gave my GF 2 weeks after we started seeing each other. She made me wait as long as she could before realizing I was about to bounce. When you say sex I'm assuming you mean intercourse. If she'd waited any longer I wouldn't have called her again. I hate when I hear of girls making a guy wait for at least a month. I feel like telling those girls they're no longer in high school...they don't need to wait that long before they dish it out. people won't think of them as a slut if they dish out before 30 days. I think thats what pisses me off about virgins, they think they're so high and mighty. The truth is, they're the ones missing out.

hahaha...you are too much.

YESSSSSSSS! you said pootang! you are my new bestest friend!:D


I also agree whole heartedly with the comment as well. I usually just go with the flow, but there are a few things that make me thing twice about giving it up.

Ask yourself honesty:

1. Shady history? Like did how did he treat his last interest? What do his friends/your friends say about it? Crime record?Credabilty is a must.

2. Motivations? Like is he a man-slut? The ladies man? I don't want to be anyones hatchmark on the bed post and doubt you do either!

3. Ex of a sister? 'Nuff said. No matter if she says its "OK", its never going to be "OK".

4. Maturity Level? Is the whole greek system going to know your talents by 2pm the next day? Even if said talents are true/false? Will he be able to treat you the same the morning after with out awkwardness. Can he handle talking about condoms, etc with out sounding like a 13 year old.

5. His feelings toward you? If he is way more interested in you than you can ever be in him. DONT. Its a short route to hurt feelings and a jealously over a relationship that never was.


Hope this helps!

LOL, pootang bringing people together as friends!!!...LOL Sorry, I just thought that was funny...

Wait until you are married.

Wait untill I'm in the room. Or at least clean my sheets you horny bitch.

I agree with everything you've said, but I'd also like to add a sixth....if you like him more than he likes you, or he strings you along...even if you just sense these things, DON'T SLEEP WITH HIM!! You'll really end up getting hurt!!

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OMG PLEASE TELL ME YOU'RE KIDDING.

Isn't it poontang?

-Rudey
--I've heard of Pootietang as well...what distinguished the two must be something phenomenal.

No, no, no.... it's poo-tang.

I'm with jharb here. I do it when it feels right. Maybe that's within five minutes (okay, not really, I do wait longer than that!) and maybe that's never.

Honeychile: I love the phrase "genital handshake!" :)

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Why would he be kidding? If she is experienced sexually and her body is telling him that she wants sex but for some reason keeps him waiting and waiting . . . she is obviously playing some game, manipulating him, or has a hang up or something.

Although those are definite warning signs that you are not dealing with mature person with a firm grasp of their emotional stability.

Run away men run away . . .

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Actually, I think you're mistaken. I think HE would be the immature individual, who see's sex as the only reason to be in a relationship.

Run away from these kind of men ladies, run away run.

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No no no no . . . he as already taken you out on dates. had conversations, hung out shown that he is interested in you. . . what you are saying is that you want to manipulate him with physical intimacy. Thats fine with me, but lets call a spade a spade shall we?

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so by thinking that a guy who says he was going to drop his girlfriend if she didn't have sex with him after 2 weeks of measly dating is a d*ck, i am "manipulating" him with sexual intimacy? GIVE ME A BREAK! 2 weeks is chickenshit. if he cant wait more then 2 freaking weeks and simply just enjoy your company instead of constantly pining for sex, give me a break. he is NOT worth it, definitly not, not worth it.

I agree with AOCutiePi-if some guy ever gave me a time limit-I would drop him like a bad habit. I will not be given ultimatums. The key word is respect...give the other person enough respect to let them decide when they feel ready. Pretty much, if you have to ask for it, then the relationship is already over (even if she/he gives in and does it).

What about the girls that have "minimum time's" that they wat to have sexual intercourse? I wager there are more women in this category than males in the former.

Speaking of ultimatums, I wonder how many women give MEN ultimatums with respect to marriage -- you know, the old "give me a ring or it's over" thing? I bet those are often the same women who would be pissed off if presented with an ultimatum regarding sex.

Anyway, I don't see the point of waiting. To me, getting into a relationship before having sex is like buying a car without test driving it. What's the point?