If I/You Could Turn Back the Hands of Time...
 

Is there something that you regret doing or saying? or not doing or not saying? If you could turn back the hands of time would you?

I regret not getting my degrees IN THE BEGINNING (undergrad and grad) in Special Education. I could have used those 3 years to certify in Special Ed. towards my doctorate degree. You all would be calling me Dr. AKA2d 91...lol, instead of AKA2d 91. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

Oh well, I guess everything has happened for a reason... http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

I regret not taking my parents' advice about everything-from learning(instead of bringing home good grades)to women. Their advice pertaining to learning math, and applying it really haunts me. It would have changed my life dramatically had I done so.

I regret not getting my bachelors in computer science. When I was 12, I wanted to be a computer systems analyst, but somehow "decided" to major in business management...a lot of good it's doing me. Now, I'm back in school trying to make up for "lost" time.

If I had it to do all over again, I would have saved myself for marriage. That would have saved me a lot of unnecessary hurt and pain. I regret that more than anything I've ever done in my life. I wish I could turn back the hands of time..... http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif

I regret not listening to my mother who CONSTANTLY told me I had the personality and patience of a teacher(she is a public school librarian, she would know). If only I had listened to her, I would not be at this job which I loathe right now....I would not just be registering for the NTE years after I have completed college. Ahhh, a parent's wisdom.

So many regrets so I can't list them all. First I regret not being more focused on my grades in Undergrad, and not listening to my advisor who saw the potential in me that I am only now seeing in myself.

I regret not listening to my parents, who are two of the smartest people on this planet. I regret not going right after UG to start on a masters and having to wait 7 years to start on it.

I regret waisting the time of this wonderful young lady, when i knew that I really didn't want to be with her but I sorta kept her hangning on for almost a year. She is a wonderfull woman, and deserved to be happy.

I regret the first couple of years after UG that I waisted.

I am going to stop, cuase I got toooooo many regrets.

MN

Dayum Goodie! This is a good one! You got me all sad and sh**t http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif

One of biggest regrets is that I didn't listen to my mother when she told me not to get all those %^#%#%$#%&^* credit cards!

Who knew that I would stop working, and those interest rates would pile up quicker than a car accident on a hair-pin curve.

I also regret not getting my degree when I was away at college the first and/or second time. Now, here I am with a six year old and a husband trying to get what I could have had and trying to be what I could have started being AT LEAST eight years ago.


Miss. Mocha

At least I'm not alone!

I regret...

that I stopped taking piano lessons

that I stopped playing tennis (I was good!)

not listening to my parents (about everything)

waiting till age 20 to get serious about school

I think the important thing is that we learn from these regrets. That way we can pass the insight on to our children http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif and watch them ignore it the way we did http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/rolleyes.gif

I regret choosing to major in education. I should have gone into social work.

I regret having serious relationships at a very age.

I regret playing things safe like not moving across country.

I regret how cruel I have been to some people in my past.

I regret that my grandparents are not living to share in my success.

I regret that I dislike my brother and that we are not close.

I regret that my secret love and sorority sister can't be involved.

Hmmm lets see:

i regret playing around with the shopping cart while my mom was in the dressing room. (my baby sister fell out of it)(and i got my $$% beat when we got home)


I regret not getting together with my boyfriend earlier.

leaving east carolina U. and coming back to school up here.

cutting my butt length hair in sixth grade



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The truly educated never graduate!

I regret not going to a smaller universtiy the 1st time around. I started my undergrad career at a school with 40,000 students.

I also regret wasting so much time my 1st 2 years playing around

Nupe,
I know you wanted to add "I wished I was Light-skinned to the list" http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif , but I must say, you are taking it all in stride. You make me proud to be your brother.

No seriously, I think my biggest regret was not finishing school the first time. It's amazing how when you are young (17-23), you have no clue that some small decisions kan have such a big impact on your life. Then before you know it, you are almost 26 and wondering where and how it all went by. That's why I try to spend as much of my time talking to younger individuals, hoping that they want make mistakes similiar to the ones that I made. But 9 times out of 10, you can't save people, they are gonna do what they choose... just like I did.

If I wasn't light skinned, I probably wouldn't have been able to bounce back http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif ...



[This message has been edited by Bobby Earl (edited February 19, 2001).]

I regret not taking my grades in college as seriously as I should have. My grades were OK, but I know that I could have done 100% better.

I regret not sacrificing and going straight to graduate school after UG. I thought since I was pregnant that I needed to go straight to work. But My son is 5 now, and my husband and I are having number 2 in a few months. I look back on it and think, I SHOULD HAVE BEEN THROUGH!!!

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If I could turn back the hands of time, I would have gotten out of bad relationships when I realized that they were bad, instead of sticking it out and hoping that I was wrong about my intuitions and thinking that everything would get better. Now I know that bad relationships/people do not get better only worse. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif However, I've learned that what doesn't kill you will make you stronger. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif

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I regret not taking my grades in college as seriously as I should have. My grades were OK, but I know that I could have done 100% better.

Same here! But I plan on taking some courses to get my GPA up before I apply to Grad. school.

I regret being so "cool-headed" when my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years dumped me after he admitted it had been over for him for over 6 months. (Talk about leading me on!) I let that sucker off too easy! Boy, would I have some choice words for him if I had to do it all over again. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/rolleyes.gif

However, my biggest regret is not being in my Dad's room, with my sister, holding his hand when he took his last breath. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif

I regret that I am such a reserved person. (No matter what I do, I can't seem to shake this icy veneer. I think that I would have made many more friends by this point if I could.)

I regret getting involved with my friend, because I ruined a great friendship and I knew going in that the relationship wouldn't last.

I regret not knowing my heart in undergrad.

However, these are some things I am happy about:

I am happy that I took a year off before going into graduate school.

I am glad that I do know what's in my heart now.

I am glad that despite being labelled a nerd, I did "buckle-down" in college, it is definitely paying off now.

If I could turn back time, I would realize that if you want to know how a relationship will end, look at the beginning. If you start out in mess, you end in mess!

THOSE D*#M CREDIT CARDS!

THOSE STUDENT LOANS!

LACK OF SERIOUSNESS, MY 1ST TWO YEARS OF SCHOOL!

(IDEAL08), I also wish that I would have saved myself as well.

I regret not listening to one of my mentors when he advised to run for the presidency of the local NSBE chapter. This would have opened up ssssoooo many doors for me career-wise.

I also regret not going straight to grad school. I am now struggling to adjust my full life to begin grad school this fall, 11 years after receiving my BS.

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Dynamic...Salient...Temperate...Since 1913

I regret not being able to move out until I was 24(after I graduated college- I am 25 now).
I regret chasing after one girl for 6 months.

SPhinxpoet

i regret leaving Bethune Cookman College in Daytona to move to the big city NYC...


New York, New York...big city of Dreams, but everything in New York ain't all that what it seems...

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Imaginer un métro rempli avec les anges tombés...

ok, I have some more...

I regret not being able to move out as well.

I regret having to waste thousands of dollars paying down the credit card debt I accquired in college. But thankfully all that is changing this year http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

I also regret allowing a trifelin boyfriend move in with me when i have my apt. in college on the good faith that he'd get a job. I eventually dropped him, but it was a year and a half, some broken dishes & glasses and a few bruises later. Thank God I learned my lesson on that one.

I hope everyone is thanking God for their regrets. Having regrets means, at least to me, that we've grown as individuals and have learned from our mistakes.


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Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc.
12-Delta Nu-94
MAL, Southern Region

[This message has been edited by 12dn94dst (edited February 20, 2001).]

Hello everyone, I am new to the forum and I noticed this message and I had to post. I regret doing a lot of things in my life but right now, I regret that I talk too much and that I'm always trying to help others out but in the end, I'm hurting myself. I wish I could turn back the hands of time and just keep my mouth closed about alot of things especially any info regarding what I find out from other people. I'm so depressed right now http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif

Hello everyone! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif This is my first time posting so please bear with me. I regret several things--not being as focused in my undergraduate studies as I should have been, could have gotten much better grades-- Neither having psychology as a major or even a minor-- Not going straight to graduate school. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif

Sorors, Sisterfriends, Sands and Guests:

I try to live life without regrets...

And if I could turn back the hands of time, I would do the same thing all over again...

But that's just me.

Take care, stay blessed and peace.

AKA_Monet: Ditto! I was thinking that when I read this post...if I didn't go through what I have gone through, I wouldn't be who I am today...and I am happy with who I am today...everything I have gone thru has made me stronger!

PrettyPetite

I have to agree w/ AKA_Monet and PrettyPetite on this one. Regrets are burdensome in my opinion, almost like guilt in a way.

I rest in knowing that ALL THINGS work together for the good... so no need to regret anything, because it all ended up working out to be the best for me.

I regret.....

meeting the man of my dreams, him being a decent man and not leavin' his girl for me, me being stubborn and staying in that bad relationship when he finally hollered at me, then being weak and allow him to give me just enough lovin' to know what I was missin', now I'm like a crackhead tryin' to find that same HIGH, having to settle for friendship, knowing that if murder wasn't against God I'd kill his current girlfriend, and lock him up to my headboard because I love him and haven't told him.
Yeah that about sums it up! ;D
ROTFLMAO

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"Don't hate me because I'm beautiful"

I totally concur. I was thinking the exact thing when I initially this thread. I never look back...remember what happened to Lot's wife in the Bible...that woman turned into salt. I just continue to do what Paul suggest in Phillipians...I press toward the mark of the prize of the HIGH calling which is in Christ Jesus. As I press forward, I'm thankful for my mistakes, and that as I was going through, my Lord never ever has forsaken me!

Be blessed ya'll! Remember that while you may have some regrets, you can always have the good sense to get back up again and press forward.



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I will bless the Lord at ALL times His praise shall continually be in my mouth. (Psalms 34:1, KJV)

Soror it is just dandy to feel this way and I feel the same, but I wish I would have listened to my mom and step dad on some points.
1) Like rushing, why rush to get out of school and then have to work everyday ... I rushed and I should not have.
2) I should have listened to my mom and other family members about getting credit cards, oh that is a big one, yeah I would not be where I am today - In debt.

There is plenty more, small things but things I just wish I would have done differently, some personal things most would remain the same I mean you do live and learn but I would change some things, like focusing and not failing a major class in my senior year ... that was bad.

Oh well ...

LMAO@ my CRAZY sisterfriend http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif
I've been there and done that...Ya gotta go cold turkey girl!

I regret falling in love with somone that doesn't even know the meaning of love.... http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif

I regret wasting my precious time on good for nothing men... http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif

I regret not coming to University of Alabama my freshmen year...

I regret that I've allowed someone I really care about and love to only be considered as my friend...

I regret hurting my ex-boyfriend's feelings...

I regret that my farther never wanted to be apart of my life... http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif

I regret not giving a lot of good men chances, but giving all the wrong ones too many chances... http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/mad.gif

I regret getting all of these credit cards...



[This message has been edited by Mahogany1913 (edited March 08, 2001).]

Let's all jump on the bandwagon now, don't we. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/rolleyes.gif Please don't take offense! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif While that sounds ideal, I don't think there is anything wrong with reflecting on your life and experiences and realizing that yeah, there are some things you could have done differently or better. The opportunities were there, you just didn't take them when you had the chance.

I wouldn't call it all "regrets" necessarily, nor would I classify it as being a "burden" or as "guilt" (I certainly don't go around thinking about these things day after day). We all make mistakes. We learn from them and hopefully don't repeat them. I think sometimes it makes us better and/or stronger people (I know my mistakes did that for me).
I'm thankful for the people in my life that I've encountered along the way who shared their regrets and mistakes, and passed it on as words of wisdom.

I don't have a lot of things I would go back and do again, but there a few:

I would have put more effort into my academics my freshman year as an undergrad for sure. I was too busy trying to keep together a long distance relationship. What was I thinking?! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/redface.gif I'm glad I got back on track my sophomore year.

I should have left that ex-boyfriend a lot sooner than I did. Would you believe I was still dating him? Fortunately, this is the point my fiance entered my life. I'm glad he never gave up on me. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

I wish I had attempted to major in my very first choice- Pre-Veterinary Medicine.

I should not have delayed grad school, but I wanted to take a break and work for a while. I wish I had seized the momentum.

Soror, I know that's right! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

my eyes are filled with tears right now..i have soooo many regrets its not funny.

MY MAIN REGRET IS RUNNING FROM JESUS WHEN I KNOW HE IS WAITING ON ME TO MAKE MY MIND UP.

pleaseeeeeee pray for me!!

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Not ROTFLMKAPAO http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif

Dayum... I thought my life was tough. Hell, even my jokin http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/rolleyes.gif a$$ had to take this post seriously.

Be strong Rainman http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/cool.gif. I think GOD gives the STRONGER men and women a heavier burden to bare in life. Maybe because he knows that we are tough like Russel Crowe the GLADIATOR. I am sure you will handle it like a MAN!



[This message has been edited by Bobby Earl (edited February 22, 2001).]

I think you pretty much summed up this thread in your statement here, AKAtude.

Truly, mistakes are made to grow us and help us realize that we truly are not all-knowing...for only One knows the FULL story. I think, however, that we review our past experiences, and instead of being thankful, we become depressed and somber, then there's potential for a problem. It's good to look back over one's life and say, "Whew..that one was close. But thank God, I got over."

Mistakes truly are the builders of your character. When you've made them and really assess yourself, you begin to understand what you are made of. More than anything, you learn of your tenacity..because you're on the other side of the trouble.


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I will bless the Lord at ALL times His praise shall continually be in my mouth. (Psalms 34:1, KJV)

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