Women!!!!
 

Ok, usually I'm the one solving everyones problems. This time I have one of my own and I need some input.


Here's the situation:

I have a GF and she's hot, cool, nice, outgoing, the sweetest thing in the world, caring blah blah blah.....she's the perfect GF. My parents like her a lot, she goes shopping with my mom and they talk on the phone. I've never cheated on her and don't plan on it. I'd seriously hate to mess this one up.

My problem comes in with my neighbor. She's 2 yrs older than my GF.....she's the same age as me. She just moved here from San Diego, California about a month and 1/2 ago. Yet, she's only been living in her apt for about 4 weeks. As soon as she came to Florida she went down to Palm Beach for a couple of weeks to visit her Grandmother. Now she's back and she's been talking to me. She's a really cool azz chick. We have so many things in common and we like most of the same things its fugging scary. Its too wierd. We like the same movies, writers, tv shows, colors, music, wine, have the exact same political beliefs, animals, its just about everything. After talking to her for a lil while I realized we have pretty much the same upbringing and lifestyle, only she's from CT originally...so she has a lil bit of a noth-eastern accent mixed in with that Cali accent. The girl travels like I do and even likes to try all these different kinds of foods and wines like I do. Like I said, its crazy. Then there's the looks ordeal. She has that California blonde bombshell look to her. She's 5'9, has light blonde hair down to the middle of her back. She has D titties and is a size 4 in the waist ( i asked her what her size was). She has a butt that'll make you think about doing her doggie style. This girl is really hot.

Now, she knows I have a GF. I've told her this so that I can make easier for me not to cheat. But, it doesnt seem to be working. About an hour ago she knocked on my door and brought me a cake she made. She said she made it for my birthday, only she mistakenly made it a day earlier....she thought it was today but instead its tommorrow. She's a little clumsy and can seem like an airhead at times. Also, she trips on stuff...like the stairs and sometimes her own feet. She claims that she doesnt have one night stands and has slept with few people ( yes, we've had the sex talk)......but I dont believe it. We've talked about past relationships and past partying experiences.....she's been through most of the same stuff I've been through.....but, like me, she says she's calmed down now and done with that lifestyle. She's flat out told me she thinks I'm hot, but what she says she likes most about me is my personality and the way I am. She's always asking me if I want to go out for a few drinks, but I decline being that I have a GF.

The situation is getting really hard on me. I don't know what to do. My friends all tell me to nail her, but I've done the banging neighbors things before and it nevers turns out good. Besides, I'm done cheating and I already have the perfect GF.....the bad things is...my GF lives 1 1/2 hrs away in orlando. Whenever I talk to this girl, right afterwards I call up my GF and talk to her inorder to get my mind off of this other chick. I just don't know what to do right now. I'm really lost. I don't want to go back to my old ways at all. Logically, it'd be stupid for me not to get involved with this girl. I think most guys would kill to have a girl like her or my GF.


Any advice or thoughts would be appreciated.


Mindlessly roaming the field of women....

-Cashmoney

Threesome

Hahaha, nice. Typical boy answer. :D

Anyway, what I'd suggest Cash is that if you can be HONEST with both this girl and your girlfriend. Tell your neighbor that you might be feeling stuff for her but you need to let your girlfriend know what's going on too. Whatever you do, plllllllllease if it CAN be avoided. Don't cheat on your girlfriend, it sounds like you care about her a whole lot and is that awesome relationship REALLY worth losing over having sex with someone that you may or may not end up having any kind of relationship with?

Now if you're really seriously thinking you want to date your neighbor, well then that changes stuff. I'd say yea fine you can go for it, but you'd have to break up with your current g/f first. (Obviously) And you know chances are if you broke up with your g/f you're not going to want to jump right into another serious relationship, so unless you're wanting to be single again (which I don't think you are, but maybe I'm wrong) I'd just say that you should stay with your girlfriend and let the neighbor know that you have a g/f you love and she NEEDS to respect that.

Ok sorry if this didn't make much sense, but I hope it helped at least a little bit. Let us know what happens! :)

Wierd....I've had talks with both of them about their thoughts on threesomes. Personally, I won't do it anymore. Its the same with anal sex with a chick, I won't do it anymore. I loose all respect for a girl after I do either of the two. I never look at them the same afterwards. In my mind I think they're cool for doing it, but for some reason I treat them like sluts afterwards. Its like I just don't give a phuck anymore afterwards. So, thats why I refrain away from threesomes or anal sex with girls. it sounds stupid, I know, but try dating a girl for a long time who you love and care about and then bang her in the azz and a threesome with her and her best friend.....you won't look at her the same again. Trust me.



But don't get me wrong....just cause you have a threesome with some chicks doesn't mean you wont liek them. Last spring one of my best friends/old roomates had a threesome with two hot chicks. Afterwards he started seeing one of them....by the end of summer him and the one chick had graduated and now him and the one girl have been dating for about 8 months and are now living together in Palm Beach...and both of them work for his dad. It can work...its just a bad idea to do it if you're already dating the girl.

Why'd you edit your post and then write a different one? I liked the other one better.

I have to agree here.

Sometimes you can't have what you want.

Is it really worth hurting your girlfriend and potential destroying what I am assuming is a good thing with your girlfriend?

If it is, and no offense, it sounds like you haven't grown up yet.

I just don't think there's a piece of ass out there that is worth hurting someone you care about over.

well as someone who has once questioned thier relationship and done stupid stuff in the past let me offer my thoughts.. this is just speaking from my experience.. each person is different and its hard to know by this info..

have you thought about why you would question whether to do this or not?? you say that you have a great girlfriend and you want to be with her.. then you really shouldnt have doubts in your mind.. maybe its more of an issue with yourself than your neighbor.. who knows though..

if you move past this with your neighbor then who will it be next?? ya get what i am trying to say here.. i def had this issue.. i was with the perfect guy and kept questioning things when i would meet other great guys.. until i finally was able to sort through my own issues i couldnt really be fair to my boyfriend.. it caused me to lose him.. now i am trying to work things out..

i just hope that if she is so great that you can figure things out.. its rough..

i agree........sorry dude.........i call it like i see it. :)

You guys are taking this all wrong. I'm not cheating on her and I don't plan on it ( which means I wont). I guess what I'm trying to ask is, how how can I deal with this situation without feeling like I shot myself in the foot?

Well you told her you had a girlfriend and that you aren't going to do anything with her.
If she won't back off you need to stop speaking to her.

She obviously doesn't care that you have a girlfriend, so I would just stay away from her.

well said lady pi phi!

I was about to respond along these lines but this is quite a bit better than my flu infested brain could do.

You have to wonder about a woman who knows you have a girlfriend, but doesn't care.

She's trouble.

Craig-
Don't do it. Let the attraction die. Talk yourself out of it. She knows you have a girlfriend and she is still pursuing you. She is trouble. And not the kind of girl you want to be with...and you do not want to hurt your girlfriend. Stay away.
Good luck.
Amy

I agree. If you really do have the perfect g/f, don't blow it. I think you want to.

There are always temptations out there when you are in a relationship. I agree with Amycat, Smartblonde, and Lady Pi Phi. Stay away from the neighbor. She doesn't respect your boundries.

Ok that was well meaning advice from FabSpicey. But don't take it lol.

I can see no rational reason to tell your GF that some girl that is gorgeous and all is flirting with you all the time. Oh, and comes over . . . with baked goods. . . and lives next door lol. You'll give your GF an anxiety disorder. Hide it from for her own good :cool:

IF you cheat you cheat and telling her isn't going to help. If you don't cheat you don't need to make your GF ultra paranoid by mentioning the girl.

On a lighter note, this presents a chance for a pretty good freindship. Any girl that is that into you will do anything for you as long as you are alternately sweet and indifferent to her.

Why not let it play out?

I agree w James-_ DO NOT TELL YOUR GF this girl is all over you. It will only hurt her and make her feel insecure.

Guy at sportsbar Sunday morning that watches games w mr amycat EVERY WEEK spent day basically telling me what he'd do if HE was my BF instead of mr. amycat. Does mr. amycat need to know? No way. Will just piss him off, and I am not going to do anything about this guy, would never step out on mr amycat...so what's the point of making him feel insecure-- HE knows I'm hot, knows other men want me, he doesn't need me to tell him. I am sure the same goes for your girlfriend.

*a little snap of the fingers and a flick of the wrist* go ahead girl:D

:D hey if I don't know it, how can I expect anyone else to? LOL

I fully agree with everyone else when I ditto the new neighbor woman as TROUBLE! Come on Cash...guys do the SAME thing, (minus the baked goods of course) looking for the chinks in the armor of the SO so they can move in and be the "better" guy?

As great as she seems, she is one of "those" girls who goes after guy who are attached already. It's a challenge...she is probably thinking to herself,"How long before I get this guy to dump his GF or at least hook up with me?" and if you don't think women are that devious think again...some b*&^%es are catty and crazy. And yes, you may have a lot in common, but who knows, you and I might have a lot in common too...there are more than 275 million people in this country, chances are we like a lot of the same things.

And double ditto to what everyone else has said about not telling your GF, it will make her second guess and doubt you, and chances are that only works out bad for one person...you. As you said she lives an hour away from you, and I don't know her but if it was me, I would be on the phone with my best girlfriends or that "close" guy friend telling him about what an ass my BF is for saying that he had a hot neighbor.

Stay away from the strange.

(BTW: as a side note, those of us from California don't have an accent. It's widely known the the way people from California speak english is standard unaccented english.)

Thanks everyone for the input.....I havent told Lady Cashmoney about her and I don't plan on it. I'm sure it'll give her anxiety attacks, she's already sweatin my azz. She already thinks I hang out with a bunch of chicks because I have two boards hanging on a wall in my hallway in my apt with over 200 phone numbers of chicks and their best physical feature. It kind of funny, they have their GLO affiliation next to their name and most of them have their hair color or the place I met them at. I think its starting to piss her off when she comes over and sees them. She tried to be slick one morning while I was sleeping and she was cleaning.....she tried to erase them all, but I was one step ahead of her. When I started keeping the booty call board i wrote it all in permenant marker in case any chick tried to screw me over. Sadly, I think its time I let it go. Some of my old roomates still have their boards, and some of them have let theirs go. In a twisted way its something dear to me. If I go to any city in my state, chances are I have a chick on one of my boards that lives in whatever city I'm going to. Thinking about getting rid of the boards feels like I'm loosing something I can never get back. But deep down....I know its time to let that part of me go. Uhhhhh!!! The things I do for my woman!!! I guess I would be doing it for her, but I don't know why. I never did it for any of my other GFs. Anyhow, I feel like I just don't need to give her anything to worry about and I guess thats also why I wont tell her about Cali girl.



And yes, she does have that SoCal accent. She says like after every 5 or 6 words, talks like an airhead sometimes and flat out reminds me of those girls from "Bimbos in Limos".

Amy-


I'm so trying to let the attraction die. Another thing that I forgot to mention is that her name is Jennifer, Jenn for short. I don't know if you remember from a few yrs ago, but my ex who i dated for a number of years is named Jenn.....as is about 4 other ex-GFs. I have a thing for blonde chicks named Jen. She looks just like her. And to make matters even worse, Lady Cashmoney went to high school with two of my ex-GFs...both of whom were named Jenn. Sometimes I feel like she thinks she has to compete with the way the one jenn and I were. She makes comments sometimes about how beautiful Jenn J is and how cool of a chick she was. And she knows about the ab I had with the other Jenn she went to school with. Sometimes I think I'm cursed with getting involved with girls from a certain highschool in Ft. Lauderdale. I met all three of them randomly in different cities and ended up dating all three of them. I don't know how she doesnt loose sleep over it all. If I found out Lady Cashmoney dated 2 other friends i grew up with and went to high school with, I wouldn't date her. I guess that just proves to me she's willing to make sacrifices for me, and i feel like I should do the same inorder to prove to her that I'm willing to take it to the level I need to ( getting rid of my booty boards).


My life sounds like its surrounded by drama...but its not as bad as it sounds.


Craig

Booty board, LMAO. OK yes you need to take them down, that would drive me NUTS. If you are not ready to get rid of, just put them away, in a closet, under the bed, just away.

I have a Boychart I made a few years ago chronicling my dating experiences that year--its detailed and includes pics where I had them. It is HYSTERICAL. Mr. Amycat would freak --I mean he knows I'm no angel-- but he does not need PROOF, you know? Have not had the heart to delete it from my hard drive yet, but its buried deep beyond many passwords and he is not a computer person so... chances are its safe until I decide to get rid of it. Somehow its just too funny to delete though!

That's not a soCal accent, that is the sign of someone who is not well spoken. I've lived here my whole life and I don't sound that way.

I think that might be incorrect and I think I could listen to you (all) talk all day.

British people speak true English. I don't know how many people you know over seas...but the ones who learn English in school are taught to speak English the way the British do. Personally, I think its kind of insulting to the british for anyone here in America to say we have no accent. Thats like a Mexican saying he speak true spanish when in fact you can tell a huge difference between his spanish and a person from Spain.

well since this thread has already been hijacked...


It doesn't matter where you come from everyone will speak with some sort of accent or dialect.
Obviously some or more subtle than others. I don't think I have an accent, say compared to someone from the east coast, but I do have a specific accent/dialect from my region.

Ok guys....we're not getting off the topic here. No more language talk in my thread, we can start a new thread if we want to discuss it further.

Alright, back to the topic at hand...


what have you decided to do?

it's always a Jen's fault... :rolleyes: ;)

anyhoo... this is what i don't understand. When a girl is obviously way into a guy that just isn't feeling it or just despises the girl, why do guys decide this is the time to spare their feelings instead of just being the assh*le they should be? I have a friend at work going thru a similar situation as you Craig. And I tell him to just be brutally honest and say "hey i don't like you, so leave me alone." but he doesn't want to be a dickhead. That frustrates me when a guy just can't be up front with you.

Right now you are giving this neighbor chick an open door. (no pun intended.) you have tried being nice and explained that you have a gf but she isn't getting it. so... blow her off. she'll get over it. life will go on and you would have saved your relationship with your gf and your neighbor can just be, well, your neighbor.

But it seems to me that Cash likes her...just a little.
He said in early posts that they have so many things in common.

I think the issue here is the girl. She knows he has a girlfriend and she still doesn't care. Like others have said, it's the thrill of the chase, the fact that he has a girlfriend makes her want him more.
My feeling about this girl is she's going to do everything to get him to cheat, but once he has, she'll dump him like a ton of bricks.


Cash, she's nothing but trouble. You may think she's a cool girl, but she's after one thing. You said yourself you don't want to shoot yourself in the foot.
But one day, you're girlfriend will be over and the chickie next door will come by with a plate of cookies and I'm think your girlfriend will be less than thrilled and that's when the gun goes off.

The way I see it is if you really care for your girlfriend you'll back off because neighbour girl certainly won't.

Oh this is SO the case with men............

I would so rather know so I could us the energy on other things.

Oh believe me, my GF definitely has guns that'll go off. She can have one hell of an attitude, and she's not stupid.

I don't know if I like the girl just a little....I dont know how to categorize it. She just moved here and doesnt know anyone other than people from the firm she works at. I know what it was like for me when I first moved here and didnt know anyone.....it sucked. That said, I try to give her the benefit of the doubt and I tell myself she's just wanting to make friends. But then I do realize that guys and girls cant be true friends because of the sex issue if there's already an attraction. I guess I'm stuck feeling like a bad person either way. If I befriend her, I'll feel like I'm doing something wrong behind my GFs back. If I ignore her, it makes me look like a d*ck. It just gets really hard sometimes with her living right next to me. In one sense I really would like to bang her, I wouldn't mind popping it and dropping it. And I think she knows it. One night we were sitting on my balcony and drinking some wine.....just getting to know each other since we're neighbors. After a few glasses of wine we end up talking about sex and our fantasies......I don't know how it got to that. She started telling me about what she likes to do and have done to her.....my penis started getting hard. At that point it was like everything was going in slow motion and I felt like i had one of those instances where you knnow whats going to happen in the next couple of mins because you feel like you've been thorugh it already in the past....so I told her I needed to go to bed. But its stuff like that that makes it really hard for me not to bang her. I just keep telling myself that one chick who would give me random incredible sex about 1 or 2 times a week isnt worth loosing Lady Cashmoney over. And yes, girls can tell when you've cheated. A guy never acts the same in bed after he's cheated on his GF....usually a girl can't reckonize it. And if the girl does reckonize it, usually the guy rids all her fears by saying he just doesnt feel good or something a long those lines. My girl is smart, she'll know if I do anything. I thought she was going to knock the schit out of me when she smelt Plumeria shower gel on me from BBW, at that time she didnt know thats what I wash with.


Quick question....what should I do if my GF comes over for the W/E and if we're walking back to my apt they see each other. I have a feeling that she'd be pissed that I didnt tell her what kind of neighbors I have. I know the neighbor chick would say hey to me when she sees me with Lady Cashmoney. We all know how GFs get when another female says hey to their BF while walking with him.....they get really pissy and start thinking stupid things. How can i prevent something like that from happening?

Yeah...ummm...okay, this girl is not trying to make friends, she's trying to make phuck buddies.
This girl wants in your pants.
If you don't want things to go any further, maybe you have to be a bit of a dick. Don't let her bring you baked goods, don't have her over for drinks. If she truely wanted to be your friend she'd see that she has put you in an awkward spot and will back off. I don't foresee that happening.
If you're walking with your girlfriend and she says Hi, don't say anything back. Your neighbour is probably doing it because she knows she can get a rise out of your girlfriend.

Listen to everyone else, run far, very far from this girl.

That being said, you have to tell your GF about your neighbor. If she does say hi when your with your GF at least you have told her, best to leave out the part where you'd like to bang her though. So when Lady Cashmoney says "who's that?" you can say "That's Jennifer, you remember my new neighbor I told you about". This definitely would have saved Mr. AOIIBrandi from a few arguments back in the day ;)

Well if you want to be friends with the girl . .. just keep chatting with her, hang out, just don't sleep with her.

Easy enough.

Cash, Isn't the neighbor too short for your taste? :)
http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ht=short+girls

Seriously, make it clear to the neighbor that you have a girlfriend, and you don't want to hurt her. If the neighbor can't respect that then she probably isn't worth having around.
If you are truly commited to the relationship with your girlfriend, then do what you need to do to protect the relationship.

Good Luck!!!
-wendi

Oh screw it. Just bang her lol . . you know you want to.

Update on the bimbo:



I figured as soon as I woke up I'd post what happened last night. I went out for dinner and major drinks with 3 of my boys last night. I think I killed about a whole bottle of Petron Tequila (the kind you can drink like water). My head hurts and my nose is killing me. I feel like I got hit by a train. Last night when we came back to my place around 3:00am...we had an after party with some people. I guess the neighbor heard us and she came over. She was very nice and came over to chill. I, being the person I am, was jacked up and amped like all hell. I had my boys around me and we were all phucked up. I figured this would be the time to look like a pimp to my crew as if I dont sweat even the really hot chicks. I went off on her, bad! I started calling her all kinds of stuff. I told her she needed to take that stank azz whoop pu$$y of hers and go fugging douche, cause I could smell that dirty schit from standing where I was. All my friends started laughing at her and she got really mad. I don't remember everything I said to her, but I really went off on her. She called me a dick and said I was the rudest piece of schit she's ever met. She sounded like she was about to start crying. I think she was in shock that someone could actually say the things to her that I said. I'm just glad I was as fugged up as I was. I couldn't have done it if I was sober.

After last night I just hope she doesnt key my car or do something to it. I said some really mean things to her, stuff that'll make a girl snap in the head if she already likes you.


Worried and hungover,

-Cashmoney